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The Three Corded Strand of Marriage, Family, and Incarnation
Marriage comes with its own set of problems and situations in any family’s life. Yet,
adding variables from the outside can strain it to the point of irreconciliation, and love turns into
guilt plus resentment. Instead of the being committed, combined, changing couples dealing with
a spouse incarcerated have a list of other problems like deciding to stay together, why do I stay,
am I staying just for my kids, and the effects of now I am doing this alone., These alone can
bring about several relationship challenges in the ambivalent person’s relationship , the family
structure and the faithfulness of the marriage bond is weakened. The topic for this research will
be focusing on stability of the family unit before, during, and after incarceration. A cord of three
strands is a unbreakable bond forged by God in the covenant of marriage, is the weaving fiber of
foundational structure, and the power of defense in trouble. Embolization of this cord is
symbolized through the Bible from Gensis to Revelation. A cord of this magnitude can
reconfirm, rebuild, and refrain from any obstacles of life. Research will show that staying
committed, surviving separation, and communication all are related to relationship with God. A
cord of three strands is the key to marriage, family, and relationship.
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Faith, family, relationships are all part of the ecologies of structure for elements of the
cord, strength, love, understanding are the weaving elements, and God is the substance of which
all the elements are held together by. My interest in this topic is to determine the obstacles of
marriage and family life of the imprisoned person. Elevation of the pros and cons related to the
family unity, the relationship within the family unity, and show the effects of God in the
marriage plus family unit. Examination of the aspects of the three corded strand as it relates to
life, family, relationship and stability through God to weather any obstacles of life. The
foundational balance between health and diverse units as it relates to family, God, and marriage.
problems associated with communication, surviving the sentence of confinement, and changes of
negative ambivalent behaviors to positive ones that empower plus improve the family unit’s
relationship.
The basis of change is waved into humanity on multiple levels that affect eve aspect of
life. As a direct impact of the effectiveness of my field of ministry focusing on marriage, family
counseling of the confined person and dealing with the pre plus post release from detention
centers. It is our goal to improve the stability of the family unit using the three stranded cored as
a bases of study for proper functioning structure based on Gods designed, biblical backing, and
development of relationships that heal not hurt. Faith, love, and understanding is the tools used
by God in repairing, conforming and building usable people for the kingdom. While family unity
is the example of the master makers original plan for humanity. Yet, dealing with separation
from your spouse can cause unforeseen problems in the marriage leading to unfaithfulness and
even separation. Dealing with the separation of a mate in prison brings on a variety of different
aspects into the family unit. Finding support groups and therapy can ease these tensions, but the
biggest variable depends on the strength of the family unit’s relationship with God.
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The question posed here is what is the foundation of the family unit based on?
How is the balance between family, God, and faith balanced here?1 (Dr. James Dobson's Family
Talk, n.d.) helps to find balance between the three elements while keeping God first in all aspects
of life. When God is first the love of Chrit will overflow into the lives of others that are
connected to us. In the aspect of mates in prison one mate must take on the job of being the
whole unit instead of having a partner to assist with the family unit. This will cause challenges in
faith, relationships, and effect the way we response to others. This is where have a support group,
a parish leader, and devotional life will be imperative.i (Schirmer, Nellis, & Mauer, n.d.)
Learning to find help and utilize the resources giving will assist the family with dealing with
situation pre and post release from prison. All the support will help yet, it will not keep the
closeness of the unit if the ties that bind is not of God.
Binding ties are the foundation of all family units. God is the key in all units that predicts
the outcome of strength of the unit. In the cord that binds the element spoken of is God. God is
the tie that keeps family units together by illumination of the Holy Spirit which the convicts you
when wrong and opens the door to reconciliation. In the book iithe three stranded cord the
elements of marriage, family, and God are broken down into the elements that appear in
everyday life situations. This is a useful tool not only for families but for personal relationship
with God. Finding God will put all elements of life into prospective and rebuilding the dynamics
of life, redefined the composition of your relationship styles, and opening the door to a loving
relationship complete with the love of God as its center.
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