Sociology paper revision

Trends in Romantic Relationships Among College-Age People

Roses are red daisies are blue, but in this time and age I love you is just but a mere statement meant to mean a lot aside from love. Romeo and Juliet are a true image as to what love is and what it can and should be, however, without the drama of terminating one’s life. Thus, in this paper, I have chosen a fascinating topic which capsules the past and the present as well gives sneak peeks of the future. Relationships are a rather compelling act that is part and parcel of the human life even at the start of childhood when we pretend to be fathers and mothers in a children’s game. Romance is a crucial and a very powerful emotion that has the power and ability to build, break, kill or even create nations, families, businesses and also destinies.

Romance is usually led by love and always makes people become attracted to each other and grows to become more than love and ends up to be a relationship. However, in the olden times, relationships were very much different from the current times whereby many people treat relationships like renewable items. Therefore, these deep, untouched waters have become my main topic of discussion where I will be able to point out the differences in romantic relationship times among college students. I have chosen this case study since it is the most open form of study close enough to my level of study. A college is an area where young adults learn most of their lively hood lessons as well as make most of their important life choices.

Therefore, with that laid on, I will be developing a study on how various theories are working in line with explaining how these theorists of my choice are actually realistically when it comes to shaping the facts on how true college students take romance and how they think off as well as take relationships to be. Therefore, I will choose three theorists and once I have achieved this I will then discuss a specific theory discussed by the theorist and use it to in relation to how it plays out in my case study on relationships and romance.

Society Structure and Social Facts

Emile Durkheim is a well-known sociologist who is actually famous for his many views on the structure of the society. A theorist who majorly focused on traditional societies and modern times merging, evolving and intern functioning. This theory was developed through some of the concepts developed from social facts such as structures of the society and how it operates. However, his theories were developed on how external aspects affected one's choices and roles. According to Emile Durkheim, rules and values are the most persuasive aspects that can actually cause one to take charge of his or her actions since they are most likely to act out on what the see or deem to be right as perceived by the society at large.

Thus, in this case of trends occurring in romantic relationships among college-aged students, I will be using Emile Durkheim’s theory to analyze how romantic relationships occur in college lives. In this modern times, many college students have just joined the college life to enjoy their youth and engage in many activities they could not indulge in such as sexual activities. In accordance to Emile Durkheim theory, it is possible to say that many students have lost touch of what romance or love actually is and have replaced it with physical appearances and material attachments such as luxuries and status.

In the olden times, romance would be made to be respected and was more of a step by step even that could take even years. However, in this modern times, many colleges aged individuals get themselves into commitments without any sense of love or romance. Just as Emile Durkheim says, the society is made out of parts and acts out of changes that influence I and also make it move.

Emile Durkheim believed that in a society parts tend to work hand in hand to achieve an objective. In the likeness of college students, many people who get into relationships in terms of men usually look at the physical appearance of a lady. This is so since many college students believe beauty lies in the body structure instead of what is within as well. Therefore, Emile Durkheim actually was right since many female students happen to think that men with cars are most lovable or even men who are well built and tall in height are more lovable. Therefore, this actually proves that many romantic relationships in college life are mostly motivated by external factors than internal ones.

Social Class

Social classes are nothing but boundaries set between people of different ways of living and social status. According to Karl Marx, many of the people who were wealthy happened to own most of the valuable items such as factories, lands and a lot of wealth. In the case of the romantic relationships among college students in the college life, they are also in the play of this same theory. Just as it is in high school, students who come from wealthy backgrounds are the ones who always end up with the best of the best in school. And this is a similar incident in nowadays colleges. Many of the students in this schools have the abilities to live lavish and finance themselves to high levels even afford to drive expensive cars.

This is what causes the rift between average, poor and rich college-aged students when it comes to romantic relationships. Many of the relationships that are between people of the high-end society tend to be fake and many are made up for the sake of creating a good image. This is so since according to Marx in the theories of class, many of the individuals of a high society embrace a good image over living an honest and simple life. Just as Marx believes the act of the wages going to the rich while the poor do all the work takes shape in this line of study as well. In this case, the rich students in college always seem to manipulate those who are under them. One such example is students who are well off trick their counterparts who are not well off but are good in their books into having a relationship with them.

This ends up to become nothing but a challenge since the relationship are only one-sided and very much manipulative and only truthful on one side just and manipulative on the other side just as Marx states on his theory. In other words, it is very much true to say that Marx was right about the rich always finding direct or indirect ways of oppressing the poor and misusing them into doing their own task and them benefiting all the way instead.

Emotional Focus

When it comes to relationships many at times the situation and the state of the relationship are usually battled by misunderstandings and poor communication or attention. This is so since many at times, people in a relationship are always different and have opposing views towards events or turnouts, thus, this makes it crucial for couples to have clear communication channels as well as patience with each other.

Sue Johnson is a well-experienced therapist who has developed a new counseling method that entails reaching out to the deeper stressful area that is affecting a couple and offering them assistance. this method is much more effective since Sue Johnson reported no dropouts from the program. In the first video, we get to see a detachment between a couple where the husband is a veteran who recently retired from the force but the wife seemed to be detached from her man. In this case, we see the EFT method being used to try to open up the misunderstanding the couple has better solutions. (Greenberg & Johnson, 1988)

On a personal level, I actually find this mode of therapy to be much more helpful than other forms. This is so since it makes it possible for the couple to actually understand what exactly they want and what they are actually being troubled with. Many at times it is usually difficult to explain one’s problems, expectations or issues since we have different points of views especially in a relationship set up. In my own perspective and relationship basis, I can recommend this form of therapy to my uncle and aunt who seem to be having constant fights due to a difference in age as well as being in different lines of work. I deem the EFT therapy process since the more they keep on fighting the more they are engaging themselves in negative cycles that never end. (Makinen & Johnson, 2006) However, in this situation, they can find healing since the EFT process entails each individual reflecting on the current state they are each in an offering how they actually feel about it all. This first step will assist each part in opening up on how they are handling the tension they are in, in making both sides heard it will now make it possible to start pulling down the walls of ignorance and giving up or shutting down between a couple since they well see how much they are causing harm on each other.

According to the theory by Sue Johnson, she perceives relationships to be of a deeper entity than actually expected. She also states that true love also tends to encounter challenges, in the long run, however, this does not apply in today's means of a romantic relationship, especially in colleges. This is so since the relationships are never truthful or just thus false pretense covers up any negative form of arguments or fights since they desire to hold onto what they have very much since they never want to lose out on the relationship they have since they are benefiting from the relationships they are in.

Conclusion

Relationships are not that much of a bother in today's times since many people take relationships to be a come we stay sort of situation. In many instances, many college students or college-aged students do not respect the ways of love, romance or relationships anymore. This is so since they also avoid taking the right steps into officiating relationship in good old traditional as well as an official means of officiating the union. In the olden times, relationships between college students were known to parents in case they actually became serious and truthful. However, in today’s society, many college students fear opening up about their relationship status since they find it to be uncool.

Many students also indulge in relationships and romance for the main purpose of sex and sexual pleasure, unlike in the olden times, many usually desired companion and union that would endure the hardest of times. However, in this case, many of the college-aged students never perceive this to be so instead they opt to have many partners who can always satisfy their own needs. None the less, we have now understood how the past and traditional ways have evolved and many of the beliefs eroded away when it comes to romance and relationships.

But in accordance to the theories I have managed to pick out, it is very much true to say that the modern times have been corrupted and eroded by many aspects such as music, the internet, public celebrities and social norms. The second stage is the beginning of healing since it entails opening up to new emotions that the couple has experienced either hate, bitterness, detachment, fear or loneliness. Once this level is crossed it is now possible to start reconnecting the couple by making them understand each other much better and setting new principles in line with the changes they need to adapt to so as to have a better relationship.

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