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Analysis of the film

This is a film that is involving tow lover birds and it is packed with emotional moments and grand melodramatic reveals. These are two partners who find themselves in love start facing love challenging. The name of the film is ‘Two Lovers’. As days go by, they face some challenges and one of the partners even tries to commit suicide severally just because of challenges faced in the relationship. The films also reveals about the sexual life of these two lover birds and the challenges they faced. Due to modern issues with relationships, then they have to call it off and part ways.

Relationship according to the film

Being in a relationship is something that is general unless the motive of the relationship is defined. The definition of a relation will involve what are the goals of a relationship, and what is supposed to happen in the relationship. A sexual relationship will involve the intimacy life as well as sexual activities. As this is not enough, this relationship will also involve helping one another in times of need and encouraging each partner when things seem to be hard on one partner (Hicks, 2018). Sexual relationship in the film is defined to be either between two people of the same gender or two people of different genders. In most cases, the relationship that is of people whom are of different genders is actually regarded as sexual relationship.

In fact, for a relationship to grow, there is that stereotype that, men should initiate it. When things happen the other way round, it is actually taken as if the female is cheap and thus treated cheaply. Therefore, it has been a norm that, as a male, one should have the guts to approach a lady and work towards certain goals where they bond together. In such kind of a relationship, there are certain defined roles that each party should play and should not be done by the other partner. Definitions of these roles actually sets out what is expected in this kind of sexual relationship. It is always expected that, male should be the provider unless not in a position to provide freely without facing challenges.

In a sexual relationship, there has been the issue of gender equality. To realistic, there is no way roles can be defined in a sexual relationship, and then you find that, there is gender equality. This means that, there is that disparity when it comes to gender issues. Males are perceived to be stronger than females therefore, take heave duties and responsibilities. Since the females are taken to be weaker creatures, they are delegated easy roles in the relationship like ensuring everything is happening as planned by the two partners. Also, ensuring that, when it comes to food, there are no complains. Generally, house chores are left for females in a sexual relationship (Sassler, 2018). Therefore, from the film, for a sexual relationship to go down well and there be peace, each partner should know his or her roles in the relationship and ensure that they are attended to promptly.

Intersectionality

Intersectionality can be described as the interconnected nature of social categorization such as race, class and gender and they apply to a given individual or group, regarded as creating and interdependent systems of discrimination or disadvantage. From the film, intersectionality has been talked of as from the gender point of view. Actually, in a relationship especially the sexual one, there is interdependency (Heidari, 2017). There are expectations that are there that each party has to contribute something that should be paid back in favors. Though this is not a genuine relationship, but in a relationship, the two partners should ensure that, they contribute to the relationship for it to go through. The intersectionality in a relationship might be financial, material things, knowledge or even love. The nature of what shall be paid back will be determined by how the partners do relate to one another. Therefore, the film makes it clear that, despite expectations of intersectionality, a partner should not take advantage of that and victimize the other but instead, he or she should use that opportunity to improve the relationship for the better.

With race, the intersectionality should come in, in order to help one another understand the race of the other partner. In fact, the best relationships are those where the partners are from different races. There is need for partners to help one another in understanding different races for a better sexual relationship (Hicks, 2018). There are those people who are disable. Disability does not mean that, these people don’t have feelings or don’t want to get engaged into relationships. Those people with disabilities also have the feelings and at some point, they also wish to be in relationships, therefore, they need to depend on their partners. From the film, it is good to treat the people with disabilities well if they are in a relationship. If one partner is disable, the other partner should take the responsibility of ensuring that all the needs are catered for.

The film is very educative when it comes to matters to deal with sexual relationship but there are some ethical questions that actually are arising from it. The ethical questions arising from the film are due to some of the occurrences in a relationship. One of the questions is, in a case where the male is not in a position to provide for the relationship, does that means that mean that he is not supposed to be in any relationship? Another ethical questions is, if the female is more blessed or more stable that the male, is she supposed to contribute more than the male or the male should contribute more in terms of finances (Sassler, 2018).

Whether the film is realistic

Realistic in this case just means whether whatever that has been discussed in the film is something that is practical. Some of the things in the film about a relationship are very practical and can be done by two people in a relationship. Other things are not realistic, actually, they cannot be practically done as they are somehow difficult to be done. The message being send by the film is that, those in a relationship, have to know that, a relationship is a two way thing, where each partner is expected to contribute towards the success of it (Hicks, 2018). This means that, the partners involved in a relationship should not exploit one another but help one another to grow both financially and economically.

The strengths and weaknesses of the film with regard to how relationships are portrayed

There are some parts in the film that are actually depicting strengths in a relationship. The strengths in a relationship in this film is where it is supporting oneness in growing together. The film is depicting strength by showing how ganging up together as couples will help in ensuring growth takes place and hence developments. The strength in the film is being shown through encouraging a two way relationship.

The weakness in a relationship is where the file is trying to show how a man is the one to be the sole provider. At this part, it is actually portraying the wrong message about relationships. Also, its weakness is not giving real examples and the consequences of what can happen if there are some disagreements in a relationship (Heidari, 2017).

One concept discussed in the ‘sex’ section of the textbook

One concept that has been used in the sex section is the voyeurism whereby it refer to viewing pornographic movie. This actually can happen in a relationship but there should be some consignment between the two partners. One partner should not force the other partner to view pornography if he or she does not have interest. If one forces the other partners, this actually is a sexual harassment and it is not good in a relationship. Voyeurism should happen once both parties agree to on the same thing.

Reference

Heidari, M., Ghodusi, M., & Rafiei, H. (2017). Sexual self-concept and its relationship to depression, stress and anxiety in postmenopausal women. Journal of menopausal medicine, 23(1), 42-48.

Hicks, L. L., McNulty, J. K., Meltzer, A. L., & Olson, M. A. (2018). A Dual-Process Perspective on How Sexual Experiences Shape Automatic Versus Explicit Relationship Satisfaction: Reply to Brody, Costa, Klapilová, and Weiss (2018). Psychological science, 0956797618760848.

Sassler, S., Michelmore, K., & Qian, Z. (2018). Transitions From Sexual Relationships Into Cohabitation and Beyond. Demography, 1-24.