I would think that I'm a very indecisive person, so when it comes down to an
important decision that I have to make, I would definitely have to hear all the
details having to do with both sides of the decision. I like to be well educated
in my decisions so that I know exactly what I'm getting myself into. When making
a decision I like to kind of run down the pros and cons of each option fairly
quickly as well as looking into the specific reasonable outcomes to each decision
made. The biggest decision I believe I've had to make so far is when I decided
to move out of my parents house. I had just finished community college and was
planning to transfer to a four year college however I took a year off to work so
that I could save up some money. Even though my parents still offered for me to
live at home rent free as usual I felt I needed to move out to mature more and
to start gaining some experience on my own. Looking back from a financial
standpoint, no I don't think I made the right decision because I could have been
saving on a lot of bills right now but, ultimately I believe it was worth it so that
I could understand what it is like to be independent. There was not to much
emotion in my decision, I'm not an emotional guy, however there definitely was a
lot of communication between my parents and I so that we could both understand
what was going on which really helped us to all feel more comfortable with the
decision. At the time I'm battling moving with back with mom and buying her
house in the next 6 months as she relocate to a senior living housing which I
would love to keep my mom house but I don't know if me and my family would
be comfortable living with my mom. I decided not to move with her about 3
months ago because, I have been living on my own 15 years with my spouse and
I feel we are use to our privacy and space. I definitely felt the decision I made
was reasonable at the time because to me it would be a hard transition that I
personally wasn't ready for. Emotions definitely played a part because I kept feeling
like I was too old to live with my mom even though it was going only be
temporary , also I thought I could just buy my own house it was all type of
feelings and thoughts at the time. I communicated with everybody my mom , my
spouse , and my son who loves to be at my mom house , and everybody was
for the move i just wasn't ready at the time that's what has me revisiting the
opportunity at this present time. However I feel If I hadn't let my emotions get
the best of me I probably could be a smooth move and a prosper future financially
and I could be soon to a homeowner. When I make important decisions I will
usually weigh all of the options. I use emotion as a final step to coming to some
of the most difficult decisions that are pretty balanced with the pros and cons.
Right now I am debating whether I should quit my current job and start a better
paying job but I am not guaranteed to get the position. I am making enough to
support myself and have a little extra money for the things that I might want, but
I am getting tired of how my store manager and the owner want things to be
done. There are almost no benefits with my job, and there are plenty of benefits
with the other. The thing that is staying my hand are the people that I work with,
I don't want to leave them behind.
I know what the best solution is, but the risk is very high. I have discussed this
with some friends and I have been getting some answers, but the response is really
even between them. If I remove emotion from the equation, I am sure that I
would have applied and started at the other job by now. For the most part, when
making a decision, I think logically about the situation. I've only been influenced
by emotion a couple of times and the situation that sticks out the most was
initially an emotional decision but it also made sense when I later reassessed the
situation without emotion so my decision would not have changed.Growing up, I
loved spending time with my dad and didn't notice negative things about him. He
remarried when I was 10 years old and his new wife was deceitful, manipulative,
and terrible to me. I rarely saw my dad and when I did, his wife didn't let us
have a conversation alone. She spent most of her time gossiping and stirring up
trouble. Last year, she told my dad something untrue about my wife and then he
proceeded to tell his whole side of the family. After letting my wife know what
was said, she was heartbroken.She didn't understand why anyone would make up
such a thing out of boredom (but I knew because I have been dealing with it
since I was a kid). It took my wife months to heal from the damage to her
reputation that my step-mother had caused and she only felt better after my step-
mother confessed it was a fabricated story. My decision was to cut off my dad
(who I realized is equally as deceitful and manipulative) and his side of the family.
Since that decision last January, I have felt a huge weight off of my shoulders. I
realized that I needed to shed the toxicity and be around people who were mentally
healthy and positive. Luckily, I have a beautiful wife, two kids, my mom, and my
wife's side of the family who are everything to me. One example that I had to
make while emotion was high was almost three months ago before my grandmother
passed away. She had been in the hospital for 6 days before the doctors found
out what was wrong with her. Come to find out, she was diagnosed with kidney
cancer and didn’t have to much longer to live. They gave her one week. As a
person who was practically raised by this beautiful woman and spent all my life
with her and at the age of 16 being her primary caretaker, there were some
decisions that I had to make in order to prepare for what was soon to come. That
Saturday the doctors came in and told us what was happening, but that Sunday he
told us that there was nothing else that could be done. So I had to make the
decisions on everything that needed to be done in order to be ready for what was
coming. I had to make a decision on the hospice to send her to, I also had to
make funeral arrangements, and get all of the family together to let them know
that soon she would be passing and what all
I feel that each decision I made was reasonable and right because I know that
this is what my grandmother wanted. She didn’t want her family to do anything
big or extravagant. She wanted to make sure that everybody was taken care of.
She also didn’t want her life to be extended if she was going to suffer or be a
vegetable and not be able to still do things for herself. Communication did play a
big role. My grandmother and I had always discussed these things especially within
the last few months before she passed. If we had not done that I would have
probably felt regret because I would have felt that I missed so much time with
her and I also wouldn’t have known what to do in order to get things done and
make sure everyone got what she wanted them to have. An example of when
emotion influenced my decision-making would definitely be in my personal
relationships. I was in a past relationship that was destructive and unhealthy. I had
a lot of feelings about what the relationship had been before and what it was
now. Ultimately, I decided to end this relationship. I think based upon what
happened within the relationship on the other person's side, the decision I made
was reasonable.
I think the main thing I considered in my decision was my emotions. But,
communication played a role as well since I was unable to communicate effectively
in order to resolve the issues in the relationship.
If I had removed emotion from my decision making I think I would have stayed
in the relationship instead of getting out of it. I think this because everyone makes
mistakes, so I would have probably leaned towards giving them another chance.
However, I think that in this case giving this person another chance would have
only given them another chance to do the same hurtful things again. In cases of
personal relationships, I think that emotion plays a huge role in making important
decisions. My emotions helped me to see all points of view to the situation and
make a decision that was best for me. This week discussion was on emotion and
decision making, so I decided to get out of the Army based on deployment or
family. I choose my family first because I didn't want my famiy to worry anymore
about myself and my son. In life sometimes you have to make decisions simply
because your life depends on it. I love and adore my family but I also had a
very strong like for the United States Army. In life decisions have to be made
for the best or betterment of one's future. I choose to be stable for my son and
it was a hard decision mostly because of the time I invested and the many days
that I fought to stay in the United States Army, my emotions have taken a major
role and so has communication through the entire challenge. I'm grateful that I
made the choice to come home and to learn more about my self and the culture
of the military, I will always respect the military but I choose to be educated and
grow. There have been situations throughout my professional life in which I’ve
allowed emotion to influence my critical thinking, no doubt. Some of those decisions
turned out to be just fine, no real “deal-breakers” if you will. However, a few
years ago two of my employees were emotionally charged up over a situation that
occurred between them, leading to fairly aggressive behavior in front of a high-
profile customer. One in particular took the moral low-ground in making numerous
unprofessional comments in front of this particular customer, attempting to damage
the appearance of our organization. As a manager, I needed to get in front of the
situation of course, but my approach should’ve been calm, cool, and collected. I
should’ve simply excused myself from the tour I was leading, and separated the
disgruntled employees, allowing for a cool-down period. Instead, I immediately
dismissed both employees from the workplace without digesting the whole situation.
No analyzing, no reflection.I was so embarrassed in front of this customer and in
shock of how unprofessional these tenured employees were behaving. These particular
technicians were not only the most senior among the other 18 in the shop, but
extremely efficient, and usually exemplified a great attitude. I should’ve pulled both
employees aside (after separating each) and interviewed each individually in order
to gain a clearer understanding of the situation. I allowed emotions to completely
cloud my judgment and cripple my ability to make a sound decision. The customer
was uncomfortable, and one of the technicians nearly resigned over the situation.In
the end, no lasting damage ensued. A learning moment for sure, and a great
opportunity for growth after some self-reflection. Decision making is sometimes a
hard thing for me to do. I am a person that over thinks things and analyze and
tries to see what are the pros a conns of things before making my decision. For
example, trying to go back to school was a very hard decision to make. I had
lots of fear but mostly worried that I would not have the time to dedicate to
school. Fear and the worry of dedication I had to apply almost made me not come
back to finish what I had started. I personally feel that if I had let those feels
over come my decision making,I would not be here today attending class. Our
emotions sometimes take over our decision making, depending on how we want for
it to go or if we are welling to over come or emotions we will never know if
the decision we made was the correct one. Whenever I have to make a decision
I consider what the possible outcome will be before actually deciding on something.
I’m my personal life I am a young first time mom so a lot of the decisions I
make for myself and my daughter are normally always driven my emotions. The
biggest decision I’ve had to make recently is a change in my career. I have to
travel for work a lot and it sometimes causes me to be away for the holidays.
My emotions played a big role in me choosing to stop working in the union at
nuclear plant s for a while because I was having detachment issues. Ultimately I
am taking a tremendous pay cut because my emotions won’t allow me to be away
from my daughter for a month or longer at a time. I communicated these emotions
to my family that help look after my daughter and their response was completely
different from what initially decided to do. I think I had remove do emotion from
my decision making I would have made the same decision. No job nor amount of
money worth missing out on the precious moments with family. I did have to do
some critical thinking with this decision because there was a lot that had to be
taken into consideration before making my final decision. I do feel as though my
decision was a reasonable one. In this instance I don’t think that my emotions
caused me to not think logically or had a negative affect on my decision. I feel
as if this whole year was full of emotional decisions. Some worked out really
well, and others could have had a better result if emotion was not in the decision.
A decision I have made with emotion as the front guy on the line was moving
back to where I was from, Wisconsin, from Arizona. After three years, I found
myself becoming very homesick and upset that I was missing out on everything
that was happening back home, but while still in Arizona, I was enjoying life,
working a great job, making good money, playing softball, traveling, hiking, doing
so much more than I could do if I was still in Wisconsin.
I started falling into the thought of "I need to move back home" rather than
thinking what I could do to compromise with the feeling of homesick and enjoying
the life I had in Arizona. Soon I found myself flying back home every other week
and I quickly and irrationally decided to move back home. Emotion played as both
feet on the gas pedal, I don't believe the decision I made was irresponsible, but I
did not do a whole lot of thinking as to what I could possibly try instead of
making the full leap back. I believe if I would have communicated with the people
around me and my family, and actually took in what they said rather than practiced
closed minded thinking, I would still be in Arizona, visiting them, and the family
visiting me. It is not something I regret by any means because I have my own
family of my fiancé and I, and our new addition joining us around Christmas, but
I do wonder where I would be if I did end up staying down there. Maybe
someday we can start our book as a family down there. This is a recent situation
that comes to mind. My whole life I have been a caregiver to someone, from my
little sister, my children, my parents and now my uncle. I also work in the medical
field with the geriatric population. When it comes to care giving it’s important to
make good decisions. I do my best to always do what’s best for the patient. I
expect the same when my family is the patient as well. Recently uncle had
symptoms of a UTI. I had him see the doctor. She had the lab to check his urine
had did a urine culture, which resulted positive. She started him on an antibiotic.
I gave it to him as instructed. After a few days he became very hyper, agitated
and wasn’t sleeping. I followed up with the provider who instructed me to continue
the antibiotic, he was experiencing adverse effects from the antibiotic and she
assured me that it was normal. By the next morning my uncle could not dress
himself, very confused and seeing things. That change came over night. I had to
make an important decision at that moment. My emotion was to do what was best
for him, regardless what the provider recommend. I called 911 and had him taken
to the hospital. Where he spent the next 7 weeks due to being almost styptic.
Then followed rehab for 3 weeks, (comes home tomorrow) b I have seen alot of
UTIs, but never one that changed someone from being independent to total care
over night. I work in the same office with the Dr. She has spent most of the
last 10 weeks giving me the silent treatment. So, I had a decision to make, what
is best for my uncle or what's more comfortable for me. I chose my uncle's well
being. I have filed a grievance and she will no longer his Dr. Within a few days
of arriving at rehab, he suffered from edema in his feet and legs. I inquired about
his care or should I say lack thereof. I communicated with the nurse and the CNA
to start with. I would go every day, and they would say he’s going to see the
Dr, but no Dr ever called me. After the first week and a half of excuses as to
why his feet was still swollen, I took a different route. I started asking other
questions to see what was in his chart. I find that he has not been seen by a Dr
or a nurse. I have communicated to the nursing staff since the beginning, but no
one is following up. I returned to the facility after the night nurse came in. I
inquired again about a Dr coming to look at him. She said the Dr wasn’t coming.
I then demanded that she call the on-call provider and get him over here. The
nurse saw I was upset, she started looking in his chart to see what she could tell
me. She could not find anything to tell me. She then called the Dr, he ordered
labs and an ultrasound. She came to back to his room to inform me of the plan.
10 mins later the Dr was in the room. Apologizing for the fact he had not been
seen. After the results came in, they were all good. Nothing was done about the
swelling itself till this week, after I had to meet with the administrator and the
directing of nursing and filed a grievance. It’s amazing how fast things changed. b
This was a unique situation, my emotions where all over it. There were a lot of
decisions that I made. I do feel that despite my emotions my decisions where
reasonable ones.
