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1A. What is your "I can't" communication behavior?

A. I can’t sit back and listen to someone lie when I know they aren’t telling the truth.

When I know some isn’t telling the truth it is hard for me to sit there and just listen to them lie. One thing that I do when I know someone isn’t telling the truth I tend to make facial expressions and I start doing other things to avoid the rest of the conversation. Sometimes I also cut people off and let them know what they are saying isn’t true and tell them to provide facts to back their statements up.

This morning I had a conversation with my daughter about a jacket that I had hanging up in the closet that I could not find and I searched all over looking for. When I asked her about a week ago has she seen my jacket she said no. Today I found my jacket in the dryer with the rest of her clothes and asked her where my jacket was? She stated that it was hanging up in the closet and she decided to wash it. Now this was the same closet I checked about 4 times that has a few things hanging in it and nothing on the floor. I knew she was lying because I went to her room and saw it laying on the floor but didn’t question her about it.

B. I can’t stop feeling nervous when I talk in a group of people I don’t know

Whenever I have to talk to a group I always tend to get nervous. I try and prepare my words in my head and replay it, but when I see a crowd my thoughts become very cloudy, and must of what I wanted to say comes out garbled up and I can’t stay on topic.

On job interviews I tend to be very strong and showing an employer I’m the man for the job. But once I had to interview in a group I felt lost and confused I was unable to stay on topic, and I was worrying about what everyone else was thinking of me which I guess I lost focus on the interview.

C. I can’t talk to people when I’m at social event if I don’t know anyone

It is very hard for me to communicate to someone if I don’t know them. Normally I have to watch someone’s actions in order for me to decide if I want to talk to them. When I go to places such as lounges and company events I usually try and stay to myself unless someone makes contact with me.

An Example of this is when I went to a company event that celebrated me being in the top 5% of my company where we went out to dinner at Dave & Busters after the dinner I decided to leave and not stay for the games because I didn’t have anyone that I was close to.

D. I can’t make eye contact when talking to people

One of my biggest problems is making eye contact with people when I am talking not that I’m really afraid to but it’s mainly a comfort thing when it comes to me. I have a lazy eye so sometimes my eye wonders and I don’t want people to say that because I feel as if they are going to pass judgement on me or make fun of me. As I have grown up I have become more comfortable with it, but it’s still a struggle.

1B. What is your "I won't" communication behavior?

· I won’t make eye contact when talking to people

· I won’t talk to people at social events

With these two situations it has been something that I have been working on. I do believe anyone can do anything. I had a basketball coach that use to tell me there is no such thing as can’t and he’s right there are people out there that are capable of doing the impossible with nothing but they have the drive to prove others wrong. It’s all about building up the confidence in yourself to do the things you feel you can’t.

1C. What are your "I don't know how to" communication behaviors?

· I don’t know how to sit back and listen to someone lie when I know they aren’t telling the truth

One thing I must learn is that even though I know someone isn’t telling the truth just sit back and listen, without forming and opinion. On the very few occasions that I was able to do it I found there stories to be very entertaining and funny based on how serious the lie was. I believe this is something that can be changed.

· I don’t know how to stop feeling nervous when I talk in a group of people I don’t know.

This has been something I have been unable to stop, as I know that it is a problem that I need to fix.

1D. Write a narrative describing how you eliminated those that remained in the "I don't know how to" category to decide on the one issue you selected for your project.

I have decided to eliminate I don’t know how to sit back and listen to someone lie. What I have decided to keep for my project is I don’t know how to stop feeling nervous when talking to a group. Why I kept this issue is because in the business I want to go into, I have to be able to broadcast my message to groups of people. I want to be able to start a youth center and teach kids about being financially responsible. With that being said I have to learn how to effectively be able to communicate the message I tend on delivering.

1E. A clear statement of the communication behavior you will address with this project.

In this project I am going to address my fear, which is talking to a large group of people. In order to help me out with this I am going to create a plan when I can prepare myself to overcome my nerves. One way I can start is to practice at work when we have our morning huddles, so I can start building up my confidence with public speaking. Comment by tyvon holmes: