LIBERTY UNIVERSITY JOHN W. RAWLINGS SCHOOL OF DIVINITY
Christian apologetics is not the solution to faith deconstruction
A Paper Submitted to
the Faculty of the School of Divinity
in Candidacy for the Degree of
Doctor of Education in Christian Leadership (Ed. D) Department of Christian Leadership and
Church Ministries
By
Mary Gracias
Lynchburg, Virginia
9/2022
Christian apologetics is not the solution to faith deconstruction
Apologetics: Systematic argumentative discourse. A branch of theology devoted to the
defense of the divine origin and authority of Christianity.
Apologist: One who speaks or writes in defense of someone or something.
Growing up in Christian evangelical fundamentalism, apologetics was huge, especially in
the homeschool circles, and it remains so even to this day. Drenched in this form of thinking, I
have attended lengthy seminars, read books, listened to countless sermons and presentations,
practiced my own arguments and yes, even had to take a worldview test with my fiancé before
we were given a blessing to wed.
Merriam-Webster supplied the definitions for the words above and reading them with
fresh eyes was insightful. The three words which stood out to me were argumentative,
authority and defense. Apologetics can be synonymous with the term, “Defending your faith.”
The Way Many Christians Think It Is
There is a movement among many Christians today. It is being done with good intentions I
believe, but it is missing the whole picture and sadly will cause harm. This movement is
attempting to solve the situation of scores of individuals who are questioning or leaving their
faith by focusing on increased theology and apologetics.
Let me get right to the point - Apologetics is not the answer to the faith deconstruction or
progressive Christianity “problem.” (Or any other problem for that matter.)
Use this example as a blunt, yet quite valid illustration:
If I learn more about my rapist - his history with childhood trauma, the abuses he suffered,
his successful life since the attack, oh, and I meet his mother and learn that he really is a good
boy – this will help me recover from being violated, disrespected, dehumanized and abused. If I
know more about the person who hurt me, this will solve my predicament.
Do you now see how this becomes problematic for victims of spiritual abuse and religious
trauma, who may also have suffered physical, psychological and sexual abuse at the hands of
family members, organizations or church leadership? They are being told that the very thing
that hurt them is what will help fix them.
The problem does not lie with the person leaving the church or questioning the foundation
of their faith. Oh no. The problem is the Christian church and the people within those walls.
The church is getting stuck looking at what people are doing instead of why people are doing it.
For centuries, Christianity has covered up or been party to wrong doings. This is well-
documented across denominations and covers a vast range of abuses:
Rape/Incest
Domestic Violence
Narcissistic Leadership
Cult Leadership and Organizations
Child Sex and Physical Abuse
Embezzlement
Murder
Infidelity
Kidnapping
…and more!
While the heart of fundamentalism has its roots in the Niagara Convention, more than one
hundred years ago, and includes names of foundational men we all were taught to respect such
as missionary James Hudson Taylor and reference Bible author C.I. Scofield, what I refer to in
this piece is modern fundamentalism. Modern fundamentalism has, like most things do,
changed significantly since the inception of the term fundamentalist. Christian evangelical
fundamentalism, as we know it today, has only been around for about three generations:
Those who started it. – The Billy Graham and Jack Hyles era.
Those who joined it. – Our pastors and our parents.
Those who were raised inside of it. – You and me.
The generation raised inside of modern Christian evangelical fundamentalism are the ones
standing up and saying enough is enough. This generation is saying no more abuse. No more
hypocrisy. No more shame and manipulation. No more man-made gospel and rule following.
It’s Not What You Have Been Told
Calling out the Church doesn’t get you lots of five-star ratings from Christians. But if you
look outside of simple binary thought patterns and walk away from your social media or church
echo chambers for just a little while, you will see a spiritual awakening spreading that cannot be
ignored or told what to do. And while those within the traditional church believe the cause of
this falling away is social and racial justice, lifestyle choices and the individual’s own sinful heart
they have missed the mark.
The cause of people walking away from Christianity or church tradition is simple - abuse.
Physical Abuse
Psychological Abuse
Emotional Abuse
Spiritual Abuse
Sexual Abuse
Abuse of Power
Abuse of Scripture
Something I have found to ring true in my own life, after years spent absorbing worldview
and apologetic thought – Why does my faith need defending? What did it do wrong? Isn’t my
faith supposed to defend me? And for countless individuals across the globe, the faith they
grew up knowing how to defend, cross reference and win in any debate, it is a faith that left
them bloodied and beaten. It never defended their innocence, heart and body or the purity it
so righteously claimed to value.
Don’t Do This
There are tactics being used to keep or “bring back into the fold” those who have walked
away or are doubting which can be very dangerous, add to the Us vs. Them mentality and
create a further divide:
Fearmongering
Coercion
Authoritarian Control
Verbal and Emotional Abuse
Shaming
Rejection or Shunning
Manipulation
Passive Aggression
Undue Influence
Mocking or Minimizing
These forms of unhealthy behavior can be seen by giving a book casually to someone with
an indirect, insincere comment, “I thought you might like this book,” entering into a heated
discussion or debate and not giving up until you prove your point, disowning/not speaking with
a loved one because they no longer believe the way you do, sharing your personal testimony of,
“I questioned some things about the Bible and God once, but I still believe so you can too,” or
making statements such as, “You know better. You don’t want to go to Hell do you? You are
breaking God’s heart.”
Why Not Apologetics?
A quick Google search will show you that most individuals claiming to be an apologist or
have a love of apologetics today are evangelical and fundamental Christian. Teachings on the
Holy Spirit and free will are basically non-existent within most of those environments. When
you use apologetics to woo a soul back into Christianity you are forgetting those two essential
elements:
The Holy Spirit
Free Will
The Spirit descended upon Jesus in the form of a dove when He was baptized, the day of
Pentecost is creatively explained away and the Holy Spirit is the third part of the Trinity – that
about sums up the education a fundamental, evangelical Christian kid would receive about the
Holy Spirit. Could this be a reason why apologetics also forget this point?
Then there’s free will. Ah yes, that pesky free will. We were told we have one but then
taught we could never use it because our heart is deceitful and desperately wicked. We were
taught that we have a free will and that humans can exercise their free will to either follow
Jesus when He calls or turn away from Him. We were shown that free will is essentially our sin
nature, the part of all humans that is evil and wants to do what is wrong.
Apologetics leaves no room for the Holy Spirit to reveal truth. Only the truth stated by the
apologist will suffice. Apologetics leaves no room for a person to exercise their free will
(freedom of choice) to disagree or not believe what the apologist has stated.
A study of apologetics is only one way, it is not the way. Apologetics may well support
those who are within the faith or religion, but it is not for those doubting or injured by the very
beliefs being touted with such superiority and surety.
Your views about God are your views, your denomination’s views, your colleague’s views.
The God I have met after leaving the fundamentalist, evangelical world is so much bigger than
any debate or apologetics conference can ever hope to encompass.
Holding leadership and churches accountable isn’t a problem, it’s right. People distilling
their faith and throwing away the rotten pieces, that is a spiritual awakening. Individuals
saying, “This kind of Christianity is wrong and I’m out,” is not a sign that there’s something
wrong with the person, there’s something wrong with the system.
What Should You Do?
If you are a Christian or church, what can you do to support someone who is experiencing
a faith deconstruction or Spiritual Identity Disruption™?
Stop talking and listen. – If someone is willing to share, intentionally listen to the stories,
the pain, the struggle. Ask clarifying questions without judgement. Hear their heart.
Don’t try to fix them. – It’s not your job to fix people. And honestly, it’s not your job to
go out and find that lost lamb and bring them back inside the fold. It’s not Gospel-centered, it’s
narcissistic. You are not the Holy Spirit. You are not God. Life a live that makes people want to
be a Christian instead of talking them into it.
Remove the beam in your eye. – Before you dare challenge someone on their faith
deconstruction or changed religious beliefs, you better make darn sure a beam isn’t blocking
your own line of vision. This will require time and stepping out of your comfy theological box
seat, even if just for a season, to learn, understand and grow.
Study mental health. – Mental health and science are compatible with Christian faith.
Depression is not a lack of faith. Trauma is not something you just give to God and then get
over it. Our brains and emotions were designed magnificently, spiritual bypassing is unhealthy,
mocks God’s workmanship and does not help anyone.
Show love that does not have strings attached. – If you only break bread with those
who believe like you, if you only show civility to someone who votes like you, if you only show
kindness to poor reprobates who don’t know any better but didn’t invite your own cousin to
Christmas dinner because they no longer claim to be Christian, if you won’t talk to your own
child because they left the church, if you preach how to heal without listening to the heart of
those wounded – then you do not know the real Jesus.
Don’t cover up or ignore abuse. – Know what abuse looks like and take a, “Not on my
watch,” approach. Don’t be an abuser yourself. (Seriously, I have to say that.) Be willing to
make hard decisions to protect the victims.
Say ‘No’ to hypocrisy. – If you preach it, live it.
Have a willingness to learn and change your mind. – “I think I’m right, but I may be
wrong,” is a wonderful attitude.
Condensed Christianity
What I have presented is not watered-down Christianity – it’s boiled down. It is
condensed Christianity.
All the rules, differing worldview descriptions, dates of Biblical wars, Hebrew and Greek
names of God, cross referenced Bible passages, comparative Christ’s claims to those of other
religious leaders and whatever theological fluff you care to add to this list - that is the water.
Having a working knowledge of world history, religions, science and even your own
denomination, this is not apologetics, this is a well-rounded education. Knowing what you
believe and why you believe it – that can be important. But this is not only what happens inside
the hard-core apologetics world. I lived in that space for over twenty years and, Hi!, I am the
product of Christian apologetics as a lifestyle. A hyper-focus on apologetics becomes much
more than just knowing what you believe and why - it takes on a superiority complex of oneself
and faith, arrogance of knowledge, a “prove it to me” mentality and the underlying belief that
you are always under attack.
Have we forgotten that the Bible is not God? People are choosing to have a relationship
with and focus all their energies on a book instead of the one that book is about. Look at the
definitions at the beginning of this article again. They say nothing about God or Jesus.
Apologetics tries to prove with impressive words and rhetoric - but what people need are
actions. Ineffectual words have spoken for Christianity long enough.
“By their fruit ye shall know them." That fruit has shown something drastically different
than the apologetic arguments claiming it is good. The fruit of evangelical fundamentalism is
inedible, and it has poisoned the name of Christian.
