Personality theory responses

6.2Discussion.FramingYourStory.Responses.docx

Read and respond to the two (Tyseon and Sherry) posts below.

Tyseon -Discussion

In the course, I've uncovered a significant aspect of my personality—I possess an innate desire to give to others. This revelation, though deeply aligned with my values, has introduced a nuanced challenge. The act of giving, which I hold dear, has unexpectedly become a double-edged sword.

There are moments when the disparity between my giving nature and the perceived lack of reciprocal affection triggers internal strife. If my need for affection isn't met, there's a tendency to believe that others only see me for what I can do for them. However, this insight prompts a crucial realization—I need to step back and recognize the various ways others express love, even if it doesn't align with my preconceived notions.

Expanding on this insight, my TED Talk and capstone project aim to explore the redefinition of success and the identification of internal motivators. In the TED Talk, I plan to delve into the diverse ways people define success, emphasizing the importance of intrinsic motivators. Personally, I define success by the impact I have on people's lives, a perspective influenced by my inherent desire to give. This narrative intends to prompt reflection within the audience, encouraging them to reconsider their own definitions of success and the motivations that propel them forward.

The discussion will not stop at defining success but will also address how this personality trait influences my journey. I'll shed light on the motivations derived from it and the obstacles faced, particularly when dealing with moments of perceived unreciprocated affection. By exploring these nuances, the talk aims to provide a relatable perspective on the complexities of defining success in a deeply personal way.

For the capstone project, a more in-depth examination of the obstacles arising from a giving-oriented definition of success is planned. This involves scrutinizing societal expectations, personal boundaries, and the crucial need for self-care in the pursuit of impacting lives positively. The ultimate goal is to develop practical strategies that empower individuals to align their actions with intrinsic motivators while navigating the challenges that may arise.

In weaving my personal journey, struggles, and triumphs into this narrative, the intention is to create a compelling and relatable discussion. By sharing my experiences, I hope to inspire others to reconsider their definitions of success and find fulfillment in their unique internal motivators. This approach aligns seamlessly with the course's emphasis on self-discovery and personal growth, contributing a nuanced perspective to the broader conversation on success and motivation.

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Sherry B – Discussion

I think that neuroticism is what sticks out most to me from everything in this course to deal with personality and personality traits. High levels of neuroticism is associated with nearly every single notable personality disorder and mental illness (Twenge & Campbell, 2020).

Many (including myself before this course) would consider this specific trait as inherent within themselves and something that they had no control over. However, putting to practice the idea of growth mindset will prove that new ways of thinking that are contrary to neurotic thoughts and actions are attainable by those who value the processes of life. When we really stop to think about life, what it entails and how it unfolds, it seems as though coming to the conclusion that it is nothing more than one big process is inevitable. Especially though the lens of faith in Christ, the life process is one of step by step transformation to His image (righteousness) by grace and perseverance. By focusing on each small gain throughout life, I believe that one could lower their level of neuroticism which would aid in prevention of mental illness and personality disorder.

Tied in with high levels of neuroticism in regard to prone-ness to pathology is lower levels of extraversion (Twenge & Campbell, 2020). This information is crucial in combating neuroticism as one could outsource provision of positive thinking and emotion by seeking out highly extraverted people to interact with and take in more positive thoughts and emotions.

I have been one to be very neurotic when thinking about others' thoughts toward me, motives of others, nature of people and most importantly--my own abilities and competence. I have really internalized the notion that by working to lower my levels of general neuroticism, I can become a more positive person, leading to more extraversion, leading to more connection and self-confidence in the feats I embark on. I have tried out so many different things that I was highly interested in, only to quit (blaming failure) because I didn't belong "there" and did not really know what I was doing. I was just pretending in my head. With growth mindset, I can re-frame those "failures" as learning processes and even pick back up where I left off, not feeling subpar, but understanding that I am just learning and sharpening skills. The worst thing that can be happening is that I am discovering that a certain thing may just not end up being something that I really want to do.

In his Ted Talk, Sir Ken Robinson mentioned that "Talent is often buried, you have to go looking for it" (TEDx Talks, 2014). I would relate this statement to active growth mindset because one would be digging within to unbury talent under neuroticism and high levels of introversion and messiness (low conscientiousness). This is how I feel I have been coming out of my shell and fully intend to share this in my public address via TED Talk/podcast.

References

TEDx Talks [TEDx]. (2014, September 16). Life is your talents discovered |Sir Ken Robinson | TEDxLiverpool [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLbXrNGVXfE

Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2020). Personality psychology: Understanding yourself and others (2nd Ed.). Pearson Education.

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6.1Discussion.DidI.Responses.docx

Read and respond to the two (Ashley and Christian) posts below.

Ashley- Discussion

Did I make a difference? I know that I did and I do. This week’s video, Veach (2018) asks us to question if we made a difference; have we been a friend to the outcast? I’d like to say “yes.” Take today for example; I went to Trader Joes after work to get some groceries. It was a beautiful fall afternoon, the air was crisp, and the sun was shining. There was a rather scruffy but kind-looking fellow playing an accordion of all instruments. It reminded me of something you would hear strolling the streets of Paris in autumn. It gave me a romantic and good feeling and I reached in my purse but had no cash. I got some cash when I purchased my groceries to give to him but he was not there as I walked to my car. As I was putting the grocery cart back, I spotted him and gave him some money. Upon getting close to him, he looked like he had been outside for months or years. He thanked me and said “God Bless you” several times. I do this kind of thing often. I don’t know his story but I still give; maybe he is trying to get money to fuel a drinking habit or maybe he genuinely needs money to eat. I just feel good when I give. Perhaps he was what Veach (2018) calls an angel unaware? My adult son was homeless for about 6 months a few years back. Thankfully, he is doing much better now. When I see someone outcast and downtrodden, I think that could be my child there hungry and needy.

With my job as a nurse, I know I have made a difference in the lives of people. I started my career as a pediatric nurse in a hospital and currently I work as a school nurse with middle-schoolers. I do not know what kind of impact I’ve had on others. I give medications, feedings, do assessments, administer first aid, take vital signs, give trainings, counsel students, be a listener to parents and staff, give advice; the list goes on and on. It’s impossible to know what specific things I’ve done that helped or made a difference. Maybe it’s taking that extra time to give a student some attention and praise or maybe it’s training the staff member who gave an EpiPen to a child having an allergic reaction in her classroom. Maybe it’s teaching someone to perform CPR or advocating for a child and making that Child Protective Services report. It’s just my job and I try to do it to the best of my abilities. Making a difference lies at the heart of what I do, but I don’t actively think about it. I think I fight for the vulnerable. I think that’s why I chose Nursing a career. What I would like to do to more often is focus more on others and less on myself. I often get busy and wrapped up in what I have to accomplish, and not take the time to talk with someone who needs it or to give my full attention when my children need support and a listening ear. I want to be more present in the moment and give my full attention.

References

Veach, T. (2018, April 9). Did I? [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUO8GQUbL8A

Christian K - Discussion

What have I done thus far in life that helps others?

a. What would I like to do more often to help serve others better?

I feel like I have done nothing in my time here on this earth. In the gran scheme of things I have only been here for a blink of an eyes worth of time. I feel as though if I have done anything in my life it is show people that there are other ways of doing or thinking about things. I have always been able to re-frame a problem, or look at things another way. I like to be able to see all sides of things, and look at things from different perspectives.

I would like to be able to offer more time to people. For the time being I do not have a lot of free time. I am asked a lot to help out others with many different things. I am fairly handy and also have a truck, so you can only imagine how many people ask me to help move things or go to Lowes. I love helping and doing things for others, especially when it comes to being handy. If I could do more woodworking projects for and with others I would be ecstatic.

6.2Discussion.FramingYourStory.Responses.docx

Read and respond to the two (Tyseon and Sherry) posts below.

Tyseon -Discussion

In the course, I've uncovered a significant aspect of my personality—I possess an innate desire to give to others. This revelation, though deeply aligned with my values, has introduced a nuanced challenge. The act of giving, which I hold dear, has unexpectedly become a double-edged sword.

There are moments when the disparity between my giving nature and the perceived lack of reciprocal affection triggers internal strife. If my need for affection isn't met, there's a tendency to believe that others only see me for what I can do for them. However, this insight prompts a crucial realization—I need to step back and recognize the various ways others express love, even if it doesn't align with my preconceived notions.

Expanding on this insight, my TED Talk and capstone project aim to explore the redefinition of success and the identification of internal motivators. In the TED Talk, I plan to delve into the diverse ways people define success, emphasizing the importance of intrinsic motivators. Personally, I define success by the impact I have on people's lives, a perspective influenced by my inherent desire to give. This narrative intends to prompt reflection within the audience, encouraging them to reconsider their own definitions of success and the motivations that propel them forward.

The discussion will not stop at defining success but will also address how this personality trait influences my journey. I'll shed light on the motivations derived from it and the obstacles faced, particularly when dealing with moments of perceived unreciprocated affection. By exploring these nuances, the talk aims to provide a relatable perspective on the complexities of defining success in a deeply personal way.

For the capstone project, a more in-depth examination of the obstacles arising from a giving-oriented definition of success is planned. This involves scrutinizing societal expectations, personal boundaries, and the crucial need for self-care in the pursuit of impacting lives positively. The ultimate goal is to develop practical strategies that empower individuals to align their actions with intrinsic motivators while navigating the challenges that may arise.

In weaving my personal journey, struggles, and triumphs into this narrative, the intention is to create a compelling and relatable discussion. By sharing my experiences, I hope to inspire others to reconsider their definitions of success and find fulfillment in their unique internal motivators. This approach aligns seamlessly with the course's emphasis on self-discovery and personal growth, contributing a nuanced perspective to the broader conversation on success and motivation.

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Sherry B – Discussion

I think that neuroticism is what sticks out most to me from everything in this course to deal with personality and personality traits. High levels of neuroticism is associated with nearly every single notable personality disorder and mental illness (Twenge & Campbell, 2020).

Many (including myself before this course) would consider this specific trait as inherent within themselves and something that they had no control over. However, putting to practice the idea of growth mindset will prove that new ways of thinking that are contrary to neurotic thoughts and actions are attainable by those who value the processes of life. When we really stop to think about life, what it entails and how it unfolds, it seems as though coming to the conclusion that it is nothing more than one big process is inevitable. Especially though the lens of faith in Christ, the life process is one of step by step transformation to His image (righteousness) by grace and perseverance. By focusing on each small gain throughout life, I believe that one could lower their level of neuroticism which would aid in prevention of mental illness and personality disorder.

Tied in with high levels of neuroticism in regard to prone-ness to pathology is lower levels of extraversion (Twenge & Campbell, 2020). This information is crucial in combating neuroticism as one could outsource provision of positive thinking and emotion by seeking out highly extraverted people to interact with and take in more positive thoughts and emotions.

I have been one to be very neurotic when thinking about others' thoughts toward me, motives of others, nature of people and most importantly--my own abilities and competence. I have really internalized the notion that by working to lower my levels of general neuroticism, I can become a more positive person, leading to more extraversion, leading to more connection and self-confidence in the feats I embark on. I have tried out so many different things that I was highly interested in, only to quit (blaming failure) because I didn't belong "there" and did not really know what I was doing. I was just pretending in my head. With growth mindset, I can re-frame those "failures" as learning processes and even pick back up where I left off, not feeling subpar, but understanding that I am just learning and sharpening skills. The worst thing that can be happening is that I am discovering that a certain thing may just not end up being something that I really want to do.

In his Ted Talk, Sir Ken Robinson mentioned that "Talent is often buried, you have to go looking for it" (TEDx Talks, 2014). I would relate this statement to active growth mindset because one would be digging within to unbury talent under neuroticism and high levels of introversion and messiness (low conscientiousness). This is how I feel I have been coming out of my shell and fully intend to share this in my public address via TED Talk/podcast.

References

TEDx Talks [TEDx]. (2014, September 16). Life is your talents discovered |Sir Ken Robinson | TEDxLiverpool [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLbXrNGVXfE

Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2020). Personality psychology: Understanding yourself and others (2nd Ed.). Pearson Education.

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6.1Discussion.DidI.Responses.docx

Read and respond to the two (Ashley and Christian) posts below.

Ashley- Discussion

Did I make a difference? I know that I did and I do. This week’s video, Veach (2018) asks us to question if we made a difference; have we been a friend to the outcast? I’d like to say “yes.” Take today for example; I went to Trader Joes after work to get some groceries. It was a beautiful fall afternoon, the air was crisp, and the sun was shining. There was a rather scruffy but kind-looking fellow playing an accordion of all instruments. It reminded me of something you would hear strolling the streets of Paris in autumn. It gave me a romantic and good feeling and I reached in my purse but had no cash. I got some cash when I purchased my groceries to give to him but he was not there as I walked to my car. As I was putting the grocery cart back, I spotted him and gave him some money. Upon getting close to him, he looked like he had been outside for months or years. He thanked me and said “God Bless you” several times. I do this kind of thing often. I don’t know his story but I still give; maybe he is trying to get money to fuel a drinking habit or maybe he genuinely needs money to eat. I just feel good when I give. Perhaps he was what Veach (2018) calls an angel unaware? My adult son was homeless for about 6 months a few years back. Thankfully, he is doing much better now. When I see someone outcast and downtrodden, I think that could be my child there hungry and needy.

With my job as a nurse, I know I have made a difference in the lives of people. I started my career as a pediatric nurse in a hospital and currently I work as a school nurse with middle-schoolers. I do not know what kind of impact I’ve had on others. I give medications, feedings, do assessments, administer first aid, take vital signs, give trainings, counsel students, be a listener to parents and staff, give advice; the list goes on and on. It’s impossible to know what specific things I’ve done that helped or made a difference. Maybe it’s taking that extra time to give a student some attention and praise or maybe it’s training the staff member who gave an EpiPen to a child having an allergic reaction in her classroom. Maybe it’s teaching someone to perform CPR or advocating for a child and making that Child Protective Services report. It’s just my job and I try to do it to the best of my abilities. Making a difference lies at the heart of what I do, but I don’t actively think about it. I think I fight for the vulnerable. I think that’s why I chose Nursing a career. What I would like to do to more often is focus more on others and less on myself. I often get busy and wrapped up in what I have to accomplish, and not take the time to talk with someone who needs it or to give my full attention when my children need support and a listening ear. I want to be more present in the moment and give my full attention.

References

Veach, T. (2018, April 9). Did I? [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUO8GQUbL8A

Christian K - Discussion

What have I done thus far in life that helps others?

a. What would I like to do more often to help serve others better?

I feel like I have done nothing in my time here on this earth. In the gran scheme of things I have only been here for a blink of an eyes worth of time. I feel as though if I have done anything in my life it is show people that there are other ways of doing or thinking about things. I have always been able to re-frame a problem, or look at things another way. I like to be able to see all sides of things, and look at things from different perspectives.

I would like to be able to offer more time to people. For the time being I do not have a lot of free time. I am asked a lot to help out others with many different things. I am fairly handy and also have a truck, so you can only imagine how many people ask me to help move things or go to Lowes. I love helping and doing things for others, especially when it comes to being handy. If I could do more woodworking projects for and with others I would be ecstatic.

6.2Discussion.FramingYourStory.Responses.docx

Read and respond to the two (Tyseon and Sherry) posts below.

Tyseon -Discussion

In the course, I've uncovered a significant aspect of my personality—I possess an innate desire to give to others. This revelation, though deeply aligned with my values, has introduced a nuanced challenge. The act of giving, which I hold dear, has unexpectedly become a double-edged sword.

There are moments when the disparity between my giving nature and the perceived lack of reciprocal affection triggers internal strife. If my need for affection isn't met, there's a tendency to believe that others only see me for what I can do for them. However, this insight prompts a crucial realization—I need to step back and recognize the various ways others express love, even if it doesn't align with my preconceived notions.

Expanding on this insight, my TED Talk and capstone project aim to explore the redefinition of success and the identification of internal motivators. In the TED Talk, I plan to delve into the diverse ways people define success, emphasizing the importance of intrinsic motivators. Personally, I define success by the impact I have on people's lives, a perspective influenced by my inherent desire to give. This narrative intends to prompt reflection within the audience, encouraging them to reconsider their own definitions of success and the motivations that propel them forward.

The discussion will not stop at defining success but will also address how this personality trait influences my journey. I'll shed light on the motivations derived from it and the obstacles faced, particularly when dealing with moments of perceived unreciprocated affection. By exploring these nuances, the talk aims to provide a relatable perspective on the complexities of defining success in a deeply personal way.

For the capstone project, a more in-depth examination of the obstacles arising from a giving-oriented definition of success is planned. This involves scrutinizing societal expectations, personal boundaries, and the crucial need for self-care in the pursuit of impacting lives positively. The ultimate goal is to develop practical strategies that empower individuals to align their actions with intrinsic motivators while navigating the challenges that may arise.

In weaving my personal journey, struggles, and triumphs into this narrative, the intention is to create a compelling and relatable discussion. By sharing my experiences, I hope to inspire others to reconsider their definitions of success and find fulfillment in their unique internal motivators. This approach aligns seamlessly with the course's emphasis on self-discovery and personal growth, contributing a nuanced perspective to the broader conversation on success and motivation.

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Sherry B – Discussion

I think that neuroticism is what sticks out most to me from everything in this course to deal with personality and personality traits. High levels of neuroticism is associated with nearly every single notable personality disorder and mental illness (Twenge & Campbell, 2020).

Many (including myself before this course) would consider this specific trait as inherent within themselves and something that they had no control over. However, putting to practice the idea of growth mindset will prove that new ways of thinking that are contrary to neurotic thoughts and actions are attainable by those who value the processes of life. When we really stop to think about life, what it entails and how it unfolds, it seems as though coming to the conclusion that it is nothing more than one big process is inevitable. Especially though the lens of faith in Christ, the life process is one of step by step transformation to His image (righteousness) by grace and perseverance. By focusing on each small gain throughout life, I believe that one could lower their level of neuroticism which would aid in prevention of mental illness and personality disorder.

Tied in with high levels of neuroticism in regard to prone-ness to pathology is lower levels of extraversion (Twenge & Campbell, 2020). This information is crucial in combating neuroticism as one could outsource provision of positive thinking and emotion by seeking out highly extraverted people to interact with and take in more positive thoughts and emotions.

I have been one to be very neurotic when thinking about others' thoughts toward me, motives of others, nature of people and most importantly--my own abilities and competence. I have really internalized the notion that by working to lower my levels of general neuroticism, I can become a more positive person, leading to more extraversion, leading to more connection and self-confidence in the feats I embark on. I have tried out so many different things that I was highly interested in, only to quit (blaming failure) because I didn't belong "there" and did not really know what I was doing. I was just pretending in my head. With growth mindset, I can re-frame those "failures" as learning processes and even pick back up where I left off, not feeling subpar, but understanding that I am just learning and sharpening skills. The worst thing that can be happening is that I am discovering that a certain thing may just not end up being something that I really want to do.

In his Ted Talk, Sir Ken Robinson mentioned that "Talent is often buried, you have to go looking for it" (TEDx Talks, 2014). I would relate this statement to active growth mindset because one would be digging within to unbury talent under neuroticism and high levels of introversion and messiness (low conscientiousness). This is how I feel I have been coming out of my shell and fully intend to share this in my public address via TED Talk/podcast.

References

TEDx Talks [TEDx]. (2014, September 16). Life is your talents discovered |Sir Ken Robinson | TEDxLiverpool [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLbXrNGVXfE

Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2020). Personality psychology: Understanding yourself and others (2nd Ed.). Pearson Education.

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6.1Discussion.DidI.Responses.docx

6.2Discussion.FramingYourStory.Responses.docx

6.1Discussion.DidI.Responses.docx

6.2Discussion.FramingYourStory.Responses.docx

6.1Discussion.DidI.Responses.docx