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Solving My People Puzzle: Part One
Kayla Bradley
Liberty University/PACO 500
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Abstract
In this report the Author will be using collections of studies and data to assist in
determining her personality style. They will assist in the description, development and
management of her personalities. In this Essay, the author will explain the conflict in “this is
Expected of Me!” and “This is Me!” and how God may be using this conflict within her. She
will also discuss three key questions 1) What Hallmark purpose will govern your personality?, 2)
Who is the “Me I see?” and finally 3) Who is the Me I want to See? This author will use a
research-based approach to support the data that is found and statements.
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Table of Contents.
Cover sheet ………………………………………………………………………………………1
Abstract …………………………………………………………………………………………..2
Table of Contents ………………………………………………………………………………..3
Introduction ………………………………………………………………………………………4
360° Interviews…………………………………………………………………………………..
Interpersonal Communications skills test snapshot ……………………………………………
Snapshot of DISC Dot Chart – Graph 1 This is Expected of Me ……………………………….
Snapshot of DISC Dot Chart – Graph 2 This is Me ……………………………………………
What Halmark Purpose will govern your personality ………………………………………..
Who is the “Me I See?”………………………………………………………………………..
Who is the “Me I want to see?”………………………………………………………………...
Conclusion ……………………………………………………………………………………..
References …………………………………………………………………………………….
Grading Rubric ………………………………………………………………………………..
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When I first started looking at some of the surveys on my personality I noticed something
big. Everything conflicts with each other. I started wondering if it was healthy if my
personalities were actually in a conflict especially on the DISC interpretations when it is talking
about a High “D” on Graph 1 and a Low “D” on Graph 2. It just screamed that I was not wired
for the person that I was expected to be. For me it is not a person that I have to be at a job, well
mostly because it is hard to decipher my home from work. You see my main job is a full time
caregiver and advocate to a severely disabled veteran. The problem is this severely disabled
veteran also happens to be my husband. My roles of “work” and “wife” are often confused. I
would do my work roles even if I was not being paid to do them and I do work more than the 40
hours a week that I am paid to do the job. For a long time, I found my lost in work roles but
now I am trying to separate the roles of “work” and “wife”. Today my Pastor not really
meaning to also helped me with this paper. He stated that sometimes our heavenly father has to
correct or behaviors, or personalities, so that they are in-line with his characteristics and being
Christ-like. Further on in the paper I will got into more why I feel that this conflict may be
actually placed there so that I can be used more by God.
360° INTERVIEW TEMPLATE – DEBORAH GILLESPIE
Assessments used in this course are helpful tools for understanding how a person tends to think, feel,
and make decisions; yet, more information is needed to fully understand one’s actual, observable,
behavior. A completed 360° Interview provides a student with fresh insight from those who know
him/her well. It also provides a way to monitor his/her relational growth and development. A student
has asked you to answer the following questions. Your answers do not have to be long, just clear and
concise. If more room is needed, continue typing until all questions are answered to your satisfaction. To
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help this student complete his/her assignment in a timely fashion, please return this document within 2
days of receipt by email attachment.
1) What would you tell Kayla Bradley if she asked you the following question: “What is it like to be on
the other side of me?”
She is outgoing person that everybody loves and respects. She is full of caring and willing to go the
extra mile any time for the other person. She is a strong people person.
2) How does Kayla Bradley typically interact with other people? Can you think of a recent
example?
Kayla has been to help with several things by others from having a friend just need to talk
about what was going on in a crisis filled day that she spent the day off and on talking and
listening to that person and helping to her having to get out of her depression. She interacts
with people where they need her to be as she is just one person sometimes she is limited to
phone, Facebook, chats, email or rarely a lunch out to help someone because of distances.
3) Have you ever been in a situation where you saw Kayla Bradley take on new tasks or roles?
Describe this situation and what She did?
Kayla takes on new task all the time but the most recent was a back to school supply drive
that she headed up to help local military children get started with school on the right foot.
Her goal, which her husband told her was unrealistic, was to help 50 local children. His goal
was for them to help 20. They ended up helping over 750 area children. They ran out of
military only children at 350 and had to turn that crisis into an answered prayer for their
church who were very low on their goal to school supplies. They were able to fill 400 kids
bags just with items left over from the items Kayla had collected. She still has some incase
she missed a family and they need one anytime soon. If not those will be given out to the
Recruiters children in January to get ready for when they go back to school in the spring.
She is starting her Christmas drive later this coming month and never stops.
4) What has been a particularly demanding goal for Kayla Bradley to achieve?
I feel that the most challenging role for her is dealing with a 24 hour caregiver status with her
husband and being a mother of three children, going to school, work and ask to be an
advocated for other veterans and caregivers.
5) When you observe [Student’s Name], which of the following pictures come to mind?
LION ☒BEAVER ☐OTTER ☐GOLDEN RETRIEVER ☐
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(Check the appropriate word picture (s) that best describes him/her and explain why this picture came to
mind. The following web site explains how these pictures describe personality
patterns: http://weirdblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/22/personality-types-lion-beaver-
otter-and-golden-retriever/ last accessed June 12, 2013)
Deborah Gillespie has known me my whole life as she has known me my whole life as she is my
mother and now is one of my best friends and supporter. I wish that I could say that she has always
been there for me but I can’t. I was not raised by my mother. I was raised by my grandmother. That
is why I felt she did not feel that she was a lot like a lot of other mothers. She became a supporter of
what I was doing really after I married my husband and she saw how hard my life was. I really do not
know what my life would be like without my mother. She is the one that supports me when I fell that no
one else is around. She helps me with my kids when I have to care for my husband and when I am sick.
She really is there when I need her. But being said she has never seen the person that I am wired to
be. When I am with her I have never been able to really let my hair down and be the person that I truly
am. I feel that if I am I will disappoint her and she will leave me again. I always work as hard as I can
when I am around her and show her how strong and empowered I am. I tend to take on more than I
am actually able to do when I am around her. For example, this past week, I called her several times I
called her and told her first that I really missed my kids but knew that I was too weak to have the kids
back being that I just got out of the CCU a week ago. I ask her to bring them home on the weekend and
offered to help pay her mortgage if she would help me for the weekend with some household chores
that I was not able to due to being to week and trying to keep up with my school schedule. She was
falling behind on her bills due to her employer not paying their employees and now having to find a new
job. She did find a job for Saturday evening but decided to come up on Sunday and Monday. Sunday
we agreed my Daughter Elizabeth needed to have her 8th birthday party and since I had been an event
planner in the past I did what I do best. I through a last minute birthday party in 3 days. Sunday I
picked up a birthday cake, got breakfast, went to church, delivered a message to our pastor that I felt he
needed to hear, watched a friends daughter during church, got everyone’s orders for lunch, ordered
lunch, through the party and then got so exhausted I could not stand and was feeling ill, Went home,
Had all kids lay down (they did not go to sleep and are ages 4,6 and 8 so I did not go to sleep either),
Husband, mom and step-dad took a 2 hour nap, I did school work, packed up laundry until 9 pm, got kids
to bed, worked on school work, and then went to bed until midnight. Woke up at 6 am, got kids up at
7 am, bathed kids, got school work and kids ready to go to laundry mat, 9am packed up vehicles, 10 am
started calling my mom to leave to go the laundry room, decided to go alone, Husband decide to follow
me as soon as he finished the dishes, I started loads of laundry with the help of all 3 kids. My mom,
Step dad and Husband all arrived around 11 Am to help me with the laundry but by that time my body
was giving out. I just had no strength left in my body. I just had to keep fighting. I helped the best I
could I knew we still had so much more we had to do. We finished the laundry. Eat lunch, went to
Sam’s club for a few items we needed for our house and then took the kids to United Grocery store to do
their school assignment. Now that last one may not have been the best to do on a Labor Day at 4 PM
but they needed to complete some school and they were so excited to be doing a scavenger hunt. My
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mom says that I am a Lion because I am a fighter. I don’t let things stop me. She does feel that
sometimes I do not put others needs before my family’s needs. Now she will tell you that I am not
selfish. She will tell you that I am very selfless. I never will put my needs before my families but I fight
for what my families need. She worries about me non-stop because I will fight so hard for my husband
or our 4-year-old special need son that I do not care about myself. I end up in the hospital a few times
in the hospital with illnesses that could have been prevented like pneumonia that started out like a cold.
I am amazed reading what she wrote and the way that she truly feels about me. She has never told me
the things that she put on the paper.
360° INTERVIEW TEMPLATE – CHRIS BRADLEY
Assessments used in this course are helpful tools for understanding how a person tends to think, feel,
and make decisions; yet, more information is needed to fully understand one’s actual, observable,
behavior. A completed 360° Interview provides a student with fresh insight from those who know
him/her well. It also provides a way to monitor his/her relational growth and development. A student
has asked you to answer the following questions. Your answers do not have to be long, just clear and
concise. If more room is needed, continue typing until all questions are answered to your satisfaction. To
help this student complete his/her assignment in a timely fashion, please return this document within 2
days of receipt by email attachment.
6) What would you tell Kayla Bradley if she asked you the following question: “What is it like to be on
the other side of me?”
She is a very motivated person. I wish others could be more like her.
7) How does Kayla Bradley typically interact with other people? Can you think of a recent
example?
She interacts very well, and is respectful to others. An example is the clerk at the fast food
place.
8) Have you ever been in a situation where you saw Kayla Bradley take on new tasks or roles?
Describe this situation and what She did?
She, is always wanting to take on more and more tasks and new roles. She took on being my
former Command’s Ombudsman and then took on the Christmas party at the last minute as
well.
9) What has been a particularly demanding goal for Kayla to achieve?
She finds it challenging to figure out her roles at any particular time. She wears so many
hats as a mother, wife, Caregiver, friend, advocate, support person, and overall everyone’s
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rock.
10) When you observe Kayla Bradley, which of the following pictures come to mind?
LION ☐BEAVER ☐OTTER ☒GOLDEN RETRIEVER ☐
(Check the appropriate word picture (s) that best describes him/her and explain why this picture came to
mind. The following web site explains how these pictures describe personality patterns:
http://weirdblog.wordpress.com/2007/02/22/personality-types-lion-beaver-otter-and-golden-retriever/
last accessed June 12, 2013)
Christopher Bradley is my husband and he was very honest on this survey. I still find it
very interesting on what he put. He and my mom are never agree on anything but their answers
tend to be very similar in some areas. They do not agree on the animals and when I talked to
my husband after he did it he said he had a very hard time because he did not agree with any of
the weaknesses. He said one of the problems that he has with much of the areas is that he said
that I hid my weaknesses so well that he does not see them even though he and I are together
almost 24 hours a day. He did see me as a very compassionate person but he said that that
often gets me into trouble because I want to help everyone and I have a very hard time saying no.
I give everything my all and put myself last. I am very outgoing but I am not undisciplined at all
I am one of the most disciplined people that he knows but he thinks that is the way I was raised.
I was the caretaker for my little brother until my grandma took custody of myself and brother
when we were teenagers and this was the first time that I was allowed to be a kid. By that time,
I did not even know how to be a kid. I now make my kids stay kids and push for them not to
grow up but they want to grow up so fast. I do think that it is amusing that in both of their
surveys that they put that one of the biggest challenges I have is separating my multiple hats.
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It is hard to be a fulltime caregiver for my husband and son yet remember that I am also their
wife and mother. I also have to do that with my friends. Sometimes I have friends that want to
talk to me about struggles about their troubles at the VA just to vent or have an ear to listen to
and I jump into an advocate role. That is not always what is needed. I have to take off hats
sometime. There was a time that I did not even know anymore how to be a wife to my husband,
I was so lucky that Operation Heal Our Patriots helped me with that and they guided me to
pastors that led me to be a wife again and not as a caregiver. They taught me that as a wife we
are supposed to take care of our husbands when they are sick and not abandon them so we do not
have to drop the wife hat to be a caregiver like I thought for a while. Now I am a wife first and
a caregiver 2nd and if I need to be an advocate 3rd. Life is so much easier now.
INTERPERSONAL OMMUNICATION SKILLS TEST SNAPSHOT
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Overall the test showed that my communication skills are excellent. My lowest skill is
Assertiveness which is one of the Personality traits that that I felt people wanted from me that I just
really was not wired to have. I am more of a passive person. I am more of a passive problem solver.
I do not seem to get caught up in emotions but I do attempt to calm down emotions. I am tending to
work with a lot of people in Crisis and sometimes I feel that I come off uncaring or that I do not connect
with them on an emotional level because I manage my emotions. I am just not an emotional person.
I can empathize with them but I am just not emotional.
GRAPH 1 “THIS IS EXPECTED OF ME
In
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In How To Solve The People Puzzle Understanding Personality Patterns, pages 43- 48 it
talks about the “I/D” Personality Type – Graph 1 – “This is Expected of me!” It says that I am
seen as a Dynamic Doer. I thinking this is very funny because this is exactly how people do see
me. Since 2014 all I have heard from people is how they see me as and inspiring person and
how I am always influencing people to keep fighting and never to give up. They see me as an
optimistic person when they believe that I should not be. One of my best friends and I took a
trip a few months ago and we were on a train together. She ask me about all the issue that I was
dealing with my husband’s health and the issues I personally having and then dealing with my
son’s special needs and homeschooling my girls. She ask me how I could be so positive all the
time. I looked back at her and said I have never seen her complain. She said she was healthy
her husband’s injuries were not as bad as my husband and even though she had 2 more kids they
were mostly older and now could take mostly care for themselves besides the 7-year-old who the
older ones help with. I told her my first thing is I never compare myself to anyone else. I never see
that I am better or worse than another. I never see how bad my situation is until after we have been
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through the situation and then there is no reason to see it as a bad thing because we have already made
it through the situation. When we think we are going through a bad time we always think it could be
worse because we have been through worse. We have been homeless, there has been times that we
did not know if he would live, Robert, our son would live, or even if I would live. We are not promised
another day so we have to live for God while we are on earth. On page 44 under Visions and Passions It
says that I tend to Dream big and work hard to accomplish task. I am always very passionate about my
work. It is funny that it says that I think people want me to be in charge because 4 weeks ago, our
church had a School supply and clothing giveaway. I am still very new on these projects. I ask the
pastors of the church if during the day if I could stay at the church during the day and study and then I
would be there that night and help with the giveaway. They said they did not have a problem at all with
that at all. I was the only one there when people started showing up for the giveaway. Not one
parent showed up with a school supply list and most of the workers did not know what the students
needed for school. I had just spent the last 2 months creating bags for military children so I had the list
memorized for all grades. I just walked form one lady to the next and would yell out what was needed
for each bag and our runners would fill the bags. The ladies said that they were surprised that I came
in and was such a great leader. Now that they have spent the last 4 weeks with me the realize that my
natural personality is really not to be leader that I was that day but when needed I am that leader. I just
jump in and they really do not know what they would have done that day if I had not been there. On
that same page it talks about that I can be a great follower but I look for ways to become a leader and I
think that may have been what I did that day. On Page 46 it says that I believe people expect me to
win. I think that is where I have a really have a trouble. I often feel that I am a failure if I do not win at
something even if it is out of my control. About 3 months ago I was in the hospital for major
depression. I have been fighting for my husband’s Permanent and Total Claim with the VA and fighting
for his discharge to be changed from Medically Discharged at 10% to a Medically Retirement. Well the
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Military Changed my husband’s discharge to Medically Retired after a 7 year fight. Then 2 months later
the VA decided to keep Chris’s claim at 100% but not P&T they are going to re-evaluate in 5 more years.
This means that I will not be able to use the GI bill for college. I was crushed because I felt that I had let
everyone down because if I could not even get my husband’s claims done correctly how could I give
them advice on how to do their stuff correctly. Then to make matters worse is that almost everyone
that I advised was getting their claims completed faster than ours and half the fights of us. My husband
told me that he was tired of fighting as he did not see a point any longer. I felt that was all I had to done
for the last almost 8 years so what was my purpose in life if it was not to fight. I did not feel like I even
had a life purpose. One of my fights was successful but the other was a complete failure. I felt that I
had been successful in helping others but when it was with my family I was a failure and to us that was
what mattered. On Page 47 I was very surprised to read that this personality was one of the most
Dynamic and determined types of people. I disagree about the not worrying much because I am a huge
worrier. I worry about everything. I do like to find the bright side of everything and I focus on
solutions to problems. I also disagree about wanting to influence a crowd. I would rather work on an
individual basis. I know this is based on a broad group of people but I just don’t think that I really fit in
the mold completely.
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GRAPH 2 “THIS IS ME”
In graph 2 “This is Me!”, I am a C/I/S. People are attracted to me because of my
friendliness. I can be very outgoing and reserved. I have had people tell me that I can the life
of the party or I can be the person in the corner and just be a spectator. I was very surprised
when I was in the CCU for 2 weeks because I am not use to people not knowing quickly who I
am. I have been attending our church every week since the end of May. I know that is not very
long but I have also volunteered ever chance we have been able to. I am at the feeding for the
kids every Wednesday night. I am in every bible study. I am training to be a Minister in our
church and they even have a ministry spot for me as soon as I finish the School of Ministry as an
ordain minister next year. People from the church were coming up to visit and pray for me
when I was in the CCU and asking if I attended the church or how I contacted the church for
prayer. This church is a very small church and I am a mostly outgoing person. We just had
been more reserved then what we normally had been because we felt since the church was
having several changes it was our best place at that time. Now we still had done a lot of
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getting to know people on a one on one basis. Those that I had met with did see me just like it
says on page 191 in How to Solve The People Puzzle Understanding Personality Patterns, they
viewed me as inspiring. I have had many tell me that I would be good at impressing both
crowds and individuals. Right off the bat, I was so glad that our pastors at our church talked to
me about working with small groups and individual and they told me that it was on their hearts
for me to work in hospitals or crisis work. They said they felt they had someone being brought
in that was called to do that work which was amazing because that was something that had been
on my heart for over 2 years and every church we had talked to in the last 2 years has tried to tell
us that was not really where God wanted us to be. They have told us God really wanted us
everywhere from Foreign ministry, not really a great place for people with seizure disorders and
a person with multiple illnesses and injuries, to class room teachers. We have even been through
disaster relief classes but the church we attended did not want to support us in that endeavor but
our new church believes that if God is calling us to that it is not them to stop his calling. On
Sunday this past week the Pastor that is training me to eventually replace him which I am sure is
not an easy place, came up to me and said that the more he gets to know us the more he is
realizing that God has really prepared us for working with crisis and every bump in the road was
not to tear us down but to train us for the work that he would eventually prepare us for. On page
192 under the Heading “Your Feelings and Thoughts” It says that I often feel happy but at times I
am sad. I think that facts that my emotions are always are going up and down really causes me a
lot of trouble is hard on me. I always feel that something is wrong with me. I am always
worried about messing up about my relationships or just about anything. I am really just a
worrier. I prefer to fix and solve task. I agree very much with the heading on page 192 – 193
about Leadership style. I do think that Leadership style is varied depending on the situation. I
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love inspiring but not so much crowds. I would rather inspire individuals. That being said I
currently have a Facebook page Letters From The Heart Ministry and Facebook Group Letters
From the Heart Support group where I share inspirational stories and letters as well as resources
with others. That is where I let my hair down and just tell what is going on. At first I thought
it would turn people away from us and people would just think our life was too hard of us. But
most people said they admire that no matter what we are going through I always have a positive
twist on it. I never let it get me down. I think that is very funny since several times over the last
several years I have had to be hospitalized because I wanted to kill myself because I just did not
know how I could live another day in this lifestyle. For the first time I actually feel that I have
a purpose and reason for why all this has happened in our life. On Page 193, It says that I do
not like Coloring outside the lines or cutting corners. I think that is funny because when I started
the journey with my husband I found my out quickly what the paths were. I think because I
was in law enforcement and then I worked for the Navy as an ombudsman I was always taught
the chain of command. I feel like when he was injured I took notes of the chain of command.
I have it wrote down. Each branch of service does things differently so I when I am working
with a spouse or service member I have to make sure that I give them the correct instruction. I
have the VA chain of command down to a fine art but it is really complicated with the military
because every base and every branch has its own policies. I also like to be knowledgeable on
everything. If I am going to learn a little of something I might as well become an expert on the
subject. My son can’t talk so I am learning sign language, picture books and other ways of
communications. My girls like art so I am learning to paint, sew, already cross stitch, latch
hook, making soap, and making candles. My husband needs full time care so I have learned
everything there is about all of his medical conditions and can you almost as much about his
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health and medical history as his doctors. I can’t just learn a little about something I have to
learn about it all. On page 193- 194 Under the heading “Conflict Management” I am very
good at avoiding and resolving conflict. If I get into a fight with someone I just cry and it tears
me up. I would rather work the fight out before it becomes an issue or conflict so that no one’s
feelings are hurt. I will tell you that if I upset someone else I am just as upset if not more upset
then them. Under the heading “Strengths and Uniqueness” on page 194 It states that I show my
strengths through my friendliness and kindness as well as my ability to solve difficult problems.
I do like to think deep. I am not one that ever gives shallow answers or research. It says in the
book that says that others may see my uniqueness as a weakness that I have a lack of being
commanding or demanding. This is probably something that is not true for me because the
person that I think people see me as is demanding. It is a conflict. I think that is funny that
it mentions that I can be stubborn because that is one of my biggest weakness. I am very
stubborn. My husband and I often wonder where the kids get their stubbornness. To tell the
truth they are get it from both of us and probably everyone in both our families. I guess that is
what you when two very stubborn people get married. Our kids are very headstrong. On page
195, I do have to be very careful not to withdraw and be so quiet and humble that no one knows
that I am present because when I do that I become depressed because I feel un-noticed and not
important. I would rather not speak out against others because I do not want to upset anyone.
The conclusion on page 195 states that I am incredibly gifted with my people skills. I can
impress crowds. Again I am not very good with crowds so I think that it comes down to good I
am very good at impressing individuals with the way I speak, look and act. I think that I also
do make individuals feel as they are I am their dearest friend. I have had several of them tell me
that.
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WHEN YOU ARE HIGH “D” ON GRAPH 1 AND LOW “D” ON GRAPH 2
I think this is one my big issues. I see this as being a big conflict. I feel like this shows
that I am in conflict with myself. The book How to Solve the People Puzzle, Understanding
Personality Patterns, It talks about this usually talks about how this usually happens when a
person has a demanding job that expects them to take charge but when they get home they do not
have to be the ultimate decision maker. I do not think this is what is going on in my case.
Growing up, I often was in charge of taking care of raising my younger brother and myself
because my mother worked full time and did not get home until after my brother and I were
already supposed to be in bed. While in school I was able to be a “normal kid” but at home I
had to be the adult. When I was in high school my grandparents finally got custody of us and
we were able to be kids for our last couple years of high school. In College, I studied Law
enforcement and Criminal justice. It did not take me long to decide I wanted to be an officer.
My career was demanding. I did not have to make a lot of decisions at home thought but for
the last 8 years I have been a stay at home mom mostly. I have been taking care of my
husband. I have to be in control all the time for him. I have to be demanding for the doctors
for him. I have to fight for everything that he needs. I am the one that has to make most of the
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decisions because he has a hard time making decisions. When I get overly stressed I do get to
where I can’t make simple decisions. I will say things like “My brain has turned off so you
are in charge of deciding what is for dinner.” It is funny it is always the decisions like dinner.
Never the decisions that make a real difference.
WHEN YOU ARE LOW “S” ON GRAPH 1 AND HIGH “S” ON GRAPH 2
I think that in public that people expect me to be the aggressive person and demanding
person to care for my husband and other veterans. I am an advocate for many other veterans and
caregivers. At home I do believe in what the bible states about a wife submitting to her
husband. In Ephesians 5: 22-24 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the
husband is head of the wife, as also Chris is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in
everything.” Even though I am his full time caregiver I am still submissive to him. My “S”
on Graph 2 is right on the Midline By what How To Solve The People Puzzle Understanding
Personality Patterns says on page 227 This means that I am I am kinder and nicer than those that
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are at the bottom of the graph. People are always commenting to me about the kindness that
they see in me. I do agree that when stress comes into my life, I do need more stability and
need people to stand by my side. I am very security-oriented.
WHEN YOU ARE A LOW “C” ON GRAPH 1 AND HIGH “C” ON GRAPH 2
This one is very funny because I am always being told by people that I do not have to be
a perfectionist. Sometimes I like to keep my perfectionist tendencies hidden because people
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think that I am good enough. I never feel that I am good enough. I am very picky about
things when I am alone. When I am in a crowd even when things bother me I tend not to show
it as much. I think that it is funny on page 230 of How To Solve The People Puzzle
Understanding Personality Patterns, It says that you can be very judgmental when you let your
hair down or take your mask off. This is very true. My family knows that I am very
judgmental but most of my friends do not know me as being a very judgmental person. I was
talking about this paper in marriage counseling and ask us if we had ever taken the Myers-
Briggs inventory. I had taken it a while back and so had my husband. Mine had been INTJ and
my husbands was INTP. He thought it was strange that we had personalities that were so close
together. Especially since I tend to not act within my personality a lot of the time. When
people met me they often do not see me as a judging person but I am usually off the chart on
Judging. I am also off the Chart as an Introverted but am viewed as an extroverted. It is not
the way you force yourself to act it is the way you gain your energy. I am a very careful and
critical thinker privately but I am fearful to do so publicly.
WHAT HALLMARK PURPOSE WILL GOVERN YOUR PERSONALITY?
My hallmark purpose that will govern my personality is to give hope to people during
their times of darkness or crisis. I know that sounds simple but it really is not as simple
as it sounds. I just want to be the light in the darkness.
1 Timothy 6:12 in the New King James Version Bible I use the Billy Graham Training
Center Bible, states “Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you
were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many
witnesses.”
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In Philippians 4:13 in the Billy Graham Training Center Bible, New King James Version
Bible, it states “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” This is the verse
that I live by. I know that I can’t do this alone but through Christ I can do anything.
WHO IS THE “ME I SEE?”
I tend to see myself as a very balanced person. I am the person that I have to be at the
time that I have to be at that time, even if it does not go along with my personality. I see
myself as a fighter and feel lost without a fight to fight.
On page 257 of How To Solve the People Puzzle, it says that an immature or out of
control “I/D” type is often very active or even called hyperactive. I have always been
very active but not really considered hyperactive or a risk-taker. I do have people tell
me all the time that I have to realize that I am not a superhero and I can’t do it all.
On Pages 259-260, I do not think I have fully have made it to the mature or in-control
“I/D” type either I have not slowed down but I do calculate my option more than I have
ever done before. I am far from passive and quiet.
On the website https://www.axiomsoftware.com/disc/interpretations/disc-interpretation-
high-d-i.php, It states that I strive in “situations others would find impossibly stressful
and difficult to deal with.” I think this is a funny statement because since we started the
Medically review board process with my husband in 2008 this is a statement that I have
heard over and over again from friends and family.
On the PDF How My Graph Became A Dot, It talks about how on the angular location
my dot falls into an area that is just within the Section that is outside the “D” Quadrant
and into the “I” Quadrant which makes me more of an “I” person than a “D” person or
what is called a “I/D” person.
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In the Book Why Don’t We Listen Better, on Page 55-56, the author talks about whether it
was better to be a victor or friends. I think often I get caught up trying to fight battles
that I lose friends or step on toes in the process. That is something that I really need to
work on.
WHO IS THE “ME I WANT TO SEE?”
I want to be a person that people can look up to and be inspired by not turned off by. I
want to be a person that is challenged but not worried about being a failure when those
challenges come up. I want to see myself focusing on the person not the masses because
that is really where I am called to be and where I am wired to be. I would like to allow
others to make me more of the large decisions and maybe take a step back some. I think
that one of the big things that I want on the “Me I want to see is on page 41 in Solution
Focused Pastoral Counseling. I want to get unstuck and know that “true personality
change occurs as a natural process of sanctifying of the Holy Spirit.”
CONCLUSION
Through this process I did learn that there was a lot of differences in the person that I
think others expect me to be and the Me that I am. Somewhere in the middle really needs to
be the true me. It is the Me that God has created for me to be. That is the Me that I need to
be. It is a process to find that Me. Through the readings this week I can see that you can
change your personality and it is an on-going process. You may be wired to have a certain
personality but that does not mean that you always are going to act within that personality. You
may not really act within that personality much at all. Most people may not even see you as
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being that personality. I think that is very apparent in my case for example. My mother of all
people did not even see me as the person that I was wired to be. She saw me as the person that
I thought people wanted me to be. My mom should have one of the most personal
relationships with me of all people. My husband was the only person that I spoke with that
picked out the personality type that was in Both the one I was and the one that I thought I was
expected to be. Everyone else picked out the “D” personality while he said I was more “I”.
I was torn between the two personalities. I guess that is because that is what I felt that was I
expected to be.
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Gillespie, Deborah (September 4, 2016) Written Questionnaire Interview
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Bradley, Christopher (September 6, 2016) Written Questionnaire Interview
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