The effects of the strong kinship in the immigrants life was also presenting in the documentary film “ Kelly Loves Tony “. Kelly and Tony are both Asian American. Like most of the teenagers, they met each other and fell in love. Lately, Kelly got pregnant, and she had to move to her boyfriend’s family house. Tony and his family asked her to give up her college studies in order to stay in their house and be housewife as it is common in the Asian culture. Every time when Tony’s mother asked him to demand Kelly in order to do something, he did demand Kelly to do. She faced so many obstacles with Tony and his family such as taking care of eight kids, and because of these obstacles, it all reflected negatively in their life. There were so many conflicts during the film between Kelly and her boyfriend’s family.
Another major factor that causes conflicts between the generations is the assimilation that new generations have went through. Usually the new generations tend to assimilate to the American culture while the elder generations want to maintain the original culture, and this causes conflicts between them. Even if the relationships between both generations are strong, the new generation will naturally assimilate with the culture that they raised in, and the assimilating will present in their life. Things like that are not acceptable for the elder generations, and they will get angry from their children when they see them get embarrassed from their original culture. In the article “ Exposures children of immigrants”, Sruti Swaminathan who is an Indian-American, says “Growing up, we ate traditional Indian food for breakfast and dinner every day and I would have had it for lunch, too, but unfortunately I was too embarrassed to bring Indian food to school”, (Maucci, n.a).
Those new generations are not a result of a single culture. We may see some of them wear khaki pajamas from the Asian civilization and drink like Spanish culture or they are technical as Japanese. Their personalities and behaviors are affected by the mixing of two cultures. For instance, in the Arabian culture the reasoning is not allowed, the children do not do the reasoning but they accept the orders of parents. However, whenever it comes to other civilizations, reasoning is something casual, so an Arabian child who born in America may have the reasoning ability, and he is unaware of the trend of Arabian’s culture, (Maucci, n.a). When the fathers see some magazine having biceps in it, the fathers are amazed now. For them it is a crazy thing. They are suspicious about weekend activities of children. Though the generation gaps are always there but when it comes to immigrants generation then the gaps are evener severe because there are generational gaps as well as the other gaps like cultural gap. When children go to play games on weekend or do combine study late night it is awkward for parents. Now there is a trend to spend Friday with friends while entertainment whereas in various old generations there is a concept that Fridays are spent at home, as per family ritual. Generations have had enough of boring Fridays with lot of magazine surfing etc. no doubt rituals are followed by ancestors and now immigrant nations do not understand these rituals because this generation is not born in that ritual, (Lopez, n.a).
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