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Use the information provided regarding ‘Providing a Good Response’ and answer the following questions.
1. What are the most important things to remember regarding providing a good response and keeping the peace?
Answer: You should answer in a calm voice and a peaceful demeanor. In these types of situations, try not to take things personally. It is important to defuse the situation whenever possible.
2. If you raise your voice or act in a defensive manner during a conversation, who is in control of the conversation?
Answer: If your voice gets defensive during a conversation then the other person is in control. Basically, you are giving your power away and that is not the goal. The goal is to keep your cool through it all.
3. At the beginning of the video clip to 0:21, what do you see is the ‘tone’ of Sumit and Jenny, what they are feeling?
-What makes you think that about the tone? Be specific: body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, etc.
Answer: At 0:23, Jenny gets up – how do you see her ‘tone’. How do you see her Not promoting a healthy interaction/dialogue?
-Be specific.
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4. At 0:29, Sumit tells Jenny, “Why are you yelling at me?”
-Talk about how you think Sumit feels. About what his mental state is at the time. Why do you think this? Be specific.
5. To 0:58, Sumit tells Jenny with a pointed finger, “You are overreacting.”
-What could Sumit have told Jenny instead to make the situation better?
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6. At 1:36, Sumit gets up and says, “I need to pamper you now every time, whenever you get mad?”
-What could Sumit have said instead to convey his feelings of frustration, hurt?
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7. At 1:44, Sumit and Jenny get into a slight physical altercation, raise their voices, and say some mean things to each other.
-What could each have them said to each other to convey their respective feelings.
Provide a script of a healthy dialogue.
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8. At 2:13 to 2:32, Sumit gets on his knees to get to Jenny’s level as she is sitting on the bed. What about his words, body language tells you he is attempting to keep the peace?
-Be specific.
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9. Tell of a situation that you either kept the peace or didn’t i.e., provided a good response or didn’t. Talk about tactics you used, or which you could have used, to keep the peace.
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10. Talk about what to do if the other person is not listening to/hearing what you are saying, even after repeated appropriate polite attempts from you.
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11. Talk about a situation where using I-Statements instead of You-Statements could have benefited a conversation that you were a part of. Or, if you already are a person that uses I-Statements, talk about how this can be difficult, especially during a heated discussion with a loved one.
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12. One of my sayings is, “A life rule is to never argue with toddlers or senior citizens.” What do I mean by this? (The answer is in the attachment “Remember This Oct 2022”, #9.)
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Sumit and Jenny did apologize to each other after this explosive fight.
Jenny and Sumit Apologize After Their Fight | 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After?
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcXn_gFboHM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SyRKUP_W5s4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xw-Opm7Kr7c
