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Self-Awareness/Listening

In this week’s readings, one of the major topics was the importance of listening. Burley-Allen says that listening is a “highly selective, subjective experience” (1995, pp. 50). A skilled listener hears more than a speakers words according to Burley-Allen (1995). She says that listening is important because “it allows a person to hear the pitch, rate, timbre, and subtle variations when communicating” (Burley-Allen, 1995, pp. 71). Burley-Allen (1995) Effective listening involves not only tuning in to others, but also tuning in to ourselves. Listening carefully to what we say and how we say it can teaches us an immense amount about ourselves. After reading chapter 1 in our Listening The Forgotten Skill text I realized how important it is to understand what the true definition of listening is so that I can internalize it in order to be aware of what I may be doing wrong when I am communicating with others that may cause me not to be an effective listener.

Listening is taking in information from speakers, other people ourselves, while remaining nonjudgmental and empathetic, acknowledging the talker in a way that invites the communication to continue; and provide limited but encouraging input to the takers response that carrier the persons idea one step forward. This definition stresses the listener’s responsibility in the communication process. Since listening is one of the most demanding aspects of communication it is also very rewarding (Burley-Allen, p. 3).

I feel that having self-awareness of what I say and or how I say it when it comes to myself or someone that I ‘m communicating with it is very important because most of time while I am learning myself other while other people are learning from me as well. From the results of my Uniquely You, (2016) personality test my I/S or S/I or C/I/S type of personality can be broken or strengthened depending on how my reflection of self or the reflection of how others see me is presented from the way I speak of myself or other people. I will always be mindful of the goals I set for myself and how I think of myself when I’m speaking about what I want for myself or how I feel about myself to the individuals I communicate with. Having a strong positive understanding of self-awareness before I communicate is important, this understanding will always keep me positive and on my toes so I can be a constant inspiration to others. Believing in God and always looking to him for guidance and leading (Proverbs 3:5-6) I trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding . In all my ways I acknowledge Him and He directs my path. With his words to uplift me I am aware that I can do all things that I put my mind to without doubting myself. The discussion board posting about the different behavior blends was very informative to me because it provided me with lots of insight on the different blends that I may come on contact with from many of the individuals that I will communicate with often. The break down of what is expected from the different personality blends allows me to understand what to expect from a person so I can figure out the most helpful and positive way to deal with them and offers a reciprocal benefit.

Reference

Burley-Allen, M. (1995). Listening: The Forgotten Skill: A Self-Teaching Guide, 2nd Edition. John Wiley & Sons.

Uniquely You (2016). Introduction of the 4 DISC Personality Types of Behavior.  Retrieved from www.uniquelyyou.orge