Reading Report: You Lost Me NOTES
2-3 pages, plus title page and bibliography
Introduction
Summary
Personal Response
Conclusion
Struggling to connect to the next generation
Lots of changes such as technology, spiritual and social change
How to prepare the next generation to follow Jesus?
Older Christians needs to share their faith- encourage younger believers
The church- regardless of age has the same mission
What does this mean? The Christian community is one of the few places on earth where those
who represent the full scope of human life, literally from the cradle to the grave, come together
with a singular motive and mission. The church is (or should be) a place of racial, gender,
socioeconomic, and cultural reconciliation—because Jesus commanded that our love would be
the telltale sign of our devotion to him (see John 13:35)—as well as a community where various
age demographics genuinely love each other and work together with unity and respect.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 203.
Connect the older and younger generations
Meaningful relationships with older adults who are following Christ will help to ensure that your
fresh ideas build on the incredible work of previous generations and that your passion to follow
Jesus in this cultural moment is supported and upheld by this whole, living generation of
believers.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 205.
The generation gap is growing, fueled in part by technology, so it takes extra effort to be on the
same page.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 205.
Frankly, deep relationship happens only by spending time, and big chunks of it, in shared
experiences. I encourage you to be ready for a fresh move of God, buoyed by young adults.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 205.
As we rediscover the centrality of relationship, I believe we must be willing to reimagine our
structures of discipleship. Not all the programs we have put in place should be abandoned, but
as we identify systems that are not effective, will we be willing to give them up?
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 206.
The relational element is so strong because relationship is central to disciple making—and, as
we’ve said, the dropout problem is, at its core, a disciple-making problem
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 206.
Not all the programs we have put in place should be abandoned, but as we identify systems
that are not effective, will we be willing to give them up?
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 206.
God-centered relationships create faithful, mature disciples.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 206.
HOW TO FORM MEANINGFUL RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN OLDER CHRISTIAN LEADERS AND
YOUNG PEOPLE- ALSO DISCIPLESHIP
But in Christian tradition, vocation is a biblically robust, directive sense of God’s calling, both
individually and collectively. Vocation is a clear mental picture of our role as Christ-followers in
the world, of what we were put on earth to do as individuals and as a community. It is a
centuries-old concept that has, for the most part, been lost in our modern expressions of
Christianity.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 207.
Don’t just focus on the amount of people
We need new ways of measuring success. If you are in church ministry, one metric of success
might be to help young people make one or two relational connections, younger to older, that
lead to significant mentoring bonds that will last for several years
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 208.
The number of people is a unit of measure but so is growth spiritually and relationally
What would it look like to begin measuring things like teens’ and young adults’ knowledge of
and love for Scripture, their clarity about their gifts and vocation, their willingness to listen to
the voice of God and follow his direction, the fruits of the Spirit in their lives, and the depth and
quality of their love and service to others?
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 208.
Jesus was in close enough contact with his disciples that he was able to shape the rough-hewn
edges of their faith and ministry. Jesus knew his followers. If our churches are too large to
cultivate this type of knowing, then our ministries are likely too large to disciple as Jesus did.
David Kinnaman and Aly Hawkins, You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving Church … and
Rethinking Faith(Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2011), 208–209.
You Lost Me: Why Young Christians Are Leaving the Church and Rethinking Faith discusses the
serious issues among young believers that disengage(find synyonm) and reevaluate(find
another word) their faith. David Kinnman has lots of research and has done interviews with
young Chrsitians. He looks at the challenges that this generation faces and highlights(use
another word) the increasing(use another word) disconnect(find aanother word) between
traditional church practices and the realities of the contemporary culture(rephrase)
One of the issues is noamds- people who wander from the church becsuse their questions
aren’t answered or they are searching for answers and cant find them. Big questions about life
and Christianity weigh on their minds
The prodigals are ones who are tired of the hypocrisy and judgment they experience from
people in the church. It is hard to attend church when you see people preach one thing and
behave another way yet they are judgmental towards others. It is not that they don’t believe but
they don’t want to attend church because of the way people act.
The exiles- the young Christians who keep their faith but have a hard time finding community
within the church community. Need a sense of purpose to use their gifts in the church
This book gives church leaders, elders and parents the facts while presenting them with ways to
develop real relationships with young people by intentionally building relaitonships through
connection and discipleship. David Kinnaman brings many reasons to bridge the gap between
the yonger and older generations.
This book urges(find another word) to look at their dynamics and to look at changing their
strategies(use another word) to better communicate with the current culture.
CONCLUSION
Through research and interviews David Kinnaman has brought thought provoking issues to lifht.
These issues need to be addressed and the practives need to be reassessed (another word) Jut
because something has worked for forty years doesn’t mean it needs to continue.With a new
generation, new issues arise. This book focuses on solutions and change by offereing ways to fix
this such as real relationships and giving young believers ways to live out their faith and to make
a difference. By looking at issues that may have been overlooked for decades, it allows people
to be honest and have serious conversations that may require a change of action.
