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The Perfect First Date

If on the internet has changed forever the way our society meets, dates and marries, there is still one thing it hasn’t changed: The

importance (and horror) of…. the First Date!

Never, fear, brave readers. A Google-search on the string “perfect �rst date” returns “about 64,000 entries”… so we can safely assume that there is enough expert (err..) advice on

the subject to guarantee success for even the most socially challenged Romeo or Juliet. However, just in case you’re still wondering, the science of Social Psychology can offer some

additional clues for success. Excited? Good. Here we go:

Early in the history of psychology, William James theorized that emotions are interpreted from physiological cues. In other words, your body experiences some stimulus and your

autonomic nervous system (regulated by the Thalamus and Limbic system) has a physiological reaction, such as muscular tension, a rise in heart rate, perspiration, and dryness of

the mouth. Feedback from these reactions are then received by your cortex, which interprets them to create emotion.

So, for example: You see a lion, your autonomic system starts to pump adrenaline which get’s your heart pumping and your muscles ready to run like hell, THEN your cortex get’s

the news, interprets (“Holy CRAP!”) and tells your body to start RUNNING! Thus, emotions are feelings which come about as a result of physiological events, rather than being

their cause.

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Researchers since James have shown that cognitive interpretation can both follow and precede physical reactions, so it is overly simplistic to say that all emotions arise from

physical reaction. However, things that happen some of the time can be just as important as things that happen ALL of the time. As it turns out, several researchers have shown that

physical arousal caused by roller-coasters, high-places, scary movies, etc. can lead to heightened feelings of sexual attraction. For example, Dutton and Aron (1974) found that men

who were contacted on a wobbly suspension bridge that was suspended over 200 feet above a rocky river were more sexually attracted to a female researcher than men who were

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Lest you think that men braving high bridges are simply more amorous, in 2003 Meston and Frohlich had men and women waiting at an amusement park rate the dating

desireability of photographs. Consistent with the arousal = attraction connection, subjects who were contacted AFTER riding a roller-coaster gave pictures a signi�cantly higher

rating than subjects contacted BEFORE riding a roller coaster!

So, when your planning that �rst date, try including an activity that will get the blood pumping! Find out if your date has always had an unful�lled desire to go sky-diving or

parasailing. Or maybe scary movies is their thing? Group activities such as beach volleyball or a pickup game of �ag football are a great way to combine a safe �rst date with a good

dose of physical arousal. Although theories explaining differ, psychologists have repeatedly shown that what makes the

heart beat, can also make the heart melt.

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