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Shilagh A. Mirgain and James V. Cordova. “Emotion skills and marital health: the association between observed and self reported emotion skills, intimacy, and marital satisfaction.” Journal of social and clinical psychology, (2007) vol. 26, no. 9, pp. 983–1009. EBSCOhost

The article explains several statements on the various factors affecting the emotional intelligence among a given person. The emotional intelligence of a person is state to have great influence in the person’s interaction skills with others. Mirgain and James suppose that emotional skills are essential to healthy functioning of intimate relationships. This was proved by various experiment to prove how these emotions affect the intimate relationship. The article explains different kind of codes of emotional control that individuals may apply in order to establish high emotional intelligence even when in interpersonal relationships. Benign control in delivery is one of the emotional control codes mention by Mirgain and James and it explains that a person to soften the delivery of an emotionally negative message. This involves the ability of a person to be able to express emotions in a careful and peaceful way to the other partner. This helps to build high emotional intelligence between the person and the partner during the conflict or disagreement. Additionally, benign control in receipt is another code in the emotional control and it gives insight on how a person manages hurting or irritating messages from another partner. The person even though being hurt, he or she is able to respond positively or neutrally to the involving emotions something that provides an opportunity to hear and learn the reason behind the emotion and deal it with a proper way.

Additionally, Mirgain also discusses the emphatic skills code in the process of building high emotional intelligence among the involved partners. This involves the emphatic concern where the partner communicates and express the experience feeling of compassion and sympathy. In addition, perspective taking is also important emphatic code since it helps the partners to consider the involving emotional feeling from the other party’s point of view and avoid self-defense when in wrong view.

This article is important to my research since it gives many ways that people can improve their emotional intelligence. By using the following idea such as the emotional control codes where peoples in conflict may use benign control in delivery and receipt of emotion. This will help one to develop positive emotion and response to the other people and this build high emotional intelligence. Beside this, the emphatic codes such as perspective taking and empathic concern will help one to view the other people’s point of view and this will help to control emotion and thus to lead a person to have high emotional intelligence building.

John, O.P., and Gross, J. J. “Healthy and unhealthy emotion regulation: Personality processes, individual differences, and life span development.” Journal of Personality , 72, (2004). 1301–1333, EBSCOhost.

The article explains different concepts on how people improve their emotional intelligence. This article explain the regulation a person can have to the pattern of personality, behavior and emotional skills within the person himself or herself. This regulation determines the person’s emotional value whether he or she will have high emotional intelligence or low emotional intelligence. John and Gross explain the correct ways which people can regulate their emotion in a healthy or unhealthy manner in order to establish high or low self-esteem. The ability to regulate these emotions usually affects the person’s way of life that involves the way he or she will interact and relate to other individuals in the society. The article explains the reappraisal aspect in the regulation of peoples’ emotions. One perceives this way a given emotional event and how he or she may be able to change this aspect in correct cognitive skills to avoid ending up in low self-esteem. This reappraisal is more important in the development of a person’s emotional regulation profile. This is to say the reappraisal boost short-term affective actions to a person. If the person is able to regulate the emotions in healthy manner, he or she increase high self-esteem due to the affective effect. This involve cognitive skills and sociological skills that increase interaction skills.

Beside this, John and Gross suppose that regulating of body emotions is through the person’s ability of suppression. This involves the act of forcing one’s emotions and feelings to follow a well-defined direction. For instance, this may be evident when a person avoids acting under the influence of anger by regulating the feeling in healthy manner. This promotes high self-worth in the person since he or she is able to avoid fight that may result to low image associated with the person. This act is seen as suppression of the anger feeling by the person forcing the emotional feeling not to control him or her such that it promotes high self-image in the person. Therefore, people actions and abilities to healthy regulate their emotions promotes high emotional intelligence than those regulating their emotions in unhealthy manner.

This article is important to my research since it provides a wide range of concepts that explains how people may raise their emotional intelligence. The environmental conditions to which people live are faced with a variety of problems. This includes challenges, fight and disagreement. For a person to maintain high self-esteem and personality, he or she has to trust the information from the article. This article provides information on how to regulate emotions and feelings in healthy manner to enhance high self-esteem. The concept of reappraisal and suppression helps to increase one’s self-esteem and hence the article is relevance to my topic.

Justin Bariso. “How to increase your emotional intelligence. A short guide to start making emotions work for you, instead of against you.” (2016).online article

The article provides ways through which people may be able to control and improve their emotional intelligence. This is through identifying one’s feelings as well as those of others to understand how these feelings might change and develop events. The understanding of these feelings will help to guide on the reasoning on how best to deal with the emotion according to one’s and others’ point of view. Again, Justin explains the influence of other persons’ views in the emotional intelligence. Here, the individual in question should engage others to get the correct way to control or deal with the feelings because people think differently from different perspectives. This will prevent the person from acting under the influence of anger and in turn failing to maintain the high emotional intelligence.

Justin also discusses the various steps one can take in order to efficiently control the emotions. This is through observing your emotions and pause to allow thinking before you act. This helps to increase the chances of acting properly and not with anger influence. Beside this, the involved persons need to understand why they act or respond in the way they intent to. After this, they will be able to practice the steps severally and this will achieve to high emotional intelligence.

This article is important and relevant to my research topic since it gives steps that people may follow to ensure they maintain high emotional intelligence. The steps provided will guide my article research through which personal interactions and feelings may be dealt with. People have to understand their emotions from both their point of view and that of others that they may have the clear direction on dealing with the emotion. Therefore, this article provides guidelines on how to deal with emotions and feelings.

Work cited

Shilagh A. Mirgain and James V. Cordova. “Emotion skills and marital health: the association between observed and self reported emotion skills, intimacy, and marital satisfaction.” Journal of social and clinical psychology, vol. 26, no. 9, 2007, pp. 983–1009.

John, O.P., and Gross, J. J. “Healthy and unhealthy emotion regulation: Personality processes, individual differences, and life span development.” Journal of Personality , 72, (2004). 1301–1333.

Justin Bariso. “How to increase your emotional intelligence. A short guide to start making emotions work for you, instead of against you.” (2016).online article