I would think that I'm a very indecisive person, so when it comes down to an important
decision that I have to make, I would definitely have to hear all the details having to do with
both sides of the decision. I like to be well educated in my decisions so that I know exactly
what I'm getting myself into. When making a decision I like to kind of run down the pros
and cons of each option fairly quickly as well as looking into the specific reasonable
outcomes to each decision made. The biggest decision I believe I've had to make so far is
when I decided to move out of my parents house. I had just finished community college and
was planning to transfer to a four year college however I took a year off to work so that I
could save up some money. Even though my parents still offered for me to live at home rent
free as usual I felt I needed to move out to mature more and to start gaining some experience
on my own. Looking back from a financial standpoint, no I don't think I made the right
decision because I could have been saving on a lot of bills right now but, ultimately I believe
it was worth it so that I could understand what it is like to be independent. There was not to
much emotion in my decision, I'm not an emotional guy, however there definitely was a lot
of communication between my parents and I so that we could both understand what was
going on which really helped us to all feel more comfortable with the decision. At the time
I'm battling moving with back with mom and buying her house in the next 6 months as she
relocate to a senior living housing which I would love to keep my mom house but I don't
know if me and my family would be comfortable living with my mom. I decided not to
move with her about 3 months ago because, I have been living on my own 15 years with my
spouse and I feel we are use to our privacy and space. I definitely felt the decision I made
was reasonable at the time because to me it would be a hard transition that I personally
wasn't ready for. Emotions definitely played a part because I kept feeling like I was too old
to live with my mom even though it was going only be temporary , also I thought I could
just buy my own house it was all type of feelings and thoughts at the time. I communicated
with everybody my mom , my spouse , and my son who loves to be at my mom house , and
everybody was for the move i just wasn't ready at the time that's what has me revisiting the
opportunity at this present time. However I feel If I hadn't let my emotions get the best of
me I probably could be a smooth move and a prosper future financially and I could be soon
to a homeowner. When I make important decisions I will usually weigh all of the options. I
use emotion as a final step to coming to some of the most difficult decisions that are pretty
balanced with the pros and cons.
Right now I am debating whether I should quit my current job and start a better paying job
but I am not guaranteed to get the position. I am making enough to support myself and have
a little extra money for the things that I might want, but I am getting tired of how my store
manager and the owner want things to be done. There are almost no benefits with my job,
and there are plenty of benefits with the other. The thing that is staying my hand are the
people that I work with, I don't want to leave them behind.
I know what the best solution is, but the risk is very high. I have discussed this with some
friends and I have been getting some answers, but the response is really even between them.
If I remove emotion from the equation, I am sure that I would have applied and started at the
other job by now. For the most part, when making a decision, I think logically about the
situation. I've only been influenced by emotion a couple of times and the situation that sticks
out the most was initially an emotional decision but it also made sense when I later
reassessed the situation without emotion so my decision would not have changed.Growing
up, I loved spending time with my dad and didn't notice negative things about him. He
remarried when I was 10 years old and his new wife was deceitful, manipulative, and
terrible to me. I rarely saw my dad and when I did, his wife didn't let us have a conversation
alone. She spent most of her time gossiping and stirring up trouble. Last year, she told my
dad something untrue about my wife and then he proceeded to tell his whole side of the
family. After letting my wife know what was said, she was heartbroken.She didn't
understand why anyone would make up such a thing out of boredom (but I knew because I
have been dealing with it since I was a kid). It took my wife months to heal from the damage
to her reputation that my step-mother had caused and she only felt better after my step-
mother confessed it was a fabricated story. My decision was to cut off my dad (who I
realized is equally as deceitful and manipulative) and his side of the family. Since that
decision last January, I have felt a huge weight off of my shoulders. I realized that I needed
to shed the toxicity and be around people who were mentally healthy and positive. Luckily,
I have a beautiful wife, two kids, my mom, and my wife's side of the family who are
everything to me. One example that I had to make while emotion was high was almost three
months ago before my grandmother passed away. She had been in the hospital for 6 days
before the doctors found out what was wrong with her. Come to find out, she was diagnosed
with kidney cancer and didn’t have to much longer to live. They gave her one week. As a
person who was practically raised by this beautiful woman and spent all my life with her and
at the age of 16 being her primary caretaker, there were some decisions that I had to make in
order to prepare for what was soon to come. That Saturday the doctors came in and told us
what was happening, but that Sunday he told us that there was nothing else that could be
done. So I had to make the decisions on everything that needed to be done in order to be
ready for what was coming. I had to make a decision on the hospice to send her to, I also
had to make funeral arrangements, and get all of the family together to let them know that
soon she would be passing and what all
I feel that each decision I made was reasonable and right because I know that this is what
my grandmother wanted. She didn’t want her family to do anything big or extravagant. She
wanted to make sure that everybody was taken care of. She also didn’t want her life to be
extended if she was going to suffer or be a vegetable and not be able to still do things for
herself. Communication did play a big role. My grandmother and I had always discussed
these things especially within the last few months before she passed. If we had not done that
I would have probably felt regret because I would have felt that I missed so much time with
her and I also wouldn’t have known what to do in order to get things done and make sure
everyone got what she wanted them to have. An example of when emotion influenced my
decision-making would definitely be in my personal relationships. I was in a past
relationship that was destructive and unhealthy. I had a lot of feelings about what the
relationship had been before and what it was now. Ultimately, I decided to end this
relationship. I think based upon what happened within the relationship on the other person's
side, the decision I made was reasonable.
I think the main thing I considered in my decision was my emotions. But, communication
played a role as well since I was unable to communicate effectively in order to resolve the
issues in the relationship.
If I had removed emotion from my decision making I think I would have stayed in the
relationship instead of getting out of it. I think this because everyone makes mistakes, so I
would have probably leaned towards giving them another chance. However, I think that in
this case giving this person another chance would have only given them another chance to
do the same hurtful things again. In cases of personal relationships, I think that emotion
plays a huge role in making important decisions. My emotions helped me to see all points of
view to the situation and make a decision that was best for me. This week discussion was on
emotion and decision making, so I decided to get out of the Army based on deployment or
family. I choose my family first because I didn't want my famiy to worry anymore about
myself and my son. In life sometimes you have to make decisions simply because your life
depends on it. I love and adore my family but I also had a very strong like for the United
States Army. In life decisions have to be made for the best or betterment of one's future. I
choose to be stable for my son and it was a hard decision mostly because of the time I
invested and the many days that I fought to stay in the United States Army, my emotions
have taken a major role and so has communication through the entire challenge. I'm grateful
that I made the choice to come home and to learn more about my self and the culture of the
military, I will always respect the military but I choose to be educated and grow. There have
been situations throughout my professional life in which I’ve allowed emotion to influence
my critical thinking, no doubt. Some of those decisions turned out to be just fine, no real
“deal-breakers” if you will. However, a few years ago two of my employees were
emotionally charged up over a situation that occurred between them, leading to fairly
aggressive behavior in front of a high-profile customer. One in particular took the moral low-
ground in making numerous unprofessional comments in front of this particular customer,
attempting to damage the appearance of our organization. As a manager, I needed to get in
front of the situation of course, but my approach should’ve been calm, cool, and collected. I
should’ve simply excused myself from the tour I was leading, and separated the disgruntled
employees, allowing for a cool-down period. Instead, I immediately dismissed both
employees from the workplace without digesting the whole situation. No analyzing, no
reflection.I was so embarrassed in front of this customer and in shock of how unprofessional
these tenured employees were behaving. These particular technicians were not only the most
senior among the other 18 in the shop, but extremely efficient, and usually exemplified a
great attitude. I should’ve pulled both employees aside (after separating each) and
interviewed each individually in order to gain a clearer understanding of the situation. I
allowed emotions to completely cloud my judgment and cripple my ability to make a sound
decision. c The customer was uncomfortable, and one of the technicians nearly resigned over
the situation.In the end, no lasting damage ensued. A learning moment for sure, and a great
opportunity for growth after some self-reflection. Decision making is sometimes a hard thing
for me to do. I am a person that over thinks things and analyze and tries to see what are the
pros a conns of things before making my decision. For example, trying to go back to school
was a very hard decision to make. I had lots of fear but mostly worried that I would not have
the time to dedicate to school. Fear and the worry of dedication I had to apply almost made
me not come back to finish what I had started. I personally feel that if I had let those feels
over come my decision making,I would not be here today attending class. Our emotions
sometimes take over our decision making, depending on how we want for it to go or if we
are welling to over come or emotions we will never know if the decision we made was the
correct one. Whenever I have to make a decision I consider what the possible outcome will
be before actually deciding on something. I’m my personal life I am a young first time mom
so a lot of the decisions I make for myself and my daughter are normally always driven my
emotions. The biggest decision I’ve had to make recently is a change in my career. I have to
travel for work a lot and it sometimes causes me to be away for the holidays. My emotions
played a big role in me choosing to stop working in the union at nuclear plant s for a while
because I was having detachment issues. Ultimately I am taking a tremendous pay cut
because my emotions won’t allow me to be away from my daughter for a month or longer at
a time. I communicated these emotions to my family that help look after my daughter and
their response was completely different from what initially decided to do. I think I had
remove do emotion from my decision making I would have made the same decision. No job
nor amount of money worth missing out on the precious moments with family. I did have to
do some critical thinking with this decision because there was a lot that had to be taken into
consideration before making my final decision. I do feel as though my decision was a
reasonable one. In this instance I don’t think that my emotions caused me to not think
logically or had a negative affect on my decision. I feel as if this whole year was full of
emotional decisions. Some worked out really well, and others could have had a better result
if emotion was not in the decision. A decision I have made with emotion as the front guy on
the line was moving back to where I was from, Wisconsin, from Arizona. After three years,
I found myself becoming very homesick and upset that I was missing out on everything that
was happening back home, but while still in Arizona, I was enjoying life, working a great
job, making good money, playing softball, traveling, hiking, doing so much more than I
could do if I was still in Wisconsin.
I started falling into the thought of "I need to move back home" rather than thinking what I
could do to compromise with the feeling of homesick and enjoying the life I had in Arizona.
Soon I found myself flying back home every other week and I quickly and irrationally
decided to move back home. Emotion played as both feet on the gas pedal, I don't believe
the decision I made was irresponsible, but I did not do a whole lot of thinking as to what I
could possibly try instead of making the full leap back. I believe if I would have
communicated with the people around me and my family, and actually took in what they
said rather than practiced closed minded thinking, I would still be in Arizona, visiting them,
and the family visiting me. It is not something I regret by any means because I have my own
family of my fiancé and I, and our new addition joining us around Christmas, but I do
wonder where I would be if I did end up staying down there. Maybe someday we can start
our book as a family down there. This is a recent situation that comes to mind. My whole
life I have been a caregiver to someone, from my little sister, my children, my parents and
now my uncle. I also work in the medical field with the geriatric population. When it comes
to care giving it’s important to make good decisions. I do my best to always do what’s best
for the patient. I expect the same when my family is the patient as well. Recently uncle had
symptoms of a UTI. I had him see the doctor. She had the lab to check his urine had did a
urine culture, which resulted positive. She started him on an antibiotic. I gave it to him as
instructed. After a few days he became very hyper, agitated and wasn’t sleeping. I followed
up with the provider who instructed me to continue the antibiotic, he was experiencing
adverse effects from the antibiotic and she assured me that it was normal. By the next
morning my uncle could not dress himself, very confused and seeing things. That change
came over night. I had to make an important decision at that moment. My emotion was to do
what was best for him, regardless what the provider recommend. I called 911 and had him
taken to the hospital. Where he spent the next 7 weeks due to being almost styptic. Then
followed rehab for 3 weeks, (comes home tomorrow) I have seen alot of UTIs, but never
one that changed someone from being independent to total care over night. I work in the
same office with the Dr. She has spent most of the last 10 weeks giving me the silent
treatment. So, I had a decision to make, what is best for my uncle or what's more
comfortable for me. I chose my uncle's well being. I have filed a grievance and she will no
longer his Dr. Within a few days of arriving at rehab, he suffered from edema in his feet and
legs. I inquired about his care or should I say lack thereof. I communicated with the nurse
and the CNA to start with. I would go every day, and they would say he’s going to see the
Dr, but no Dr ever called me. After the first week and a half of excuses as to why his feet
was still swollen, I took a different route. I started asking other questions to see what was in
his chart. I find that he has not been seen by a Dr or a nurse. I have communicated to the
nursing staff since the beginning, but no one is following up. I returned to the facility after
the night nurse came in. I inquired again about a Dr coming to look at him. She said the Dr
wasn’t coming. I then demanded that she call the on-call provider and get him over here.
The nurse saw I was upset, she started looking in his chart to see what she could tell me. She
could not find anything to tell me. She then called the Dr, he ordered labs and an ultrasound.
She came to back to his room to inform me of the plan. 10 mins later the Dr was in the
room. Apologizing for the fact he had not been seen. After the results came in, they were all
good. Nothing was done about the swelling itself till this week, after I had to meet with the
administrator and the directing of nursing and filed a grievance. It’s amazing how fast things
changed. This was a unique situation, my emotions where all over it. There were a lot of
decisions that I made. I do feel that despite my emotions my decisions where reasonable
ones.
