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Naif Alharbi

K. George.

English 101

March 17, 14

Early Marriage

Some individuals enter into marriage because of own will while others forced by their family. Marriage is a significant phase in life that most individuals value. Marriage is a responsibility that requires commitment and determination to withstand the obstacles that come along the way. It is crucial step for many people who choose to take this path. A Belief is basically a subjective feeling that one has about the validity of a set of facts or an idea. However, I believe that early marriages pose a great challenge to the society today. Many people believe early marriage it is a gate to a new life, but for me it is not a safe to take that step in your life.

My dad believes that getting married earlier one will not struggle because he believes that life is still easier the way it was during his time. He tells me that by marrying early one will be able to take care of his family while they young. He believes that each child comes with its own blessings. He tells me that providing to the family when one is young is very simple. He argues that youngness is strength I do agree with him but during their time economy was good and saving was simple. Getting married at the age of twenty-one in the current world is almost impossible. At this age many people are still in school and are very young to handle family issues. He tells me that by marrying early one get to know each other and know top handle each other this translates to a happy marriage. He also believes that when both the husband and the wife are young they can save for their future because chances are they are employed. His argument is they will have more time to enjoy together before death comes to separate them.

In the real essence marriage is an expression of affection whose ends are personal fulfillment. However, our body biological processes do not care how we feel as well as personal fulfillment. Many people believe having many children shows how rich you are. My dad strongly believes that a large family translates to future security. He believes that when one has many children they will provide to them in the future. My dad has a belief that with many children you are respected because chances are they will be important people in the society in different fields.

On the other hand my belief is that early marriage is not good as well as it is not possible for one to get married it is good to finish school because it is difficult for one to balance. School requires a lot of time and commitment. I do not believe that a person can make to take care of a family as well as concentrate with their education. The education curriculum in almost all countries in the world does not take less than twenty years. This makes one to spend a lot of time before completion of the curriculum. A person completes school at an age of twenty-five years because one goes to school at an age of five years. I do not believe one can have a successful marriage without education. School helps one grow physically as well as mentally this will enable then handle marriage problems. At this age this is precisely the time when a young person is getting prepared for future through their careers. School on the other hand is a form of family planning because a person spends their productive stage in school. Also, those who get married immediately after high school or college do not find time to enjoy their early adulthood. It is important to spend time with friends, family and oneself before the marriage responsibilities come knocking.

Getting a job is another thing that makes me believe early marriage is not good. Early marriage will not allow you to be flexible and it will limit you to one region because you do not want to go far from your family. Sometimes you are forced to go to another part of the country to seek for employment. Also your partner can influence the type of employment one takes. If a partner does not like the type on a job one has chances are they will advise you to resign and look for another job. Lastly some jobs are well paying but they are demanding in terms of time. A couple requires time together and this might not be possible with this kind of jobs. One requires establishing themselves in this kind of jobs before they engage in marriage commitment. Unmarried person is more flexible in terms of job seeking, one can a job from any part and at any time. Poor paying job means one will not be able to meet their daily expenses and therefore low savings.

Dating is very important I believe that a successful marriage requires this constantly as well as continuous perseverance care and effort. Dating will improve the level of commitment intimacy as well as cohesion within and outside a relationship. I believe that when people go on dates are enjoying their relationship and they feel more loved and special. Also, this makes them more optimistic about their current relationship as well as future marriage. Dating helps you know each other better and help you know how to handle each other. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and it requires time before getting into it. Dating makes marriage enjoyable and more fun. Marriage counselors say it’s important for people in a relationship to continue dating because this will keep a sense of freshness as well as adventure in their marriage. It is said that a relationship is worth effort.

Starting a family needs preparation one cannot get into a family before he is not ready. One needs to have a house either a rented one of a personal one. Also, one needs to have money to get the house as well as for buying food. A family requires a lot of saving because of its high expenditure. When your children attain an age of going to school it means your expenses increases and that you have to work harder. People planning to start a family must agree on some things for the number of children they are capable to raise, the kind of life they want to live, and the type of upbringing they will give their children. Those who get a family before they are not ready their marriage do not survive and they part of leaving their children to be single parented.

In conclusion I am not for early marriage because it has more shortcomings than advantages. The issue of a larger family is outdated because the economy of the current world does not allow larger families. And the larger family you have the more expenses and the less saving for future. with education life becomes a little bit easier because one will have a well-paying job. The time one spends in school gives them a chance to date and hence a strong relationship as well as a good family. All this will ensure a responsible up bring of children and hence a better future for the same children.