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The Peacemaker:
Final Paper – Resolution
Kenneth B. Falk
School of Business, Liberty University
LEAD610 – Team Leadership and Conflict Resolution
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Contents
Introduction………………………………………………………………….………………….…3
Glorify God
Conflicts Provide Opportunities…………………………………………………………..3
Live at Peace………………………………………………………………………………7
Trust in the Lord and Do Good……………………………………………………………8
Get the Log Out of Your Own Eye
Is This Really Worth Fighting Over……………………………………………………...10
Conflict Starts in the Heart……………………………………………………………….11
Confession Brings Freedom……………………………………………………………...13
Gently Restore
Just Between the Two of You…………………………………………………………….14
Speak the Truth in Love………………………………………………………………….15
Take One or Two Others Along
Go and Be Reconciled
Forgive as God Forgave You
Look Also to the Interest of Others
Overcome Evil with Good
Conclusion
References
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The Peacemaker: Final Paper – Resolution
Introduction
Peacemakers are people who breathe grace. They draw continually on the goodness and
power of Jesus Christ, and then they bring his love, mercy, forgiveness, strength, and wisdom to
the conflicts of daily life (Sande, 2004). This is something we all strive to achieve and something
that I did not do very well in my past conflicts.
God created man to be in relationships. However, being in a relationship guarantees
conflict. Simply because people come from different backgrounds and environments, and all
have different experiences. Something as simple as turning on the television, we hear about
conflict. When we go to church, there can be conflict. People are angry and feel social injustice
and there they process their feelings so that the whole nation knows what is happening in their
lives and what conflicts they have with each other. Because when in conflict we tend to focus on
ourselves it becomes easier to forget or ignore our teaching and we put Jesus in the backseat. We
tend to forget that every time we put those feelings in our hearts, it creates a foothold for the
devil to take advantage of the situation and attempt to drive a wedge between us and God.
Glorify God
Conflicts Provide Opportunities
Growing up, my brother and I had a close bond, sharing a room and doing everything
together. However, my childhood was marked by my brother being physically, emotionally, and
psychologically abused by our birth mother. Our mother would starve, beat, and banish my
brother from human contact, leading to a traumatic upbringing. One vivid memory was when I
accidentally pierced my brother's nose with a lawn dart, resulting in my brother feeling
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comforted and cared for by our mother for once. Despite trying to maintain a relationship with
my birth mother, things took a turn when I returned from Army basic training and was falsely
accused of inappropriate behavior with my baby brother. This led to a strained relationship with
my birth mother, as I realized the hypocrisy and nerve of the woman who had abused my brother
and me. I had not spoken to my birth mother directly for the last 28 years. Geher (2021) explains
that from the perspective of not being exploited, estranging someone from your life could have
clear benefits. If someone has proven to have betrayed you or transgressed against you so
strongly as to not be trusted, cutting that person off might be socially advantageous. My brother
found solace in the small moments of warmth and kindness, despite the abuse, and managed to
forge a pseudo-relationship with my birth mother, unfortunately, I did not.
Unfortunately, I responded to this conflict with the escape response of “flight.” “People who
use escape responses are usually intent on “peace-faking,” or making things look good even
when they are not. (This is especially common in the church, where people are often more
concerned about the appearance of peace than the reality of peace)” (Sande, 2004). He also
explained that although the decision of flight may have been legitimate given the situation, I
should have utilized that time to calm down, organize my thoughts, and seek guidance from God
by praying. After gathering my thoughts and receiving guidance from God through scripture, I
should have returned, with others, to find a more permanent solution to the problem. Matthew
18:18 explains the process of seeking reconciliation with assistance from others and the church
(New International Bible, 1973/2024). Flight is just a temporary solution.
My response to escape made the situation far worse because by cutting all contact with my
birth mother, I not only ran away from my mother but from my younger brothers and sister as
well. The relationships with them are there, but not nearly as close as one would think a sibling
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relationship would be. They grew up only hearing the things my birth mother told them, most of
them too young to remember who I even was. Having to start relationships with your siblings
when they are adults is difficult.
Beyond the fifth of the 10 commandments, Ephesians 6:1-2 boldly and clearly states
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ’Honor your father and mother’,
which is the first commandment with a promise (New International Bible, 1973/2024). I
should have honored my mother by allowing reconciliation before her passing, I stole that
from her.
By utilizing the word of God in this situation, starting the Lord’s Prayer with Matthew
6:8 “Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.”
Continuing with 6:9-13, as we all have heard and read, forgive us as we forgive others (New
International Bible, 1973/2024). God tells us in one of the first pieces of scripture I learned
as a young boy, a prayer I prayed daily, yet I was unable to see past my hurt, fear, shame, and
pride to apply it to my own life.
Lastly, a pastor at my church used an anecdote using rock climbing as a parallel, telling
us that it is very difficult to rock climb without footholds. He expanded telling us that every
conflict you have and leave unreconciled leaves a foothold behind for Satan to use to reach
you and start dragging you down. Labeling the “footholds” fear, pride, stubbornness, hurt,
arrogance, entitlement, and you can name many more. I realize now that many of the trials
and tribulations I have endured in my life were self-induced through leaving these footholds.
According to Sande (2004), conflict provides an opportunity to demonstrate my love and
trust in Jesus Christ to others. Remembering that conflict tends to draw an audience, there are
usually more people paying attention than you realize. In my instance, there were very few in-
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person spectators, but my brothers and sisters, nieces, and nephews, aunts, and uncles, and even
grandparents became spectators to my behavior over the years. All of them knowing only what
my birth mother allowed them to know and that I was supposedly a Christian lends pause to
setting a good example of God’s love, mercy, and forgiveness, it gave them a real reason to mock
my faith, my beliefs, and Christianity as a whole. To be able to demonstrate the true power of
Jesus Christ through humility, self-control, mercy, and grace might have done the exact opposite,
to encourage others to trust in Jesus Christ (Sande, 2004). As a father, I am genuinely concerned
about the lessons I teach and the legacy that I leave for my children. Living and walking in God’s
path is something I have always taught my children, but this incident alone does not show that I
walk the talk. Projecting the right image and behaviors for my children to learn from is
important, they are the next generation, already evangelists, sharing their beliefs and thoughts
about their God and how his love is stronger than everyone and everything.
There are two main reflections for me on growing in Christ through conflict. First is the
concept of lessons of humility through conflict. At this time, I believe that God created this
conflict to challenge me to be more Christ-like. By exposing my weaknesses of pride and
arrogance God was telling me to let go and trust in him “Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding” (New International Bible, 1973/2024, Proverbs
3:5). Had I listened I would have seen the truth, and my next lesson, to practice. Practice
makes perfect is the saying, but there is much truth in it. Now I am older and have life
experience I can look back at the 22-year-old me and see how easy it would have been to
approach this conflict differently. I believe that God was telling me to confront my birth
mother, to present to her the way, through the teachings of the bible, that she was not being
Godly. To be an example of mercy and grace when it was not deserved, and to teach her what
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true forgiveness felt like. The overall outcome may not have been different, but the situation
surrounding the outcome and my demonstration of Christianity would have been completely
different.
Conflict is an opportunity to glorify God, serve others, and grow like Christ. These instances,
sometimes described as being faithful to God, being merciful to others, and acting justly, are
praised throughout the Bible. By living the gospel and putting the Lord's priorities first, I have an
opportunity to turn conflict into an opportunity to build a stronger relationship with God and
demonstrate to others my true Christian life.
Live at Peace
While I have inner peace with Christ, I am learning to have peace with others, I am not
feeling the type of inner peace I desire, yet. I am continuing to work on reflection through prayer
and the guidance of my church and community life partners. I realize that although the decision
to leave the situation was not necessarily wrong, my approach to reconciliation after the fact was.
There is residual guilt and desire for a different outcome that I will have to learn to deal with
through God’s grace.
I am coming to peace with my birth mother. She has passed away and I have taken away the
Godly gift she deserved of grace, forgiveness, and peace. How do you seek reconciliation with
someone after they have passed on? I speak kindly of her, omitting the bad things. I share stories
of good times I can remember, recipes she has shared, and pictures I have of her. I pray for her
peace every day asking God to take mercy on her, to allow her heart to be seen for the good it
held, not the perceived evil. Robert Enright shared, during episode 247 of the Speaking of
Psychology podcast with Kate Mills, that we can forgive the deceased. You do not have to be
trapped because they are no longer here. He shares ways to be kind and merciful to those who
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have already left us through kind words, rebuilding relationships with living relatives, or creating
a memorial or scholarship in their name to honor them posthumously. “That stops the drip, drip,
drip of the anger in the heart” (Mills, 2023).
Unfortunately for my birth mother and myself, I did not recognize the voice of God guiding
me toward reconciliation until after she passed away. Before her passing, I made minimal efforts
to reconcile. There were several instances of surface attempts, almost to affirm that I had tried,
only to comfort myself I am afraid. An email, or letter, never a phone call for fear that hearing
her voice would make me give in.
After her passing, however, I have forgiven her in my heart and try hard to focus on the good
things I remember without forgetting the bad. The bad things she did shaped me just as much as
the good. I learned what not to do, what not to say, how not to act, and how not to treat my
children. While I am still sorry that I was unable to share these things with her while alive, I am
doing everything that God has laid on my heart to make amends for it now.
I have repented to God about my wrongdoings regarding my birth mother, so as of today, I
am striving to not quench the Holy Spirit. I am motivated to present my birth mother in the best
light possible. I am no longer slandering her name, I no longer share her evil with others, I am no
longer angry, and I am no longer bitter. I am constantly reminded of the sermon about the
footholds, as I can see how I certainly left the door open for some ungodly interventions to
enflame this conflict.
Trust in the Lord and Do Good
I have always seemed to look at this conflict as something that was done to me as opposed to
something done for me through Christ. Because of my past, and the conflict that arose due to it, I
have not shared this information with many people. Looking back, I believe God was telling me
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what to do, as I knew I was wrong. Evidence of these feelings was the fact that I have never
shared this part of my life with my church family. I was in fear of being judged and told what I
should do when I did not want to do it. Knowing this now, my church family would have helped
me reconcile this entire situation a lot sooner and with less pain.
I am reminded of the 3 parables in the book of Luke, as told by Jesus. Three separate
parables, one significant theme. Starting with the parable of the lost sheep, Luke 15:1-7, Jesus
tells of the shepherd who left the 99 to go after the one lost sheep. Why leave the group and go
after the one? Jesus is trying to tell us that there is strength in numbers and that when you (lost
sheep) are alone, you (lost sheep) become vulnerable, and in danger of attacks from evil
predators (Satan).
Continuing in Luke 15:8-10 with the parable of the lost coin, one single coin (you) of 10 is
lost, and she (Jesus) searches until it is found. The danger of not finding the coin was that her
headdress would be incomplete (church) and bring potential shame upon her as it was a symbol
of dedication in marriage (church).
Finally, the parables end in Luke 15:11-31, with the story of the prodigal son. Again, one
(you) is lost and the father (Jesus never gives up on the prospect of the son’s return until one day
he comes back, repents to the father (Jesus) and I reunited with his family (church) (New
International Bible, 1973/2024). The consistent theme in these short parables is that one (us) is
lost, and Jesus will continuously search and wait until we are found again. Each of these stories
can be synopsized as lost, found, party. All of heaven rejoices for the one that is found and
brought back into the family (church) (New International Bible, 1973/2024, Luke 15:7). While
these parables show us the one common theme, what they also tell us is the message to the
Pharisees and jealous brothers behind the scenes when they are critical of the welcoming and
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eating with sinners. The message to them is that there is a party in heaven over the one that was
lost, but now is found.
“Rejoicing in heaven over one sinner who repents,” “There is rejoicing in the
presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.,” “We had to celebrate
and be glad because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost
and is found” (New International Bible, 1973/2024, Luke 15:7, 15:10, 15:32)
As mentioned before, the Parables summation: One is lost, one is found, Heaven rejoices.
Lost, Found, and Party!
I have no doubts or fears about this dispute; however, I am left with questions because of
the way I handled the conflict. Because I refused to reconcile fully with my birth mother
before her death, I will never have those questions answered. For me, the one question that
hangs on tightly to my head is “Why?”
Now I know the mistakes I made and am developing the tools to prevent those mistakes
again. I have had to turn a lot of my fears, doubts, and questions over to God and ask for His
assistance in finding the peace I need to be a better Christian. Philippians 4:6 tells us very
directly to let go of the things not understood, the things that frighten or make you anxious,
and give them to God, allow Him to care for you and protect you as his promise has proven
time and time again.
Get the Log out of Your Eye
Is This Really Worth Fighting Over?
My childhood was affected by my witnessing my brother being physically, emotionally, and
psychologically abused by our birth mother. Our birth mother would starve, beat, and lock him in
the basement, leading to a traumatic upbringing. Despite trying to maintain a relationship with
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my birth mother, things took a turn when I returned from Army basic training and was falsely
accused of inappropriate behavior with my youngest brother. This led to a strained relationship
with my birth mother, as I realized the hypocrisy and nerve of the woman who referred to my
brother, born premature, and with a severed umbilical cord, as the spawn of Satan. I decided to
walk away and essentially disown her. Philippians 4:8 states that whatever is true, whatever is
noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable to think
about such things (New International Bible, 1973/2024).
This is difficult for me to ascertain and where the assistance of my church family may have
been helpful. The only way that I can see a reason to rejoice in this situation would be to look at
it as an opportunity to utilize God’s word and allow His words to work through me in a full
demonstration of selfless Christianity. I am trying to repent and rectify this wrong by sharing all
the good things I can remember about her with my family. I remember her smile, and I remember
rocking out to Michael Jackson and Crystal Gayle, I am thankful for my love of music that I am
sure came from her, and I am thankful for the many lessons of what not to do concerning raising
my children. There are some good things I can remember, and I will cling to those memories
whenever I speak of her.
Conflict Starts in the Heart
I judged. Sande put this into a clear picture for me. Even though I was young when I
accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior, I have always seemed to struggle with the
interpretations and symbols of the bible. What is awkward to me is that once it is explained to
me, it is so clear that I cannot believe I did not see it prior. The insight explaining playing God by
criticizing, attacking, and condemning my birth mother was frightening to me. The closer we are
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to others, the more we expect of them, and the more likely we are to judge them when they fail to
meet our expectations (Sande, 2004).
I Punish. Idols always demand sacrifices (Sande, 2004). My idol demanded many sacrifices
including not only my depriving Jesus of my whole unadulterated heart, but the relationships
with my siblings, allowing Satan to gain ground on me and affect other relationships not even
related to this conflict. Not only did I punish my birth mother, but I also punished God, my
siblings, and truly anyone who tried to tell me I was wrong in my actions. That created a cyclic
effect of hatred that never really ended. I essentially created an idol of hate. The only way to
overcome and crush that idol was to repent and beg for God’s forgiveness and mercy. For that, I
share my prayer of repentance.
Loving Heavenly Father,M
Blessed be that your mercy is fresh every day, poured out to us with your patience and
loving guidance. Thank you for your mercy, for good health, food, and clothing; for those
moments of domestic peace and harmony; and for the constant protection of myself and my
loved ones.
But I mourn my sin and my deep ingratitude to you. I did not trust you or wait patiently
for you to act for me. I trusted earthly desires rather than You, and I looked to my idol of
hatred I created for validation of my feelings and actions. I brought people down with the
weight of my needs and expectations and sinned against them when they disappointed me.
Father, forgive me for my many sins. I neither deny them nor defend them but confess that I
have broken Your holy law and have not kept Your commandments.
Holy Spirit, help me to turn from my sin and cling to the promise of the cross. Let me
hide in the wounds of Jesus and find refuge by his side. Assist me in placing all my hope in
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the mighty blood of our Savior and his perfect plan for me in this place. When life is painful
and difficult and my soul gives way to fear and temptation, plant me safely back to my sure
foundation, my only hope in life and death. Show me again the joy of my salvation.
Amen.
Confession Brings Freedom
My confession is addressed to God first because He deserves all the glory and my
repentance. “Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity” (New
International Bible, 1973/2024, Psalms 32:5). I failed to listen to your words, and lessons for
me. I had hatred and murder in my heart defiling your sacred name and creating an idol of
hate. It consumed me, everything I did or thought seemed to have hate at the center. Acts
3:19 reminds me to repent and turn to God so that my sins can be wiped away through the
mercy of God (New International Bible, 1973/2024). Lord I am not worthy, I love you, I need
you, forgive my sins, and continue to change my life.
My confession also includes my siblings: Tina, Mandi, Brandon, Brad, and Terry Jon for
not being there to help protect them as they grew up in that environment after I left like a
coward. I know that my absence made things worse, I know that I could have changed that for
you, and I did nothing. I am deeply sorrowful that I missed out on your lives, I missed all your
milestones, I missed your marriages, the birth of your children, and deprived you of me. I am
also going to include my aunts and uncles, cousins, and nieces and nephews to whom I have
been vacant from their lives. And finally,
I would include my deceased birth mother for so much. I apologize for not being there for
you when you needed me most. I did not even know your whole store before I cast my
judgment and sentence on you. I am sorry for not sharing the word of Jesus Christ when I
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knew I had the obligation to do so. I am sorry for the harsh words I said to you and about you.
Most of all I am sorry for depriving you of the beauty of my children even when they asked
about you.
There is no excuse for my outright condemnation of my entire family due to the actions of
one. Jesus tells me now that I need to be there for you, I need to take whatever consequences
are due me and accept your anger and frustration towards me. I beg for your mercy and
forgiveness with my sincerest apology.
The above is an excerpt from a letter that was mailed to my siblings, aunts, uncles, and
older cousins on April 4, 2024. No responses have been received as of this date. More to
come.
Gently Restore
Just Between the Two of You
Looking at what actions I should take now, I am drawn to the reconciliation with my
siblings and extended family. I forfeited the right to reconcile with my birth mother when I took
that option away from her before she died. My brothers and sisters have every right to be angry
with me. I was selfish and let my anger, ugliness, and stubbornness alienate them from me,
unfortunately, that is the brother that they know. I am drawn to a short story from Moser (2022)
in which he tells of a view from outside a church near his home, the windows were nothing
special; they appeared dark and dull, showing no bright colors. From inside the church, however,
the windows were strikingly different: they appeared bright and colorful, with bold images and
sharp contrasts, and they portrayed the life of Jesus, memorably. People had to go inside the
church to have access to the beauty and the message of the windows. This access was a result of
the nature of the windows: their being bright on their frontside, viewed from inside, but dark on
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their backside, viewed from outside. I have not allowed my siblings inside me to see the beauty
of God. I have not let them inside me to see how amazing His love is for them and how He can
and will change their lives too if they let Him inside them.
I will wait for responses from the letters I have sent before pressing the issue too much
further; however, I feel that a group-style “reunion” followed by an individual discussion is
warranted as I am sure each one of my siblings was hurt differently.
Speak the Truth in Love
My listening skills, in interpersonal communication, are lacking in
attending skills and reflecting skills. To overcome these deficiencies, I
know that I will need to be aware of them as they are happening to affect
change in my behaviors. Actively listening instead of planning my next
statement is important in building trust with the other person. If you allow
your mind to wander or start rehearsing your responses, you may miss
much of what others are saying. Moreover, others can usually tell when
you are distracted, which discourages them in their efforts to
communicate (Sande, 2004).
Reflecting shows that you are paying attention, and you are trying to
understand the other person.
Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal
Conflict, Third Edition. (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2004), 166.
Ken Sande, The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal
Conflict, Third Edition. (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2004), 168.
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1. Which listening skills do you have a hard time with: waiting, attending,
clarifying, reflecting, or agreeing? Write down some things you will do
or say to overcome these weaknesses. (PM @ 165-169; see James
1:19; Prov. 18:13)
2. How can you show that you are trying to believe the best about the
other person (i.e., making charitable judgments)? (PM @ 170-171)
3. Would it be wiser to communicate in person, on the phone, or by
means of a letter? Why?
4. Plan what you are going to say (PM @ 176-182; Prov. 12:18; 14:22) The
issues you believe should be addressed
The best time and place to talk
Words and topics to avoid
How to offer hope by focusing on the gospel (who God is, what he is
like, and what he is doing)
Stories or comparisons that the other person will appreciate
"I" statements using words that describe your feelings
The benefits that will be produced by cooperating to find a solution
Take One or Two Others Along
1. Are the personal or material issues in this conflict too serious to
overlook or walk away from? Why? (Prov. 19:11)
2. Why do you think your efforts to resolve this dispute in private have
failed? Is there anything you could still do to resolve it in private?
3. If you must seek outside help to resolve this dispute, are there any
individuals who are likely to be trusted and respected by both you and
the other person? (PM @ 187-192)
4. What will you say to the other person to encourage him or her to allow
other people to meet with the two of you to help resolve this dispute?
In particular, how would you describe the advantages of getting
outside assistance? (PM @ 188-190)
5. If the other person refuses to work voluntarily with others, would it be
better to drop the matter or to ask the church to get involved? Why?
(PM @ 192-193)
6. If all other avenues have failed to resolve this matter and you are
considering filing a lawsuit, have you satisfied the biblical conditions
for doing so? (PM @ 279-286; 1 Cor. 6:1-8; 10:31-11:1)
Go and Be Reconciled
Forgive as God Forgave You
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1. How has your opponent sinned against you?
2. Which of these sins has your opponent confessed?
3. Which of the unconfessed sins can you overlook and forgive at this
time? (Those that cannot be overlooked will have to be dealt with by
applying the principles taught in chapters 7-9).
4. Make the first decision of forgiveness: Admit that vou cannot forgive on
Your own, and ask God to change your heart.
5. Note how each of the following passages applies to this situation.
Psalm 103:12
Psalm 130:3
1 Corinthians 13:5
Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13
6. Write the four promises you will make to your opponent to indicate
your forgiveness (PM @ 207-210).
"By God's grace ...
I will not____________________on this incident.
I will not____________________this incident up and use it against you.
I will not____________________to others about this incident.
I will not____________________this incident stand between us or hinder
our relationship."
7. Circle the promise that will be the hardest for you to keep. Why is it the
hardest?
8. If you are having a hard time forgiving your opponent, read Matthew
18:21-35. What is the point of this passage?
9. If you continue to struggle with unforgiveness, identify the roadblock by
reading pages 213-218 in The Peacemaker.
10. How can you demonstrate forgiveness or promote reconciliation in
thought, word, and deed?
Look Also to the Interests of Others
1. Which style of negotiation is most appropriate in your situation:
competitive or collaborative? Why?
2. How can you prepare to negotiate a reasonable agreement in this
situation (PM @ 228-231; see Prov. 14:8,22)?
3. How can you affirm your concern and respect for your opponent (PM
@ 231-233)?
4. Understand the interests by answering these questions (PM @ 234-
240; see Phil. 2:3-4): Which material issues need to be resolved in
order to settle this conflict? What positions have you and your
opponent already taken on these issues?
What are God's interests in this situation?
What are your interests in this situation?
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What are your opponent's interests in this situation?
5. In your search for creative solutions, what options did you think of
that would satisfy as many interests as possible (PM @ 240-242)?
6. What are some ways that these options can be evaluated objectively
and reasonably (PM @ 242-245; see Dan. 1:11-16)
Overcome Evil with Good
1. Which worldly weapons have you been using, or are you tempted to
use, in this situation?
2. What "weapons" does God call us to use to overcome an enemy? (PM
@ 247-249; see 2 Cor. 10:3-5; Eph. 6:10-18; Gal. 5:22-23)
3. How can the gospel of Jesus Christ guide, motivate, and empower you
from this point forward?
4. Have you been using your tongue to bless your opponents or to speak
critically of them? How could you breathe grace to them in the days
ahead? (PM @ 249-250; see Rom. 12:14)
5. To whom can you turn for godly advice and encouragement? (PM @
250; see Rom. 12:15-16; Prov. 27:5-6)
6. What can you keep on doing in this situation that is right? (PM @ 250-
252; Rom. 12:17)
7. Have you done everything in your power to live at peace with your
opponent? Is it appropriate to turn to church or civil authorities to seek
assistance in resolving this dispute? (PM @ 252-253; see Rom. 12:19;
Matt. 18:17; Rom. 13:1-5)
8. What needs does your opponent have that God may want you to try to
meet? In other words, how can you love your opponent in a deliberate
and focused way? (PM @ 253-256; Rom. 12:20-21)
Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give
yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in
the Lord is not in vain. —1 Corinthians 15:58
Evidence
There is clear evidence (full descriptive narrative) that there was a meeting where reconciliation
was attempted with the pre-determined person involved with the conflict
Conclusion
The conclusion offers an exceptionally clear summary of issues treated in the project, concrete
possibilities for interpreting the content, and suggestions for further study.
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