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Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument

“Partner about Me”

Instructions

Consider the situations in which you find your wishes differing from those of ______. How does ______ usually respond to such situations? On these two pages are several pairs of statements describing possible behavioral responses. For each pair, please circle the "A" or "B" statement which is most characteristic of ______'s behavior. In many cases, neither the “A” nor "B" statements may be typical of ______'s behavior; but please select the response which ______ would be more likely to use.

1. A. There are times when ___ lets me take responsibility for solving the problem.

B. Rather than negotiate the things on which we disagree, ___ tries to stress those

things upon which we both agree.

2. A, ___ tries to find a compromise solution.

B. ___ attempts to deal with all of his/her and my concerns.

3. A. ___ is usually firm in pursuing her/his goals.

B. ___ might try to soothe my feelings and preserve our relationship.

4. A. ___ tries to find a compromise solution.

B. ___ sometimes sacrifices his/her own wishes for my wishes.

5. A. ___ consistently seeks my help in working out a solution.

B. ___ tries to do what is necessary to avoid useless tensions.

6. A. ___ tries to avoid creating unpleasantness for him/herself.

B. ___ tries to win her/his position.

7. A. ___ tries to postpone the issue until he/she has had some time to think it over.

B. ___ gives up some points in exchange for others.

8. A. ___ is usually firm in pursing her/his goals.

B. ___ attempts to get all concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

9. A. ___ thinks that differences are not always worth worrying about.

B. ___ makes some effort to get his/her way.

10. A. ___ is firm in pursuing her/his goals.

B. ___ tries to find a compromise solution.

11. A. ___ attempts to get all concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

B. ___ might try to soothe my feelings and preserve our relationship.

12. A. ___ sometimes avoids taking positions which would create controversy.

B. ___ will let me have some of my positions if I let him/her have some of his/hers.

13. A. ___ proposes a middle ground.

B. ___ presses to get her/his points made.

14. A. ___ tells me his/her ideas and asks me for mine.

B. ___ tries to show me the logic and benefits of her/his position.

15. A. ___ might try to soothe my feelings and preserve our relationship.

B. ___ tries to do what is necessary to avoid useless tensions.

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16. A. ___ tries not to hurt my feelings.

B. ___ tries to convince me of the merits of her/his position.

17. A. ___ is usually firm in pursuing his/her goals.

B. ___ tries to do what is necessary to avoid useless tensions.

18. A. If it makes me happy, ___ might let me maintain my views.

B. ___ will let me have some of my positions if I let ___ have some hers/his.

19. A. ___ attempts to get ail concerns and issues immediately out in the open.

B. ___ tries to postpone the issue until he/she has had some time to think it over.

20. A. ___ attempts to work through our differences immediately.

B. ___ tries to find a fair combination of gains and losses for both of us.

21. A. In approaching negotiations, ___ tries to be considerate of my wishes.

B. ___ always leans toward a direct discussion of the problem.

22. A. ___ tries to find a position that is intermediate between his/hers and mine.

B. ___ asserts her/his wishes.

23. A. ___ is very often concerned with satisfying all our wishes.

B. There are times when ___ lets me take responsibility for solving the problem.

24. A. If my position seemed very important to me, ___ would try to meet my wishes.

B. ___ tries to get me to settle for a compromise.

25. A. ___ tries to show me the logic and benefits of her/his position.

B. In approaching negotiations, ___ tries to be considerate of my wishes.

26. A. ___ proposes a middle ground.

B. ___ is nearly always concerned with satisfying all our wishes.

27. A. ___ sometimes avoids taking positions that would create controversy.

B. If it makes me happy, ___ might let me maintain my views.

28. A. ___ is usually firm in pursuing his/her goals.

B. ___ usually seeks my help in working out a solution.

29. A. ___ proposes a middle ground.

B. ___ thinks that differences are not always worth worrying about.

30. A. ___ tries not to hurt my feelings.

B. ___ always shares the problem with me so that we can work it out.

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