Peer Leadership Case study

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The Relational Leadership Model

Inthe previous chapter, we reviewed how theorists' view of lead-ership has changed, from the belief that leaders are simply born to the idea that the best way to learn about leadership is to study the behaviors or practices ofpeople who are viewed as leaders.The- orizing has evolved even further into an understanding of leader- ship as a complex process. Indeed, leadership is a transforming process that raises all participants to levels at which they can become effective leaders.

Leadership may best be understood as philosophy. At its core, understanding philosophy means understanding values. "Affect, motives, attitudes, beliefs, values, ethics, morals, wilt commitment, preferences, norms, expectations, responsibilities-e-such are the con-

cerns of leadership philosophy proper. Their study is paramounr because the very nature of leadership isthat of practical philosophy, philosophy-in-action" (Hodgkinson, 1983, p. 202). When weexam- ine historical leaders, we often are analyzing the values and erhics that characterized their leadership. It is critical rhat we each develop our own personal philosophy-one we hope will include the elements of the model presented in rhis chapter.

Chapter Overview

This chapter presents a relational model of leadership to consider in building your own personal philosophy. Each of the elements of

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the model ispresented in detail to give you more information about

each component.

Relational Leadership

Leadership has to do with relationships, the role of which cannot be overstated. Leadership is inherently a relational, communal process. "Leadership is always dependent on the context, but the context is established by the relationships we value" (Wheatley, 1992, p. 144). Although a person could exert leadership of ideas through persuasive writings or making speeches, most leadership happens in an interactive context between individuals and among group members. We emphasize once again: we view leadership as a reliltio1Ulland ethical process of people together attempting to accomplish

positive change. Chapter Two presented an overview of how leadership theories

and models have changed over time. These changing frameworks are reflected in the descriptive terms that have been affixed to the word leadership. Examples of these leadership theories and concepts include situational, transfonning, servant-leadership, authentic lead- ership, and principle-centered leadership. We have used the term reliltional leadership as a reminder that relationships are the focal point of the leadership process. Relational leadership involves a focus on five primary compo-

nents. This approach to leadership is purposeful and builds com- mitment toward positive purposes that are inclusive of people and diverse points of view,empowers those involved, is ethical, and rec- ognizes that all four of these elements are accomplished by being

process-oriented. The model provides a frame of reference or an approach ro lead-

ership in contemporary organizations. With these foundational philosophies and commitments, an individual can make a mean- ingful contribution in any organization. This model is not a leader- ship theory in itself, and it does not address the change outcomes

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"process

Figure 3.1. Relational Leadership Model.

for which leadership is intended. The Relational Leadership Model does not seek to describe the way leadership is currently practiced in all groups or organizations, but is an aspirational model that we propose in developing and supporting a healthy, ethical, effective group. It is a framework connecting five keyelements that can serve as a responsive approach to leadership. Figure 3.1 offers a visual image of the elements of the model. The components of relational leadership are complex concepts.

Think about your own level of comfort or knowledge about each component as you read the telated dimensions of each element. The model reflects how the organization's or community's purpose influ- ences the components of being inclusive, empowering, and ethical. For example, the purpose of the Habitat for Humanity Club on campus is to engage its members to assist in providing houses for those who cannot afford them on their own. The purpose includes others, empowers them to use their leadership and talents to make a difference and is ethical in that it benefits others and improves the quality of life in a community. How that purpose isachieved (the process) is just as important as the outcome. How the goalsare accomplished and how others are involved in the process matters

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in the leadership process.The purpose is vision-driven and not posi- tion-driven. Leaders and members promote the organization's pur- pose through a shared vision and not for self-gain such as achieving a higher leadership position or fame.

Exhibit 3.1 identifies some important knowledge, attitudes, and skills that are embedded in each element. These reflect the knowl- edge, attitudes, and skills that would be helpful in understanding relational leadership. Brief applications of the core elements to the knowing-being-doing model conclude each section. For example, in order to practice inclusiveness, you must

• Know yourself and others; engage yourself in learning new information as you develop the competencies required in your role (knowledge)

• Beopen to difference and value other perspectives (attitudes)

• Practice listening skills, coalition building, interper- sonal skills, and effective civil discourse (skills)

Knowing-Being_Doing

Individuals involved in the leadership process (leaders, members, co-creators, and so on) need to know themselves well before they can effectively work with others to influence change or achieve common purpose. It is not enough to simply drive an agenda or accomplish small or big wins. The leadership process calls for those engaged in it to be knowledgeable (knowing), to be aware of self and others (being), and to act (doing). The knowing-being-doing model represents a holistic approach to the leadership development of yourself and others. These three components are interrelated- the knowledge you possess can influence your ways of thinking, which can influence your actions. And it is also true that your beliefs and way of existing in this world (being) can influence your actions, which can influence your behaviors. This pattern of influ- ence is circular and not on a straight path.

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Other ways ro view this holistic approach isbyusing the frame- work of knowledge, skills, and attitudes or head, heart, and prac- tice. Palmer (1998) uses the phrase "head, heart, and practice" to describe the paradoxes in teaching and what happens when wekeep the head (knowing and intellect) separated from the heart (being) and even further separated from practice (doing). Palmer arguesthat we need a synthesis of all three components in the teaching process. The same applies in the leadership process. The Army coined the phrase "know, be, do." People will col-

laborate with those who are credible (both leaders and members)- those who are knowing. Leaders need ro demonstrate competence and maintain a certain amount of knowledge. Hesselbein and Shin- seki (2004) offer four levels of skills essential ro leadership: inter- personal skills, conceptual skills (ability ro think creatively), technical skills (expertise required for position), and tactical skills (negotiation, human relations, and other skills necessary to achieve objectives) (p. 12). Knowing isan ongoing process that allows lead- ers ro continue to develop, learn, and grow. In the Army, the "be" means knowing what values and attributes

define you as a leader (Hesselbein & Shinseki, 2004). "Yourchar- acter helps you know what is right; more than that, it links that knowledge ro action. Character gives you the courage to do what is right regardless of the circumstances or consequences" (p. 11).The Army's acronym of leadership isLDRSHIP: Loyalty, Duty,Respect, Selfless service, Honor, Integrity, Personal courage (p. 11). That is the essence of the "be" of leadership. The Lao Tzu quotations throughout this book are another example of being. This Eastern reflection of having a sense of self and being centered in self-aware- ness is important ro relating well with others. The "doing" of knowing and being means acting. Character and

knowledge are not enough in facilitating change in the leadership process. Doing attempts to produce results, accomplishes the vision, creates change, and influences others to act. Sometimes leaderswill fail ro act because of indecision or due ro a fixation on perfection. "Competent, confident leaders tolerate honest mistakes that arenot

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Exhibit 3.1. Relational Leadership Model Compared to Knowing. Being.Doing.

Knowing Leadership (Knowledge and Being Doing Component Understanding) (Attitudes) (Skil~) Purposeful How change Occurs Hopeful Identifying goals

Core elements of Committed Envisioning change "Cando" attitude Meaning-making Role of mission or Likes improvement Creative thinking vision

Commi trnenr to Involving others in Shared values social responsibility vision-building Common purpose process

Inclusive Self and others Open to difference Talent Citizenship Values equity development Frames and Web-like thinking Listening skills multiple realities Believes everyone Building coalitions

can make a Framing and difference reframing

Civil discourse Empowering Power Believes each has Gate-keeping skills

How policies or something to offer Sharing procedures block or Self-esteem information promote

Concern for others' Individual andempowerment growth team learning Personal mastery

Values others' Encouraging or Control is not contributions affirming others possible

Willing to share Capacity building power

Promoting self- leadership

Practicing renewal

the result of negligence. A leader who sets a standard of 'zero defects, no mistakes' is also saying, 'Don't take any chances'" (Hes- selbein & Shinseki, 2004, p. 15).

Learning is an Outcome of the knowing. being-doing develop. mental model or feedback system. Beattuned to how new learning

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Knowing

Leadership (Knowledge and Being Doing

Component Understanding) (Attitudes) (Skills)

Ethical How values Commitment to Being congruent develop socially responsible Being trusting

How systems behavior Being reliable intluence justice Confronting Having courage and care behavior

Self and others' Values integrity Using moral imagination

values Trustworthy

Ethical decision- Authentic making models Establishes sense of

personal character

Responsible

Expects high standards

Putsbenefit to others over self- gain

Process- Community Values process as Collaboration

Oriented Group process well as outcomes Reflection

Relational aspect of Quality effort Meaning making

leadership Develops systems Challenge

Process is as perspective Civil confrontation

important as Learning outcomes Giving and

receiving feedback

is changing your artitudes and behaviors or is changing you in gen- eral. It is important to reflect upon how and what you are learning as you go through those cycles. "Leaders promote learning in ar least three ways: through their own learning on a personal level, by help- ing others in their units [organizations] learn, and by shaping and contributing to an organizational culture that promotes learning"

(Hesselbein & Shinseki, 2004, p. 133).

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As y u cOntinue reading this and the following chapters, con- sider how this model is adding to your knowledge. How can you take this inf rmation and incorporate it into your beliefs surround- ing leadership? What acti ns can you take with this new knowl- edge? Consci usly examining your thoughts, feelings, and actions allows you to continue to learn and grow both as a leader and as a human being.

Relational Leadership Is Purposeful

Being purposeful means having a commitment to a goal or activity. It is also the ability to collaborate and to find common ground with others to facilitate positive change. Creating positive change can mean working hard toward resolving differences among participants, finding a common direction, and building a shared vision to improve the organization or enhance others in some way. Even if a participant does not have a vision, that person knows enough to ask others, "Remind me what we are working toward. What do we all hope will happen?" Trusting the process, several in the group will chime in with their ideas, and someone will have the talent to express those words in terms of the vision and purpose that will bring nods of agreement from nearly every person present. It is important that all group members be able to articulate that purpose and use it as a driving force. That is an essential element in rela- tionalleadership.

The conventional paradigm of leadership often asserts that the posirionalleader must have a clear vision. Research, however, has shown two primary types of vision activity: personalized vision and socialized vision (Howell, 1988). Personalized vision refers to a per- son, usually the person with legitimate authority, announcing a dream Orplan and imposing it on others. Participants seem to have little choice and must adopt this vision, which results in varying degrees of personal ownership or commitment. Jack Welch, the for- mer CEO of General Electric (GE), is an excellent example of an

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authotitative leader with a personalized vision. Although Jack Welch was a strong leader with a public presence, he did nor sin- gle-handedly raise the profile of GE. Even though Jack Welsh had the legitimate power to do so, it did not automatically ensure com- mitment from his employees. He started his tenure as CEO as a commanding leader and then, over time, developed a more human- istic leadership approach that inspired GE's employees with a val- ues-based vision (O'Toole, 2003). Socialized vision is building a vision from among group mem-

bers, recognizing that people support what they help create. Shar- ing vision does not mean that each person must create and possess a vision, but that each person must be involved in the process of building a vision with others. "Effective leaders don't just impose their vision on others, they recruit others to a shared vision. Espe- cially in our digital age, when power tends to coalesce around ideas, not position, leadership is a partnership, not a sinecure" (Bennis & Thomas, 2002, p. 137). Think about your personality preferences. Do you think creatively and see possibilities in everything, or are you shaking your head right now, thinking "No way!" Do youhave ideas about your future and a vision of how things might be?Such a vision is a picture of "a realistic, credible, attractive future"for

yourself or your organization (Nanus, 1992, p. 8). After hearing a presentation on empowering leadership and the

importance of shared vision, one of our colleagues approached the presenter. She said, "I just am not creative or cannot articulatea vision. I am practical and realistic. I feel capable but am more of a maintainer than a builder. I can keep things going more than Iam able to think them up in the first place." The first piece of advice that organization consultant Burt Nanus (1992) shares with those trying to avoid failures in organizational vision is, "Don't do it

alone" (p. 167). Being purposeful with a group vision that includes a positive

change effort helps you set priorities and make decisions congruent with that dream. "Vision animates, inspirits, and transformspurpose

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into action" (Bennis &Goldsmith, 1994, p. 101). This action com- ponent to vision is described well by the engraving in an eigh- teenth-century church in Sussex, England:

A vision without a task is but a dream, a task without a vision is drudgery, a vision and a task is the hope of the world.

(FromTranscultural Leadership,p. 106, by G. F. Simons,C. Vazquez, & P.R. Harris. Copyright © 1993,

with permissionfrom Elsevier.

"To be motivating, a vision must be a source of self-esteem and common purpose .... The core of the vision is the organization's missionstatement, which describes the general purpose of the orga- nization" (Yuki, 1989, p. 336). One approach that is used by exec- utives to develop shared visions is an exercise involving magazine articles. Organizational members are asked to identify their favorite magazineor a magazine closely related to the organization's purpose and write a feature story that will describe the organization in the future (four or five years from the present time) using headlines (Yuki). This powerful activity allows everyone to dream together and to begin the visioning process using creativity, imagination, and passion.

Your individual, purposeful commitment to the shared vision of a group project means you will do your part, share resources, and support your teammates because you expect the same of them. Vision guides action. lilt'snot what a vision is} it's what a vision does" (Kazuo Inarnon, as cited in Senge, 1990, p. 207). A vision of a homecoming weekend reaching the broadest possible group of alumni will guide all the committee's choices about how to diver- sify that event.

USuccesscan be measured in many ways such as reaching your goal, involving new groups or individuals with new perspectives. and

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creating awareness or change. In the organizations I have been

involved with, success has come by including those who are highly

motivated and want to make a difference and have a clear under-

standing of the goal to be achieved. When this happens, it becomes

easier to accomplish tasks because everyone is working towards the

same goal. It is beneficial to utilize special groups or individuals who

have expertise on your project to gain new insight, help motivate oth-

ers, and provide additional resources and support."-Brynn Delong

is a member of the Blue Chip leadership Program and majors in

political science at the University of Arizona.

A vision inspires energy and purpose. Retired General Norman Schwarzkopf observed, "I have found that in order to be a leader, you are almost serving a cause" (Wren, 1994, p. 4).Purposeful par- ticipants have emotionally identified with a purpose and a dream. "There is no more powerful engine driving an organization toward excellence and long-range success than an attractive, worthwhile, and achievable vision of the future, widely shared" (Nanus, 1992, p.3).

Working for Positive Change

One common purpose that pulls people together isworking toward change. Change processes can have various motives associated with them. The Relational Leadership Model supports positive change- that is, change that improves the human condition and rhat does not intentionally harm others. The antithesis of this is facilitating change that isdestructive, like the attacks on the World Trade Cen- ter in New YorkCity. When facilitating a positive change process, the means justify the ends.

Rost (1991) proposes that leadership happens when the group intends to accomplish change, not just when they do accomplish change. Having the intention of improving a situation, accom- plishing a task, or implementing a common purpose ispart of the change process. Change may not happen for many reasons, but the

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core fact that the group intended ro make a difference is central. John Parr (1994), president of the National Civic League, writes, "Positive change can Occurwhen people with different perspectives are organized into groups in which everyone is regarded as a peer. There must be a high level of involvement, a clear purpose, ade- quate resources, and the power to decide and implement" (p. xiii). Some situations are profoundly hard to change. It is hard to move

away from the status quo-the way things are. Change theory pro- poses that change often begins when something unfreezes a situa- tion. The cycle is often presented as unfreezing ~ changing ~ refreezing.This "unfreezing" may be caused by a trigger event, such as a carjacking in a remote campus parking lot, a campus riot fol- lowing a sporting event, Ora disappointingly small attendance at a group'Sexpensive activity. People pay attention to the problem with a focus they did not have prior to the incident. Unfreezing may also Occurwhen external policies change-when a new law is enacted, forexample. Unfreezing makes it possible to address an issueDrpol- icy that has not commanded the attention of those who need to address it. The change process is then engaged and the issue is addressed.

Even after a change is implemented, it would be an error in these times even to consider any issue "refrozen." Instead, it is best to consider the outcome to be "slush," so that the solution is seen not as final but as permeable and open to be readdressed easily. It may be best to cDnsider solutions as autDmatically open for review, regularly evaluated, and flexible. The classic change model (Lewin, 1958), describing the change process as moving from the present state through a transition state to a desired state, still works, but we encourage a caution that the desired state should now be viewed as less rigid.

Change can be thought of as moving Some situation away from the status quo to a different place. To understand why that move- ment is hard, examine the driving forces pushing for change and the resisting forces striving to keep change from happening to pre-

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serve rhe status quo. Clearly, not all change is appropriate or sup- portable. When it is, the driving forces working toward change should be enhanced and the restraining forces minimized. This "force-field analysis" is a useful method for identifying aspectsof the situation that could enhance change (Lippitt, 1969, p. 157).

Kotter and Cohen (2002) refer to the concept of"removing bar- riers in the mind" as another reason why people are resistant to change or to changing. "After yearsof stability, incremental change, or failed attempts at change, people can internalize a deep belief that they are not capable of achieving a leap. They maynot sayout loud 'I can't do it,' but at some level they feel it, even when it isnot true" (p. 112). It is important to understand that the mind can both disempower and empower individuals toward change. We are constantly faced with the dynamic tension ofhow things

are and how we think they ought to be. This "is-ought" dichotomy asks us to face reality but work toward true transformative change, real change-to move toward the mote hopeful vision. This "cre- ative tension" brings energy to the change effort (Senge, 1990, p. 150). Connecting personal hopes and commitments to a group vision is a creative process. This process can be nme-consumtng. As we describe more fully in Chapter Seven, when a group is newly formed, the process of building a group vision can be energetic and hopeful if the group quickly comes to agreement and commitment, or it can be anxious and cautious if the group shows little agree- ment. When joining an ongoing group in which avision has already been established, new participants have to determine whether they can connect to that vision or feel they can help shape the contin-

ued evolution of the group's vision over time.

Relational Leadership Is Inclusive

Being inclusive means understanding, valuing, and actively engag- . . . ., hid spects of individual- mg diversity m views, approac es, styes, an a I

I h dd I· I pectives to a groupSity,such as sex or cu ture, t at a mu tip e pers

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activiry. As a foundarion for valuing inclusion, you will have a chance to explore yourown attitudes and atrributes in Chapter Four and examine those of others in Chapter Five. Exhibit 3.1 highlights aspects of being inclusive to illustrate how you might explore this component. It means understanding how different groups or indi- viduals might approach issues from different perspectives or frames, mainraining the attitudes that respect differences, and valuing equity and involvement. It means thinking of networks and webs of connection instead of seeing issues and problems as isolated and discrete. Being inclusive embraces having the skills to develop the talent of members so they can be readily involved. Listening wirh empathy and communicating with civility are communication skills that facilitate the inclusion of others. Inclusiveness breeds new lead- ership and creates a positive cycle that sustains the qualiry of an organization over time.

Yousaw in the last chapter that although many things seem unpredicrable and even unconnected, there is unity in nature; seem- ingly unrelated parts influence each other as well as the whole. By applying these concepts to the leadership world, we learn to under- stand that the group or organization represents uniry or wholeness built from and influenced greatly by the smallest subunits of that system. "As we move away from viewing the organization as a com, plex of parts and deal with it as a unity, then problems mer in lead- ership can make more sense and solutions become obvious" (Fairholm, 1994, p. 59).

Individuals are important because they concurrently represent and influence the whole. The purpose, vision, and values of the whole come to life aseach individual member describes and applies them. The goal is not to overcome the variations and differences among participants-indeed, those variations bring creativity and energy-but to build shared purpose. "Leading others to lead them- selves is the key to rapping the intelligence, the spirit, rhe creativ- ity, the commitment, and most of all, the tremendous, unique porential of each individual" (Manz & Sims, 1989, p. 225).

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"When,as a leader, you are able to empower others andcreatea sense ofcommunityamong members,everyonewillbecompelledto contributetheirunique talents Thegroupwillthen meet 't .. Is potential to fulfillIts purpose. "-Gina Pagel is a volunteerfortheAmerican CancerSociety Relayfor Lifeand the presidentofthe StudentWis- consinEducationAssociationChapterat EdgewoodCollege.

Being inclusive means developing the strengths and talent of group members so they can contribute to the group's goals.

Leaders enhance the learning of others, helping them to develop their own initiative, strengthening them in the useof their own judgment, and enabling them to growand to become better contributors to the organization. These leaders, by virtue of their learning, then become leaders and mentors to others. (McGill & Slocum, 1993,p. 11)

It is not sufficient just to be a participative leader involving group members in the work of the organization. Organizations have to go further and recognize that in many cases the organizational culture has to change to effectively involve people who have dif- ferent backgrounds and different views and who may not embrace the dominant cultural norms. In addition to its practice, the lan- guage of inclusivity is exceptionally important. How we talk about people in the organization, how we refer to them (colleagues ver- sussubordinates or participants versus followers), and how the orga- nization is structured are indicators of inclusive environments (Hesselbein, 2002). Think about the message being sent byusing the word we instead of the word I. Youmight engage in a conver- sation with someone and hear an excessive use of rhe word1from that person. What impression did that individual make on you?Did you feel engaged in the conversation? Hesselbein describes the model of inclusion best by stating, from her own experiences,

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Building the inclusive, cohesive, vibrant institution does indeed require the biggest basket in town-for it has to have room for all of us. Not just the favored few, those who look alike and think alike, but all who are part of the community of the future. When equal access pre- vails, the synergy of inclusion propels us far beyond the old gated enclaves of the past into the richness of oppor- tunities that lie beyond the walls. (p. 20)

Groups would benefit by examining practices that might block inclusivity. A group might be so accustomed to voting on every decision that it has alienated members who find this process uncom- fortable. Those members might like to use a consensus model of decision making to ensure that the views of all are included in each significant decision. For example, the extreme use of Robert's Rules of Order has the potential to cut off discussion when issues are unre- solved and the direction is unclear. Another illustration iswhen a student union program committee traditionally provides music or movies of interest to only one segment of the campus. They would need to examine that practice and involve others with different interests in order to diversify programming. Organizational prac- tices, such as always meeting at 9 P.M., might exclude the involve- ment of people such as adult learners and those who cannot be on campus at that time because of family or work obligations, or because commuting is a problem. When the group realizes, for example, that no commuter students, or students of color, or men are involved in their activities, that should be a signal that some- thing iswrong. Other waysof communicating and consulting with people should be found, as should other ways of including diverse interests in group decision making.

Involving Those External to the Group

Being inclusive also means identifying the shareholders and stake- holders external to the group who have some responsibility (a share) or interest (a stake) in the change that is being planned. It would

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be exclusive, not inclusive, for a group to assume that they should or could accomplish a major change alone. For example, an orga- nization like the Latino Student Union might seek to change a campus practice about how scholarship programs are advertised to new Latino students. Being inclusive means the Latino Student Union should also consider which other campus groups or offices might be stakeholders in resolving this issue because they have a shared interest or could be affecred by the consequences of any action (Bryson &Crosby, 1992). The Larino Student Union might then reach our to form coalitions or some involvement with such groups as the Council of Black Fraternity and Sorority Chapters, the Black Student Union, the Multicultural Affairs Committee of the Student Government Association, and other related student organizations like the Honors Program. In addition, the Latino Stu- dent Union should identify the shareholders in resolving the issue- the Financial Aid Office, the Dean of Students Office, and the Office of Minority Affairs. These officeswould each want to get the word out to students about their programs and need not be thought of as negative or antagonistic to the changes. They might in fact appreciate help in resolving problems they too experience in the

current process. Stakeholders may not all hold the same view of a problem, and

they may not all seek the same solutions. Bryson and Crosby (1992) clarify how a stakeholder's position on an issue (ranging from high support to high opposition) is influenced by the importance with which they view the issue (ranging from least important to most important). This makes stakeholders' responses more understand- able (see Figure 3.2). As they work toward being more inclusive, relational leaders will want to assess possible stakeholder reactions

in determining their approaches. Even if stakeholders disagree on an issue, rhey should be

involved. Involvement helps stakeholders gain new viewson issues and may build support among various stakeholders toward an intended change. They also bring in an outside viewpOlnt, which contributes to the overall knowledge of the group. Stakeholders

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Perspective or stand on the issues

High Opposition High Support

Low lmportance

Antagonistic

Problematic

SupportiveHigh Importance

Low Priority

Figure 3.2. Responses of Stakeholders to Shared Issues and Goals. Source: Adapted from Bryson& Crosby (1992), p. 268. Used with permission.

might see dimensions of an issue that the group is blind to. Build- ing support and forming coalitions are related skills for relational leaders.

Relational Leadership Is Empowering

"Thriving on change demands the empowerment of every person in the organization-no ifs, ands, or buts" (Peters, 1989, p. xiv). Empowerment has two dimensions: (1) the sense of self that claims ownership, claims a place in the process, and expects to be involved, and (2) a set of environmental conditions (in the group or organi- zation) that promote the full involvement of participants by reduc- ing the barriers that block the development of individual talent and involvement. Empowerment is claimed ("1 have a legitimate right to be here and say what 1feel and think") as well as shared with oth- ers ("You should be involved in this; you have a right to be here too; tell us what you think and feel"). Being empowering means mitigat- ing aspects of the environmental climate that can block meaningful involvement for others. Empowering environments are learning cli- mates in which people expect successesyet know they can learn from

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failures or mistakes. It is important to establish organizational envi- ronments that empower others to do and to be their best.

The root word in the concept of empowerment ispower. Under- stand ing power dynamics is essential in moving toward a philo- sophical commitment to empowerment. Where possible, positional leaders must be willing to share their power or authority, and par- ticipants must be willing to assume more responsibility for group outcomes. Power has traditionally been viewed on a zero-sumbasis. Conventional approaches assumed that ifone person in an organi- zation is very powerful, then someone else has less power. In truth, different types of power exist concurrently among people in any kind of relationship. Power dynamics range from power "over" (autocratic approaches) to power "with" (collaborative approaches) or power "alongside" (collegial approaches). Some approaches to leadership would go further and describe power "from," referring to the authority and power afforded to a leader from a groupof partic- ipants. Effective positional leaders know that their power and abil- ity to be effective comes from the members of their group-their

participants (Kouzes & Posner, 1987).

Sources of Power How a person uses power and reacts to the power of others mustbe examined in relational leadership. In their classic work, French and Raven (1959) identify five primary sources of power that individu- als bring to their relationships with others. These bases of social power are expert power, referent power, legitimate power, coercive

power, and reward power. Expert power is the power of information or knowledge. Exper-

tise may come through professional development and formal edu- cation (such as that received by engineers or dentists), from possessing specific information (such as remembering the resultsof

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them power over us based on their assumed higher level of knowl- edge or experience.

Referent power refers to the nature and strength of a relationship between two or m re people. Think of the wise senior who isso highly regarded that her words carry great weight in the group discussion. Legitimate power isdue to the formal role a person holds, usu-

ally because he or she has the responsibility and authority to exert some degree of power. For instance, the president of a student orga- nization has power to make certain decisions due to the nature of his or her role. However, those in authority generally know that their legitimate power is fragile.

Coercive power influences individuals or groups through impos- ing or threatening punitive sanctions or removing rewards or ben- efits. Coercion accomplishes behavior change but usually at great cost to the relationships among those involved. Because leadership is an influence relationship, it is essential that this influence be "noncoercive" (Rosr, 1993, p. LOS).

Conversely, reward power influences behavior through the abil- ity to deliver positive outcomes and desired resources. Rewards may be extrinsic, like raises, plaques, or special privileges. They may also be intrinsic-intangibles like praise or support. Youmay intentionally use some Source of power. For example,

you might prepare very well before a meeting so you will be an expert on some topic. Conversely, others may attribute some source of power to you without your knowing what is happening, as, for example, when someone fears your disapproval because you have referent power. To empower ourselves and others, it is essential ro understand power.

Understanding Power

In many cases, we give power away. We do it when we do not trust our own opinion if it contradicts that of an expert. We assume the expert knows more. Yetwhen the doctor too readily concludes that

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you just need bed rest and you know it's something more serious, you should insist that your doctor explore other alternatives. When the person with legitimate power announces a plan or an approach, we give power away if we do not say, "We would like to talk about that first because we might have some additional ideas that would be helpful." We may also have power attributed to us that is unde- served. When the group assumes that because you are an English major you would be best at writing the group's report, they may be

in error. Power is not finite and indeed can be shared and amplified.

Some think that power should be framed differently and seen with a similar frame as love: the more you give away, the more you get. If the leadership paradigm of your colleagues is very conventional, they may see the sharing of power as indecisiveness or an avoidance of responsibiliry. Others may abuse the power shared with them, but those in legitimate authority roles who share their power usually

find that they build stronger groups. For the society to get its work done, leaders and the systems over

which they preside must be granted some measure of power. It is a common experience for leaders today to have far less power than they need to accomplish the tasks that we hand them. They must have the power to get results (Gardner, 2003, p. 20I).

Gardner goes on to say that those who hold power must be held accountable. Leaders are in a greater position of power when they hold themselves accountable firstbefore waiting for others to imple-

ment a system of checks and balances. Hoarding power in leadership risks negative responses from oth-

ers, such as sabotage, withdrawal, resistance, anger, and other behaviors that would contradict the positive goals and objectives of the group. "The key gift that leaders can offer is power" (Bolman & Deal, 2003a, p. 341). When people can use and hear their voices in the life of an organization or community, they will feel a sense of

justice and a belief that they matter.

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Self-Empowerment

Empowerment is claiming the power you should have from any position in the organization. Self-empowerment then is the recog- nition that you have a legitirnate right to be heard and the self-con- fidence ro be part of a solution or the change process. "The E-word by itself, isa non sequitur unless it's used with self-discovery ... it provides a means of empowering yourself as you explore your nat- ural, educational, and professional attributes in sizing up your lead- ership prospects" (Haas & Tamarkin, 1992, p. 35). Murrell (1985, pp. 36-37) presents six methods through which you might become empowered:

1. Educaring (discovering/sharing information and knowledge)

2. Leading (inspiring, rewarding, directing)

3. Strucruring (creating structural factors such as arranging your day,bringing people to the table, changing policies or processes so that the change lives beyond the people who created it)

4. Providing (making Sureothers have resources to get their job done)

5. Mentoring (having close personal relationships)

6. Actualizing (taking it on-being empowered-claiming it)

Valuing the empowerment of all members creates a larger group of participants or citizens who generally take more ownership of group tasks and processes and who feel committed to the outcomes of the change.

Mattering and Marginality

Empowerment places you at the center of what is happening rather than at the edges, where you might feel inconsequential. This may be understood best by examining the concepts of mattering and marginality. Schlossberg (l989b) has extended and applied the work

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of sociologist Morris Rosenberg on mattering to her own work in studying adults in transition. "Mattering isa motive: the feeling that others depend on us, are interested in us, are concerned with our

fate ... [which] exercises a powerful influence on our actions" (Rosenberg & McCullough, as cited in Schlossberg, 1989b, p. 8). In new situations, in new roles, orwith new people, we mayfeel marginal, as if we do not matter unless the group welcomes us and seeks our meaningful involvement. In contrast, mattering is the feeling that we are significant to others and to the process. Think of the anxiety and perhaps marginalization of potential new mem- bers coming to their first meeting of the Campus Environmental Coalition---or any group. They could be scarcely noticed, become isolated, and perhaps be ignored, or they could be welcomed, involved, and engaged, and know that they matter. Think about the positive feelings imparted to a first-year student when an upper-class veteran of an organization requests his or her opinion on an issue.

Empowering Environments

Groups, organizations, or environments can promote mattering or can keep people on the periphery-in the margins. We need envi- ronments that promote the development of the human spirit on a local scale, thus creating a "fundamental shift of mind, in which individuals come to see themselves as capable of creating the world they truly want rather than merely reacting to circumstances beyond their control" (Kiefer &Senge, 1984, p. 68).

Empowerment is likely to happen in organizational environ- ments where people recognize that things can always be better than they are now. These organizations expect to learn and seek new solutions. Empowering organizations seek to eliminate fear or humiliation and operate on trust and inclusiviry. Ifyou do not feel empowered in a particular group, you might assess the dynamics in the organization to see if they are encouraging or controlling. There may be an in-group and an out-group, and those in the out-group are excluded from access to information and opportunities to shape

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decisions (Kohn, 1992). If the organizational dynamics are basically supportive, however, perhaps you need to enhance your self-empow- erment by building competencies, networks, or attributes to let you make a meaningful contribution. Empowerment and delegation are not the same thing. A leader

cannot give tasks to participants to do, no matter how important those assignments may be, and simply assume that participants will subsequently feel empowered. Indeed, if the leader retains a great deal of power or control when delegating, participants may feel manipulated, unprepared, resentful, or victimized. Conversely, if a positional leader has clearly acted congruently in sharing authority and responsibility with the group and has its trust, then sharing tasks can be empowering and can enhance community. Empower- ment is achieved by enabling the involvement of group members and conveying faith in them.

"I was recently elected President of the Executive Board at Endicott

College, after residing as Vice President of my class for a year. The

role of the executive board is to organize and run the Student Gov-

ernment Association (SGA). As the new Executive President, I plan

to make some changes in the organization of the SGA. I am planning

on making more class officers be involved in the activities and events run by the SGA. I aspire to make everyone feel as though they have

a significant role in every issue that comes across SGA's path. I

believe when people feel that they are important they realize their

potential. They also realize that when contributing to a greater whole,

much personal satisfaction is gained. Once an individual is given the chance to take action and iead, they become more involved and ded-

icated on their own thereafter because they realize what they are

accomplishing makes such a difference to the community."-Elyse

Goldstein is vice president of the class of 2007 at Endicott College

and a student curator of the David Broudo Gallery.

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Relational Leadership Is Ethical

A seven-year-old goes into the grocery store with his father. Upon arriving home, the father discovers that little Johnny has a pocket- ful of candy that was not a part of the purchase. Horrified at Johnny's stealing, the father demands that Johnny return the candy to the store, confess to the store manager, apologize for his behav- ior) and promise never to steal from any store again. For some of us, an incident like this was our first real lesson in what is good and what isbad, what is virtuous and what is immoral. Early in our lives, in lessons such as this one, we were taught to value honesty over dishonesty, kindness over cruelty, and doing the right thing over

breaking the law.

Ethical and Moral Leadership

The Relational Leadership Model emphasizes ethical and moral leadership, meaning leadership that is driven by values and stan- dards and leadership that is good-moral-in nature. The language we use to examine ethical, moral leadership isof utmost importance. Some have a tendency to use the terms ethics and morais inter- changeably (Henderson, 1992; Walton, 1988). Others differentiate between them, yet draw a strong relationship between ethics and morals (Shea, 1988). Shaw and Barry (1989) define ethics as "the social rules that govern and limit our conduct, especially the ulti-

mate rules concerning right and wrong" (pp. 2-3). The derivation of ethics is from ethos, from the Greek wordsfor

"character" and "sentiment of the community" (Toffler,1986,p. 10). Other definitions of ethics include "the principles of conduct gov- erning an individual or a profession" and "standards of behavior" (Shea, 1988, p. 17). Being ethical means "conforming to the stan- dards of a given profession or group. Any group can set itsown eth- ical standards and then live by them or not" (Toffler, 1986, p. 10).

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an organization, help guide a person's decisions and actions. For the purposes of this model, ethics will be defined as "rules or srandards that govern behaviors" (Toffler, 1986, p. 10). Stephen Covey, author of the best-selling book The 7 Habits of

Highly Effective People (1989), uses the metaphor of "leadership by compass" to illustrate principle-centered leadership (p, 19). Princi- ples, like values, ethics, standards, and morals, "provide 'true north' direction to our lives when navigating the 'streams' of our environ- ments" (p. 19). Professionsoften establish codes of ethics or standards that serve

as normative expectations for people in a particular profession. Lawyers must adhere to the American Bar Association's code of ethics for attorneys, and the American Medical Association pro- motes a code of ethics for physicians. Every McDonald's restaurant prominently displays a code of standards that pledges excellence in its food and service. Upon closer examination, these organizations are promoting standards by which they expect professionals and employees to live. Moral means "relating to principles of right and wrong" (Toffler,

1986, p. 10)or "arising from one's conscience or a sense of good and evil; pertaining to the discernment of good and evil; instructive of what is good or evil (bad)" (Shea, 1988, p. 17). Morals are com- monly thought to be influenced by religion or personal beliefs. Moralleadership isconcerned with "good" leadership; that is, lead- ership with good means and good ends. Our philosophy of leadership is values-driven. Again, our defi-

nition underscores this: leadership is a relational and ethical process of people togetherattempting to accomplish positive change. Using this phi- losophy, leaders and followers act out of a sense of shared values- the desire to cause real change and a commitment to mutual purposes. The actions of leaders and participants emanate from a set of values, which we hope are congruent and shared. Values are "freely chosen personal beliefs" (Lewis, 1990, p. 9) or the "guiding principles in our lives with respect to the personal and social ends

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we desire" (Kouzes & Posner, 1993, p. 60). Simplystated, valuesare our personal beliefs.

Although there is much disagreement in the leadership litera- ture over definitions and theory, and about whether leadership is values-neutral or values-driven, it is safe to say that most people expect leaders to do the right thing. In a 1988Gallup poll of 1,200 workers and managers, 89% of the respondents "believed it was important for leaders to be upright, honest, and ethical in their dealings" (Hughes, Ginnett, & Curphy, 1993, p. 170). Unfortu- nately, only 41% of those surveyed believed that their supervisor exhibited these qualities (Hughes et al.). A 2003 Gallup Poll on Governance found that only 53% of those surveyed had "a great deal" or "a fair amount" of trust in the government of their state (Jones, 2003, p. 1). Trust in state governments has declined since the events of September 11, 2001. Securing and keeping the trust of your constituencies is central to leadership. When 1,500exec- utives from 20 countries were asked what the requirements were for an ideal chief corporate officer, personal ethics was ranked at the top of the list (Kidder, 1993). A Gallup Youth Survey con- ducted in 2003 revealed that 67% ofyouth between the agesof 13 and 17 reported "a great deal" to "a fair amount" of cheating in their schools, with half of them indicating that they also cheated

(Kidder, 2005, p. 267). As leaders and citizens, our challenge today is to close the gap

between our expectations of ethical leadershipand the realityoffre- quent breaches of ethical conduct by our leaders. We need bold, courageous leadership-leadership that isbyword and deedethical and moral. It is encouraging that a growing number of people express their abhorrence of the breaches of ethical conduct by national and local leaders and that a vast majority of the populace believe that ethics playa critical tole in leadership. John Gardner (1990) thoughtfully makes the connection

between shared values and a moral commitment to do the right

thing. He reflects:

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In any functioning society everything-leadership and everything else--takes place within a set of shared beliefs concerning the standards of acceptable behavior that must govern individual members. One of the tasks of leadership-at all levels-is to revitalize those shared beliefs and values, and to draw on them as sources of motivation for the exertions required of the group. Lead- ers can help to keep the values fresh. They can combat the hypocrisy that proclaims values at the same time that it violates them. They can help us understand our his- tory and our present dilemmas. They have a role in cre- ating the state of mind that is the society. Leaders must conceive and articulate goals in ways that lift people out of their petty preoccupations and unite them toward

higher ends. (p. 191)

Gardner implies that leadership "toward higher ends" is ethical in nature and includes positive, constructive ends rather than results or outcomes that are destructive, harmful, or immoral. To underscore the importance of the relationship between lead-

ership and ethics, we join with those scholars who propose that ethics is the central core of leadership. Without a commitment to doing the right thing or a sound code of ethical standards, leader- ship cannot emerge. Although some argue that the phrase "ethical leadership" is redundant because leadership cannot be experienced without an element of ethics, we feel that leadership that lacks eth- ical behavior and actions is anything but leadership. Consider the example of Adolf Hitler. Indeed, right now you may be thinking that Hitler was a leader but you are averse to what he was leading, and some leadership theorists would agree with you. We share the views of other scholars, however, that Hitler's actions were not aligned with our notions of leadership. They were acts of dictator-

ship (Bums, 1978).

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Bums (1978) elevates the importance of values and ethics in the leadership process through his theory of transforming leadership. He notes that "the ultimate test of moral leadership is its capacity to transcend the claims of multiplicity of everyday wants and needs and expectations, to respond to the highet levels of moral develop- ment, and to relate leadership behavior-its roles, choices, style, commitments-to a set of reasoned, relatively explicit, conscious values" (p. 46). Aligned with Bums's bold thinking to cast leader- ship in a moral foundation is the recent shift in societal views,from leadership as values-neutral to leadership asvalues-driven (Beck& Murphy, 1994; Bok, 1982, 1990; Gandossy & Effron, 2004; Kouzes & Posner, 2002; Northouse, 2004; Piper, Gentile, & Parks, 1993). Moral or ethical leadership is driven by knowing what isvirtuous

and what is good.

Leading by Example As an exercise, a leader and a participant must ponder soul-search- ing questions such as, Whar do I stand for?How far am I willing to go to advance the common good or to do the right thing? Basedon their research on leaders, Kouzes and posner (1987) propose five practices of exemplary leadership. One of these practices is "Mod- eling the Way" or practicing what one preaches. Leaders "showoth- ers by their own example that they live by the values that they profess" (p. 187). What one stands for "provides a prism through

which all behavior is ultimately viewed" (p. 192). Leading by example is a powerful way to influence the values

and ethics of an otganization. This means aligning your own values with the worthy values of the organization. Exemplary leadership includes a congruency between values and actions. The aphorism attributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson-"What yOUdo speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say"-implies an even gr~ater

I . . fIb . gruent with aCtIons.

emp 1aS1Son the lmportance 0 va ues emg con Nobel Peace Prize tecipient Jimmy Carter is the firstcontemporary

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president said to have pursued higher goals after the presidency. Indeed, his work in diplomacy and in community service such as Habitat for Humanity attests to the congruence between his values and his actions. It is one thing to profess values and quite another to act on them.

Terry (1993) provides a cautionary note that action without authenticity erodes what can be considered ethical or moral lead- ership. Terry defines authenticity as "genuineness and a refusal to engage in self deception" (p. 128). Being true to oneself as a leader is a prerequisite for ethical and moral leadership. The task of leading by example is not an easy one. Most, ifnot

all, leaders begin with the goal of wanting to do the right thing. Some leaders get derailed by peer pressure or the temptation to trade leading for the common good with leading for personal gain or the uncommon good. What sustains ethical and moral leadership is a stubborn commitment to high standards, which include hon- esty and trustworthiness, authenticity, organizational values, and doing the right thing. It takes courage and chutzpah to stand among your peers and advocate a decision that is right yet unpopular. Imag- ine the tremendous courage of a fraternity chapter member or ROTC junior officer who says, "No, I do not think we should make our pledges drink until they pass out and then drop them off naked in the woods. It is not only dangerous but it is not how I want to bring them into our brotherhood. I won't be a part of it, and I hope you will not either. I will help plan activities that are fun and more worthwhile, but we cannot do this." Or the courage of a student who steps in and stops his peers from flipping over a car during a campus riot.

"To handle ethical dilemmas, the single most important quality to

remember is to be honest with yourself and others. Tell the parties

involved honestly and openly how you feel about the particular issue.

Help them understand delicately your position, but stand strong in

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the dilemma. One other importantaspect is listeningand notJump- ing to conclusions."-Andrea Jean Grate,fromAlfredUniversity,was

a director of student orientation.

Although it appears that we are stating the obvious by stressing the importance of leading by example and with integrity, there are, regrettably, numerous accounrs of local and national leaders who have been caught embezzling, putting humans at risk for rhe sake of profit, and hiding the truth. Richard M. Nixon began his presi- dency with good intentions and rhen succumbed to political cor- ruption. Lead ing with integrity isnot a neat and tidy process, yet it probably is the driving force that allows leaders to continue in their capacities. We will return to the topic of ethical leadership inChap- ter Six with a closer examination of ethical decision making, ethi- cal theories, and creating and sustaining ethical environments in

groups and organizations.

Relational Leadership Is About Process

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Process refers to how the group goes about being a group, remain- ing a group, and accomplishing a group's purposes. Ir refers to the recruitment and involvement of members, how the group makes decisions, and how the group handles rhe rasks related to its mis- sion and vision. Every group has a process, and every process can be described. processes must be intentional and not incidental. The process component of the Relarional Leadership Model means that individuals interact with others and that leaders and other partici- pants work together to accomplish change. The process creates

energy, synergy, and momentum. When asked how her view of the universe as orderly in its

chaotic state has influenced her work with organizations, Wheatley (1992) observed, "The time I formerly spent on detailed planning and analysis I now use to look at the structures that might facilitate

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relationships. I have come ro expect that sOmething useful Occurs if I link up people, units, or tasks, even though I cannot determine precise outcomes" (p. 43-44). When groups design and implement ethical, inclusive, empowering processes that further a shared pur- pose, rhey can trust the processes to take them through difficult times, resolve ambiguous tasks, and be assured that together they will be better than they might be individually.

Toooften, processesdevalue the people involved by being highly controlled, valuing winning at all cost, excluding or shutting out those who have an interest in change, or expecting everyone to think and act alike. Attending to the process means being thought- ful and conscious of how the group is going about its business, so participants might say,"Wait a minute. If we do it this way, we'll be ignoring the needs of an important group of students and that isnot Our intent." Wheatley (2003) believes that we live in a process world. She states that "we would do better to attend more carefully to the process by which we create our plans and intentions. We need to see these plans, standards, organization charts not as objects that wecomplete, but as processes that enable a group to keep clar- ifying its intent and strengthening its connections to new people and new information" (p. 516).

Several key processesare essential to relational leadership. These processes include collaboration, reflection, feedback, civil con- frontation, community building, and a level of profound under- standing called meaning making. We will discuss several of these here and in subsequent chapters. Being process-oriented means that par- ticipants and the group as a whole are conscious of their process. They are reflective, challenging, collaborative, and caring. Being process-oriented means being aware of the dynamics among people in groups. Many groups jump right into the task or goal and lose a focus on the process. When participants focus on the process of group life or community life, they are forced to ask, Why do we do things this way? How could we be more effective? Participants ensure that the groups keeps working and learning together.

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Cooperation and Collaboration

Competition seems embedded in many of our American structures. The adversariallegal system, sports teams, the game of poker, and the competitive free market economy all illustrate the way compe- tition permeates our shared life. It is hard to imagine a different par- adigm. Even while avoiding trying to beat others and not needing to always be number one, many people feel a strong need to com- pete with themselves. Perhaps they need to better that last exam

grade or beat their last video game score. In the early 1980s, researchers at the Universiry of Minnesota

reviewed 122 studies conducted over a fifty-year period on the role of competitive, cooperative, or individual goal orientations in achieve- ment. Researchers concluded that "cooperation is superior to com- petition in promoting achievement and productivity" (Johnson, Maruyama, Johnson, Nelson, &Skon, 1981, p. 56). They further dis- tinguished the strong benefits of cooperation (not competition) in the internal functioning of the group from the incentives when com- peting with other external groups (Johnson et al.). Working cooper- atively with other participants isa desirable process.

Studies consistently show that members of various kinds of groups prefer positional leaders and colleagues who establish coop- erative or collaborative relationships with them instead of compet- itive relationships (Kanter, 1989; Spence, 1983; Tjosvold & Tjosvold, 1991). Even a group member who enjoys competition in athletics is not likely to enjoy working in a setting such as a sports team, committee, study group, or job site in which others are com- petitive and try to beat each other or use competitive practices like withholding information or degrading others' contributions. Indeed, "the simplest way to understand why competition generally does not promote excellence is to realize that trying to do well and try- ing to beat others are two different things" (Kahn, 1992, p. 55). A person's best work is done under conditions of support and cooper- ation, not under fear, anxiety, or coercion.

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The concepts of cooperation and collaboration are different.

Collaboration is more than simply sharing knowledge and information (communication) and more than a rela- tionship that helps each party achieve its own goals (cooperation and coordination). The purpose of collab- oration is to create a shared vision and joint strategies to address concerns that gobeyond the purview of any par- ticular party. (Chrislip & Larson, 1994, p. 5)

Wood and Gray (1991) assert that "collaboration occurs when a group of autonomous stakeholders of a problem engage in an inter- active process, using shared rules, norms, and structures, to act or decide on issues related to that domain" {p. 146). For example, Microsoft and Intel collaborated on developing wireless applica- tions for PDAs and smart phones. These companies had a shared vision that was achieved by working together rather than in com- petition with each other. Former presidents George H. W. Bush and BillClinton, who were once in fierce political competition with one another, worked collaboratively on natural disaster relief projects in the face of the Southeast Asian tsunami in 2004 and Hurricane

Katrina in 2005. Both cooperation and collaboration are helpful processes: coop-

eration helps the other person or group achieve their own goals, whereas collaboration joins with anorher person or group in setting and accomplishing mutual, shared goals. The "collaborative premise" isa belief that "if you bring the appropriate people together in constructive ways with good information, they will create authentic visions and strategies for addressing the shared concerns of rhe organization or community" (Chnslip & Larson, p. 14). It would be cooperation for the Habitat for Humanity group to send their membership recruitment flyer out with the Food Cooperative flyer to save postage or for them to attend another group's event. It would be collaboration for those two groups and several others with a common environmental purpose to design a new flyer to attract

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new members to these shared causes or to work call b 'Ia oranve y

together to plan a larger event,

"Part of being a leader is being a participant as weli because by being

a leader, you need to lead by example, Taking part in whatever you

are leading will show that you are proud and enthusiastic to be

involved with your particular group. Other members wili also respect

the fact that you are not oniy a leader, but that you are humble

enough to participate like everyone else,"-Betsy Dedels Is a mem-

ber of Phi Beta Kappa and team captain of intramural volieybali, She

majors in sociology at the University of Kentucky,

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For the group to be effective, all members must be prepared ro

do their part. Chapter Two described how music provides a good meraphor

for this kind of teamwork. Musicians must be individually skilled and committed, yet know that they are part of a collective-a team. Further, imagine a performance of jazzmusic with improvi- sational dance. Both dancers and musicians find wonderful rhythms and sounds, simultaneously interpreted, shaping each other's work. The collaboration, respect, and commitment to their common pur- poses as dancers and musicians are obvious. Yet those artists did not just walk into a studio and create movement. The dancers knew their bodies and the musicians knew their instruments. They knew how and why and when to react. Their self_awarenessof rheir own strengths, limits, talents, and abiliries created the collabora- rion in their joint effort. In a parallel manner, think of a rerrihc class project in which individuals volunreer their knowledge and skills ("1 can do the power point presentarion" or "I can call those businesses for donations"), and the division of labor starts ro shape a strong project. Knowing yourself well and seeking ro know the

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laborarion.

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Meaning Making

Leadership requires a process of truly understanding (that is, mak- ing meaning) throughout the shared experience of the group. Mean- ing has both cognitive (ideas and thoughts) and emotional (feelings) components, which "allows a person to know (in the sense of understand) some world version (a representation of the way things are and the way they ought to be) and that places the person in relation to this world view" (Drath & Palus, 1994, p. 4). Part of this meaning making involves the recognition that in our rapidly changing world, we are continually challenged to see that data become information, information becomes translated into knowledge, knowledge influences understanding, understanding translates into wisdom, and wisdom becomes meaningful thought and action. Imagine this flow as

DATA ~ INFORMATION ~ KNOWLEDGE ~ UNDERSTANDING ~ WISDOM ~

THOUGHT AND ACTION

Meaning making is "the process of arranging our understanding of experience so that we can know what has happened and what is happening, and so that we can predict what will happen; it is con- structing knowledge of ourselves and the world" (Drath & Palus, 1994, p. 2). Drath and Palus make it clear that two understandings of the word meaning guide our thinking about meaning and leader- ship. One use iswhen symbols, like words, stand for something. This process of naming and interpreting helps clarify meaning and is essential for the perspectives needed in reframing and seeing mul- tiple realities. For example, one person might call a particular action lawlessness, and another might call it civil disobedience. What one person might call destructive partying, another might see as group bonding and celebration. Coming to agreement on the interpreta- tions of symbolic words and events helps a group to make meaning. Senge (1990) refers to these as "mental models."

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The second use of the word meaning involves "people's values and relationships and commitments" (Drath & Palus, 1994, p. 7). People want to matter and to lead lives of meaning. When some- thing is of value, one can make a commitment, find personal pur- pose, and risk personal involvement-it matters, it has meaning. In contrast, if something is meaningless or of no value, then it does not engage emotion and build commitment. However, we should be careful not to judge too quickly. Sometimes, important matters may seem to have no value. For example, a group of students expressing concern about getting to their cars in remote parking lots after late-night classes deserves a careful hearing. Those listening may be student government officers who live in nearby residence halls or campus administtators who have parking spaces near their buildings. The relational empathy skill of trying to see things from the perspective of another will validate that meaning. (Refer to

Chapter Five for more on relational emparhy.) Understanding how we make meaning helps a group frame and

reframe the issues and problems they are seeking to resolve. The framing process involves naming the problem and identifying the narure of interventions or solutions that might be helpful. If a prob- lem is framed as, "The administration won't provide money foraddi- tional safety lighting," it leads to a set of discussions and strategies focused on changing the administration. Reframing means findinga new interpretation of the problem that might create a new view that helps a group be more productive (Bryson & Crosby, 1992). Reframing this same problem might bring a new awarenessof coali- tions, shareholders, and stakeholders if it were readdressed as,"How can we unite the talent of our campus to address the problem ofa

dramatic rise in crimes against women?"

Reflection and Contemplation Vaill (1989) proposes that the rapid pace of change and the need

. bi . I . s individuals and to make meamng from am IguouSmaterta requlre .

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stepping back from the action, and asking, What is happening? Why is this happening? What does this mean? What does this mean for me?What can I leam from this? Lao Tzu (Heider, 1985) encour-

ages time for reflection:

Endless drama in a group clouds consciousness. Too much noise overwhelms the senses. Continual input obscures genuine insight. Do not substitute sensational- ismfor learning. Allow regular time for silent reflection. Turn inward and digest what has happened. Let the senses rest and grow still. Teach people to let go of their superficial mental chatter and obsessions. Teach people to pay attention to the whole body's reaction to a situa- tion. When group members have time to reflect, they can see more clearly what isessential in themselves and others. (p. 23)

Smith, MacGregor, Matthews, and Gabelnick (2004) believe that "reflective thinking should be metacognitive" (p. 125). Metacognition is "thinking about one's thinking-now considered essential for effective learning and problem solving" (p. 126). Reflection can be accomplished when a group intentionally dis- cusses itsprocess. Ifgroups discuss their process at all, they usually reflect only on their failures. They try to find out what went wrong and how to avoid those errors again. To be true learning organiza- tions, groups also need to reflect on their successes and bring to every participant's awareness a common understanding of answers to such questions as, Why did this go so well? What did we do together that made this happen? How can we make sure to work this well together again? Horwood (1989) observes that "Reflection ishard mental work. The word itself means 'bending back.' ... The mental work of reflection includes deliberation ... rumination ... pondering ... and musing" (p, 5). Reflection is a key process in becoming a learning community. In a study of successful leaders, Bennis (1989) observed that

these effective leaders encouraged "reflective backtalk" {p. 194)·

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They knew the importance of truth telling and encouraged their colleagues to reflect honestly what they think they saworheard. "Reflection is vital-at every level, in every organization ... all (leaders) should practice the new three Rs: retreat, renewal, and return" (p. 186). One form of group reflection is when the group processes (discusses) a shared experience. As a difficult meeting winds down, any participant (or perhaps the group'Sadviser) might say, "Let's take time now at the end of this meeting to processwhat we liked about how we handled the big decision tonight and what we think we should do differently next time." Reflection isalso use- ful for keeping a group on track. A group might intentionally review its goals and mission in the middle of the year and discusshow their activities are supporting that mission or whether they should be redirected. Reflection is an essential component of a processto keep individuals and the whole group focused and intentional.

Contemplation is a form of reflection that allows us to think deeply about the events around us, our feelings, and our emotions. Chickering, Dalton, and Stamm (2006) describe contemplation as "the cerebral metabolic process for meaning making. The food that we chew and swallow, that then enters our stomach, only nourishes us, only becomes part of our bloodstream, muscles, nerves, and body chemistry when it ismetabolized" (p. 143). The experiences of life operate in a similar way. In the absence of reflection and contem- plation, the knowledge that we acquire and the experiences that we go through can "end up like the residue from food we don't metab- olize" (p, 143). Reflective practices allow us to think about what is occurring around us and to us and then to make meaning from

those experiences.

What Would This Look Like? You will acquire many leadership skills over time. It iseasy to con- fuse some management tools-like running meetings or planning agendas-with real leadership. Using the principles of relational leadership, you can reframe typical skills like agenda planning so

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that they are more effective. The goals of the agenda for your group meeting will not be just to get through the topics to be presented or decided in the quickest time but will involve the most people, empower voices that might have been excluded before, make sure no one is railroaded and that fair decisions are made, involve oth- ers in building an agenda, and use collaborative practices. Remember the times you have been to a meeting whose leader

made all the announcements. A small group of two or three in- group members seemed to run the whole show, and you never said a word. Wehave all had that experience. You felt marginalized and might have wondered why you even bothered to attend. Think of a meeting in which people disagreed hotly and then someone quickly moved to vote on an issue. A vote was taken with the resulting majority winning and a dissatisfied minority losing or feel- ing railroaded. Imagine the differences in a meeting whose positional leader or

convener says, "It is our custom to make sure everyone is involved and heard before we try to resolve issues. The executive committee has asked three of you to present the key issues on the first agenda item; we will then break into small groups for fifteen minutes to see what questions and issues emerge before we proceed and see what we want to do at that point. In your discussion, try to identify the principles that will be important for us to consider in the decision we eventually make." Even if you do not agree with this approach, you would feel more comfortable suggesting a different model because the tone of the meeting is one of involvement and partici- pation.

Chapter Summary

Conditions in our rapidly changing world require that each of us become effective members of our groups and communities in order to work with others toward needed change and for common pur- pose. The way we relate to each other matters and is symbolic of

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our social responsibiliry. Taking rhe time needed to build a senseof community in a group acknowledges that relationships are central to effective leadership. Relational leadership is purposeful, inclu- sive, empowering, ethical, and about process. Attention to those practices builds a strong organizarion wirh committed participants

who know they matter.

What's Next? After understanding the various ways leadership has been viewed and the current need for new models of leadership that value rela- tional approaches, it is essential to understand people asparticipanrs in those relationships. Perhaps the most important person to under- stand is you. The next chapter, which begins Parr Two, encourages you to explore aspects about yourself that are important in leader- ship; following that isa chapter exploring aspects of others and how they may be different from yours. The final chapter in Part Two addresses the importance of integrity in the leadership process and

in establishing relationships with others.

Chapter Activities 1. Think of a leader whom you would consider to be a role model, someone who practices what he or she preaches and lives by high srandards. Think of local, national, or hisrorical exemplars. What is it about the role model you identified rhat qualifies that person as an exemplary leader? What values does he or she profess, and what practices does he or she con-

sistently live by? 2. Describe your leadership philosophy using all three compo-

nents of the knowing-being-doing model. . hi Wh' iplesor erhics

3. Descnbe your leaders ip compass. at pnnc guide your personal life and your leadership?

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4. Identify a situation in which you successfully used one or more of French and Raven's sources of power. What con- tributed to your effective use of each of those sources of power? Think of an example of a leader who abused one of these sources of power. What were the consequences of that person's leadership?

5. As you review the five elements of this Relational Leadership Model, which are most comfortable for you and why? Which involve knowledge, skills, or attitudes that you have not yet learned or developed?

6. In their simplicity, models often omit concepts that could have been included. What concepts would you add to any of the five elements of this model, or what new elements do you think should be included?

Additional Readings Bennis, W. G., & Thomas, R.]. (2002). Geeks and geezer" How era, values, and

definingmomenrs shape leaders. Boston: Harvard Business School Press. Chrislip, D. D., & Larson, C. E. (1994). Collaborative leadership, How citizens and

civic leaderscan make a difference. San Francisco: [ossev-Bass. Drath, W. H., & Palus, C.]. (1994). Making common sense, Leadership as mean-

ing,making in a community of prccuce. Greensboro, NC: Center for ere, ative Leadership.

Gandossy, R., & Effron, M. (2004). Leading rheway, Three truths from ,he top companies fctr leaders. Hoboken, N], Wiley.

Kouzes,]. M., & Posner, B. Z. (2002). The leadership challenge (Jed ed.). San Francisco: [ossey-Bass.