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ch4_assment_.pptxDanah aldossary
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Lina Alkhatib
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Self-Understanding
The outline
Monitoring the egocentrism in your thought and life
Making a commitment to fair-mindedness
Recognizing the mind’s three distinctive functions
Understanding that you have a special relationship to your mind
Summary
Monitoring the egocentrism in your thought and life
One of the fundamental challenges most humans face in developing is that our lives are dominated by egocentric
thought and related emotions .
Egocentricity: the tendency to view everything in relationship to oneself, to confuse immediate perception (how things seem) with reality, to be self-centered, or to consider only oneself and one's own interests; selfishness; to distort(ruin) reality" in order to maintain a particular viewpoint or perception.
We seek long-term gratification based on an essentially
selfish perspective. We are not concerned with whether our perceptions or meanings are accurate, though we may think we are. We are not concerned with personal growth, self insight, or ultimate integrity, though we think we are. We are not deeply motivated to discover our own weaknesses, or self deception. Rather, we seek to get what we want, avoid the disproval of others, and justify ourselves in our own mind.
The tendency for humans to think egocentrically means that: we have little or no real insight into the nature of our own thinking and emotions.
For example, many of us unconsciously believe that it is possible to acquire knowledge without much thought that it is possible to read with- out intellectual exerting energy, and that good writing is a
talent one is born with- not a product of practice and hard work.
Consequently, we tend to evade(avoid) responsibility for our own development. We do not seek to learn new ways of looking at things. Much of our thinking is stereotype and simplistic, yet our egocentrism prevents us from recognizing this.
These inner thoughts can have a negative effect on our relationships, success, growth, and happiness. It is not possible to get beyond the egocentrism that you and I inherit as human beings by ignoring our ego or pretending we are decent(kind) people. We can restrain our egocentrism only by developing the habits that enable us to do so.
We all want to see ourselves as ethical persons. Yet through our egocentrism we often behave in ways that are blatantly unethical
Making a commitment to fair-mindedness
One way to begin to confront(face) our own egocentrism is by exploring the extent to which we have allowed our identity to be egocentrically shaped.
For example , we are all born into a culture, a nation, and a family.
Our parents inculcate into us particular beliefs (about the family, personal relationships, marriage, childhood, obedience, religion, politics, schooling, and so on).
We form associations with people who have certain beliefs (which they have encouraged, or expected, us to accept).
We are a product of these influences. Only through self understanding can we begin to be more than a product of influences.
If we uncritically believe what we were taught to believe, these beliefs are likely to become part of our egocentric identity. When these beliefs become our identity, they affect the manner in which we believe.
For example, consider these egocentric standards, which we humans often use to determine what to accept and what to reject:
“It's true because I believe it.” we think people are correct when they agree with us.
“It's true because we believe it.“ we think that the group which we belong is correct.
“It's true because I want to believe it.” when we believe what coincides with what we egocentrically want.
“It's true because I have always believed it.” when we believe what coincides with beliefs that we have long held.
“It's true because it is in my selfish interest to believe it.” when we believe what coincides with beliefs that advance our wealth, power even if they conflict with ethical principles.
recognizing the mind's three distinctive functions
Thinking
Feeling
wanting
recognizing the mind's three distinctive functions
Understanding the you have a special relationship to your mind
We change undesirable feelings and desires by changing the thinking that is leading to them.
I think…
I want…
I feel…
DOING
summary
1- Beginning to Understand Egocentrism: Humans seek to get what they want. 2- Our thoughts should be divided into two categories. 3- The mind's 3 main functions: Thinking, Feeling, and Wanting. 4- By taking command of our thinking we can take command of all three functions of the mind.
