Running head: THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO MARRIAGE MENTORING 1
Summary
A 4-MAT Review System: The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring
Diane Jaynes
Liberty University
THR COMPETE GUIDE TO MARRIAGE MENTORING 2
The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring by Les & Leslie Parrott, came straight
from their hearts. They encourage individuals to become marriage mentors founded on the Word
of God (Parrott, 2005). As Christians, we need to wage a war on divorce and empower couples
to build rock solid relationships (Parrott, 2005).
One of the main things that the authors discuss in this book is The Marriage mentoring
Triad. The triad has three important aspects to it and they are as follows:
Preparing: Most couples view their wedding as a culmination of a courtship process. But in
reality, it is just a beginning. It actually starts a lifelong partnership (Parrott, 2005). Mentors can
help engaged and newly married couples cultivate positive habits right from the start, that eill
pay off for them may years in the future (Parrott, 2005). This point in the couple’s relationship is
a great opportunity for Mentors to help them develop healthy habits that will last forever and
prevent a lot of sorrow and pain in the marriage(Parrott, 2005).
The objective for marriage is not to avoid conflict. If managed correctly, conflict can assist
with constructing resilient marriages (Parrott, 2005). Conflict is the cost smart couples pay for a
heightening appreciation of closeness (Parrott, 2005).
Maximizing is the aspect in mentoring that assist with reinforcing and inspiring
established marriages (Parrott, 2005). Many couples have good marriages. But mentors can be
of assistance with creating great marriages (Parrott, 2005). The mentor can start out by asking
the couple the question of “What would make me a better spouse this week?” and have each one
to write it down (Parrott, 2005).
Proverbs 4:25-26 King James Version (KJV) says: “25. Let thine eyes look right on, and let
