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SOLUTION-BLESSED BRIEF PASTORAL COUNSELING PROJECT

By: Stephen N. Jackson

Student ID: L25555737

Presented to Dr. Baker

In partial fulfillment of the requirements of

Introduction to Pastoral Counseling

PACO 500

Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary

Lynchburg, VA

November 09, 2012

ABSTRACT

I am Stephen N. Jackson, as stated in the instruction; my purpose of this project is to

contextualize this course into a practical, pastoral counseling model utilizing a solution-focused

approach under the influence of an overarching goal (Rice 2008, 1). I am going to bring all the

theories, processes and practices to bear on this Solution-Brief Pastoral Counseling, (SBBPC),

project to show competency on my part in explaining and synthesizing this class into my

personal ministry and life. Because I believe that the counseling process involves the care-seeker

and me as the care-provider. Therefore, I have chosen two over arching goals to remind me of

the purpose in the counseling journey. My over arching goal is to become an imitator of Christ

allow the Spirit of the Lord God lead me ( ). Ephesians 5:15 Be very careful, then, how you live

—not as unwise but as wise. Allow Him to lead me is every counseling session; know He will

lead me through this counseling session. I am reminded of Proverbs 3:5-6; I trust in the Lord

with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding. In all my ways I acknowledge Him and

He directs my paths. SBBPC is pastoral counseling influenced by the Hawkins Pastoral

Assessment Model and Counseling Scenario with techniques learned from Benner (2003)

Strategic Pastoral Counseling and Kollar (1997) Solution-Focused Pastoral Counseling.

This paper will focus on the counseling scenario with Justin, from Crossroads: A Story

of Forgiveness, utilizing the SBBPC method. After reviewing the case study and ancillary

websites, I am going to choose Bruce Murakami who suffered from the loss of his wife and only

daughter. I will utilize SBBPC approach. SBBPC is pastoral counseling influenced by the Hawkins Pastoral

Assessment Model and Counseling Scenario with techniques learned from Benner (2003) Strategic Pastoral

Counseling and Kollar (1997) Solution Base-Short Term Pastoral Counseling. A Story

of Forgiveness, utilizing the SBBPC method.

Table of Contents

ABSTRACT

THE PASTORAL COUNSELING SCENARIO

PART 1: THE COUNSELING SETTING

PART 2: THE COUNSELOR’S STYLE 6

PART 3: THE COUNSELING STRUCTURE/STRATEGY

Phase 1

Phase 2 13

Phase 3 17

Phase 4

PART 4: THE COUNSELING SUMMATION 22

REFERENCES

APPENDIX A

APPENDIX B 27

APPENDIX C 31

APPENDIX D 33

APPENDIX E 35

APPENDIX F 37

GRADING RUBRIC

Part I: The Counseling Setting

A Rationale for SBBPC as Christians we know that when we seek to be in right relationship with

God. All solutions are found in Christ as He makes provisions for our needs (Matthew 6:33). Then Bible says

whatever we bind on earth will be bound in Heaven and whatever is loosed on earth will be loosed in Heaven

(Matthew 16:19). During any form of counseling, we must be lead by the Holy Spirit, recognizing that He is the

Wonderful Counselor, who Jesus said would lead believers to discovering all truth (John 15:26, 16:7). Through

the work of the Holy Spirit it has allowed His children to find answers that changes challenging behaviors and

thought processes for righteous thought processes. When authority is given to the Word of God, under the

guidance and control of the Holy Spirit along with the proper resources and connections that not only support well-

being but a relationship with Christ, change is inevitable and can be sustained (Hawkins, 2010 a slide 8).

The combination of these Bible verses along with methods and teachings from Strategic Pastoral

Counseling (Benner 2003), Hawkins Pastoral Assessment Method´ and Pastoral Counseling Scenarios´ in along

with Kollar Solution Focused Pastoral Counseling (1997) web together to form a counseling approach

known as Solution Blessed Brief Pastoral Counseling. SBBPC relies on the Holy Spirit to guide the counselor and

counselee through the counseling scenario to implement change which results in the counselee becoming more

capable of achieving the overarching goal of imitating Christ.

SBBPC is a highly structured counseling process. It is holistic, spiritually focused, utilizes Christian

centered techniques and is solution focused rather than problem-centered. SBBPC is also time-sensitive, therefore

each of the five sessions are between 60 to 90 minutes in length and seeks to move the counselee to the

overarching goal of Christ-likeness through the sharing of their story, discussing life without the problem, coming

up with solutions to solve the problem and then connecting them to others that will hold them accountable for

living a life that imitates Christ. Due to the time constraints of SBBPC, counselees are given pre-session packets

that contain information such as the counselors credentials, worldview/statement of beliefs, ethical guidelines and

asked to complete an intake form and review the confidentiality and informed consent forms prior to coming to the

session by downloading it from the website, See Appendix A-G (Hawkins 2010b, slide 4). Because of the amount

of information in the pre-session packet it should be returned prior to the first session if possible. This will afford

the counselor an opportunity to review the material and seek guidance from the Holy Spirit. Then in the initial

session there is a brief discussion of the documents. Although the counselor recognizes that the Holy Spirit is the

supreme guide, he/she issued to direct the counseling process and assist the counselee with becoming a

willing participant in the counseling process so that viable solutions can be co-created (Kollar 1997, 87). When

solutions are co-created with and implemented in the life of the counselee and both parties agree that formal

counseling sessions are no longer needed, the formal counseling relationship is ended, keeping in mind that there

will be no more than five session. The counselor may still contact the counselee by phone to ensure that the

overarching goal is still being achieved (Kollar, 181). If the counselee and counselor are not making progress or

the counselee presents extreme behavior, a referral to the appropriate agent or agency will be made (as recorded in

the Ethical Guidelines, Informed Consent and Confidentiality agreements in the Appendix.) Homework, either in

the form of reading assignments, behavior rehearsals or journaling is often given to help the care-seeker retain

information gained from the counseling session and practice their ³strengths´ that help them to make the necessary

changes (Benner 2003, 58-59) length and seeks to move the counselee to the overarching goal of Christ-likeness

through the sharing of their story, discussing life without the problem, coming up with solutions to solve

the problem and then connecting them to others that will hold them accountable for living a life that imitates

Christ. Due to the time constraints of SBBPC, counselees are given pre-session packets that contain information

such as the counselors credentials, worldview/statement of beliefs, ethical guidelines and asked to complete an

intake form and review the confidentiality and informed consent forms, See Appendix A-G (Hawkins 2010b, slide

4). Because of the amount of information in the pre-session packet it should be returned prior to the first session if

possible. This will afford the counselor an opportunity to review the material and seek guidance from the Holy

Spirit. Then in the initial session there is a brief discussion of the documents. Although the counselor recognizes

that the Holy Spirit is the supreme guide, he/she issued to directs the counseling process and assist the counselee

with becoming a willing participant in the counseling process so that viable solutions can be co-created (Kollar

1997, 87).When solutions are co-created with and implemented in the life of the counselee and both parties agree

that formal counseling sessions are no longer needed, the formal counseling relationship is ended, keeping in mind

that there will be no more than five session. The counselor may still contact the counselee by phone to ensure that

the overarching goal is still being achieved (Kollar, 181). If the counselee and counselor are not making progress

or the counselee presents extreme behavior, a referral to the appropriate agent or agency will be made (as recorded

in the Ethical Guidelines, Informed Consent and Confidentiality agreements in the Appendix.) Homework, either

in the form of reading assignments, behavior rehearsals or journaling is often given to help the care-seeker retain

information gained from the counseling session and practice their ³strengths´ that help them to make the necessary

changes (Benner 2003, 58-59)

Note-taking by the counselor and breaks are also utilized to ensure the productivity of the counseling process.

Guiding Assumptions for SBBPC.

1. God is already active and at work in the life of the counselee (Kollar, 91). All humans are

created in the image of God and are worthy of His love, He shows grace and mercy to all regardless of

whether or not they are believers.

2. Finding exceptions helps create solutions regardless of how big or small the problem

appears to be (Kollar, 92). The counselee experiences moments no matter how brief when they are not

plagued by their problem; the solution lies in finding the behavior and thought processes the counselee

utilizes during these times.

3. The counselee is always changing and the counseling relationship is positional

(Kollar, 92, 93). All lives are impacted by change; any small change the counselee makes will result in a

change in their lifestyle and can lead to the position of the counselee changing in the counseling session.

4. The counselee is the expert and defines the goals (Kollar, 92).Only the counselee possesses the

knowledge to know the thought processes and behaviors that allow them to experience life without the

problem.

5. Solutions are co-created (Kollar, 92). The Holy Spirit, counselor and counselee work together to

develop a plan of action to create a solution for sustainable change.

6. The counselee is not the problem; the problem is the problem (Kollar, 92). Problems do not

define the individual and are to be viewed as temporary set-backs; problems can be changed by thinking

and behaving differently

7. The counselors focus is on solutions (Kollar, 93). The counselor does not become depressed by the

problem, but keeps working with the counselee until a sustainable solution is discovered

Part 2: The Counselor’s Style.

I believe that the personality of the counselor is very important when it comes to helping

the care-seeker find the solutions problems of everyday life. We as counsels now must place

his/her self as the student for evaluation to see or gain a true (sometime frighten) perception of

himself to see how others perceive him and how his personality reacts, interacts and relates to or

with other personality types. In PACO 500 we participated in taking a personality profiles and

spiritual gifts analysis to identify the personality, temperament types, and spiritual gifts we might

have. In the Uniquely You temperament analysis in Graph 1 I have a high D. As a D, it is

states that I feel that people expect me to be dominant, direct, demanding and determined.

Furthermore, my strengths and uniqueness’s says; my strength is my strength; some people need

my influences and can be codependent upon me. In Graph 2 “This is me” my D personality

types places me at a C/S/D.

In reviewing two 360 degree interviews, some see’s me with a lion personality type,

others as a golden retriever. These types are on the opposite end of the spectrum. This indicates a

balanced approach to life and ministry.

The Lion Personality -- “Driver” or “Powerful” or Choleric Style (Choleric/Dominance)

Characteristics: They are fast paced goal oriented people, they are direct and like to get down to

business, they are great at achieving their goals with immediate results, the choleric is interested

in knowing the “what” in a situation or circumstance.

Strengths– Visionary, practical, productive, strong-willed, independent, decisive, leader

Weaknesses– Cold, domineering, unemotional self-sufficient, unforgiving, sarcastic, cruel

Cautions: They can easily dominate a situation, conversation, or friendship, they have a hard

time relaxing and can become very demanding, and they do not sympathize well.

The Golden Retriever Personality Amiable or Peaceful or Phlegmatic Style (Steadiness)

Characteristics: They are the slow paced- people oriented people, they are very loyal to

whatever they are doing, they are great at peace making, The Golden Retriever is interested in

knowing the “how” in a situation or circumstance.

Strengths– Calm, easy-going, dependable, quiet, objective, diplomatic, humorous

Weaknesses– Selfish, stingy, procrastinator, unmotivated, indecisive, fearful, worrier

Cautions: They tend to lack motivation if working by themselves, they are usually not self

starters, and they have a hard time making decisions because everything sounds good.

On the other hand, from what I gathered from the case study and watching the movie,

Crossroads: A story of Forgiveness (Harrison 2007), Bruce Murakami (the counselee) seems to

be a D/C/I. So if this is the case, this means that He is a driving, cautious, influencer. They can

be demanding, competent and impressive toward task orientation. They need to increase their

sensitivity and softness. They do not mind change and can be compliant and cautious. They like

to do things correctly while driving and influencing others to follow. (Uniquely yours, 38).

As Bruces counselor, I need to recognize the strengths and weaknesses in joining,

(Benner 2003), or as Kollar, (1997), puts it demonstrating fit (112). This is key in making

our time together the most productive it can be. It will also help Bruce find the solutions he

needs to move toward an overflowing hope in his life and others. I counseling, I have to realize

my primary Spiritual gifts of Encouraging/Exhorting and Teaching; This is Expected of me “D”

and This is me C/S/D. I must recognize that interacting with Bruce with a D/C/I I must: be1)

intentional and careful. I cannot be spontaneous with Bruce but be prayerful and thoughtful

before responding to his situation and conversation. Listen and show an attentive listening2)

position. This will demonstrate fit with Bruce and he will not feel threatened or unheard.

Strategically placing the Talker/Listener Card (Petersen 2007), to help me focus on our roles in

the conversational will be helpful. Consciously give supportive feedback, (Kollar 2007), and3)

at the same time look for clue to move forward in our conversation, without interrupting the flow

of Bruce story. Resist the pressure of wanting to answer Bruce every question, even if I think I4)

know the answer, the solution must come from him and I must guide with supporting words and

gestures without teaching him what I think I already know.

Part 3: The Counseling Structure/Strategy

Phase One P1

Bruce Murakami has suffered an overwhelming loss. As I try to help him using the

SBBPC process, I must remember that it will be impossible to address all the immediate

concerns, problems and challenges he is facing. My goal in P1 will be to discover what the

predominant problem is and let the final phase, Phase Four / P4 be the opportunity to draw him

into a community of people who can address the ongoing issues he may continually face in his

life.

Whereas, Bruce is a member of our church and there is a pastor on staff that is helpful

and empathetic to people in need. Bruce is coming for information on other outreaches at the

church. He wants to help saying that maybe if he is busy serving the Lord he can forget about his

problems. He is visibly struggling as he tries to talk to me. On the grieving scale Bruce is

somewhere between the denial and anger stages, (Kanel 2007). This is observable from his

response when I ask him how he is doing. His response was that he did not know and it was hard

to tell, sometimes he came home expecting to see his wife and daughter and then he would catch

himself, feeling sad, even guilty. He apologized for dumping on me and seemed to want to end

the conversation, but I asked if I might ask a question. His response was yes. I asked him whom

he felt close enough to dump on, who was it he could talk to when things get hard to understand.

He said God. He prays and talks to God about the stuff he is feeling. When I asked what God

says, he laughed and said that he felt God was more of a listener these days and he is having a

hard time figuring anything else out right now. He seemed uncomfortable and vulnerable with

his comment to me and got quiet. I then told him that our complete conversation was between

himself, God and me. I mentioned how many things come my way even casually and that if I

was the only person told, then no one else would hear or know about it because I am committed

to making sure that the issues people have and feel trusting enough to share with me, they are

confidential. He asked what I was writing; I showed him some words I had written down. When

he asked me what they meant I told him there are times when someone comes and until I can

understand why the person is coming to talk to me, I write down key words the person is saying

to make sure I am listening well and fully understand what the person is saying. I will shred them

as soon as our conversation ends with no written record of our conversation. I turned placed

the piece of paper in the shredder and we sat and listened to the grinding sound of the paper

being torn into small tiny strips. He mentioned how we needed one of those for our problems.

There was a casual conversation concerning how hard it must be to listen to people’s problems. It

ended with me telling him that my soul purpose for living, my calling in life was found in two

passages of the Bible. Romans 15:13. May the God of hope fill you with all joy, as you trust in him, so

that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit? And I Peter 5:2 where God

lays out the responsibility I have to not just work for people but to love and care for them,

helping them through life. I went on to tell him that the overarching goal in my life was to help

awaken hope in myself and in each person God brings my way. Our first meeting set the stage

for coffee for us at the local café. I feel he is moving from a casual visitor or the attending

position to a willing position in the counseling setting. After he left I prayed for our time together

and for wisdom for this journey we were on together.

Phase Two P- 2

Our coffee time together went well. I was prepared to help guide Bruce into a willing position. I

had some written material, what some might call a pre-session package that included my

personal information and background. Ethical things that I had prepared if he asked, my thoughts

on counseling using the SBBPC model I had gained understanding.

After our initial discussion Phase One and listening to Bruce, praying it through and discussing

anonymously the session with a couple of peer mentors, we agreed that it sounded like Bruce

needed to get into a functional state in his life by moving him along the Five Stages of Death and

Dying, (Kanel 2007:136). My goal will be to try to move Bruce through these stages using

SBBPC. Even after coffee, I felt he was in Phase One until I received a phone call from him a

few days later asking me if I could come to his house to talk. I told him I could and would, I

asked if there was anything in particular he wanted to discuss? He said he wanted to talk about

the five stages of grief he read in the book that I gave him. We met the next day. Bruce has a

lovely home. I noticed his enthusiasm was waning from the phone call the day before. I decided

to try to ask a scaling question. I asked him how he was feeling. His response was he felt normal,

lousy, and not too happy. I asked him on a scale of one to five with one being earth shattering

and five as if he won the World Series, he said a negative five. I made a mental note to increase

the scale one to ten. I felt we had entered P2. Pastor Paul, (PP): Is there was anything in

particular that is making you feel this way? Bruce Murakami, (BM): Brody is angry with me all

the time. He is making demands on me that I cannot possibly handle right now. And do not get

me started on my son Josh. He comes home for a while and we sort of bonded you know, it

seemed we were on the same page about everything and then without telling me or talking to me

about it he goes back to college. It was as if he could just pick up the pieces like nothing had

happened and get on with his life.

PP: Where do you think Josh is at on the five stages of grief?

BM: He acts as if he is the accepting stage but how could he? It is too soon.

PP: (I sat for a moment and let him think about his comment. I was starting to feel whether he

was taking a step backwards in our counseling sessions). Tell me about Josh and some of the

things you and he did together. (He sat there a minute or two and then a smile came across his

face. He then went on in glowing terms about how smart he was, how he was the rock, like his

mom. He cared for people. He was tough and you could count on him.) So when he left without

saying good-bye what was your first thought? (I wrote down the words, lost Jodi, Chelsea,

Brody, and now Josh.)

BM: (He looked away and wiped his eyes and said), I feel like I am losing my family one piece

at a time.

PP: What did you and Josh do to keep that feeling of closeness even while he was away at

college?

BM: Well he goes to the same college I did, that is where I met my wife. He would tell me about

the classes he was taking. He had some of the same professors I did. I guess it was all about the

similarities we had in common.

PP: What has changed? (He sat there silent, looking for the answer on the floor. I waited for a

few minutes while he sat in silence, very sad, looking like he knew the answer but could

not believe the answer).

PP: What did you major in?

BM: I’m sorry, excuse me?

PP: I asked what your major was in college.

BM: Architecture, I took drafting, engineering courses, same as Josh.

PP: Does Josh want to be a builder?

BM: I don’t know. He did, I am not sure what he wants right now. I do not know what I want

right now.

PP: Good answer.

BM: What?

PP: That you do not know what you want right now, except I think you do but not sure which

one, the one thing you really want to do right now. I am sure there are several options in

your head.

BM: You know what I want right now. I do not want to feel sad. How do I stop feeling sad?

PP: Can you think back to one or several mornings where you woke up, ready to go to work,

ready to face challenges and at the end of the day you felt satisfied?

BM: Yeah I can think about a lot of those days.

PP: Then between now and when I see you again, I want you to think what it was that made you

feel that way and see what you can do to feel that way again. And while you are at it, maybe

a phone call to check up and Josh, how he is, how he is doing in classes might help you with that

relationship, after all, you’re the Dad. We agreed to meet the following week at my office with

those two tasks in mind.

Phase Three P3

From the first casual meeting with Bruce to bringing him to an attending position in

our counseling time, he has shown diverse feelings on the grief scale. It is obvious that a tragedy

of this nature can cause enough emotional stress and confusion so that the care seeker can linger

in one, two, even three separate stages simultaneously for long periods with final acceptance

merely being a symptom of an ongoing stage without reliving the previous three stages too

severely. Bruce has opened up about how paralyzed he has felt but feels as though he has come

to a point of acceptance in the journey. He said he realized that it was not that he did not hurt

anymore or that he just moved on as if nothing happened but as Marr, (2002), resiliency the

ability to recover quickly from illness, change or misfortune (23). He was able to concentrate on

projects that challenged him and how fulfilled he felt in getting them accomplished. He called

Josh, said that Josh thought he was mad at him, and did not want to bother him anymore. They

then talked for over an hour about school and about losing Josh’s Mom and stepsister. They both

cried and agreed to keep up the calls. Then Bruce told me he wanted to do one more thing to

make him feel like he can continue to face the issues of the accident and loss of Cindy and

Chelsea. When I asked him what it is he wanted to do, he said had an overwhelming desire to

confront the young man who caused the death of his wife and child. When broached on the

reasoning for it, his response was that he could not bring relief to the gnawing pain of why,

without at least confronting the young man and having him look Bruce in the eye. Was revenge,

vengeance or justice, what he was looking for? He was not sure. He just knew he had to do it.

How would he respond to a stubborn, non-remorseful soul looking back at him? Again, not sure,

in fact Bruce said it was not about him, it was is something he had to do. Here is an excerpt of

the conversation that followed

Pastor Paul, (PP): I think it is commendable but wonder if there needs to be a better reason than

you feel like you must do this. Do you know people will ask you why and may not even

give permission unless you have a more specific goal and or reason in mind? Bruce Murakami,

(BM): Do you think I want to do the right thing?

PP: From the very start Bruce, you have wanted to do the right thing and more. I have seen you

want to bring real meaning, hope and purpose to what you have gone through and how you want

to move forward in spite of the tragedy.

BM: If I say that I want to be able to let Justin Gutierrez look me in the eye and give him a

chance to explain how he feels about this, would that be enough?

PP: Whatever your reason it is possible that you can use this in bringing closure to another stage

in the whole process you have been going through. Nevertheless, what is it you are looking for?

BM: I am not sure. As I said before, when I saw this kid, looking like one of my own, well I

cannot believe that he is okay with this, that he is hurting as well. I just want to talk with him

face-to-face, man-to-man and hear what he has to say.

PP: How can I help?

BM: I just need to know that I am doing the right thing.

PP: I cannot say it is the right thing but I can tell you this. Knowing you and what you have been

through and how far we have come, I know you feel this is right and cannot think of a single

reason for you not to act on this desire. You will find it difficult, but I am here for you and the

men we have been meeting with in our small group, they will be there for you too.

BM: Do you have any suggestions on how to proceed?

PP: Be prepared for his lawyer and family to say no. You must prepare yourself that not everyone

has as noble an ideal as you in this. That you want to continue to work through this issue, you are

committed to healing and hope and that you have the spiritual strength and fortitude to do it!

BM: What happens if he just sits there?

PP: That is why it might be wise to have goal in mind for wanting this. To go with no goal may

set you up for great disappointment and unmet expectations can bring back some of the anger.

BM: I believe the reason is that I want him to see me without great anger and rage; rather that he

will see the hurt he has caused which might bring some accountability and even sorrow. He looks

sorrowful in the court proceedings; I think this could help both him and me.

PP: What is the hope you are looking for if you do this and you act on it?

BM: I want to stop hating this person, stop the anger, and come to acceptance of what happened

and try to move forward in my life.

PP: What can I do to help you see this hope fulfilled?

BM: I guess I need to know that no matter what you and the men in our group are still there even

if this thing blows up in my face. I also want to know if you feel it is stupid or silly to do this.

PP: You have our support unconditionally as always and we will pray. I cannot say this will

not blow up in your face but your positive, loving, forgiving attitude might be the break-through

needed by many people involved in this situation and can continue the ongoing healing and hope

in everyone’s life. We prayed for wisdom. We prayed that God would allow this action to take

place and if it did not that Bruce would be willing to continue the hope and healing process with

our small group. After prayer, we just looked at each other and he said, I never thought I would

be feeling what I am feeling right now. When asked what he was feeling, he responded that he

was feeling peace and relief. I said God the author of peace and comfort was bringing these

feelings. When I asked him if he knew why God was doing this, he answered because God loved

him very much.

Phase Four P4

By now Bruce had plugged back into his men’s group at the church. When they asked how he

was doing, he told them he takes it one day at a time. He said he has learned to realize that the

pain will always be there like a person with a limp, but he is still walking and growing. I was

asked to speak at their men’s group and Bruce was the one who introduced me. The topic How to

rebuild your broken world. Afterwards Bruce and I met in the church’s sanctuary to talk.

BM: Thanks for coming. My men’s group asked how I was doing and when I told him I was

talking to you about things, they were curious about you and what we talked about. I guess they

are surprised on how I am feeling, going to the school assemblies with the kid that caused the

accident and all.

PP: What do you tell them?

BM: Truthfully? I tell them that I seem to do all the talking and you ask a lot of questions, then

you give me homework. (He laughed).

PP: So going for counseling and therapy is not as bad as the dentist is: Actually, I feel like I am

counseling others now. I feel like I want to see you but just to talk, not for help. I want to help

you with the food pantry too. And the guys? It seems they are a support to me and as long as I

have that kind of support I feel like I can be myself, sad if I feel sad, happy without feeling

guilty. I miss them a lot but my relationship with Justin, well Brody and I had to work that out.

Brody felt like did about Josh. But now that Josh, Brody and I meet together at least once a

month we can talk, share with each other and just hang out. All around it seems like I have all

these new friends, when in reality they are not new at all. (I excused myself for a moment to use

the bathroom, as I came back I called my buddy that had been helping me work with Bruce. I

told him all that had happened. I jokingly said, he doesn’t need me anymore. Steve asked if I was

joking or if there was any truth to that statement and did I feel sad about it?)

PP: I guess I do feel like, wait a minute, he isn’t finished, he still has so many more issues he hasn’t even

scratched the surface yet. Steve,

(S): So what is the solution to that?

PP: Okay so you are going the ³Solution´ word at me are you?

S: Yes because when you talked to me and asked me to walk with you as you walked with Bruce

you said, do not let me go beyond the solution to Bruce’s immediate problem´ it sort of sounded

like a command.

PP: I think I have a lot more to learn about this solution blessed brief thing Solution oriented and

brief driven.

S: Hey we will never get to the bottom of the depth of our problems, none of us will but right

now you have done your job and remain available, now it is up to Bruce and his support group to

help him continue this journey.

PP: Thanks Steve, talk to you later «maybe. (We both laughed and hung up).Bruce and I just

looked at each other. He asked if we can still get together occasionally, and I said sure. We also

agreed to try and get our two groups of men together for some type of outing. When we said

good-bye I felt excited to have been a part of something that well God directed.

Part 4: The Counseling Summation.

As I consider SBBPC as a counseling model to follow, I know I have a lot more to learn.

I am sure that certain nuances and steps in each phase will always continue to boggle me and

keep me thinking of whether I am in P1 or P2. Is P4 necessary? Are there more phases if things

get muddled, a P5, P6, or even P10? When do too many phases make it Solution Blessed

Lengthy Pastoral Counseling? I know one thing. I know that first and foremost we must be

conscious of making it about the counselee not the counselor. I must always make a conscious

effort in listening well and helping the care seeker find the answers to the things he needs. I am

the spiritual director, the caregiver, not the expert. I also need to make sure to focus on the

immediate needs of the care seeker. If I try to fix the person without recognizing the true problem

they are facing, well I am in for a very lengthy counseling time because we need a lifetime and

eternity to fix the root of our entire problem, sin. Walking through life in a world infected by sin

and our propensity to sin, well, if counseling is all I want to do I will never be out of business. I

am in the discipline business. As a Bishop my overarching goals is to shepherd, care for the ones

that God has trusted me with. In that care I do not concern myself with every little detail, but

mostly to the immediate problems and needs of the sheep. The Bible says in Matthew 22:14;

“Many are called but a few are chosen” I, Bishop Stephen N. Jackson is a chosen one to fulfill a

mandate upon my life which is found Isaiah 61:1 “ The Spirit of the Lord G is upon me; OD

because the L hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to ORD

bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to

them that are bound; This is my calling and this is my life and SBBPC is a tool that will be invaluable to me in

my efforts.

APPENDIX A

TOTAL FREEDOM COUNSELING CENTER

__________________________

A Provider of Total Freedom Counseling Center

Greetings:

Thank you for choosing the Total Freedom Counseling Center. We welcome you as a client at

TFCC and will do everything possible to make your experience at our Center a positive one.

Included in this packet are forms that you will need to read and complete.

Client Information Form

HIPAA Consent Form (If Applicable)

3-part Consent/Assignment of Benefits/Clients Rights and Responsibilities Form

Missed Appt. /Late Cancel Policy Form

Directions

Your counselor looks forward to meeting with you and is reserving the appointment time you’ve

scheduled in your name. If you need to change or cancel a scheduled appointment, our

FINANCIAL POLICY requires that you give us at least 24 hours Advance Notice. Since our

counselors are not on salary, they rely on you to adhere to this policy. As such, without proper

notification, you may incur a Late Cancel or Missed Appointment Fee. Our counselors are

responsible to make the decision regarding this charge. If you need to contact us after business

hours, we have an Answering Service to receive your calls.

Please plan on arriving at least 15 minutes prior to your scheduled appointment time and

bring these completed forms with you, along with your insurance card (if applicable).

This will allow us time to review your paperwork, and take care of any business matters

prior to your scheduled time with your therapist.

If you have any questions, please call us during our regular business office hours, 8 a.m. – 5

p.m.

Sincerely,

TOTAL FREEDOM COUNSELING CENTER, INC** PLEASE PRINT**

CLIENT INFORMATION FORM

PLEASE COMPLETE ALL REQUESTED INFORMATION

**APPOINTMENTS ARE 60 MINUTES IN LENGTH**

CLIENT INFORMATION

Name __________________________________Birth Date: _____/_____/_____ Age_______

First MI Last

Male____________ Female _____________

Street

Address_____________________________________________________________________

City _________________________________________ State____________ Zip___________

CONTACT E-MAIL ADDRESS:

________________________________________________________________________

ARE THERE ANY LIMITATIONS ON WHOM WE CAN SPEAK WITH REGARDING YOUR

APPOINTMENTS OR ACCOUNT? YES ___ NO___

If YES, Name(s) to EXCLUDE:

___________________________________________________________________________

2 CONTACT PHONE NUMBERS are required. PLEASE DO NOT INCLUDE NUMBERS THAT

YOU DON’T WANT US TO USE.

PHONE NUMBERS (______) _______________ (_____) _______________x_______

Home Phone Work Phone Ext.

(______) _____________________

Cell/Pager

CLIENT’S SS# ________-______-__________

Marital Status _____ Spouse’s Name ___________________Birth Date ____/____/__

Employer of Client___________________________________ Job Title_________________

•Student Status: F/T ___ P/T ___ Grade: _____ School: ___________________________OR

_____ Non Student

DEPENDENT INFORMATION Must be completed if Client is a dependent under the age of 18.

If the client is over 18 please skip to the next page.

RESIDENCE

WHO DOES CHILD LIVE WITH? ____ BIO PARENT(S) ____ BIO PARENT/STEP PARENT*

____ LEGAL GUARDIAN ____ FOSTER PARENT ____ OTHER

{Explain}:______________________________________________________

FATHER’S INFORMATION MOTHER’S INFORMATION

FATHER’S NAME: ____________________MOTHER’S NAME: _______________________

ADDRESS: _______________________ ADDRESS: ______________________________

{If different from Client} {If different from Client}

______________________________________________

____________________________________________________

PHONE: (______) ____________Home/Cell/ Work PHONE: (______) _______________

Home / Cell / Work

EMPLOYER: _____________________EMPLOYER: ______________________________

CUSTODY

WHEN THERE HAS BEEN LEGAL ACTION AND THE PARENTS OF THE CLIENT ARE NOT

LIVING TOGETHER, PLEASE INDICATE APPLICABLE CUSTODY AGREEMENT BELOW:

____ FULL CUSTODY Mother / Father (Circle One) _____ JOINT CUSTODY** ______

OTHER {Explain} _____________________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________________________

*I give permission for the Client’s Step Parent / Other _________________________________

_____________________to:

NAME

RELATIONSHIP

______ Make or cancel appointments for the dependent Client’s account

______ To obtain financial information about the dependent Client’s account. {Note: If insurance

is filed, the person carrying the insurance will have access to financial information regardless of

permission or custody.

RELEASE OF LIABILITY FOR

TOTAL FREEDOM COUNSELING CENTER, INC

(Please read carefully before signing)

Disclaimer

The undersigned parties have had the nature of the ministerial and counseling services to be

provided fully explained to them prior to receiving such services. They freely enter into such

counseling and ministerial services with full knowledge of the nature of the treatments,

ministerial services or counseling they are about to receive. The undersigned parties agree and

acknowledge that they have received no warranty, guarantee, or promise of any particular result

either expressed or implied, from Total Freedom Counseling Center. Services provided are not

substitutes for medical care. We never advise anyone to stop taking medicine or to forego

medical care. The undersigned parties acknowledge and agree that the very nature of their

problem(s) is necessarily such that no specific result(s) can be promised or warranted by any

ministry or counseling service.

Disclosure

By law, there are certain situations in which information about individuals undergoing counseling

may be released with or without their permission. These situations are as follows:

1. Where children are physically abused, neglected, or sexually abused, the proper

authorities must be notified.

2. In emergency situations where there may be danger to the client or others, as with

homicide or suicide, confidentiality may be broken.

3. If a court of law issues a legitimate subpoena relating to a child abuse case, we are

required by law to provide the information specifically described in the subpoena.

4. If an unreported life-threatening felony has been committed, we are required by law to

report it to the police.

Acknowledgement and Release

The undersigned fully understands the nature of a counseling and deliverance ministry such as

offered by Total Freedom Counseling Center. The undersigned waives and releases Total

Freedom Counseling Center from any and all actions, courses of action, claims, demands,

damages, costs, loss of service, expenses and compensation, on account of any and all known

and unknown personal injuries, mental anguish or agitation, and damage claims to person or

property resulting from or arising out of, counseling services and ministerial services at any

point after the date of this release.

Scope

This release contains the entire agreement between the parties hereto, and the terms of this

waiver and release are contractual and not mere recital.

The undersigned further states they have carefully read the foregoing release, know the

contents thereof, and sign the same of their own free act and deed.

Date Signed: _____________________________________

Signed

By: _____________________________________________

TFCC has a heart’s desire to assist you, with the help of the Lord, the Word of God, our

professional training and life experiences. To keep this ministry continuing for you and for

others, we call your attention to the financial matter.

The normal private individual counseling at this level is $110 per session. If you have an

adequate income, we would appreciate your financial support in that amount.

For those who have lower incomes, the following sliding scale guide, based upon gross weekly

household income, will assist you in determining a reasonable gift to this ministry for each

counseling session. TFCC has the ability to wave or reduce fee’s depending upon each

case or situation.

Total Household Amount

Weekly Gross Income

$650 + ……………………………………… $100.00

$500 to $649 ……………………………….. $80.00

$350 to $499 ……………………………….. $70.00

$0 to $349 ………………………………….. $50.00

Thank you for helping someone else to receive help too by sustaining this ministry financially.

Please indicate the amount of financial support that we may expect for each session by

completing the spaces below.

Household Weekly Gross Income: _____________________________

Payment Amount per Session: ______________________________

Signed: ______________________________

Date: ______________________________

***Please note*** In order that we might be available to help as many people as possible,

please call at least twenty-four (24) hours in advance to cancel/reschedule appointments.

Please make checks payable to Total Freedom Counseling Center (TFCC)

We also accept Visa, MasterCard, Discover and American Express through our secured website

for your convinces @ www.etrevivals.com

TOTAL FREEDOM COUNSELING CENTER, INC

_____________________

MISSED APPOINTMENT/LATE CANCEL POLICY

To Our Clients:

Our records indicate that our clients collectively average 30 missed appointments per week

which not only affects the quality of care that we provide but makes scheduling prompt and

convenient appointment times for both existing and new patients incredibly difficult.

We find ourselves in the unenviable position of having to manage this problem without inflaming

the delicate client/therapist relationship. With this in mind, the Total Freedom Counseling

Center has a business policy that requires 24 hours advance notice (prior to the scheduled

appointment time) to cancel or reschedule an appointment. Without proper notification, you will

be responsible to pay a . If unavoidable circumstances led to $50.00 missed appointment fee

the missed appointment/late cancellation, you can discuss the fee with your therapist.

We appreciate your understanding that our counselor is not on salary, and missed

appointments have an adverse affect on them financially. To protect our counselor from abuse

of their time, we reserve the right to discontinue services to clients who have accumulated two

outstanding missed appointment charges on their accounts and have not made satisfactory

payment arrangements with our office. Referrals to other community resources will be made

available upon request.

This same rule to reserve the right to discontinue services to clients who have accumulated two

outstanding missed appointments also applies to our clients whose insurance prohibits us from

billing them for missed appointments/late cancellations. Referrals to other community resources

will be made available upon request.

Thank you for your cooperation in this matter.

I have read and understand the statement noted above.

_________________________________________________

PLEASE PRINT YOUR NAME

_________________________________

PLEASE DATE

_________________________________________________

CLIENT’S SIGNATURE / OR REPRESENTATIVE FOR CLIENT

PLEASE READ THE THREE SECTIONS OF THIS FORM. THE CLIENT IS TO SIGN AT THE

BOTTOM OF EACH SECTION.

(1) INFORMED CONSENT FOR COUNSELING

PLEASE READ AND SIGN BELOW:

I ____________________________________ (Print name of the client), agree and consent to

participate in Christian Counseling services offered and provided at/by THE TOTAL FREEDOM

COUNSELING CENTER. I understand that I am consenting and agreeing only to those

services that are within the scope of my provider’s certification and/or training. If the client

named above is under the age of eighteen or unable to personally consent to counseling, I

attest that I am the legally responsible party and I am authorized to initiate and consent to

counseling. I also give consent to TFCC to release case note to insurance companies or payee

organization, etc if need to do so for their record and billing purposes.

Client’s Signature (or ADULT if client is a minor) ________________________Date

_______________

2) SIGNATURE REQUIRED BELOW BY INSURANCE CLIENTS OR OTHER PAYMENT METHODS

PLEASE CHECK ITEMS AND SIGN BELOW:

_____ I understand that payments I make at the time of my appointment are an of my estimate

co pay/cost share. I will be responsible for any balance remaining after the insurance payment

is received.

_____I will inform the Total Freedom Counseling Center staff of any change in my insurance

plan.

_____I request that payment of authorized benefits be made on my behalf to the Total Freedom

Counseling Center for any services furnished to me by this facility. The Total Freedom

Counseling Center staff is filing your claim.

Client’s Signature (or ADULT if client is a minor) ______________________Date

_________________

(3) CLIENT’S RIGHTS AND RESPONSIBILITIES

PLEASE READ AND SIGN BELOW:

STATEMENT OF CLIENT’S RIGHTS:

 Clients have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.

 Clients have the right to fair treatment. This is regardless of their race, religion, gender,

ethnicity, age, disability or source of payment.

 Clients have the right to information from staff/providers in a language they can understand.

 Clients have the right to have an easy to understand explanation of their condition and

treatment.

 Clients have the right to know all about their treatment choices regardless of the cost or if

the service(s) are covered or not.

 Clients have the right to share in the formation of their plan of care.

 Clients have the right to know of their rights and responsibilities in the treatment process.

 Clients have the right to know the clinical guidelines used in providing and/or managing their

care.

 Clients have the right to information about providers.

 Clients have the right to have their treatment and other client information kept private as per

HIPAA Notice of Privacy Practices guidelines.

 Clients have the right to know about the complaint; grievance and appeal process.

 Clients have the right to know about State and Federal laws that relate to their rights and

responsibilities.

 Clients have the right to get information about their insurance company’s services and role

in the treatment process.

 Clients have the right to provide input on their insurance company’s policies and services by

contacting their insurance carrier directly.

STATEMENT OF CLIENT’S RESPONSIBILITIES:

 Clients have the responsibility to give the providers the complete and accurate information

they need for treatment.

 Clients have the responsibility to treat those giving them care with dignity and respect.

 Clients have the responsibility to ask their provider questions about their care for

understanding and to clarify the client’s role in their care.

 Clients have the responsibility to follow the plans and instructions for their care. The care is

to be agreed upon by the client and provider.

 Clients have the responsibility to let their provider know when the treatment plan no longer

works for them and they feel they are not progressing in therapy.

 Clients have the responsibility to follow their medication plan as prescribed by their personal

physician/psychiatrist (if applicable). The client must be responsible to tell their provider if

their personal physician/psychiatrist changes their medication plan.

 Clients have the responsibility to keep their scheduled appointments and to honor the Total

Freedom Counseling Center’s cancellation policies.

 Clients have the responsibility to let their provider know about problems with paying fees by

contacting a member of our Financial Office staff.

Client’s Signature (or ADULT if client is a minor) __________________________

Date____________

APPENDIX B

ADDICTIONS

Clinton, Tim, and Ron Hawkins. 2009. The quick reference guide to biblical counseling.

Nashville, TN.

Clinton give examples of type of addiction using one Rachel as a church member with an

dependency on alcohol; Tim who gambles away his money therefore leave him not being able to

pay his bill; Dawn which spends her time at the bingo parlor, not so much spending her money

but this addiction is an physical additional and lastly, we have Reggie who has a dependency on

alcohol. We find the definition of addiction is “a dependence on a substance (alcohol,

prescription medicine, marijuana, or street drugs) or activity (gambling, shopping)” It is also

discussed in the section of addiction causes of addiction; emotional, relational, physical,

cognitive and behavioral and last Spiritual.

Best, David; Ball, Grace. Journal of Groups in Addiction & Recovery, Jan-Jun2011, Vol. 6 Issue

1/2, p7-19, 13p;

The whole point of this article is to review the difficult which is faced with the attempting to

interpret the recovery policy at the top level into meaningful systems at a local level and the

likely impact this will have on individuals and communities attempting to initiate their own

recovery journeys.

BITTERNESS

Clinton, Tim, and Ron Hawkins. 2009. The quick reference guide to biblical counseling.

Nashville, TN.

As we look at the word Bitterness we find that it hit every person some time or another.

As Clinton put it very nicely; Bitterness is an attitude of extended and intense anger and

hostility. Clinton also show elements of bitterness; unresolved anger where the bible

clearly stated “ which isBe anger and sin not; Do not let the sun go down on our anger”

found in Ephesians 4:26. Anger also leads to unforgiveness in a person. We will not be

able to have that relationship with God if unforgivness is present in our lives. Why? God

sent His son Jesus to die from us or our sin and once we accept His, we are forgiven!

The Mismanaged Emotion; Sandra P. Thomas Oct 02, 2003

In the article written by Thomas, it is a direct comparsion between anger and bitterness.

They both ran the same course in life. It states that “The author has conducted a program

of research on anger since 1988, aimed at illuminating its causes, manifestations, and

health consequences. Interest in the topic was sparked by a serendipitous finding of some

gender differences between men and women in their ways of expressing anger (Thomas,

1989). After a literature search showed scant previous research on women's anger, a

large-scale, comprehensive investigation was launched, guided by a conceptual model

(Thomas, 1991). It was framed within the research strategy that Coward (1990) called

"critical multiplism"

FORGIVENESS

Clinton, Tim, and Ron Hawkins. 2009. The quick reference guide to biblical counseling.

Nashville, TN.

http://www.treating-cancer-alternatively.com/God-Heals.html

One of the first questions that comes out of the mouth of he or she that was offender and

now have unforgiveness is; “Why should I forgive them, you don’t understand or know

what they did to me; “you don’t know how much they hurt me”. What it all comes down

to is “We have a choice to forgive”. On pg 123 in the chapter we see that forgiveness is a

state of resentment, bitterness, hatred, hostility, anger, fear and stress towards an

individual who has transgressed against another in some way. Clinton gives realistic

portraits of events that may occur that courses these strongholds in people’s lives; this is

what I like about this book. Yes unforgiveness or the inability to forgive does cause

sickness in the body, especially women.

Self-forgiveness: The stepchild of forgiveness sreseach; Fincham, Frank D. Journal of Social

and Clinical Psychology 24. 5 (Aug 2005): 621-637.

Fincham and Julie H. is there studies bring up an excellent point about forgiveness and

that is “Self-forgiveness. It is stated “To stimulate research on this topic, a conceptual

analysis of self-forgiveness is offered in which self-forgiveness is defined and

distinguished from interpersonal forgiveness and pseudo self-for-givens. The conditions

under which self-forgiveness is appropriate also are identified. A theoretical model

describing the processes involved in self-forgiveness following the perpetration of an

interpersonal transgression is outlined and the proposed emotional, social-cognitive, and

offense-related determinants of self-forgiveness are described. A lot of people stay in

unforgivness because they have not through about forgiving themselves.

GRIEF AND LOSS

Clinton, Tim, and Ron Hawkins. 2009. The quick reference guide to biblical counseling.

Nashville, TN.

http://voices.yahoo.com/15-comforting-bible-verses-grief-5613206.html?cat=34

Grief is intense emotional suffering caused by a loss. In my counseling I have come

across a counselee whom dint know he need to grief or should I say, he did not have time

to grief. A middle age male came in for additional counseling as he was encounting

problems in his second marriage. As he begins to go through his life events, it was

discovered he had no opportunity to grief. As On pg. 133, Clinton writes “It is a normal

predictable, expected and healthy reaction to a loss” The counselee lost his mother, a few

weeks later he and his wife of 24 yr devoiced; a few months later he was into another

relationship.

Linda Wasmer Andrews. Vol. 1. Santa Barbara, CA: Greenwood Press, 2010. pxxix-xxxvii.

Encyclopedia of Depression

In this article by Linda it speaks about grief caring the symptoms of depression. She

says; “At times, the emotional, mental, and physical responses to a loss may be numerous

and disruptive enough to meet the criteria for major depression. But given the

circumstances, these responses are often a normal, even healthy, reaction. They are a sign

that the survivor is acknowledging and coming to terms with a very upsetting loss. A

diagnosis of major depression isn't made unless the symptoms are unusually severe or

hang on for at least two months”.

ANGER

Clinton, Tim, and Ron Hawkins. 2009. The quick reference guide to biblical counseling.

Nashville, TN.

Clinton brought out some very good points about anger, whereas gange is mentioned in the

bible more than five hundred times throughout scriptures. It was time when God got anger;

“Then the LORD¹s anger burned against Moses and he said, "What about your

brother, Aaron the Levite? I know he can speak well. He is already on his

way to meet you, and his heart will be glad when he sees you." Exodus 4:14. Anger is a

God given power emoting. We get in trouble when repress or deny that we have an anger

problem and then we sin.

Deveau, Bruce. National Dragster 53. 17 (May 18, 2012): 130.

Deveau research puts anger as a negative because anger is perceived more a threat

along with unwanted emotions and anxiety. Which I can see the point that Deveau is

making. Deveau also makes this point; can we talk about anger? Can we talk about anger

without making ourselves angry? Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion.

As part of a series on key emotions, this month I look at a universal feeling that can drive

great performance and also cause unbelievable destruction. What is anger? Anger is one

of our most basic emotions. It is a call to action but not the action itself.

APPENDIX C

1) The overarching goal/purpose for my personal life is: To be all that be all that God has call

me to be for His Glory. To continue be Isaiah 16:1 man of God.” The Spirit of the Lord God

is upon me “Because the Lord has anointed me to preach good tiding to the poor; He has sent

me to heal the brokenhearted; to proclaim liberty to the captive, and opening of the prison to

those who are bound. My goal and call is to reach the un-reachable, to go beyond the 4 walls

of the church and preach the gospel in the highways and the byways. I like to make this

statement whenever I am speaking. “If Jesus was to return or get off the airplane right now,

where would He go? Not to the church building, but to the highway and the byway. This is

also what our ministry is all about

2. My three highest spiritual gift tendencies are: Encouraging/Exhorting, Teaching, and

Administration/Ruling. This means I also tend to be more Encouraging, In-dept and

Initiator

3. The overuse of these gifts sometimes makes me Talks to much, Dig to deep, and expect to

4 My highest personality profile plotting point in Graph 1: D Graph 2: C. This means I

tend to be ; In Graph 1 it states; Dominating, Influencing, Inducing, Determined,

Decisive, Doing. In Graph 2 It states; I think people expect me to be direct, submissive

and competent, but I tend to be passive, but I sometimes surprise people with my

dominant ways

5The overuse of this type sometimes makes me; In Graph 1 it says I think people expect me

to use me power and authority, but sometimes I will overdo it.

6 most obvious combination personality and spiritual gift type (relational style) is: C . Which

my Spiritual Gifts are Encouraging/Exhorting; Teaching and Administration. A Behavioral

Blend “This is expected of me: D and This is me: C/S/D

7 To communicate and relate with others more effectively I should learn other people

person personality.

8 My greatest blessing and/ or struggle concerning my giftedness is me being able to

analze, improve, discern, calculate, follow directions, do the right thing. Some of the

struggles are becoming moody, critical, contemplative, negative and worrisome

9 I should guard or improve my following spiritual gift tendencies by loosen up,

communicate, be joyful, positive, tolerant, compromising, open, trusting, and

enthusiastic.

10 I should guard or improve my following personality tendencies by don’t always be

pessimistic and hard to convince and increase my faith in God and trust those I follow.

11 I will check/control my relational style, in order to demonstrate fit with a relational style,D

through the following strategy: I need people, relaxation is not a crime, some controls are

needed, everyone has a boss, self-control is most important, focus on finishing well is

important, sensitivity to people’s feelings is wise.

12 I will check/control my relational style, in order to demonstrate fit with an relational style,I

through the following strategy: Take time to manage, deadlines are important, too much

optimism can be dangerous, being responsible, is more that being popular, listening better

will improve one’s

13 I will check/control my relational style, in order to demonstrate fit with a relationalC

style, through the following strategy: total support is not always possible, through

explanation is not everything, deadlines must be met, and more optimism will lead to

greater success

14 I will check/control my relational style, in order to demonstrate fit with an relationalS

style, through the following strategy. Total support is always possible through

explanations is not everything.

15 To grow more spiritually, I will utilize the following spiritual disciplines: Jeremiah 1:5

“Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the

womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.” (KJV)

16 To avoid and resolve conflicts more effectively, I will covenant with God to engage the

following protocol: Go to the Lord in prayer, Psalm 139:23-24: Search me, O God, and

know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way

in me and lead me in the way everlasting.

17 My prayer in discovering my relational style and demonstrating fit through my life and

profession/ministry is: Allow the Holy Spirit to control my personality.

APPENDIX D

Week 1

Reference: According to Benner (2002), and the statement made on pg 17, Christian friendship

is both important and possible because it has its sources in God. The Christian doctrine of the

Trinity places friendship at the very heart of the nature of God. “It is the friendship that Jesus

asks us to show to one another”.

Reflection: This statement encourages me that we all must show the friendship, the same

friendship as Jesus did.

Relocation: As I move through this learning journey, I ask the Lord God to show me my pit

falls towards others that I may think not to have it all together or that is different from me so that

I may show the love of the Father by allowing it to reflect from me. For this to become a reality

in my life I have to remember 1 John 4:7; “Beloved let us love one another, for love is of God;

and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God”

Week 2

Reference: According to Oates (1962) make the statement “The pastor can rely on the Spirit of

God to help both parties in the counseling relationship know what to say and when to say it

Reflection: As I read this quote from Oates, it not only encourage me by it gives conformation

that He will never leave you or forsake you regardless where you are or what you may be doing.

The Holy Spirit is always with you.

Relocation: When I am in a counseling session with a counselee, and he or she finish talking, in

the nature I don’t know what to say, but the Holy Spirit gives me what He wants me to say.

Matthew 10:19-20, when they deliver you up, do not worry about how or what you should

But

speak. For it will be given to you in that hour what you should speak; for it is not you who

speak, but the Spirit of your Father who speaks in you. Before each session, we must seek the

wisdom and direction from the Holy Spirit.

Week 3

Reference: Benner (1983) the pastor comes alongside someone to give support. God Himself

is pictured as the God of all coming alongside

Reflection: We must all understand the God ordained man to bring forth His word, to give

direction, and comfort. But we can’t get God and man mixed up; man is man and God is God.

We truly have to depend on the Holy Spirit to start and complete the finish work in our lives

when we are going through a lost of a love one, lost of jobs, relationships, etc. Jesus it the author

and the finisher of our faith; Hebrews 12:2; Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our

faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set

down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Relocation: In 2 Corinthians 1-3 the Bible says; Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord

Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort; Who comfort us in all our

tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort

wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God. For as the sufferings of Christ abound in us, so

our consolation also abound by Christ. And whether we be afflicted, it is for your consolation

and salvation, which is effectual in the enduring of the same sufferings which we also suffer: or

whether we be comforted, it is for your consolation and salvation.

Week 4

Reference: According to Thomas (1999), we look at Exploring Feeling, which may be one

most important factor to counseling. This statement was made, “The pastor’s empathic posture

means that the confusion, hurt, or other disruptive feelings are held and in some cases absorbed

by the pastor. This is what is meant to bear one another’s burdens.

Reflection: This statement is very well true. If there is no empathic posture or attitude towards

what the counselee may be saying, you may loss the trust in that person all together. In the

counseling session, we must carry one another’s burden; but the key is to leave that burden after

the session is over.

Relocation: I am counseling with a couple but at this time separate. She, in the past has

encountered a great deal of pain hurt and confusion from her past relationship, which is a carry

over into her present relationship marriage). For the client to open up completely, (which she is

doing) I am showing empathic through my actions as well as the tone of my voice. In Galatians

6:1-3 let us take a look at version 1-3; Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who

are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be

tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks

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himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. We are no better than our

Brothers and Sisters.

Week 5

Reference: According to Oates and the statement made on pg 69, “A related role of the Holy

Spirit in pastoral counseling is indicated in the promise that the Spirit will bring to mind all that

Jesus has taught”

Reflection: This statement encourages me just to know the we do have a helper, someone to

teach up the way, the truth and the Life

Relocation: As I move through this learning journey, I thank God for all the promises that He

has promise me which will take me to the next level in knowing Him. In John 14:26; But the

Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you

all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.

Week 6

Reference: In Solution-Focused Pastoral Counseling, Kollar stated “ It did not fit their rules and

regulations. To many of them it was as if they were entirely deaf (pg 13). “Because of our fixed

way of thinking, we often miss out on discovering future possibilities”

Reflection: This statement encourages me because in time we all need to stay silent and listen

to what the Holy Spirit is speaking to us about. I find myself gong before God and then asking

God for His direction.

Relocation: As I move through this learning journey, I thank God for my chastisement. This

comes from not listening to His. Today I have learned to listen to the voice of God because of

the relationship I have with Him today. Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be

exalted among the nations; I will be exalted in the earth!”

Week 7

Reference: In Solution-Focused Pastoral Counseling, Kollar stated Pg 96, “Within the most

serious situation, the way out will always include positive emotional support”

Reflection: This statement encourages me because as I reflect back during counseling session

when I know this person has and is still going through painful events in their lives; I try and stay

positive and cheerful regardless of what is happening. I pray; Father keep me with an

understanding heart towards others along with a giving heart, which is your heart in the name of

Jesus.

Relocation: As I move through this learning journey, I thank God for giving me wisdom and

understanding when people are going through hardship in their lives. Today I have learned to

that a “merry heart does good, like medicine, But a broken spirit dries the bones” (Proverbs

17:22). In other words, the heart is the centre of your life, and the condition and the tone of the

heart communicates to this life, even to its outermost boundary; the spirit is the power of self-

consciousness which, according as it is lifted up or broken, also lifts up or breaks down the

condition of the body

REFERENCES

Benner, David G. 2003. Strategic pastoral counseling: A short-term structured model. 2 ed.

Grand Rapids: Baker Publishing Group.

Bridges, Jerry. (1988). Trusting God. Colorado Springs: NavPress

Clinton, Dr. Tim, and Dr. Ron Hawkins. 2007. Biblical counseling quick reference guide:

Personal and emotional issues. United States: AACC Press.

Covey, Stephen. 1989. The 7 habits of highly effective people. New York: Simon and

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:http://www.ecounseling.com/articles/630. Accessed July 2, 2009.

Dempsey, Rod. 2006. Small group leadership training From: bb7.liberty.edu. accessed July

23,2009.

Hawkins, Ron. 2007 Pastoral Assessment Model. HTML Hyper-flash audio file.

From: bb7.liberty.edu. First accessed June 27, 2009, Last accessed July 9, 2009.

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SOLUTION ASED HORT-B , S -TERM P C (SBBPC)ASTORAL OUNSELING

FINAL P G RROJECT RADING UBRIC

The following represents an additive grading rubric. Instead of beginning with 200 and losing points for

errors, you begin with a 0 and earn points for your work. In determining your grade, three questions will

be asked:

QUESTION VALUES TOTAL 200 POINTS

INTRODUCTION OF SBBPC? Question Value: 10 Points

Abstract: Did it introduce context (4), overarching goal (4), and

identify care seeker (2)? Points: 5

Table of Contents: Organized with appropriate headings &

subheadings (10), References (4), each Appendix

identified (12), and Grading Guideline (4)? Points: 5

PART 1 OF SBBPC: The Counseling Setting? Question Value: 60 Points

Introduction: Overview of SBBPC w/rationale (20) & assumptions (20) Points: 20

Pre-session Package: Essential elements introduced, adequately

prepared, & located in Appendix: Ethical

Guidelines; Intake Form; Informed Consent (included

confidentiality covenant & explanation of note

taking/record keeping, tasking, and referral process)? Points: 15

Annotated References of 5 subjects: 3 Required - grief, anger, forgiveness;

2 student’s choice; and 10 annotated entries/2 per subject? Points: 10

Journal: Minimum of 7 substantive entries (Wk 1-7 = 1 per week) Points: 15

PART 2 OF SBBPC: The Counselor’s Style? Question Value: 40 Points

Identified relational language, described relational style (integrated

assessments and course materials)? Points: 20

Explained plan for controlling Relational Style utilizing course resources

and placed Action Plan Worksheet in Appendix? Points: 20

PART 3 OF SBBPC: The Counseling Strategy/Structure? Question Value: 40 Points

Phase 1: Use of assumptions, clear distinction of phase, aim, role and goal,

skill set used to demonstrate fit in aligning w/counselee’s style? Points: 10

Phase 2: Use of assumptions, clear distinction of phase, aim, role and goal,

pastoral assessment, skill set used in collaborative goal description and

identification of strengths and resources? Points: 10

Phase 3: Use of assumptions, clear distinction of phase, aim, role and goal,

skill set used in collaborative development of vision clarification? Points: 10

Phase 4: Use of assumptions, clear distinction of phase, aim, role and goal,

skill set used in consolidating change, and partnerships activated to

support and secure change? Points: 10

PART 4 OF SBBPC: The Counseling Summation? Question Value: 50 Points

Satisfactorily discussed the versatility of the supportive feedback

technique? Points: 10

Satisfactorily developed a procedure for reflexive praxis (10),

identified/secured a Mentor/Friend (5), and developed debriefing

guidelines (10)? Points: 25

SBBPC project was written according to graduate-level expectations,

Formatted according to Turabian (7e) Reference Style Guidelines,

utilized required resources and at least two secondary sources, with

Appendix (single-spaced) and not more than 40 pages (in its entirety)? Points: 15

Grade: Comments:

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