Accompanying a Friend, A Walk with Jesus
Shinda L. Weldon
Apologetics 220 Introduction
November 22, 2023
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Introduction
As a Student of Apologetics, traveling alongside a friend, “Joseph,” who leans toward
secularism, on his quest to understand some of his issues with Christianity, the best approach to helping
him gain clarity is to start from the inside out. At the same time, it examines judgmental attitudes and
intolerance and then moves on to sexual ethics. We will engage these topics by using the inside-out
employing these concepts to explore various viewpoints. One may believe it is vital to establish a solid
foundation of mutual understanding and respect, regardless of our differing beliefs and perspectives. Our
goal is to create a safe and inclusive space where we can openly discuss and explore your concerns about
Christianity while sharing our perspectives respectfully and constructively. 1
Our approach will be grounded in defending and explaining Christian beliefs while allowing
each other to have an open and honest dialogue to examine topics such as judgment, attitudes, intolerance,
and Christian sexual ethics. By adopting this lens, we hope to gain a deeper understanding of Christianity
and foster mutual understanding and respect. As students of Apologetics, we are committed to engaging
in these discussions with an open mind and a willingness to learn from one another. We look forward to
exploring these important topics together.
1 Josh Chatraw and Mark D. Allen., Apologetics at the Cross, 2018). Tone and contextualization
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Accompanying a Friend, A Walk With Jesus
Acknowledging that judgmental attitudes and intolerance are not exclusive to Christianity is
important. Instead, they are universal traits of humanity because we live in a fallen world of sin. Romans
3:23 (English Standard Version) states, "We For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." To
understand this concept better, we can refer to research by Azab, who states, "It is impossible not to judge
people because our reflexive brain involuntarily spews mental computations such as making judgments
about people's race, sex, and religious affiliation.” 2 This is a natural human trait, whether consciously or
unconsciously—according to Chartraw, “ Bible teaches us not to judge others. And who can say they are
good or bad? I am doing what I feel is right.”3 Joseph, recognizing our tendency to judge everything
would be a fair statement. Acknowledging limitations or imperfections can help us tolerate what we do
not understand or disagree with. This recognition can lead to understanding and personal growth.
Also, my friend, you were curious about the conduct of Christian sexual ethics, like other
religious ethical systems, which offer a framework for understanding and guiding human sexual behavior.
These ethics are founded on the religion’s fundamental beliefs regarding the nature of humanity,
relationships, and the divine. For Christianity, sexual conduct is typically understood within the context of
marriage and is guided by values such as love, respect, and commitment. However, there may be
variations in how different Christian denominations and individuals interpret these principles. It is crucial
to have open and respectful conversations about these topics, as it can help prevent unwanted diseases and
unplanned pregnancies.
May we learn from history that in the pre-Christian world, Roman men were highly tolerated for
seeking sexual pleasure in disrespectful ways. However, as time passed, people started developing
apologetics to find the truth, leading to a realization that a more moral and safer world was necessary.
2 D. Azab Marwa Ph., "Why is it Impossible to Not Judge People," Psychology Today, Oct 2,2, 2016,
3 Chatraw, Apologetics at the Cross, Why It Matters
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Discussing these issues can help individuals make informed decisions, understand their bodies better, and
recognize the importance of consent.4
Regarding the “Inside Out” approach, this method encourages us to step inside another
worldview, look at its beliefs, show where those beliefs fall short and are inconsistent, and offer the
Gospel in its place. In this case, we can see that while there are valid criticisms of how some Christians
behave, these behaviors do not align with the core teaching of Christianity; furthermore, while the
Christian sexual ethic may seem restrictive from a secular perspective, it can also be seen to promote
health respectful relationships.
In his writing, Keller distinguishes two types of Christian doctrines. The first type, which he
categorizes as A, consists of widely accepted doctrines across cultures and societies. These include
principles such as love and acceptance, which are fundamental to the Christian faith. The second type,
which he labels B, comprises doctrines that may be more difficult for a specific culture or society to
accept. These can include teachings on topics such as the Christian sexual ethic, which may conflict with
the cultural values of some civilizations.
Christianity is a diverse religion with a vast array of belief systems, each with its own doctrines
and practices promoting specific values and principles. Despite their differences, both A and B doctrines
are part of the same Christian worldview, emphasizing the importance of fostering love, respect, and
dignity for all individuals, regardless of their cultural background or societal status. The complexity and
richness of these belief systems reflect the diversity of human experiences and demonstrate how religious
beliefs can shape our understanding of the world around us.
However, there is a significant communication gap between the Christian and secular
perspectives, which hinders the promotion of these fundamental values and principles. Therefore, it
becomes imperative to explore ways to bridge this gap without compromising the core values and
4 Kevin Deyoung, Sexual Morality in the Roman Empire
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principles stated by Timothy Keller. If we are willing to change our mindsets across generations, we can
initiate change and promote a better understanding of the Christian worldview.5
Conclusion
As an enthusiastic student of Apologetics, I am fully committed to expanding my knowledge and
personal growth. This study has been a fascinating journey, providing me with numerous insights and a
deeper understanding of my faith. Throughout this process, I have learned to maintain an open-minded
approach and welcome innovative ideas without compromising my beliefs or God's teachings. I am
thrilled to continue exploring this subject matter, as there is always more to learn and discover. I aim to
become a well-informed, thoughtful individual who can contribute positively to society and make a
meaningful difference in the world. As Keller stated, there is a need for change and new growth, and it is
essential to fill the gaps within the churches. Objecting to new church planting is baseless because it does
not necessarily cause discontent among the old members.6 In John 15 verse two (ESV), God reminds us of
the importance of pruning the garden to make way for new growth. Sometimes, we must cut back to start
anew and experience a revival in our lives. Humanity often makes complicity out of simplicity. Approach.
Come with confidence, Teach the truth. God rises victoriously. John 3:16 (ESV) God loved his children;
He gave his only son; those who believe in Him shall live forever.
5 Timothy Keller, "Why Plant Churches?", accessed 11/23/, 2023, change our mindsets across
generations
6 "Why Plant Churches?", accessed 11/23/, 2023, Plant Churches Because We Want To Continually
Renew The Whole Body Of Christ.
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Bibliography
Azab Marwa Ph., D. "Why is it Impossible to Not Judge People ." Psychology Today, Oct 2,2, 2016.
Chatraw, Josh and Mark D. Allen. Apologetics at the Cross 2018.
DEYOUNG KEVIN. The First Sexual Revolution: The Triumph of Christian Morality in the Roman
Empire Kevin Deyoung, 2019.
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