Wisdom Strategies for Developing/Maintaining Emotional and
Relational Health
1. After reviewing notes from Rosenberg & Silvert and your DISC
profile, explain what you have learned about the challenges of your
relational style and how it influences a specific relationship.
A. After taking the DISC Style assessment, the results confirmed exactly
what I currently believe about my personality. My DISC style is
Dominant/Interactive, and I believe I embody both positive and potential
blindsides or weaknesses from both traits.
B. My “D” traits coincide with Rosenberg & Silvert’s (2012) description of
the Dominant personality. I am a visionary, self-starter, assertive, direct, and
competitive. I also like to take risks that will hopefully yield great rewards
(pp. 123-124). I resonate strongly with their description of the “I” personality
as well. I have been told that I am very influential, have great people skills,
future focused, and I like to think out of the box (Rosenberg & Silvert, p. 124-
125).
C. Unfortunately, I have the blind spots that come with having a D/I
personality as well. My main “D” blind spot includes: a lack of detailed
planning and impulsive decision making that sometimes leads to poor
outcomes. My primary “I” blind spots are: a lack of follow-through on
commitments; poor time management; and overly optimistic forecasts
(Rosenberg & Silvert, 2012, pp. 178, 179). Over the years, these blind spots
have impacted my relationship with my wife by causing unnecessary
conflict/hardship.
2. After reviewing notes from Bradberry & Greaves and your EQ
Appraisal, define what Emotional Intelligence is and what its four
skills look like.
A. Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify and understand one’s own
level of self-awareness, self-management, social-awareness, and relationship
management (Bradberry & Greaves, 2009, p. 21).
B. Self-awareness and self-management are personal competencies. Self-
awareness is the ability to understand your own emotions and tendencies in
all circumstances. Self-management is the ability to manage those emotions
and impulses in different situations.
C. Social awareness and relationship management are social competencies.
Social awareness is your ability to perceive other people’s emotions and
what is happening around them. Relationship management is the ability to
utilize self-awareness and social awareness in your own relationship and
manage that relationship successfully (Bradberry & Greaves, 2009, pp. 21-
41),
3. Share which skill you are going to work on first and the
strategies needed to increase that particular EQ skill in a specific
relationship.
A. One of the weakest areas of my Emotional Intelligence Appraisal is self-
management. I agree that this is an area in my life in which I need
improvement. One of the ways that I can continually increase these skills is
by first acknowledging my blind spot (Ortberg, 2010, p. 157). It is critical that
I become better acquainted with the areas in my life which keep me limited.
B. Character development, especially in realm of Christian leadership
requires community (Petitt, 2008, p. 159). Accountability is an important
contributing element of growth and development.
C.
References
Becker, J. (2016). The more of less: Finding the life you want under
everything you own. WaterBrook.
Bradberry, T., & Greaves, J. (2009). Emotional intelligence 2.0. TalentSmart.
Issler, K. (2012). Living into the life of Jesus: The formation of Christian
character. InterVarsity Press.
Ortberg, J. (2010). The me I want to be: Becoming god's best version of you.
Zondervan.
Pettit, P. (2008). Foundations of spiritual formation: A community approach to
becoming like Christ. Kregel Academic.
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