CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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55. Provide a safe place for them to talk
56. Recognize your children are also struggling during a divorce or hard time
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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D. Find a mentor or coach to work with your kids
V. Signs and symptoms child is in distress
A. Changes in behavior, relationships, and performance at school
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
50. Isolation
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51. Outbursts of anger or deep sadness
52. Drugs of choice
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needs.
CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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3. Prescription drugs sold at school by other students
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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32. Prescription drugs
VII. General rules parents should be aware of
A. Keep computer screens in the house exposed at all times
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
B. Parents own addictions/ behavior
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passed onto children
C. Go with your gut feeling and do not run from the issue
D. Scaring, punishing, or threatening your kids will not work
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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needs.
CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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F. Discuss your own failures in these areas with your kids; be honest
VIII. Steps to prevention
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needs.
CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
69. Education
70. Have conversations
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71. Seek education for yourself as a parent
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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