choosing a friend

Choosing friends

Summary

According to the article, there are times when friends become more than even family members. This is because when with friends, people tend to have a freer environment which does not have a hierarchical system and because of this, people are free when they are with friends than when with anyone else. Friendship in most cases depends on similarities of the people involved. Such that people who have similar characteristics are tied and are likely to be friends than when there are differences. However, there are a few cases when the differences can also bring people together, such a sin introverts and extroverts, where there is interdependence to a given degree.

Even in such friendships, communication should be well developed with the friends being active listeners to each other and appreciating each other. They have to offer advice to each other without fear or anything and they have to be ready to apologize and forgive, always taking equal rights. Hey should be true during hard times as this is when true friends are known, and they should also be trustworthy and loyal. In fact, there are many other qualities which are used to measure good friendship, where communication is a big variable.

Feelings and opinion

I seem to strongly agree with the article, because in many occasions, it is similarities which bring us together, and that friendships are either short lived or long lived. Those which are long lived are the ones we can actually depend and can count on. However, even when the friends are close, the communication passed between them should be a sort of respect to each of them, appreciating the other partner, apologizing when there are problems, and many more variables of communication such as active listening and giving as well as taking equally. These are the variables that make a friendship sustainable. In the family, good upbringing of children prepares them to face life in the future in a more responsible way.