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week_1_bullying_defined.pptBullying:
Types of Bullying
- Physical
- Verbal
- Relational
Physical Bullying:
- Used more often by boys.
- Most visible and readily identifiable.
- Less than 1/3 of reported bullying is this type.
- Hitting, slapping, kicking, choking, twisting limbs etc.
- This type of bully is the most likely to move on to more serious criminal offenses.
Verbal Bullying
- The most common form of bullying.
- Used equally by girls and boys.
- Accounts for the majority of reported bullying cases.
- Easy to get away with – whispered without detection.
- Name calling, taunting, racism, rumors, gossip.
Relational Bullying
- Most difficult to detect.
- Used to alienate and reject.
- Exclusion, shunning, isolating, ignoring, ostracizing.
- Subtle gestures, aggressive stares, sneers, snickers, hostile body language.
- Bullies
- Victims
- Bystanders
Three Categories of Participants
The Bully
Can we not teach children, even as we protect them from victimization, that for them to become victimizers constitutes the greatest peril of all, specifically the sacrifice – physical and psychological- of the well-being of other people? And that destroying the life or safety of other people, through teasing, bullying, hitting, or otherwise “putting them down”, is as destructive to themselves as to their victims.
-Lewis P. Lipsitt, Brown University (May 1995)
Bullies
- Many different types
- Big, small, intelligent, unintelligent, popular, unpopular.
- You can not tell a bully by appearance, you can tell a bully by his actions.
- Bullies take conscious, willful, deliberate action against others to cause pain and distress.
The Victim
I shall remember forever and will never forget
Monday: my money was taken.
Tuesday: names called.
Wednesday: my uniform torn.
Thursday: my body pouring with blood.
Friday: it’s ended.
Saturday: freedom
The final diary pages of thirteen year old Vijay Singh. He was found hanging from the banister rail of his home on Sunday.
- Neil Marr and Tim field,
Victims
- Come in many shapes and sizes.
- Identified as different in some way by the bully; in the bullies mind the victim is worthy of their aggression.
- Different can be real or imagined.
The Bystander
“When the dignity and safety of an individual is assaulted, the dignity and fabric of the group as a whole is diminished.” - William M. Bukowski,
“We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men; and among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects.”
- Herman Melville
Bystanders
- The third group in a bullying incident
- Types of Bystanders
- Active supporters: like bullying and actively support the bully
- Passive Supporters: like bullying but take no action to support the bully
- Disengaged Onlookers: “none of my business”
- Possible defenders: Dislike bullying and want to help the victim, but do not act
- Defenders: Dislike bullying and act to help the victim
- Have a substantial effect upon the frequency and severity of bullying.
A solution?
- Is there a solution to this age old problem?
- Can we alleviate the burdens of bullying?
We can make progress towards reducing the severity of bullying.
To be most effective there must be a holistic approach to addressing the problem and to creating a solution.
Prevention, Intervention, Postvention
Final Thoughts…
- Bullying will not be completely eradicated.
- Because of the profound mental, emotional, and sometimes physical effects it has upon the participants, the problem must be addressed.
- The choice to reduce bullying is worth the time and effort for in succeeding the lives of many will be improved – for some, dramatically.
