Unit 4.1 Discussion Board: Launching and Leaving 2 responses

1.  In my opinion, every child should have the opportunity to dorm at a college when they turn 18, if possible. This is because at that age, or even earlier, we begin to understand the world around us and have the choice to perceive it based on our life experiences and decisions. Being in college allows for independent freedom, which is crucial in discovering who you are and whether you feel secure or experience cognitive dissonance. As time goes on and you return home during vacations, and eventually graduate at 21-23, you will have the hindsight of the world and can choose the path you want based on the morals and ethics you have shaped from your family and your independent experiences.For young adults, the most functional pathway is typically their career. The work we do is usually based on the purpose we want to serve in society. Knowing and having an identity based on your career ensures a balance of self-acceptance, self-identification, and belonging.Not having much life experience, many young adults try to use values to guide themselves. They feel that problems can be solved by living in accordance with ideals rather than by acting in their own immediate self-interest. They are also often grandiose, feeling they can easily avoid the mistakes their elders have made. Although not fully mature, this arrogance may still be a necessary maturational stage on the way to developing true personal authority(McGoldrick, M., Preto, N.A. G., & Carter, B. A. (2015).

According to Erikson (1963), when an individual can evaluate their personal attributes and match them with the available outlets for expression in their environment, they have formed their identity. But if they cannot manage this developmental task, they experience role confusion. From Erikson's perspective, identity is a sense of who one is as a person and as a contributor to society (Hoare, 2002). It represents personal coherence or self-sameness through changing times, social change, and different role requirements. The formation of identity is a significant event in personality development and is associated with positive outcomes (Marcia, 1993). Identity provides a deep sense of ideological commitment, helps individuals know their place in the world, gives them a sense of well-being, a sense of direction in their life, and a sense of mattering to those who count (Erikson, 1968). It provides a reason to be and a sense of direction. Erikson believed that having a solid sense of identity is crucial for further development. However, not everyone successfully resolves this developmental task, and role confusion can lead to a very different human experience. Role confusion can cause individuals to question their essential personality characteristics, view of themselves, and the perceived views of others (Bosma et al., 1994).

2.  I can not believe we are already at the halfway point of this course. I must say I have been enjoying getting to converse with you all. This topic hits home all too well for me in my present life. I have three daughters that are at the ages of 20, 19, and 17. And this week we are talking about launching and leaving. 

What do you believe is the appropriate age for young people to be launched/leave home and establish their independence and autonomy?

The appropriate age for young people to leave home and establish their independence can vary based on individual circumstances, cultural norms, and personal readiness. I feel like in this topic all parent's perspectives are not ever the same. Separation anxiety can affect both parents and children.  Separation and individuation begin during adolescence as teens explore their identity apart from the family. Striking a balance between individuality and connectedness is crucial. (Daniel's,1990). Legally, the age of majority in most states is 18 years old. At the age of 18, individuals are considered adults and can make their own decisions, including where they live. High school graduation often marked the transition from childhood to adulthood. Young adults would leave home shortly after completing their education. However, societal changes and economic factors have shifted this timeline. Parents should prepare themselves emotionally for their teen’s departure. I think that a parent should consider their child’s maturity, responsibility, and desire for independence. There is no one-size-fits-all answer. The appropriate age for young people to leave home depends on a combination of practical readiness, emotional preparedness, and individual circumstances. Encouraging independence while maintaining a supportive environment is essential for a successful transition. 

What kinds of pathways do you believe are the most functional ones for young people to follow as part of the leaving home process?

When it comes to young people leaving home and establishing their independence, there are several functional pathways they can consider.  One of the practical and constructive options that I can think of is pursuing higher education by attending college or university is a common pathway. It provides an opportunity for personal growth, academic learning, and exposure to diverse experiences. Students often live on campus or in shared housing during their college years.  Not everyone chooses the traditional college route. So another pathway can be vocational schools offer specialized training in fields like mechanics, culinary arts, or healthcare. These programs can lead to stable careers and financial independence. Self-reflection and Goal Setting can be very important as well. Encourage young adults to reflect on their aspirations and set realistic goals. Each person’s path is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach. The key is to empower young people to make informed decisions, learn from experiences, and embrace their independence with confidence.

❓ Question to the Class: What are some challenges faced by young adults when leaving home?