I would think that I'm a very indecisive person, so when it comes down to an important
decision that I have to make, I would definitely have to hear all the details having to do
with both sides of the decision. I like to be well educated in my decisions so that I know
exactly what I'm getting myself into. When making a decision I like to kind of run down
the pros and cons of each option fairly quickly as well as looking into the specific
reasonable outcomes to each decision made. The biggest decision I believe I've had to
make so far is when I decided to move out of my parents house. I had just finished
community college and was planning to transfer to a four year college however I took a
year off to work so that I could save up some money. Even though my parents still
offered for me to live at home rent free as usual I felt I needed to move out to mature
more and to start gaining some experience on my own. Looking back from a financial
standpoint, no I don't think I made the right decision because I could have been saving
on a lot of bills right now but, ultimately I believe it was worth it so that I could
understand what it is like to be independent. There was not to much emotion in my
decision, I'm not an emotional guy, however there definitely was a lot of communication
between my parents and I so that we could both understand what was going on which
really helped us to all feel more comfortable with the decision. At the time I'm battling
moving with back with mom and buying her house in the next 6 months as she relocate
to a senior living housing which I would love to keep my mom house but I don't know
if me and my family would be comfortable living with my mom. I decided not to move
with her about 3 months ago because, I have been living on my own 15 years with my
spouse and I feel we are use to our privacy and space. I definitely felt the decision I
made was reasonable at the time because to me it would be a hard transition that I
personally wasn't ready for. Emotions definitely played a part because I kept feeling like
I was too old to live with my mom even though it was going only be temporary , also I
thought I could just buy my own house it was all type of feelings and thoughts at the
time. I communicated with everybody my mom , my spouse , and my son who loves to
be at my mom house , and everybody was for the move i just wasn't ready at the time
that's what has me revisiting the opportunity at this present time. However I feel If I
hadn't let my emotions get the best of me I probably could be a smooth move and a
prosper future financially and I could be soon to a homeowner. When I make important
decisions I will usually weigh all of the options. I use emotion as a final step to coming
to some of the most difficult decisions that are pretty balanced with the pros and cons.
Right now I am debating whether I should quit my current job and start a better paying
job but I am not guaranteed to get the position. I am making enough to support myself
and have a little extra money for the things that I might want, but I am getting tired of
how my store manager and the owner want things to be done. There are almost no
benefits with my job, and there are plenty of benefits with the other. The thing that is
staying my hand are the people that I work with, I don't want to leave them behind.
I know what the best solution is, but the risk is very high. I have discussed this with
some friends and I have been getting some answers, but the response is really even
between them. If I remove emotion from the equation, I am sure that I would have
applied and started at the other job by now. For the most part, when making a decision,
I think logically about the situation. I've only been influenced by emotion a couple of
times and the situation that sticks out the most was initially an emotional decision but it
also made sense when I later reassessed the situation without emotion so my decision
would not have changed.Growing up, I loved spending time with my dad and didn't notice
negative things about him. He remarried when I was 10 years old and his new wife was
deceitful, manipulative, and terrible to me. I rarely saw my dad and when I did, his wife
didn't let us have a conversation alone. She spent most of her time gossiping and stirring
up trouble. Last year, she told my dad something untrue about my wife and then he
proceeded to tell his whole side of the family. After letting my wife know what was said,
she was heartbroken.She didn't understand why anyone would make up such a thing out
of boredom (but I knew because I have been dealing with it since I was a kid). It took
my wife months to heal from the damage to her reputation that my step-mother had
caused and she only felt better after my step-mother confessed it was a fabricated story.
My decision was to cut off my dad (who I realized is equally as deceitful and
manipulative) and his side of the family. Since that decision last January, I have felt a
huge weight off of my shoulders. I realized that I needed to shed the toxicity and be
around people who were mentally healthy and positive. Luckily, I have a beautiful wife,
two kids, my mom, and my wife's side of the family who are everything to me. One
example that I had to make while emotion was high was almost three months ago before
my grandmother passed away. She had been in the hospital for 6 days before the doctors
found out what was wrong with her. Come to find out, she was diagnosed with kidney
cancer and didn’t have to much longer to live. They gave her one week. As a person who
was practically raised by this beautiful woman and spent all my life with her and at the
age of 16 being her primary caretaker, there were some decisions that I had to make in
order to prepare for what was soon to come. That Saturday the doctors came in and told
us what was happening, but that Sunday he told us that there was nothing else that could
be done. So I had to make the decisions on everything that needed to be done in order
to be ready for what was coming. I had to make a decision on the hospice to send her
to, I also had to make funeral arrangements, and get all of the family together to let them
know that soon she would be passing and what all
I feel that each decision I made was reasonable and right because I know that this is what
my grandmother wanted. She didn’t want her family to do anything big or extravagant.
She wanted to make sure that everybody was taken care of. She also didn’t want her life
to be extended if she was going to suffer or be a vegetable and not be able to still do
things for herself. Communication did play a big role. My grandmother and I had always
discussed these things especially within the last few months before she passed. If we had
not done that I would have probably felt regret because I would have felt that I missed
so much time with her and I also wouldn’t have known what to do in order to get things
done and make sure everyone got what she wanted them to have. An example of when
emotion influenced my decision-making would definitely be in my personal relationships.
I was in a past relationship that was destructive and unhealthy. I had a lot of feelings
about what the relationship had been before and what it was now. Ultimately, I decided
to end this relationship. I think based upon what happened within the relationship on the
other person's side, the decision I made was reasonable.
I think the main thing I considered in my decision was my emotions. But, communication
played a role as well since I was unable to communicate effectively in order to resolve
the issues in the relationship.
If I had removed emotion from my decision making I think I would have stayed in the
relationship instead of getting out of it. I think this because everyone makes mistakes, so
I would have probably leaned towards giving them another chance. However, I think that
in this case giving this person another chance would have only given them another chance
to do the same hurtful things again. In cases of personal relationships, I think that
emotion plays a huge role in making important decisions. My emotions helped me to see
all points of view to the situation and make a decision that was best for me. This week
discussion was on emotion and decision making, so I decided to get out of the Army
based on deployment or family. I choose my family first because I didn't want my famiy
to worry anymore about myself and my son. In life sometimes you have to make
decisions simply because your life depends on it. I love and adore my family but I also
had a very strong like for the United States Army. In life decisions have to be made for
the best or betterment of one's future. I choose to be stable for my son and it was a hard
decision mostly because of the time I invested and the many days that I fought to stay in
the United States Army, my emotions have taken a major role and so has communication
through the entire challenge. I'm grateful that I made the choice to come home and to
learn more about my self and the culture of the military, I will always respect the military
but I choose to be educated and grow. There have been situations throughout my
professional life in which I’ve allowed emotion to influence my critical thinking, no
doubt. Some of those decisions turned out to be just fine, no real “deal-breakers” if you
will. However, a few years ago two of my employees were emotionally charged up over
a situation that occurred between them, leading to fairly aggressive behavior in front of a
high-profile customer. One in particular took the moral low-ground in making numerous
unprofessional comments in front of this particular customer, attempting to damage the
appearance of our organization. As a manager, I needed to get in front of the situation of
course, but my approach should’ve been calm, cool, and collected. I should’ve simply
excused myself from the tour I was leading, and separated the disgruntled employees,
allowing for a cool-down period. e Instead, I immediately dismissed both employees from
the workplace without digesting the whole situation. No analyzing, no reflection.I was so
embarrassed in front of this customer and in shock of how unprofessional these tenured
employees were behaving. These particular technicians were not only the most senior
among the other 18 in the shop, but extremely efficient, and usually exemplified a great
attitude. I should’ve pulled both employees aside (after separating each) and interviewed
each individually in order to gain a clearer understanding of the situation. I allowed
emotions to completely cloud my judgment and cripple my ability to make a sound
decision. The customer was uncomfortable, and one of the technicians nearly resigned
over the situation.In the end, no lasting damage ensued. A learning moment for sure, and
a great opportunity for growth after some self-reflection. Decision making is sometimes a
hard thing for me to do. I am a person that over thinks things and analyze and tries to
see what are the pros a conns of things before making my decision. For example, trying
to go back to school was a very hard decision to make. I had lots of fear but mostly
worried that I would not have the time to dedicate to school. Fear and the worry of
dedication I had to apply almost made me not come back to finish what I had started. I
personally feel that if I had let those feels over come my decision making,I would not be
here today attending class. Our emotions sometimes take over our decision making,
depending on how we want for it to go or if we are welling to over come or emotions
we will never know if the decision we made was the correct one. Whenever I have to
make a decision I consider what the possible outcome will be before actually deciding on
something. I’m my personal life I am a young first time mom so a lot of the decisions I
make for myself and my daughter are normally always driven my emotions. The biggest
decision I’ve had to make recently is a change in my career. I have to travel for work a
lot and it sometimes causes me to be away for the holidays. My emotions played a big
role in me choosing to stop working in the union at nuclear plant s for a while because
I was having detachment issues. Ultimately I am taking a tremendous pay cut because my
emotions won’t allow me to be away from my daughter for a month or longer at a time.
I communicated these emotions to my family that help look after my daughter and their
response was completely different from what initially decided to do. I think I had remove
do emotion from my decision making I would have made the same decision. No job nor
amount of money worth missing out on the precious moments with family. I did have to
do some critical thinking with this decision because there was a lot that had to be taken
into consideration before making my final decision. I do feel as though my decision was
a reasonable one. In this instance I don’t think that my emotions caused me to not think
logically or had a negative affect on my decision. I feel as if this whole year was full of
emotional decisions. Some worked out really well, and others could have had a better
result if emotion was not in the decision. A decision I have made with emotion as the
front guy on the line was moving back to where I was from, Wisconsin, from Arizona.
After three years, I found myself becoming very homesick and upset that I was missing
out on everything that was happening back home, but while still in Arizona, I was
enjoying life, working a great job, making good money, playing softball, traveling, hiking,
doing so much more than I could do if I was still in Wisconsin.
I started falling into the thought of "I need to move back home" rather than thinking what
I could do to compromise with the feeling of homesick and enjoying the life I had in
Arizona. Soon I found myself flying back home every other week and I quickly and
irrationally decided to move back home. Emotion played as both feet on the gas pedal, I
don't believe the decision I made was irresponsible, but I did not do a whole lot of
thinking as to what I could possibly try instead of making the full leap back. I believe if
I would have communicated with the people around me and my family, and actually took
in what they said rather than practiced closed minded thinking, I would still be in
Arizona, visiting them, and the family visiting me. It is not something I regret by any
means because I have my own family of my fiancé and I, and our new addition joining
us around Christmas, but I do wonder where I would be if I did end up staying down
there. Maybe someday we can start our book as a family down there. This is a recent
situation that comes to mind. My whole life I have been a caregiver to someone, from
my little sister, my children, my parents and now my uncle. I also work in the medical
field with the geriatric population. When it comes to care giving it’s important to make
good decisions. I do my best to always do what’s best for the patient. I expect the same
when my family is the patient as well. Recently uncle had symptoms of a UTI. I had him
see the doctor. She had the lab to check his urine had did a urine culture, which resulted
positive. She started him on an antibiotic. I gave it to him as instructed. After a few days
he became very hyper, agitated and wasn’t sleeping. I followed up with the provider who
instructed me to continue the antibiotic, he was experiencing adverse effects from the
antibiotic and she assured me that it was normal. By the next morning my uncle could
not dress himself, very confused and seeing things. That change came over night. I had
to make an important decision at that moment. My emotion was to do what was best for
him, regardless what the provider recommend. I called 911 and had him taken to the
hospital. Where he spent the next 7 weeks due to being almost styptic. Then followed
rehab for 3 weeks, (comes home tomorrow) I have seen alot of UTIs, but never one that
changed someone from being independent to total care over night. I work in the same
office with the Dr. She has spent most of the last 10 weeks giving me the silent
treatment. So, I had a decision to make, what is best for my uncle or what's more
comfortable for me. I chose my uncle's well being. I have filed a grievance and she will
no longer his Dr. Within a few days of arriving at rehab, he suffered from edema in his
feet and legs. I inquired about his care or should I say lack thereof. I communicated with
the nurse and the CNA to start with. I would go every day, and they would say he’s
going to see the Dr, but no Dr ever called me. After the first week and a half of excuses
as to why his feet was still swollen, I took a different route. I started asking other
questions to see what was in his chart. I find that he has not been seen by a Dr or a
nurse. I have communicated to the nursing staff since the beginning, but no one is
following up. I returned to the facility after the night nurse came in. I inquired again
about a Dr coming to look at him. She said the Dr wasn’t coming. I then demanded that
she call the on-call provider and get him over here. The nurse saw I was upset, she
started looking in his chart to see what she could tell me. She could not find anything to
tell me. She then called the Dr, he ordered labs and an ultrasound. She came to back to
his room to inform me of the plan. 10 mins later the Dr was in the room. Apologizing
for the fact he had not been seen. After the results came in, they were all good. Nothing
was done about the swelling itself till this week, after I had to meet with the administrator
and the directing of nursing and filed a grievance. It’s amazing how fast things changed.
This was a unique situation, my emotions where all over it. There were a lot of decisions
that I made. I do feel that despite my emotions my decisions where reasonable ones.
