CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
IX. What role can the church play?
A. Face the issues
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
Sibcy
46. What drugs are most prevalent among kids and teens today? How are they getting
them and why are they most prevalent?
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
Sibcy
47. What are the general rules parents should be aware of in preventing drug and
alcohol use in their kids? What role can the church play?
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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