As I read at all the replies in this discussion board, I can see that some of us have something in
common. Basically, I would see that promise breaking is only okay if it was for an immoral reason. By
immoral reason I mean by harming someone or themselves. It is petty obviously that keeping a
promise will tell others what type of person you are. If you where to tell me “Hey, I like Amber” I
wouldn’t say a thing to anyone. You would see me as a trustworthy person that can keep promises. If
you were to tell me “Hey I’m going to kill myself”, well I will be forced to tell someone. I wouldn’t be
able to live with myself if I had the chance to save that person from there self, I already had it once not
again.
I can see where you are coming from. This is just an assumption; I can see you visualize the
positive in everything. The idea I can see from you is to not accept the promise if you are not going to
keep it. I take promises to the heart whatever it is unless it involves harming someone. How would I
know what the promise will be beforehand? Most of the time promise start out by say “do you
promise to keep a secret.” I would say yes because I don’t know what it involves. Then I can’t take back
the promise because I already said yes.
I will not go directly to someone if they are having problems. I would sit there and help with
what the problem is. Hope to god they would change their mind in the act they would commit. The last
thing I would do if they did not change their mind, I would be forced to tell someone who can do
something. Let me ask you a question, what would you do if you were in that situation? What would
be your first reaction to the promise if it was an immoral one? How would you take care of the
situation? If you cannot deescalate the problem who would you contact? You will probably be thinking
about all of this at once.
There is another thing about promises and that is secrets. Sometimes they go hand and hand. I
could promise you that I will be at your birthday party and I show up. That makes me look like I am a
reasonable and loyal friend. Then we have secrets like “hey promise me you will keep a secret.” I am
pretty sure you had some encounters like before. I would like to know what you would have done in an
immoral situation like keep a secret of a friend that has killed someone. Would you keep that immoral
secret to yourself? How would you handle that situation once it was told to you? It is a tough
predicament I don’t expect you to know what to do. You would have to do what you feel is right.
