Week7 Assignment 3

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Assignment 3: Managing Change

Robin Howell

PHI 201

Dr. Géza Reilly

February 18, 2022

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Reacting to Change

Change is inevitable, and we must change with it or get left behind. My philosophy is that

standing in the way of change is akin to trying to push a boulder out of your path with your bare

hands; it is virtually impossible. When change happens, I usually accept and implement it

immediately when it is a change that is made by my own doing; however, when the change is

unexpected or forced, I tend to be scared, nervous, and apprehensive.

Recently, my family and I were forced to make a life-changing decision. We rented our

home for over ten years when our landlord died. A management company took over my home, and

they immediately, within two weeks of his death, sent us a letter stating that in thirty days, our rent

would be increased by $800. I read the letter a few times, becoming more nervous and scared with

each word. At first, I did not know what to do, how to do it, or when. The whole situation was

overwhelming! The possibility of having to depend on others for shelter or becoming homeless

was real, and I had to accept this unwelcomed change and come up with a solution fast! I could not

run away or hide from this change! I had to change my attitude to go through the process.

The first step to tackling this problem was first to get a copy of both my husband's and my

credit report. This step calmed my nerves down a little bit because I had worked hard to ensure we

had excellent credit scores, which would work in our favor. Next, I researched lenders to see who I

wanted to trust with our colossal investment. Once we settled on a lender, we called them up

provided them with the information they needed to see if we qualified for a home loan and in what

amount we qualified for. A few days later, we received news that we were approved. We found a

realtor and explained our predicament. Luckily, the realtor understood that we were on a time

crunch and helped me find and purchase my new "Forever Home," all within 45 days. After each

step in the process, my confidence grew, and facing the change became less scary. I could get out

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of my head and face this challenge head-on by pushing through the nerves and fear. According to

Arthur, Linda Sapadin, "The way you think has a tremendous effect on you and how you react to

the world. Your thought processes can either increase your fear or diminish it".(Sapadin, 1) It was

the best decision I ever made!

I chose to use this book by Linda Sapadin for a few different reasons. The first reason is that this

author's credentials can be verified. Using the book's first page lets the reader know that this author

has a Ph.D. I looked her up online and was indeed able to confirm that she has her Ph.D. in

psychology, and she is a verified author and success coach. Her Linkin page is full of all her

accomplishments, studies, and books on this subject matter. Some of the work has even been used

by the Smithsonian. Also, because she has a degree in psychology, I can trust that the advice she

provides comes from expertise in how our minds work.

Framing Change

In my opinion, framing change is my perspective on how I will tackle a change. An

example of a time when I had to frame change around a challenging situation was when I was in

the process of getting my current job and had to interview for the first time. After being out of

work for months, due to Covid-19, and accepting that I was no longer a spring chicken, I was

apprehensive, scared, and did not think I would measure up to the younger, potential candidates.

On the one hand, I was telling myself that I was wasting my time, that the company would not hire

me because of my age, or that I was not smart enough to learn how to do the job. I remember all

the self-doubt and negative thoughts that ran through my mind the days leading up to the interview.

On the other hand, I would tell myself that I was capable, intelligent, experienced, and had a lot to

offer to my potential employer and should at least go for the position. I had to keep finding and

saying out loud all of my positive attributes to help me to move forward.

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I decided to research the company, its hiring practices, and the types of people that work

for them. I also reached out to the hiring manager and advised her that I did not think I was suitable

for the position. She rattled off my background, building my confidence with each word, and told

me she thought it would be in my best interest to show up to the interview. I learned a while ago

that I could boost my own confidence by writing down all my positive attributes onto stickie notes

and strategically placing in placing where I would see them. After putting my love notes to myself,

all over my home, I would read them aloud while looking at myself in the mirror. I would do this

over and over until I believed what I was saying to myself. By reframing all the negative talk and

turning it into possitive talk, I was able to see my potential in accurate terms and use help me apply

for the position. Research suggests people with positive self-talk may have mental skills that allow

them to solve problems, think differently, and be more efficient at coping with hardships or

challenges. (Holland, 2)

A few days before the interview, I was so nervous I made myself sick. That is when I

decided I would change my attitude about the interview. I looked up best practices for an interview

to refresh my mind on the process. I looked up the interviewer's most likely questions, answered

some of the questions, and wrote them down. I practiced my answers in the mirror to my husband

and my child. I kept looking at my resume too! Looking at my resume reminded me that I had

nothing to worry about; I indeed was qualified for the job. On the interview day, though I was

nervous, I was prepared and ready to put my best foot forward.

Managing Change

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I now realize that I get nervous and apprehensive and speak about myself negatively when

faced with new changes. However, after stepping back from the situation, looking at the issues

from all perspectives, and reframing how I look at the problem, I can boost my confidence by

replacing my negative thoughts with positive ones. Researching processes and seeing what they

entail helps me prepare myself for whatever lies ahead, which calms down the nervousness.

For example, last week, a position at work became available that I was interested in and

qualified for that I was fearful of applying for. The boundaries to apply for this position were that

you had to submit your resume and interview for the job the following day. I would never have

applied for this position in the past because my nerves would have stopped me. I could not let this

opportunity pass me by, so I changed what I would typically do, which was nothing and decided to

go for it. After applying for the position, I remember constantly saying good things about myself

all day. Usually, I do not apply for jobs that become available because I am petrified of being

rejected. According to the author, Kimberly Holland of healthline.com, "It's easy to understand

then why many people dread and even fear rejection. If you've experienced it once, or a few times,

you probably remember how much it hurt and worry about it happening again". (Waypole,

3)However, to combat my fear of rejection, I had to keep reminding myself of what a great agent I

was and how I could help others. I went home that day, brushed up on a few potential interview

questions, ate a great dinner, and went to bed early. The next day when I arrived at work, I was

confident, assured, and not nervous, to my surprise. I interviewed for the position, and I am

currently awaiting whether I got the promotion.

I chose the healthline.com website to support my framing of change example because this

article was also medically reviewed by a credentialed colleague named Timothy J Legg, in addition

to the author's credentials. Since this article was peer-reviewed, I know that it went through a

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process in which professionals in this field have reviewed the data to ensure that the information is

accurate, relevant, and significant.

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(iqoncept, 4)

(Kaur, 5)

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Sources

1. Sapatin, L. (2022, February 18). Master Your Fears : How to Triumph Over Your Worries

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2. Holland, K. (2020, June 26). Positive Self-Talk: How Talking to Yourself Is a Good Thing.

From Healthline: https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk

3. Waypole, C. (2019, December 11). 10 Tips for Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection. From

Healthline: https://www.healthline.com/health/fear-of-rejection

4. iqoncep, (2022, February 18). Love or Fear Change - Do You Embrace Different Things

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5. Kaur, D. (2021, June 20). When you're speaking with yourself, make sure it is positive!

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