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Lecture Notes: Lesson 2
Living the Good Life: Pursuing after God’s
Heart with all Your Heart
Dr. Glen Wagner
Lesson Description: All of the law and the prophets can be summarized, Jesus said, in one
indelible rule: Love the Lord your God with your whole being. Dr. Wagner shows you how all of
life seems arranged to constantly teach and remind us how important this one truth truly is in
“Living the Good Life.”
Learning Objectives:
1. Understand that biblical faith puts a person into a process of being transformed.
2. Understand that we may already be Christians, yet not all that God wants us to be.
3. To develop relationships that encourage change instead of external management.
Introduction:
To achieve a true internal transformation, one needs help in coming to understand that they are
secure in their relationship with Jesus Christ. You will learn how your relationship with those
that you counsel will help them to be motivated to pursue a relationship with God and make a
true heart transformation.
I. External Transformations
A. Transforming habit
transforming what we do
B. Transforming speech what we say
C. Transforming temperament
personality
D. Transforming taste like or dislike
E. Transforming preferences what we choose
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F. Transforming values believe
G. Transforming priorities how we utilize
our time
II. Internal Transformations
A. External approach leads to a cycle of dispair
B. Captures the essence of God’s transforming work
1. Heart transformations
2. Lead others to a change of heart
3. Ultimately change actions and attitudes
4. Change in beliefs and values
C. Relationships
1. Deeper relationship with God
2. Deeper relationship with others
3. The biblical view of life is modeled after the relational nature of
God Himself :
a. Father
b. Son
c. Holy Spirit
in relationship with one another
4. 10–10–80 Principle:
given pole of 100 people 10 will change wihen they
give good pragmatic
reason to change,
10 will
not change, 80 will change
when they
have people helping them change and have encouraging accountable
relationships.
5. Counselor as
connector
III. Managing Process of Relational Connections: Life Cycles of Relationships
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A. Form—Mutual acceptance and setting
boundaries and guidleines for the
relationships
(superficial)
anxiety and anticipation.
B. Storm— Person begins to question the competency of the person.
C. Norm—Trust and intimacy is developed
D. Perform— Influence of each other in community
IV. Understanding Gender Differences
A. Physical Closeness can be threat in men.
B. Competitiveness women value security and not conquering
C. Listening men- by asking questions because they are uncomfortable
Women-communicate empathy
Men have tunnel vision and can only handle one or two things at a time
Women can look at many things at once
D. Ability to on issue
E. Expression of emotion
V. Focus on Real Change
A. Understand the problem
B. Acknowledgement of a crisis
C. Connect
D. Development of a quality relationship
1. Majority of change comes through
fellow counselees
2. The ability to relate
VI. Conclusion
A. Minister to others in a way that is more than just modifying their behavior
B. God’s spirit will transform from the inside out
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C. The highest calling is conforming to the image of God’s Son
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Study Questions:
1. Explain what is meant by external transformations.
2. Explain what is meant by internal transformations.
3. How do we manage the process of relational connections?
4. Why is it important to understand gender differences?
5. Explain how we focus on real change.
