PSYCH 361: MARRIAGE AND FAMILY – DR CONNERS
JANUARY 17, 2023
- Average age someone gets married is 30 years old in America
- What is a family
oThe people who help shape you, the people that give you a sense of belonging to. Doesnt
always have to be blood. Should be your safety net. Friends, those who you live with
oWhat does the textbook say
▪Structure: how someone is built
▪Function: the purpose someone is fulfilled
oA family is a sexually expressive parent- ch9ld or tother kin relationship in which people
usually related to by ancestors, marriage or adoptions
▪A form of economic and out otherwise practical unit and care for any children or
other dependent
- Family functions
oRaising children responsibly
oProviding economic and other practical support
oOffering emotional security
JANUARY 19, 2023
- Family dynamics
oExtended family – cousins, Aunts
oNuclear (modern) family
oPost-Modern (post nuclear family)- structure doesn’t matter long as function works
- Family theories
oEcology
oFamily life/ development
oStructural functional
oInteractions constructivists
oExchange theory
oFamily systems
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oFeminisit movienmnt
oBio-social
oAttachment theory
- American family facts
oMarriage is still important
oFewer people are getting married
oPostponing marriage
oAcceptance of cohabitation as a family form
•Is it alright to hold marriage over someone’s head from a parents
perspective
oFertility has declines
oParenthood is postpones
oNon maritrial birthrate is high
oIncrease in same sex ousholds
oHigh divorce rare
oRemairage rate has decline s
- Impacts on the family
oNey biological and communication tech
oEconomic conditions
oHistorical periods or events
oDemographic characteristics
oFamily policy
February 2, 2023: OUR SEXUAL SELFS
- What do I consider attractive
oKind
oFamily oriented
oAthletic/ in shape
oFunny
oBlue eyes
- Attraction is equated to love
- Attraction is based on
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oproxmicty
oEasy
oAnd around a lot
- Acting on attraction is when it is considered a sin- just because the attraction is there doesn’t
mean that it’s a sin
- Sexual development
oSexual identity
oSexual terminology
▪Heterosexual- attracted to the opposite sex
▪Homosexual- attracted to the same sex
▪Bisexual- attracted to both sexes
▪Pansexual- the gender doesn’t matter
▪Transgender- switched gender roles
▪Transexual- had surgery to alter gender
▪Travesties- dressing in opposite sex
▪Asexual- no sexual attraction
oLGBTQIAA
- Theoretical perspective of sexuality
oSexual functional- sex to have kids
oBiosocial – nature nurture
oMen are more sexual so therefore it makes sense they would cheat
oPatriarchal sexuality- men are in charge
oExpressive sexuality- recognition that we are all sexual beings (desire and attraction)
oSexual revolution- “I should have the opportunity to enjoy IT rather than the person”
oChallenging heterosexism-
o 21st century outlook
February 7, 2023
- What would you say is a healthy perspective of sexuality?
oMarriage bed is a holy thing (paul said this)
oPhysical intimacies and sexuality should be wrapped up in the aspect of marriage
- Sexual values
oAbstinence: the behavioral choice to not engage in sex until marriage.
oSec with affection/serial monogamy: “we are in love, sex is an expression of love, we
should have sex”
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oRecreational sex/FWB/Casual sex: hook up culture, friends with benefits. “what in the
world”- conners. The intention is self-gratification- “sex with you rn is fun” “it’s meant
to be enjoyed”
oMonogamy: one person for life
oInfidelity/ adultery: they are marriage terms- a couple cant use the terms.
oThe way that people talk about sex and physical intimacy you can tell their values
on how they describe it. The phrase “we made love” means that the person validates
love through the physical aspects of the relationship. You can’t make love you can
express it in various ways outside of the psychical aspects that should be reserved
for marriage
- what is the big deal about sex and sexual identify
oit shapes the framework of relationship Romanic or friends
- Sexting- sending or received sexually picture or messages of partial or full nudity
o71% of teen girls 67% of teen boys (revieved)
o83% of young women 75% of young men
o1/3 share with 3rd party
oPornification
- Pornography- the secret sex partner
oBenefits
▪Gives ideas
▪Explores sexuality
▪Act sexy
▪Livens sex
oDrawbacks
▪Inequality – most tomes the women are places in a servant slave role where at
most times they are placed in pain- men above men
▪Objectification
▪Body image- causes insecurity due to women in porn being altered in some way
(unrealistic)
▪Decreases desire for sex
▪Encourages causal sex
▪Sexual satification is decreased
▪Decreases commitment
▪Deters men from initiating commitment
- Sexual responsibilities
oRisk of pregnancy
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oSexually transmitted infections
oResponsibilities to others
oResponsibility to self
February 14, 2023- CHAPTER 5 LOVE AND CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER
- What Is Love
o1st Corinthians 13:4-8- patient, kind, not boastful or envious, or proud, or dishonors
others, it protects, trusts, hopes
oAn attraction between 2 people and
- Love is not
oMartyring- sacrificaing when it comes to be too much
oManipulating- consistent desire to control
oLimerence- infactuation, crush, projection of what it will be like
- Sternbergs triangular theory of love
oPassion
oIntimacy
February 21, 2023- CHAPTER 6 Living arrangements
- Growth of unmarriaed population
oDemographic
oEconomic
oTechnological
oSocial
oCultural
- Living arrangements- singles
oLiving alone
oLiving apart together
oLiving with parents
oGroup/communal living
- Living arrangements – cohabitation
oCharcteristsics
▪Younger
▪Less educated
▪Less money
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▪Incearse in volience and abuce
▪Renters
oRationale
oDifferences between cohabiting and marriage
▪Cohabiting tends to me less alike than those married, more multicultureal, short
term,
oSame sex couples and family life
▪Cohabitiation
▪More autonomous
▪Rise in family
▪Rise in marriage acceptance
oSocial networking
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February 21, 2023
- Deinstitutionalized marriage
oInstitutional marriage
oCompanionate marriage
oIndividualized marriage
- Permeance and exclusivity
oSocial institution
oExpectation of permanence
oExpectations of sexual exclusivity
- The centrality of marriage
oResearch recognized the uniqueness
oLegal code recognizes the protection
▪In Idaho and Mississippi it is a crime to sleep with someone outside of marriage –
jail for 6 month
▪Currently it is legal in Virginia to be adultery
▪“if virginia is for lovers how can we prevent lovers from loving eachother”
oScripture recognized the model
-From “yoke Mates” to “Soul Mates”
oKinship authority
▪Blessing from family
▪Arrianged marriages
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▪Finding “the one”
▪Marriage and love
- Valuing Marriage- policies
oFamily declined perspecitves
oFamily change perspective
- Why marry
oMarriage still matters
oParenting still matter s
oMore money
oBrighter career
oBetter and more sex
oBetter health
oLess substance abuse
oLess risk taking
oLonger life
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- Marital satification
oPreparation for marriage
▪Premarital counseling
▪Demographics of marriage
▪Expectations of marriage
▪Connection of marriage
March 2, 2023- CHAPTER 8: Deciding to be a parent
-Kids can be fun…Sometimes
- Things to consider
oSocial pressures
oCost and rewards
oMarital happiness
oChild free
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March 23, 2023- CHAPTER 10: work and family
- How would you gade you parents on work and family
- Duel pay homes
oTeo career mariages
oPart time employment
oShift work
oWorking form home
- Balancing working and family
oWork and family conflicts
o2 career mariages
oChildrens wellbeing
- Work discussion
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Deut 25:4- biblical mandate for honeymoon
April 4, 2023- CHAPTER 12: power and violence in family
- What is power
oThe ability to exercise one’s will
- Relationship power involves Objective measures of power , for example, who makes more or
more important decisions in the relationship.
oObjective measures of power
- Current research measures couple power in which ways?
oDicsion making
oDivison of labor
- The rate of violence between Cohabitating partners is significantly higher than that of married
couples.
- Intimate terroism is a term in your text that refers to abuse that is decisively oriented to
controlling one’s partner through fear and intimidation
- honeymoon stage is a stage in the cycle of violence where the batterer asks for forgiveness and
promises it won’t happen again.
-Sarah’s mom often does not feed her or comfort her, leading Sarah to steal food at school and
seek attention elsewhere. Sarah’s mom is guilty of Child neglect .
- Acute battering stage is a stage in the cycle of violence where the battering occurs.
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-Faith feels fearful of her partner, she reports that she feels she must “walk on eggshells around
him” and constantly worries that he will blow-up if she says something wrong. Faith’s case is
most indicative of Intimate terrorism .
- An alternative to child removal from the home is the Family preservation model, where the
protective services worker can leave the child with the offending family and provide support and
frequent visits to monitor progress.
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Power
- Classical perspectives
oResource hypothesis
▪Money
▪Education
▪Status
▪Kids
- Current research
oDecision making
oDiviosn of labor
oAllocation of money
oAbility of influence
- Powers bases
oCoeresice
oReward
oExpert
oInformational
oReferent
oLegitimte
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