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Am_I_A_Good_Partner_Quiz1.pdf

For more information, visit www.loveisrespect.org Repurposing is allowed and encouraged.

Please contact loveisrespect for more information.

Are you a good partner? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.

Am I a Good Partner? Quiz

Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No

Yes No Yes No

Do I 1. Forget to thank my partner when they do something nice for me? 2. Ignore my partner’s calls if I don’t feel like talking? 3. Get jealous when my partner makes a new friend? 4. Have trouble making time to listen to my partner when something is bothering them? 5. Discourage my partner from trying something new like joining a club? 6. Call, text or drive by my partner’s house a lot? 7. Get upset when my partner wants to hang out with their friends or family? 8. Make fun of my partner or call them names? 9. Criticize my partner for their taste in music or clothing? 10. Make fun of my partner’s appearance? 11. Accuse my partner of flirting or cheating even if I’m not sure that’s what happened? 12. Take out my frustrations on my partner, like snapping at them or giving them attitude? 13. Throw things if I’m mad at my partner or do things like hit walls or drive dangerously? 14. Read my partner’s texts or go through their personal things, like their wallet or purse? 15. Tell my partner they are the reason for my bad mood even if they aren’t? 16. Try to make my partner feel guilty about things they have no control over? 17. Sometimes say things to my partner knowing that they are hurtful? 18. Make my partner feel bad about something nice they did for me that I didn’t like,

even though I know they tried their best? 19. Talk down to or embarrass my partner in front of others? 20. Have sex with my partner even if I think they don’t want to go that far?

Repurposing is allowed and encouraged. Please contact loveisrespect for more information.

For more information, visit www.loveisrespect.org

Scoring – So Are You A Good Partner? Give yourself one point for every “Yes” you answered to questions one through four and five points for all “Yes” answers to numbers 5-20. Don’t give yourself any points for any “No” answers.

Now that you’re finished and have your score, the next step is to find out what it means. Simply take your total score and see which of the categories below apply to you.

Score: 0 Points If you got zero points, congratulations! You make a good Partner! It sounds like you’re very mindful of your actions and respectful of your partner’s feelings -- these are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Keeping things on a good track takes work, so stay with it! As long as you and your partner continue like this, your relationship should grow in a healthy direction.

Score: 1-2 Points If you scored one or two points, there may be a couple of things in your relationship that could use a little attention. Nobody is perfect, but it is important to be mindful of your actions and try to avoid hurting your partner. Remember, communication is key to building a healthy relationship!

Score: 3-4 Points If you scored three or four points, it’s possible that some of your actions may hurt your partner and relationship. While the behaviors may not be abusive, they can worsen over time if you don’t change.

Score: 5 Points or More If you scored five or more points, some of your actions may be abusive. You may not realize it, but these behaviors are damaging. The first step to improving your relationship is becoming aware of your unhealthy actions and admitting they are wrong. It’s important to take responsibility for the problem and get help to end it. An unhealthy pattern is hard to change, so chat with a peer advocate at loveisrespect.org for more information on how to get help.

BehaviorChangeRelationshipAnalysis_DIRECTIONS.docx

Behavior Change - Relationship Lifestyle Analysis

Part A – Self-Assessment (5 points; writing rubric applied)

Take the “Am I a Good Partner” quiz in this session’s folder. You may complete this quiz from the view of a romantic relationship or a close friendship. Next consider the results of your quiz as you access the 10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship and 10 Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship.

In reviewing the characteristics, identify and explain 1-2 characteristics you feel are your strengths in your close relationship (past or present). How do these characteristics make the relationship healthy? What are 1-2 characteristics you feel you could improve upon? How does displaying these characteristic(s) hurt the relationship? Each healthy characteristic has an unhealthy alternative (see the image below; i.e. comfortable pace verse intensity). How might the relationship change if you replaced this unhealthy characteristic with the healthy alternative? Fully explain your response. If you need more information about the characteristic, scroll through the information on the site.

Healthy Characteristics Unhealthy Characteristics

Part B - Behavior Change Plan

From your analysis in Part A, choose one characteristic, behavior, or quality that you want to improve upon in your personal relationships (friend or romantic relationship). Using the following outline, write an analysis of your behavior and a plan for making a change. Choose a behavior that is important to you. To fully develop this paper takes 4-5 pages.

The paper needs to be typed, double-spaced and in 12-point, Times New Roman font with 1-inch margins. Organize your paper by using the 10 headings outlined below (i.e. Introduction, consequences, affect, etc.). Review the uploaded rubric for scoring explanation.

1. INTRODUCTION: Clearly identify the behavior or quality you would like to improve upon in your personal relationships. Make sure the behavior you choose is within your control to change; you cannot change others. Describe very completely your habits and patterns related to this behavior/quality and how they differ or conform to your social group expectations. E.g., what you do, with whom do you behave this way, how long this has this been an issue, and any other pertinent information that describes your behavior. Finally, explain why changing this behavior is important to you. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1)

2. CONSEQUENCES: What are the results of your behavior? What are the challenges and opportunities presented by this behavior? What happens to you and others as a result of your behavior? Make sure you fully explain the positive and negative and the intended and unintended consequences of your behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 4)

3. AFFECT: How do you feel about your beliefs, behavior and the results? How do others view your behavior? You probably have positive and negative feelings about these. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2, 5)

4. FORCE FIELD (clearly list as a), b), c)):

a) Reflect on the Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability , TED talk you watched in this session. Explain what it means to be vulnerable and how the concept of vulnerability relates to true, meaningful, loving relationships. What personal barriers prevent you from being vulnerable in your relationship?

b) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs and assumptions that keep you in this lifestyle. What keeps you behaving as you do? What social factors are influencing you and helping you maintain this behavior?

c) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs that can take you away from this way of behaving. (Force field 1 & 2 are often related. E.g., If jealousy is making it difficult for you to trust your partner, then dealing with jealousy will take you away from this behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1,2,5)

5. ACTION ALTERNATIVES:

a) List a minimum of three measurable action steps that can free you from this lifestyle (social and/or personal). Make sure these steps are actually measurable!

b) Next to each action step, describe your plan for making this change. Be very detailed and specific about how you plan to move toward your goal. Make sure each item you list is truly an actionable behavior. This should be the strongest section of your paper. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2,3)

6. FEASIBILITY: Explain why your plan is:

a) manageable

b) measurable

c) why you are in control of the steps

d) why you believe this plan will work.

(Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

7. RESOURCES: Identify the resources, human and material, that you will use to implement your plan for change.

8. TIMELINE: List the steps you will take in the first two weeks of implementation. List the date you plan to begin the change.

9. EVALUATION: How will you measure success? How will you know when you have achieved your goal? (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

10. REVISIONS: Choose one or two steps for change that you think may be difficult for you to accomplish and explain your choice and ideas to overcome the barriers.

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BehaviorChangeRelationshipAnalysis_DIRECTIONS.docx

Behavior Change - Relationship Lifestyle Analysis

Part A – Self-Assessment (5 points; writing rubric applied)

Take the “Am I a Good Partner” quiz in this session’s folder. You may complete this quiz from the view of a romantic relationship or a close friendship. Next consider the results of your quiz as you access the 10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship and 10 Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship.

In reviewing the characteristics, identify and explain 1-2 characteristics you feel are your strengths in your close relationship (past or present). How do these characteristics make the relationship healthy? What are 1-2 characteristics you feel you could improve upon? How does displaying these characteristic(s) hurt the relationship? Each healthy characteristic has an unhealthy alternative (see the image below; i.e. comfortable pace verse intensity). How might the relationship change if you replaced this unhealthy characteristic with the healthy alternative? Fully explain your response. If you need more information about the characteristic, scroll through the information on the site.

Healthy Characteristics Unhealthy Characteristics

Part B - Behavior Change Plan

From your analysis in Part A, choose one characteristic, behavior, or quality that you want to improve upon in your personal relationships (friend or romantic relationship). Using the following outline, write an analysis of your behavior and a plan for making a change. Choose a behavior that is important to you. To fully develop this paper takes 4-5 pages.

The paper needs to be typed, double-spaced and in 12-point, Times New Roman font with 1-inch margins. Organize your paper by using the 10 headings outlined below (i.e. Introduction, consequences, affect, etc.). Review the uploaded rubric for scoring explanation.

1. INTRODUCTION: Clearly identify the behavior or quality you would like to improve upon in your personal relationships. Make sure the behavior you choose is within your control to change; you cannot change others. Describe very completely your habits and patterns related to this behavior/quality and how they differ or conform to your social group expectations. E.g., what you do, with whom do you behave this way, how long this has this been an issue, and any other pertinent information that describes your behavior. Finally, explain why changing this behavior is important to you. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1)

2. CONSEQUENCES: What are the results of your behavior? What are the challenges and opportunities presented by this behavior? What happens to you and others as a result of your behavior? Make sure you fully explain the positive and negative and the intended and unintended consequences of your behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 4)

3. AFFECT: How do you feel about your beliefs, behavior and the results? How do others view your behavior? You probably have positive and negative feelings about these. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2, 5)

4. FORCE FIELD (clearly list as a), b), c)):

a) Reflect on the Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability , TED talk you watched in this session. Explain what it means to be vulnerable and how the concept of vulnerability relates to true, meaningful, loving relationships. What personal barriers prevent you from being vulnerable in your relationship?

b) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs and assumptions that keep you in this lifestyle. What keeps you behaving as you do? What social factors are influencing you and helping you maintain this behavior?

c) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs that can take you away from this way of behaving. (Force field 1 & 2 are often related. E.g., If jealousy is making it difficult for you to trust your partner, then dealing with jealousy will take you away from this behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1,2,5)

5. ACTION ALTERNATIVES:

a) List a minimum of three measurable action steps that can free you from this lifestyle (social and/or personal). Make sure these steps are actually measurable!

b) Next to each action step, describe your plan for making this change. Be very detailed and specific about how you plan to move toward your goal. Make sure each item you list is truly an actionable behavior. This should be the strongest section of your paper. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2,3)

6. FEASIBILITY: Explain why your plan is:

a) manageable

b) measurable

c) why you are in control of the steps

d) why you believe this plan will work.

(Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

7. RESOURCES: Identify the resources, human and material, that you will use to implement your plan for change.

8. TIMELINE: List the steps you will take in the first two weeks of implementation. List the date you plan to begin the change.

9. EVALUATION: How will you measure success? How will you know when you have achieved your goal? (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

10. REVISIONS: Choose one or two steps for change that you think may be difficult for you to accomplish and explain your choice and ideas to overcome the barriers.

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Am_I_A_Good_Partner_Quiz1.pdf

For more information, visit www.loveisrespect.org Repurposing is allowed and encouraged.

Please contact loveisrespect for more information.

Are you a good partner? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out. Make sure to check the boxes to record your responses. At the end, you’ll find out how to score your answers.

Am I a Good Partner? Quiz

Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No Yes No

Yes No Yes No

Do I 1. Forget to thank my partner when they do something nice for me? 2. Ignore my partner’s calls if I don’t feel like talking? 3. Get jealous when my partner makes a new friend? 4. Have trouble making time to listen to my partner when something is bothering them? 5. Discourage my partner from trying something new like joining a club? 6. Call, text or drive by my partner’s house a lot? 7. Get upset when my partner wants to hang out with their friends or family? 8. Make fun of my partner or call them names? 9. Criticize my partner for their taste in music or clothing? 10. Make fun of my partner’s appearance? 11. Accuse my partner of flirting or cheating even if I’m not sure that’s what happened? 12. Take out my frustrations on my partner, like snapping at them or giving them attitude? 13. Throw things if I’m mad at my partner or do things like hit walls or drive dangerously? 14. Read my partner’s texts or go through their personal things, like their wallet or purse? 15. Tell my partner they are the reason for my bad mood even if they aren’t? 16. Try to make my partner feel guilty about things they have no control over? 17. Sometimes say things to my partner knowing that they are hurtful? 18. Make my partner feel bad about something nice they did for me that I didn’t like,

even though I know they tried their best? 19. Talk down to or embarrass my partner in front of others? 20. Have sex with my partner even if I think they don’t want to go that far?

Repurposing is allowed and encouraged. Please contact loveisrespect for more information.

For more information, visit www.loveisrespect.org

Scoring – So Are You A Good Partner? Give yourself one point for every “Yes” you answered to questions one through four and five points for all “Yes” answers to numbers 5-20. Don’t give yourself any points for any “No” answers.

Now that you’re finished and have your score, the next step is to find out what it means. Simply take your total score and see which of the categories below apply to you.

Score: 0 Points If you got zero points, congratulations! You make a good Partner! It sounds like you’re very mindful of your actions and respectful of your partner’s feelings -- these are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. Keeping things on a good track takes work, so stay with it! As long as you and your partner continue like this, your relationship should grow in a healthy direction.

Score: 1-2 Points If you scored one or two points, there may be a couple of things in your relationship that could use a little attention. Nobody is perfect, but it is important to be mindful of your actions and try to avoid hurting your partner. Remember, communication is key to building a healthy relationship!

Score: 3-4 Points If you scored three or four points, it’s possible that some of your actions may hurt your partner and relationship. While the behaviors may not be abusive, they can worsen over time if you don’t change.

Score: 5 Points or More If you scored five or more points, some of your actions may be abusive. You may not realize it, but these behaviors are damaging. The first step to improving your relationship is becoming aware of your unhealthy actions and admitting they are wrong. It’s important to take responsibility for the problem and get help to end it. An unhealthy pattern is hard to change, so chat with a peer advocate at loveisrespect.org for more information on how to get help.

BehaviorChangeRelationshipAnalysis_DIRECTIONS.docx

Behavior Change - Relationship Lifestyle Analysis

Part A – Self-Assessment (5 points; writing rubric applied)

Take the “Am I a Good Partner” quiz in this session’s folder. You may complete this quiz from the view of a romantic relationship or a close friendship. Next consider the results of your quiz as you access the 10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship and 10 Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship.

In reviewing the characteristics, identify and explain 1-2 characteristics you feel are your strengths in your close relationship (past or present). How do these characteristics make the relationship healthy? What are 1-2 characteristics you feel you could improve upon? How does displaying these characteristic(s) hurt the relationship? Each healthy characteristic has an unhealthy alternative (see the image below; i.e. comfortable pace verse intensity). How might the relationship change if you replaced this unhealthy characteristic with the healthy alternative? Fully explain your response. If you need more information about the characteristic, scroll through the information on the site.

Healthy Characteristics Unhealthy Characteristics

Part B - Behavior Change Plan

From your analysis in Part A, choose one characteristic, behavior, or quality that you want to improve upon in your personal relationships (friend or romantic relationship). Using the following outline, write an analysis of your behavior and a plan for making a change. Choose a behavior that is important to you. To fully develop this paper takes 4-5 pages.

The paper needs to be typed, double-spaced and in 12-point, Times New Roman font with 1-inch margins. Organize your paper by using the 10 headings outlined below (i.e. Introduction, consequences, affect, etc.). Review the uploaded rubric for scoring explanation.

1. INTRODUCTION: Clearly identify the behavior or quality you would like to improve upon in your personal relationships. Make sure the behavior you choose is within your control to change; you cannot change others. Describe very completely your habits and patterns related to this behavior/quality and how they differ or conform to your social group expectations. E.g., what you do, with whom do you behave this way, how long this has this been an issue, and any other pertinent information that describes your behavior. Finally, explain why changing this behavior is important to you. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1)

2. CONSEQUENCES: What are the results of your behavior? What are the challenges and opportunities presented by this behavior? What happens to you and others as a result of your behavior? Make sure you fully explain the positive and negative and the intended and unintended consequences of your behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 4)

3. AFFECT: How do you feel about your beliefs, behavior and the results? How do others view your behavior? You probably have positive and negative feelings about these. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2, 5)

4. FORCE FIELD (clearly list as a), b), c)):

a) Reflect on the Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability , TED talk you watched in this session. Explain what it means to be vulnerable and how the concept of vulnerability relates to true, meaningful, loving relationships. What personal barriers prevent you from being vulnerable in your relationship?

b) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs and assumptions that keep you in this lifestyle. What keeps you behaving as you do? What social factors are influencing you and helping you maintain this behavior?

c) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs that can take you away from this way of behaving. (Force field 1 & 2 are often related. E.g., If jealousy is making it difficult for you to trust your partner, then dealing with jealousy will take you away from this behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1,2,5)

5. ACTION ALTERNATIVES:

a) List a minimum of three measurable action steps that can free you from this lifestyle (social and/or personal). Make sure these steps are actually measurable!

b) Next to each action step, describe your plan for making this change. Be very detailed and specific about how you plan to move toward your goal. Make sure each item you list is truly an actionable behavior. This should be the strongest section of your paper. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2,3)

6. FEASIBILITY: Explain why your plan is:

a) manageable

b) measurable

c) why you are in control of the steps

d) why you believe this plan will work.

(Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

7. RESOURCES: Identify the resources, human and material, that you will use to implement your plan for change.

8. TIMELINE: List the steps you will take in the first two weeks of implementation. List the date you plan to begin the change.

9. EVALUATION: How will you measure success? How will you know when you have achieved your goal? (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

10. REVISIONS: Choose one or two steps for change that you think may be difficult for you to accomplish and explain your choice and ideas to overcome the barriers.

image4.png

image1.png

image2.png

image3.png

BehaviorChangeRelationshipAnalysis_DIRECTIONS.docx

Behavior Change - Relationship Lifestyle Analysis

Part A – Self-Assessment (5 points; writing rubric applied)

Take the “Am I a Good Partner” quiz in this session’s folder. You may complete this quiz from the view of a romantic relationship or a close friendship. Next consider the results of your quiz as you access the 10 Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship and 10 Characteristics of an Unhealthy Relationship.

In reviewing the characteristics, identify and explain 1-2 characteristics you feel are your strengths in your close relationship (past or present). How do these characteristics make the relationship healthy? What are 1-2 characteristics you feel you could improve upon? How does displaying these characteristic(s) hurt the relationship? Each healthy characteristic has an unhealthy alternative (see the image below; i.e. comfortable pace verse intensity). How might the relationship change if you replaced this unhealthy characteristic with the healthy alternative? Fully explain your response. If you need more information about the characteristic, scroll through the information on the site.

Healthy Characteristics Unhealthy Characteristics

Part B - Behavior Change Plan

From your analysis in Part A, choose one characteristic, behavior, or quality that you want to improve upon in your personal relationships (friend or romantic relationship). Using the following outline, write an analysis of your behavior and a plan for making a change. Choose a behavior that is important to you. To fully develop this paper takes 4-5 pages.

The paper needs to be typed, double-spaced and in 12-point, Times New Roman font with 1-inch margins. Organize your paper by using the 10 headings outlined below (i.e. Introduction, consequences, affect, etc.). Review the uploaded rubric for scoring explanation.

1. INTRODUCTION: Clearly identify the behavior or quality you would like to improve upon in your personal relationships. Make sure the behavior you choose is within your control to change; you cannot change others. Describe very completely your habits and patterns related to this behavior/quality and how they differ or conform to your social group expectations. E.g., what you do, with whom do you behave this way, how long this has this been an issue, and any other pertinent information that describes your behavior. Finally, explain why changing this behavior is important to you. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1)

2. CONSEQUENCES: What are the results of your behavior? What are the challenges and opportunities presented by this behavior? What happens to you and others as a result of your behavior? Make sure you fully explain the positive and negative and the intended and unintended consequences of your behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 4)

3. AFFECT: How do you feel about your beliefs, behavior and the results? How do others view your behavior? You probably have positive and negative feelings about these. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2, 5)

4. FORCE FIELD (clearly list as a), b), c)):

a) Reflect on the Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability , TED talk you watched in this session. Explain what it means to be vulnerable and how the concept of vulnerability relates to true, meaningful, loving relationships. What personal barriers prevent you from being vulnerable in your relationship?

b) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs and assumptions that keep you in this lifestyle. What keeps you behaving as you do? What social factors are influencing you and helping you maintain this behavior?

c) Identify the social factors and personal beliefs that can take you away from this way of behaving. (Force field 1 & 2 are often related. E.g., If jealousy is making it difficult for you to trust your partner, then dealing with jealousy will take you away from this behavior. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 1,2,5)

5. ACTION ALTERNATIVES:

a) List a minimum of three measurable action steps that can free you from this lifestyle (social and/or personal). Make sure these steps are actually measurable!

b) Next to each action step, describe your plan for making this change. Be very detailed and specific about how you plan to move toward your goal. Make sure each item you list is truly an actionable behavior. This should be the strongest section of your paper. (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 2,3)

6. FEASIBILITY: Explain why your plan is:

a) manageable

b) measurable

c) why you are in control of the steps

d) why you believe this plan will work.

(Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

7. RESOURCES: Identify the resources, human and material, that you will use to implement your plan for change.

8. TIMELINE: List the steps you will take in the first two weeks of implementation. List the date you plan to begin the change.

9. EVALUATION: How will you measure success? How will you know when you have achieved your goal? (Core Curriculum Learning Goal 5)

10. REVISIONS: Choose one or two steps for change that you think may be difficult for you to accomplish and explain your choice and ideas to overcome the barriers.