CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
III. What do I owe my children?
A. Sense of personal worth
B. Consistent discipline
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
C. Privacy & Respect
D. Courage to say no
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
E. Honesty & Instruction
F. Solid Values
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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IV. Stress proof your child
A. Sleep
1. Not getting enough
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
Sibcy
1. Effects learning attention and anger management
B. Stimulation
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
1. Build in down time
2. Teach relaxation exercises
2. Build in exercise
Sibcy
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
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C. Boundaries
D. Stress-Free Discipline—Five Rules
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needs.
CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
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CCOU 302
CCOU 102:
When sdealing withChildhood Development: An Attachment Perspective
Gary Sibcy
I. Basic Principles of Attachment Theory
A. Self Regulation
B. A child’s ability to self-regulate is tied to relationship with parent
C. Safe-haven
D. Secure Base
II. THREE Main Tasks from Self-Regulation
1. Ability to use language and label internal experience
a. Using signals and words to become basis for problem solving
2. Ability to empathize with others
Intimacy: “The ability to tolerate or endure the negative feelings
you experience when you get close to another person” –Dr. Gary
3. Always give warning
Sibcy
3. Apply consequence consistently
Parent’s sensitivity is vital. It refers to the ability to
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