Al-Anon 12-Step Meeting Insights for Mental Health Care
HPE1005 - Mental Health Issues
University of Cincinnati
12-Step Meeting
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
Type of Group Attended
I attended an Al- anon intergroup, known as the Tri-Cities Group. The group is comprised of
members who have siblings or friends with alcohol addiction. Their purpose is to help each
other heal and accept the reality of the situation which has left an emotional scar.
Philosophy of the 12-Step Group
The twelve steps are incorporated into everything the members do. This philosophy allows
everyone to be honest about their situations and accept the fact that with the help of other
members and the grace of God they can heal from the trauma caused by their loved ones and
turn it into a transformative experience. It’s a philosophy of acceptance and support which
helps members overcome these challenges.
Location and Sponsors of the Meeting
I attend this meeting on a Thursday evening with a classmate of mine. The meeting was held
in a sugar land First United Methodist Church. This location is part of the nationwide Alanon
organization which supports their financial needs through their voluntary contributions and
selling informative books and pamphlets to members and the public.
Demographic Make-up of Group Members
The group was compromised of a female and a male who was a couple. The other member was
the group leader, who was a female. From what they stated they lived in the Sugarland area
nearby and were born and raised here. They were all above the age of sixty and were all retired.
One of the ladies stated that she used to be an ESL teacher for the elderly, but the others did
not share their occupations. The couple has attended the meeting for a year and the leader has
been involved in the organization for about three years.
Ground Rules for Meeting
When the meeting started the ground rules were set and read. These rules instructed the
members and visitors to keep quiet while the other members shared their experiences and to be
respectful during the meeting. There were not many rules set and the emphasis was on open
sharing between the people to take positives from the interaction and leave the rest. There were
no phone or video recordings allowed and we were all asked to keep the conversations
confidential within the meeting.
Interactions within the Meeting
We first started with a moment of silence followed by the serenity prayer. We continued the
meeting by reading the twelve steps, each member was asked to read a number of the steps.
Afterward, the leader read the acknowledgment and a guideline for visitors. Each member
greeted each other with their name, and we were asked to read the portion of the reading for
that session from the book “courage to change”. We read the readings for that day and shared
any of our experiences that correlated with the message of our portion of the reading. Members
shared their history and background that related to their reading. The member provided us with
pamphlets and books for more information and shared with us how their dedication to the
program has allowed them to heal. The member then asked for donations and if we ever needed
any additional information we could access them through their website. We thanked them for
their hospitality and said our farewells to one another after the meeting was over.
Primary Themes of the Meeting
The primary theme of the meeting surrounded the idea of acceptance and trust. From the very
beginning, the members stressed the idea of acceptance and how that has made an impact in
their well-being and overall health. As they all stated letting go of the idea of changing their
beloved ones was what allowed them to heal and in accepting what they could not change they
found the courage to change the things they could. The idea of trust was also stated and implied
throughout the meeting. Trusting a higher power to change themselves or their beloved once
was one of the key aspects of the meeting. The interaction started by stating their powerlessness
and the need for an intervention by a higher power whose abilities and capacities weren’t
limited. These ideas stem from the twelve steps and these ideas can be seen in how they were
incorporated into the meeting and the individuals' personal life. The readings from the courage
to change also reflected this same idea that we can’t always change our loved ones but we can
change ourselves and in doing that, we can heal and forgive.
Major Functional Problems or Abuse Experienced by Members
The members shared the deep-seated effect alcohol abuse has had on their life. One member
shared how a mother was not able to attend to her child's needs because of alcohol. This child
would be sent to a foster parent early on and decide to be a better person at such a young age
and this young girl was her. The impact this had was evidenced on her face but her resiliency
and courage are seen in her attitude, and though her mother was an alcoholic it had made her
the courageous and humble person that she now is.
The couple shared how drinking has affected their relationship with their beloved child, who
because of excessive drinking and mental illness is also in jail. The wife, whose mother was an
alcoholic, now had to also deal with the negative effects of alcohol abuse once again because
of her child. The other member who was leading the group also shared how alcohol abuse by
her son has left a negative mark on her. She also stated how her husband was also an excessive
drinker and had to get sick to halt his alcohol intake. Following the Al-anon program has
allowed these emotionally scarred individuals to heal by collaboratively and openly sharing
their pain and what can help them get well.
In this meeting, members didn’t report or share any history of abuse, but they did emphasize
the deep-rooted pain and abandonment they faced because of alcohol. Their relationships were
scattered and unfulfilled because of the inability of their loved ones to control their excessive
drinking habits.
