LIBERTY UNIVERSITY JOHN W. RAWLINGS SCHOOL OF DIVINITY
Love Trumps Everything
A Paper Submitted to
the Faculty of the School of Divinity
in Candidacy for the Degree of
Doctor of Education in Christian Leadership (Ed. D) Department of Christian Leadership and
Church Ministries
By
Mary Gracias
Lynchburg, Virginia
11/2022
Love Is Everywhere
I teach about love all the time. But there’s a big difference between propositional truth
about love and the real thing.
Love is everywhere, but we can easily miss it. You have to experience the real thing…in the
“wrong places.”
Love hangs out in brothels, churches, bars, and missions. Love is in the homes of the rich
and of the poor, in the smoke-filled back rooms of the powerful as well as the smoke-filled back
rooms of the unpowerful. Love is sometimes emotional and sometimes unemotional. Love is
sometimes harsh and sometimes gentle. Mostly, love hangs out in the “wrong” places…or else
it isn’t love.
What matters isn’t where you go to find love; it’s what you’re looking for. It’s not really the
wrong place that causes you to miss love but the wrong definition. It’s not what’s in your head
but what’s in your heart. If you can’t define it with the experience of your heart, you can miss
love. I know.
Love Is Subtle
Hosea is one of the great love stories in the Bible. It’s about how Hosea—a religious
professional—is called to marry a prostitute by the name of Gomer. Needless to say, that’s not
the best career move for a preacher. But Hosea was an obedient servant of God and did what
God called him to do. He married Gomer. Three children were born into that marriage.
Then she left.
I guess Gomer remembered the “good times,” the parties, and the gifts. For whatever
reason, she left her husband and went back to her old life. Hosea was devastated. I can only
imagine he was in the process of healing when God came to him a second time. God told Hosea
to go back into the red-light district of the city to find his wife, who, having hit some hard times,
had sold herself into slavery. God instructed Hosea to bring Gomer back home and to love her.
And Hosea was obedient to God.
The story is an illustration of an incredible truth about a God who loves those who are
unlovely. God loved the “prostitute” (his unfaithful people) with a love that would never let go
even though, like Gomer, they certainly didn’t deserve it. Consider Hosea’s wonderful
description, a powerful image of subtle love: “When Israel was a child, I loved him, and out of
Egypt I called my son. The more they were called, the more they went away; they kept
sacrificing to the Baals and burning offerings to idols. Yet it was I who taught Ephraim to walk; I
took them up by their arms, but they did not know that I healed them” (Hosea 11:1-3).
That’s the nature of love. Love never chases, it woos. Love never demands, it requests.
Love never shouts, it whispers. That’s why love is so easy to miss.
Love is quiet and subtle. “God so loved the world,” the Bible says, “that he gave his only
Son” (John 3:16). Love revealed itself in a stable and completed itself on crossbeams between
two thieves. Love is not a thing; it’s a person. Love is God quietly touching a world that is filled
with hatred, envy, and death—by taking on human flesh and dwelling among us.
Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lays down his life for his
friends. You are my friends….No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know
what his master is doing; but I have called you friends” (John 15:13-15).
Love Found Me
Paul said that a person who’s doing fine should be careful, because it’s easy to fall (1
Corinthians 10:12). I did fine for only so long before the wheels came off my wagon.
We live in a dangerous world…of pain, death and sin.
While I don’t have answers to the problem of pain and evil, I have one of them. Our world
is the only kind of world where, when it gets dark enough, you can see the light. It causes us to
look for something better. The prayer of those who have felt pain, been touched by death, and
struggled with sin is this, “God, the ocean is so very big. My boat is so very small. Have mercy
on me.”
When my father was dying, his physician said to him, “Mr. Brown, you have about three
months to live. We’re going to pray, and then I want to tell you something more important than
what I just told you.” They prayed and then my father’s doctor told him about Jesus and his
love.
When I realized just how truly helpless I was, I found love. Or rather, love found me.
Love is Unearned
Love, if it’s earned, is not love; it’s reward. Love, in order to be love, must be directed
toward one who is unlovely. The Bible says, “While we were still weak, at the right time Christ
died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a
good person one would dare even to die—but God shows his love for us in that while we were
still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:6-8).
The world tells us that if we work hard enough, we’ll be rewarded. In school we worked
hard for good grades, and as adults for promotions and higher pay. As children, if we were nice,
we got praised; and when we weren’t nice, we got punished. I know, I know. It doesn’t always
work that way, and things aren’t always fair. But we all know that it ought to work that way,
and more often than not it does.
So God rewards those who are obedient, religious, and pure, right?
No! That lie is from the pit of hell and smells like smoke. The church is the one organization
where the only qualification for membership is being unqualified. The less qualified you are, the
more qualified you become.
That’s crazy. Jesus came for the sick…but if you get well, he’ll like you a whole lot more.
Jesus came for the sinners…but if you want to be blessed by God’s love, repent of your sin and
get rid of it. Jesus came for the outcasts, the rebels, and the lost…but we, in our effort to fix
God’s mistake, turn them away.
“The saying is trustworthy and deserving of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the
world to save sinners, of whom I am the foremost” (l Timothy 1:15).
Love is Strong
Paul wrote that three things will last forever: “Faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but
the greatest of these is love” (1 Corinthians 13:13).
You can’t stop love.
John the apostle wrote, “We have come to know and to believe the love that God has for
us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this is love
perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment” (1 John 4:16-17).
Paul wrote that when God starts something in the life of the believer, he will bring it to
completion (Philippians 1:6). What God begins, he always completes; so just the fact of its
beginning is the absolute promise of its completion. That, of course, includes love. Paul also
said that the love of Christ controlled him (2 Corinthians 5:14).
When John wrote about the incarnation of God in Christ, he said, “In him was life, and the
life was the light of men. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome
it” (John 1:4-5). “No one has ever seen God; the only God, who is at the Father’s side, he has
made him known” (John 1:18). And John is the one who told us “God is love” (1 John 4:16).
God is not loving; he islove. God does not act in a loving way; he is love. God is not
sometimes loving and sometimes not; he is love.
And God has called us to live and to give in love. The principle is this: You can’t love until
you’ve been loved and then only to the degree to which you’ve been loved.
