help please

Action Plan Paper Instructions (Individual) Learning Objectives for Action Plan Paper

At the end of this assignment, the student will be able to


1. Identify his or her strengths and weaknesses in a conflict situation. 2. Identify the steps that might be taken to improve his or her conflict skills Instructions.

Instructions: Over the first week of class, observe your conflicts and fill out the conflict

worksheet/record for each one. After, review the records created to see how they compare with each

other. In essay form, describe the way in which you usually approach conflict, making sure that you

address the following questions. Do not, however, simply answer each question separately. Develop an

essay that answers these questions as it unfolds. Required length: 5 pages, and sample plan worksheet

(example below). 


1. Do you feel confident when you enter conflict situations, or do you feel that your behavior leaves something to be desired? Use examples of your behavior to support 
your claims. 


2. What are your strengths and weaknesses in conflict situations? Use examples of your behavior to support your claims. 


3. What behaviors would you most like to address during this course? Here are some suggestions: • Gaining a sense of responsibility for one’s own feelings • Increasing perspective-taking skills, so that the other person’s perception of 
the situation can

be better understood 


• Learning how to determine whether a conflict should be confronted or avoided 
 • Avoiding destructive conflict patterns 
 • Recognizing motives in conflict situations • Understanding how relationships affect conflict behavior 
 • Recognizing the variables that affect conflict (like power and trust) and how to respond to them • Analyzing conflicts so that a wider array of choices become available 
 • Increasing anger management skills 
 • Learning to control verbal aggressiveness • Learning how to ask others for change • Increasing empathic listening skills • Learning to de-escalate destructive conflict • Learning how to let go of grudges (forgiveness skills) 


4. Give a rationale for choosing the skills that you do, identify the specific behaviors you wish to change, explain what you will do to effect change in these areas, and explain how you will know

whether you have achieved your goals. Include a typed version of your worksheet with your essay. 


Sample Action Plan Worksheet (Please include this within your paper) Specific Skill for Improvement

Steps to be Taken to Improve It

Means of Assessing Progress

1. I want to control my anger

better in conflict situations.

1. I will take a deep breath and let

it out before I say anything.

2. I will count to ten before saying

anything.

3. I will use “I” statements to

express my feelings because

shouting “I feel really angry about

this!” at the top of my lungs

sounds dopey.

1. Is my accountability partner noticing

fewer outbursts on my part?


2. Have I felt more in control in conflict

situations?

3. Has my score changed on the

Novato anger scale?

2. I want to improve my ability

to deal with a difficult person in

my living area.

1. I will find a way to “reframe”

this person’s actions so that I can

find something positive about

them rather than thinking of them

negatively.

2. I will purposely think of an

optimistic way of explaining

this person’s behavior when I

don’t understand it rather than

finding a pessimistic reason for

thinking s/he has acted a

particular way.

1. Am I able to remain patient

with
this person more easily than

before?

2. Am I finding ways not to be irritated

by this person?


3. Am I recording fewer conflicts with

this person?

3. I want to work on the habit of

seeking to understand others

first.

1. I will not say things like, “You

shouldn’t feel that way.”

2. I will ask the other why he or

she feels the way s/he does.


3. I will make sure the other is

finished talking before I explain

how I see the situation.

1. Do my journal entries reflect a

tendency to hear the other out before

talking?


2. Do others think I am becoming a

better listener?

3. Am I utilizing the habits of good

listening outlined by Nichols and

avoiding the habits of bad listening he

identifies?