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Living Together Before Marriage
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Marriage is sweet for those who have prepared for it and those who are ready to sacrifice for each other. In some cases, people opt to test if they are compatible with their partners before they make actual decisions about getting married. This happens whereby a young couple decides to live with each prior to getting married. Here, the couple in question decides the amount of time they will live together then get married. There are many benefits that are associated with a young couple living together before making an actual decision to get married. Some of these benefits are as follows:
One of the critical benefits of living with one's spouse before they get married to them is that they get to assess if they are compatible with their living habits (Rosenfeld & Roesler, 2019). There are different behaviors that a couple might have, and at times some living habits might not be compatible. Take, for instance, a man who is not alcoholic, but he dates an alcoholic woman. By living together, such couples assess if they can tolerate the living habits of each other. In such a scenario, such man could be assessing if it is practically possible for him to keep up with the alcoholic nature of his woman.
Furthermore, living together before marriage is also beneficial because it couple a couple into each other's spending habits. As a human, we have different spending habits. These are dictated by our tastes and preferences and demand for certain utilities. At times, one's preferences might be irrelevant to another. In other cases, a couple might be having similar spending habits on some commodities and different on others. Therefore, living together before an actual marriage is beneficial for a couple because it exposes them to each other's spending habits. This gives them enough time to intervene in each other's spending habits that could results in chaos in the future.
In addition, living together before marriage is beneficial in that it allows a couple to share duties and responsibilities (van Nistelrooij, Visse, Spekkink & de Lange, 2017). By living together, a couple gets to ascertain which responsibilities should be done by who. In the long run, they get to understand how each is obliged for the well-being of the other in such a relationship. This, at times, seems to be a challenge even for legally married couples. In such cases, a couple gets to deal with this consideration before marriage and hence preventing challenges and conflicts of interest that could arise in the future.
Living together before marriage is also important because it exposes a couple into each other’s sexual desires (Rosenfeld & Roesler, 2019). Everyone in a relationship has sexual desires, and intimacy is very important in a relationship because this is what keeps a couple together. Failure to understand each other's sexual behavior can bring chaos in a marriage in the future. Therefore, living together before marriage allows each other to assess if they can meet each other's sexual desires. This gives such a couple enough time to assess how they can improve their sexual life before they make the actual decisions of getting married an having children together.
Lastly, living together before marriage is equally important because it enables a couple to have a prior insight into how marriage will look like. This gives them ample time to adjust what they should adjust before they get married. Furthermore, this helps improve the bind and the personal relationship of a wife and a husband in later life when they will legally exchange vows.
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Van Nistelrooij, I., Visse, M., Spekkink, A., & de Lange, J. (2017). How shared is shared decision-making? A care-ethical view on the role of partner and family. Journal of medical ethics, 43(9), 637-644.
