HELP WITH RESPONSES (2) DUE IN 24 HOURS

You must respond at least two (2) times to your colleagues post.  Your follow-up (Second, Third Post) must be at least (150 words and contain at least two scholarly references that are different from your initial (250 word) post.

TOMEKA’S POST:

Abusers have low self esteem and lack self worth.  Abusive leadership can be found anywhere; work place, religious institutions, volunteer groups, marriages etc... Too often abusers themselves have been abused or they are being abused.  That shouldn't excuse their behavior or given them a pass on being corrected.  Bottom line, abuser or bullies!  And I do not tolerate bullying.  I witnessed coworkers being bullied at work and I witnessed the impact it had on their health and mental state.  The supervisor made insulting comments and would use his position of power for non sexual favors (like falsifying documents, lying to cover up, lying to avoid phone calls).  Bullies seek out the vulnerable or people they think are easy targets.  Although, I can say I was not abused on a job, I was abused by a religious leader.  They were manipulative and controlling and used Scripture to support and backup their behavior.  I did not notice it immediately, their demands were subtle at first and then they got more aggressive.  They took my eagerness to serve and my willingness to be of service for granted. Once I realized they were being abusive and controlling, I left immediately.  Relationships regardless if they are professional, spiritual or intimate should not hurt, be controlling or manipulative.  Leadership should not take their position lightly.  Leadership is a position of service and their ultimate goal should be the growth and development of the people who they have been entrusted to lead. 

STEPHANIE’S POST:

Hi classmates,

I have had experience with an abusive leader,  in fact, he was mentally abusive. It was to a point where I hated to come to work, I hated to hear his voice. I went to work hating to pull into the parking lot and seeing his car.  I remember going to the doctor and they told me I had high blood pressure and my migraines where hitting back to back. This leader would talk down to his associates, and laugh and talk to other associates about those that he don't care for. That man was stressing me out terribly, I had gotten to the point, I absolutely hated him. Even once I reported him to his boss, I knew that was going to be a risk, but I did anyway. Right after I made the report, he started heavily picking on me and giving me impossible goals that he knew I couldn't meet, then telling me my job depended on it. I eventually resigned and thankfully I did because I was going to eventually cuss him out and get fired. Still to this day 2 years later and I talk to some of my old colleagues that still work there, they say his name and I get disgusted all over again.