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week_6_prevention.ppt
Prevention & Intervention
Contents
- Your Actions
- You Should…
- You Should Not…
- Four Antidotes to Bullying
- Response to Bullying
- When to Step In
Your Actions: You Should…
“I hear you; I am here for you; I believe you; you are not alone in this”
Listen
- People feel better after talking.
- You gather the “who, what, when, where”
- You see the extent to which the persons well being has been effected.
Your Actions: You Should…
“It is not your fault.”
Assure the victim that as a person they do not warrant the demeaning actions of a bullying.
Your Actions: You Should…
“There are things you can do.”
- Reassure them they are not helpless or hopeless.
- Assist them in coming up with a plan to:
- Assertively stand up to the bully.
- Take power back.
- Develop personal skills or gifts.
- Help the victim analyze their choices and options – eliminate those that would worsen the situation.
Report bullying to school personnel, or people in charge.
- Know the facts
- Date, time, place, those involved.
- Specifics of the incident.
- Impact on the victim you are helping.
- Teachers and support staff must all be aware of situation. Only way to establish consistency.
Your Actions: You Should…
Minimize, rationalize or explain away the bully’s behavior.
- What are some things people say to try and rationalize bullies behavior?
- By rationalizing the bully’s behavior you are showing the victim they truly are in the situation alone.
- May add credence to the view some victims hold of it being their fault.
Your Actions: You Should Not…
Rush to solve the problem for them.
- May add to a victims feelings of helplessness.
- May show the bully that the victim is helpless.
- Adults and/or authority figures should create an environment intolerant to bullying, confront it when they see it, but more importantly teach victims appropriate responses to remedy the situation on their own.
Your Actions: You Should Not…
Your Actions: You Should Not…
Don’t tell the victim to avoid the bully.
- You are inadvertently telling the victim to continue running and hiding.
- Bullies recognize this fear and the cycle generally continues or worsens.
- Ok to solve immediate danger – NOT a long term solution.
- Asking victims to change their actions to accommodate a bully lays the burden on the victim.
Your Actions: You Should Not…
Don’t tell victim to fight back.
- This teaches victim that fighting is the only answer.
- Defend themselves and be assertive – this usually means using their heads and feet – not fists.
- Being smart and assertive counteracts bullying better than trying to fight.
~ 10 Reasons Activity ~
Four Antidotes to Bullying
Strong Sense of Self
- People who see themselves as capable, competent, cooperative, responsible, resourceful, and resilient are less likely to become both victims and bullies.
- Possessing such a view of oneself will minimize the chance of being bullied, but more importantly will decrease the risk of them succumbing to the bully.
Strong Sense of Self Cont.
- Victims who see themselves positively are more likely to see the bullying as the bullies fault – if the victim sees themselves negatively, they are more likely to view the bullying as their fault; continuation of the cycle and depression is more likely to follow.
- Encouraging a strong sense of self :
- Victims should use positive self talk and self affirmation – say it & believe it!
- Give unconditional love and encouragement.
- Train Assertiveness ( as opposed to aggression or passivity)
Four Antidotes to Bullying
Being a Friend
- Preemptive assertive action – be friendly with a potential bully.
- Agreeable children are more likely to have other children reciprocate.
- Friendship skills – prevents bullying, buffers against negative effects of bullying, assists in coping after bullying.
- Kids who irritate peers are at risk two fold. More likely to be bullied and more isolated from compassionate peers.
Four Antidotes to Bullying
Having at least one good friend
- Willing to support you even in difficult situations.
- Bullied individuals need the support of others, most valuable is the support of people who do not suffer from the same type of bullying.
Four Antidotes to Bullying
Successfully Joining a Group
- Teaching kids how to join a group (socially or in play) is important.
- Evaluate group first – can I be good, do good, will good, as part of this group?
- Observe, ask a question, say something positive, ask to play or join, cooperate, play fair, share, resolve conflicts effectively.
- Kids are less likely to be alone and bullies will have less opportunity.
- A persons response to bullying should focus on their skills.
- Verbal: Assertiveness, dissuade bully, sway bystanders to their side.
- Social: Support of friends – chosen activities outside of bullies influence.
- Creativity / intellectual: Write or draw about it – good outlet, reduces emotional vulnerability.
Response to Bullying
When to Step In
Some times people need direct assistance.
- When a person has exhausted all of their other options.
- Their connection to you is one of their strengths.
- You should: Speak with authority figures; Have a problem solving approach; avoid framing situation as “good guys vs. bad guys”.
Questions, comments, thoughts?
~ Line Up Activity ~
