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English 113A.

02/10/2014

Parents and Children

"I call her a lot, saying, 'Mom, how do I do this?' "Said Scott, 18. "Now that we have our own responsibilities, we appreciate their involvement more." Make our children depending on their self, will help them in their life. Having a responsibility is not something easy, if the child used to handle a heavy responsibility, he/she would get confidence in his/her life. Al the parents love their children and take care of them, but some of the parents are doing that more than the normal care. They think that it helps their children and the child cannot do his/her job by their selves. Excessive eagerness of parents may affect their children. Some of the parents are focusing on their children more than what the child need or can handle. Taking care of the child will affect him/her in the bad way. In the child life, he/she will face several problems. Although the parents want to take care of their children to success, but the child will depend on their parents all the time. Secondly, it is hard for the child to find friends. Third, even is short term thinking. However, reasonable care is how all the parents should treat their children to success in their life.

These days everything has come different like the culture, technology and transportation. The people came more focusing on education and jobs to get paid well and live better life. Most of us want that money and great job, but we must also make our children learn about our culture. Long time ago, the people were not interested on jobs because they do not have many jobs available. Most of them were farming or making breads. However, in the past especially in my country (Saudi Arabia) the people were sending their children to Bedouin tribes to learn hunting, speak classical Arabic, rid hours and other thing like make fire or how to cook. There were a group of people who drive their children from city to city approximately every 6 months. Since they arrive there, they will start doing everything by their self. When they came back to their family, their parents were proud of them. These children had learned by them self and they became more depending on their selves. Make the children make their own path to get what they want.

Friendship is something important in this life. The friends have a lot of benefits like keep your secrets and help you when you are in trouble. Four Years ago, in Saudi Arabia my friend Mohammed had a car accident, and he were injured, fortunately I was there. His injury was double fracture in the bone, he could not walk. I took him right the way to hospital; he slept there around three days. After he got surgery, he could not walk for three and half months. His older brother was busy in his job, his father and mother are old and they cannot help him, he has nobody except me. So, he asked me to pick him up every day to school, I said sure and I took care of him for around four months. I used to carry his backpack when we were heading the class, he had been using crutches so that he could not carry his bag back. However, far from showing off and talk about myself, but a simple of one of many benefits that you can get from a friends. With helicopter parents is hard to build a friendship, it is kind of weird and awkward. Also, the parent has different way to think, so sometimes they will not accept what their child want or like to be a friend with. However, the way that the parents act could make the child feels no comfortable for his personality. The parents should notice that some of the children shy when their parents kiss them in front of their friends, and some parents do not care about if his child shy or not, they just want to show their expression.

For success in this life surly you must think about your future. When I said think, it is different than worry, because worries may drag you down and make you confused. However, thinking about the future and having time to organize your thoughts can give you a good result. Yet, there are two ways for thinking the first one is long term thinking and the second is short term. Generally the long term is to plan for all life and that kind of thinking makes you schedule your time and goals to what you have decided. The other side is short term and it is kind of thinking that for a period of time, like focusing on college or until their children got job. In other word, have their parents thought what is going to happen after they leave their children to choose their path? Also, can they imagine how can they handle it after they leave their children? Since we all know if you are concerned with something for long time it is hard to just trend around and leave it.

Even though there are people could say that the helicopter has many benefits. For example, experience, it shows the good relation between the family and the student will feel more comfortable, their parents will support their children all the time, but the consequence is very. Well, Elijah Scott, a Cal State L.A. freshman from Monterey, Calif., said he finds himself wanting his mother's input more now that he is away from home and facing bigger decisions. How would he make these decisions without his mom? Having someone stand by you all the time is good for support or advice you. What is coming after that is the important thing that we should think about to safe our children in the future.

In conclusion, all the parents should take care of their children in a reasonable way. We all know that the parents have experience and some of them maybe helicopter parent not voluntarily, but they should not force their children to study any major the parents want. The parent should advice their child and gives him what they really want. The friendship also has many significant effects well in the child. In another word, the friend is not doing that to help your child, it is the friendship, and friends help each other. Also, some parents should have a special courses to learn how advice their children to the good path. There are people how are educated to teach how to guide you child to the way that you want him to take.

*Work Citation

Adapted from “College Freshman Okay with Parental Watchdogs, Survey Finds” Larry Gordon and Victoria Kim (Los Angeles Times, 1/24/2008)