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Integration of Spiritualty and Counseling (Liberty University)

Running head: DEVELOPMENTAL ANALYSIS 1

Developmental Analysis

Liberty University

college. I supported myself by working fulltime as a restaurant manager while attending one

class at a time. Even though my classes were paid through an Indian tuition scholarship, I found

that paying for my own expenses proved too much. I began focusing on succeeding at work and

pushed school off for a time. Through a series of God-orchestrated events, I met my future

husband. We were engaged for about a month and were married. We were both foolish in our

spending and our time, that left us drowning in debt and arguments. My parents were still

married but my new husband’s parents were on their second marriage each.

to the Lord and needed a change. Finding a Bible-teaching church was a challenge, but God

provided. We each knew that we wanted a better life and needed the wisdom to make the

together. How can giving our money to the church keep the already stretched ends meeting? It

was a question that God was not only going to answer, but He was going to open up the

floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing on our family, that there was not enough

room for it (Malachi 3:10). And He did.

life tended to be very black and white, letting authority figures decide right from wrong. As

grade advancement occurs, life seems to coincide with the second step, prelegitimate

multiplicity (Broderick, 2015, p. 421). Life became a confusing set of questions, such as what

will I become? I felt like an adult, but the insecurities quickly set in as to what was I going to do

with my life.

On its heels, is the third step, early multiplicity (Broderick, 2015, p. 421). During this time of

demi-adulthood, friends were having abortions while rationalizing the correctness of ending a

life because of the inconvenience of it. Others were contemplating marriage and still others

were graduating from college only to work at the movie theaters. It was becoming apparent that

my decisions now would affect the rest of my life. Quickly moving into the 4th stage, late

(Broderick, 2015, p. 421). I drove a roommate to a clinic as she tried to convince me that if the

different from this day onward. The fifth step is contextual relativism, this is where God showed

decided to follow the Lord. I read the Bible, I prayed, and I asked for forgiveness. Shortly

commitment, multiple commitments and resolve (Broderick, 2015, p. 421). This is where my

and freedom. He also gave us 3 wonderful children, who follow the Lord and have the boldness

Adult Attachment and Relationships

initially fit into the anxious-ambivalent type (Broderick, 2015, p. 446). During high school and

after, I was engaged in a relationship that was wrought with disappointments. Being involved in

a sinful relationship seemed fulfilling at the time, it quickly became an atmosphere of hatred and

mistrust. Personal insecurity became a way of life, always questioning if I was enough, and as it

turned out, I was not. Looking back, I believe that this miserably failed relationship had less to

do with an attachment prototype and more to do with God’s refusal to bless where He was not

honored. After finally removing myself completely, I was able to give my life to the Lord and

wait for the husband that He had predetermined I would be with today. My strength became

lifelong relationship between a parent and a child (La Valley, Guerrero, 2012, p. 1). While this

study may be accurate, it was definitely the norm growing up with an alcoholic parent. There

seemed to be a constant barrage of verbal attacks by all family members, resulting in hurt

feelings. My marriage began in a similar state of conflict, neither of us knowing how to argue

constructively. According to the research on dyadic relationships, I would have been the

insecure partner who chose a secure partner to marry (Broderick, 2015, p. 449). Physical

intimacy was supreme as we enjoyed each-other’s company. Once married, though young, our

relationship added a stability that was not present before. This was important, because we both

worked full- time opposite shifts, rarely spending a lot of time together. The arguing began and

seemed to never end, it was always the same discussion. The issue seemed to stem from unwise

back and forth between shift changes. After finally having enough conflict, we decided to seek

with, but now that we were married, God would bless where He was honored. After, committing

for each other’s feelings. It took counseling to teach us how to communicate effectively, in love.

that insecure attachments breed insecure attachments and change is not normally experienced

Ironically, there was healing in our relationships with our parents, where the secure attachment

it must meet or exceed preconceived notions of expectation, regardless of pay (Bender,

satisfaction is achieved when the demands match individual’s characteristics (Broderick, 2015,

creative interests (Broderick, 2015, p. 455). In the exploratory stage, my career choices were

455). I am currently in the establishment stage, however, the need for full-time employment is

owns a small construction company and I manage the rental units that we own. I work full time

for the county, which provides insurance and excessive amounts of time for continuing my

education or doing my personal paperwork. I am extremely satisfied with my job at this stage,

though my job can be boring at times, it is a blessing for this stage of life.

Identity Development

I want to give to the next generation (Broderick, 2015, p. 469). I would agree with the findings

financially. The need to give to others, I believe, comes from a life given to the Lord. I do not

our family has purchased water-holding tanks for impoverished communities in Nicaragua. It

easily fill. We have purchased 12 tanks so far and plan to continue once the social unrest in

Nicaragua has ended. In this way, long after I am gone, several families will continue to have

the ability to store clean water during the rainy season to prepare for the yearly drought.

Personality and Temperament

(Broderick, 2015, p. 484). I do agree with Broderick’s suggestion that traits can change through

the years, as I grew up displaying a more neuroticism type of personality (Broderick, 2015, p.

children, 19 and 20-year olds living in our home, is a test of character for all of us. As the adult

children attend college and pursue their own interests, there is a pulling and pushing of authority

and autonomy. I am no longer a mother who manages every aspect of their lives. They each are

learning to self-manage their time, finances, and spiritual life. My husband and l often leave our

individual decisions. I get excited when I hear stories of how respectful my children behave

around adults. I also enjoy hearing that my children feel secure enough to pray with people in

their work environments.

Culture, Religion and Well Being

being in our lives (Broderick, 2015, p. 533). I would agree with his assessment of needing to

have a purpose in life. Though I believe that through the years, my purpose has changed from a

stay-at-home-mother to a well of emotional support for my family. The second reason for

seeking purpose is to define a sense of meaning (Broderick, 2015, p. 533). While having control

over my future is an illusion, I do feel that I have a much-needed position in this family that only

as life groups through the church. Having a secure position in a life group gives stability and

value to me and my husband as we grow older. I believe this is why the Bible has many verses

about remaining in fellowship and prayer with other believers such as Acts 2:42. I also believe

money in one’s bank account or the number of new cars parked in the driveway (Broderick,

2015, p. 534) However, as I age, I find true happiness is found in relationships and in generosity.

It has taken many years to get to the point where I could get over my own selfish needs and

wants and focus on others. Modern culture would suggest that happiness is found in more stuff,

but I found that while I love a new pair of matching shoes and handbag, the joy received is

extremely temporary. Lasting joy comes from purchasing a basket of food for an elderly person

or buying eggs from a neighbor who is supplementing their income.

(Broderick, 2015, p. 556). My parents are well into 70s and still have a daily work-out routine.

moderate movement will stave off disability and disease in the older years (Morely, 2017, p. 1).

their mature years. I have a habit of eating raw vegetables for lunch. Because I sit in an office all

day, I try to make a habit of walking throughout the day, even if it is just around the office.

well is being intentional about caring for our bodies before they begin to break down (Broderick,

2015, p. 557).

child to a married couple who dated at 13, married at 18, and decided to stay married to this day.

This proved that staying married was possible through thick and thin. She moved to Detroit to

begin an adventure after high school. She met and married her boss, Ron, after a month-long

engagement, an impossible feat, but for the Lord. The happy couple moved around the northern

states until finally settling in Holland, Michigan. The Lord blessed with the birth of two children.

Always ready for the next adventure, the third child arrived while living in Florida. Shortly after,

a year-long work trip in the Virgin Islands would forever change their lives. A love for the ocean

cause that came her way. She will forever be known for her love for the Lord, her husband, her

children and her generosity to the poor. She will be greatly missed by friends and loved ones.

Her favorite bible verse is “But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s