CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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41. 21% of all child abuse reports in 2003 were in Christian community
42. Volunteers likely than clergy or paid staff to be abusers
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
2. 25% were paid staff
3. 25% were other children
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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42. Mark 9:42—“Welcome”—to accept with pleasure
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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A. Begin with about child abuse and its effects on our children
B. Is physical evidence required to prove sexual abuse?
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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48. They prey on trustful and vulnerable children
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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VI. What can we do to prevent child abuse in our Christian community?
50. Perform on all potential volunteers and staff
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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53. Get and call them
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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54. Develop procedures and policies for all volunteers to follow:
1. Two-adult rule
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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3. Limit events at adults home
50. Never allow a child alone in a car with an adult
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
51. Limit personal emails or instant messaging between adults and
children in the church
52. Minimize physical contact between adult and children
53. Respect privacy of children
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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