CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
Sibcy
Study Questions:
64. Who is more likely to be a child predator in the church—staff or volunteers?
Why should child abuse be a concern in the church?
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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65. How do we prevent child sexual abuse from occurring in our community?
What is the best way to train volunteers and paid staff?
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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66. What are the characteristics of a child predator? How do they think and act?
Do they prey on churches? If so, why?
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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Soul Care Notes:
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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Bibliography/ Reading List:
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De Becker, G. (1997). The Gift Of Fear. New York, NY: Dell Publishing.
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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Salter, A. C. (2003). Predator: Pedophiles, Rapists, And Other Sex Offenders : Who They
Are, How They Operate, And How We Can Protect Ourselves And Our Children.
New York, NY: Basic Books.
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