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Prepare-EnrichSlides5.pptxTraining Manual, pages 29-33
Closeness
Flexibility
Balanced and Dynamic
Couple and
Family Maps
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Explore Strength and Growth Areas
Communication Skills
Stress Management
Conflict Resolution
Exploring Family of Origin using Couple and Family Maps
Personality Similarities and Differences
Six Core Exercises:
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Goals To administer , interpret and learn feedback / 6 goals for working with couples
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page 29 in Training Manual
Closeness and Flexibility
Closeness
Closeness is the feeling of togetherness and emotional connection with others.
Balance:
Separateness vs. Togetherness
Flexibility
Flexibility is the ability to make changes in roles and leadership when necessary.
Balance:
Stability vs. Change
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Disconnected/Disengaged
Too much separateness
Little closeness
Lack of loyalty
High independence
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Overly Connected/Enmeshed
Too much togetherness
Too much closeness
Loyalty is demanded
High dependency
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Inflexible / Rigid
Too little change
Authoritarian leadership
Roles seldom change
Strict discipline
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Overly Flexible/Chaotic
Too much change, which can lead to chaos
Lack of effective leadership
Dramatic role shifts
Erratic discipline
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page 29 in Training Manual
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In working with couples, its usually a good idea to explain to it is normal that each partners’ perceptions about their relationship may differ in part due to their family of origin experiences and their individual personalities.
For instance, both the Male and Female see their couple relationship as “flexibly connected” most of the time.
But each person describes their family of origin very differently. He sees his family and as “Disconnected” and “Very Flexible.” On the other hand, she sees her family as only “Somewhat Flexible” but much more connected than his family—”Overly Connected.”
Ask participants “How might this couple’s expectations for celebrating a birthday differ?”
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In working with couples, its usually a good idea to explain to it is normal that each partners’ perceptions about their relationship may differ in part due to their family of origin experiences and their individual personalities.
For instance, both the Male and Female see their couple relationship as “flexibly connected” most of the time.
But each person describes their family of origin very differently. He sees his family and as “Disconnected” and “Very Flexible.” On the other hand, she sees her family as only “Somewhat Flexible” but much more connected than his family—”Overly Connected.”
Ask participants “How might this couple’s expectations for celebrating a birthday differ?”
Mapping your Relationship
TM page 33
Use this as a teaching opportunity. Have participants read this page an review the maps. Focus on the Six questions at the bottom of the page. These are key to leading a discussion with the couple.
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View the following video on the Prepare-Enrich Website: Section 8: Couple and Family Map
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Start at 11:00. expectations
Questions?
Reflections?
Couple and Family Maps
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Other Possible Exercises:
Genogram
In-Law Sessions
Couple and Family Maps
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Explore Strength and Growth Areas
Communication Skills
Stress Management
Conflict Resolution
Exploring Family of Origin
Personality Similarities and Differences: SCOPE
Six Core Exercises:
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Training Manual, pages 34-36
SCOPE
Giving Feedback
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Scope
Personality Profile
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SCOPE =
S ocial
C hange
O rganized
P leasing
E motionally Steady
Scope Personality Profile
TM page 34
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Goals with couples are:
Understanding, awareness
Appreciate and work with differences
Do not expect your partner to change their personality.
Learn to work with each other’s personality style as a “team”
Scope Personality Profile
TM page 34
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Core Exercise: Scope Out Your Personality
TM 36
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SCOPE Personality Scales
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SCOPE Personality Scales
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