Reflective Journal #5
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ReflectiveJournal5.pptxNonverbal Communication & Intimate Relationships
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Agenda
Attendance/Questions/Moving Forward
Activity
Discussion Groups
Intimate Relationships & Nonverbal Communication
Next Steps
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Activity: Interviews
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Discussion Groups
Have You Ever Been In A Relationship? Are You In One Now? How Did You Meet? How Did You Decide You Wanted To Be More Than Friends? How Did You Act Nonverbally (Appearance, Body Orientation, Vocalics, Etc.) At The Beginning Of The Relationship Versus How You Act Now/At The End? How Do Relationships Change Nonverbally As They Progress?
What Are Your Tips For Flirting With Someone? Do You Have Tricks That Work Well? Things Which Someone Should Never Do? Can Any Of You Relate To Phil On Page 310 Of Your Textbook? What Advice Would You Give Phil? How Can You Tell/How Aware Are You If Someone Is Flirting With You?
How Important Is Physical Attraction In A Relationship? What Was Some Of The Surprising Or Interesting Information About Physical Attraction Which Was Discussed In Your Textbook?
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Some Research…
Intimate Nonverbal Communication: Promotes Actions and Cues Promoting Closeness & Mutual Affection
Takes Time To Develop
It Is Easier For Us To Guess How Close People Are Based On Nonverbal Cues
We Alter Our Nonverbal Communication In Intimate Relationships
Become More Facially Expressive In Intimate Relationships
Romantic Partners Alter The Pitch of Their Voice To Accommodate Partner
Dating or Marriage Bound Couples Touch The Most In Intimate Relationships
There Is More Difficulty In Interpreting Concealed Emotions In Intimate Relationships
Motivated Inaccuracy: Attempt To Avoid Receiving Unpleasant Or Threatening Messages
Happier Relationships=Better Positive Communication (Handout)
Less Difficulty Expressing Emotions
More Effective Conflict Resolution Strategies
Your Book Provided Quite a Bit of Research In Regards To Intimate Relationships & Nonverbal Communication…Let’s Look At Some of that…
Takes Time To Develop-Often Starts Out Very Awkward & Uncertain
Comfortability Builds Over Time
We Can See Close Relationships Because Of How Comfortable People Are Around Each Other
That Comfort Breeds Different Nonverbal Cues
More Facially Expressive
Level Of Touch Comfort Increases and Decreases Based On Duration
Appearance
We Protect Ourselves More When We Care…
Avoid Recognizing Concealed Emotions To Protect The Relationship
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Attraction: Do You Have A Type?
Beauty Bias-We Generally Prefer Attractive Over Less Attractive Individuals
Perceptions & Definitions Of Attraction Vary Greatly
Alcohol Consumption Alters Our Perceptions Of Attraction
Matching Norms: We Gravitate Towards Those Who Share Similar Attributes To Ourselves
Nonverbal Cues Help Us Determine If We Are Attracted To Someone
First Impression, Appearance, Ethnicity, Class, Sexual Orientation, Physical Fitness, Etc.
Attraction Is A Quality That Matters At The Start Of A Successful Relationship
Initial Attraction May Fade Over Time But Is Still Present
Take A Moment And Discuss With Those Around You: What You Tend To Look For In A Mate/Who You Are Attracted To…
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Flirting & Courtship
1. Courtship Readiness (Biological Adaptions & Physical Preening)
-Makeup Check, Adjust Hair, Sit Up Taller, Eyes Open Wider, Adjust Clothing, etc.
2. Positioning For Courtship
-Body Positioning, Exclusion Of Outsiders
3. Actions Of Appeal Or Invitation
-Giggling, Touching Arm, Eye Contact, Smiling, Moving Closer, etc.
Quasi-Courtship Behavior (“Just Trying To Be Friendly)
Flirtatious Behavior Not Meant To Be Taken Seriously
Looking Around At Others Instead Of Maintaining Eye Contact
Not Blocking Others Out With Body Positioning
Speaking In A Louder Voice
Discussing Impersonal Topics
Exaggerated, Sarcastic, or Comical Nonverbal Behaviors
Have You Ever Been Left Wondering If Someone Was Flirting With You or If They Were Just Being Nice?
The First 12 minutes Group Discussion
We All Have Varying Interpretations Of Courtship (Pursuing an Intimate Relationship) & Flirting
Sometimes It Can Be Hard To Tell The Difference
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The First 12 Minutes
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Next Steps
Read Pages 355-397
Deeper Exploration Project Due (3/13)
RJ #5 Due (3/13)
Reflective Final Exam Due (3/20 by 12:00PM)
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