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LDR 612

Professor Mark Leonard

Grand Canyon University

25, June 2018

This plan has been made to support morally a women who has got three children and has been trying to seek divorce from her husband from a marriage that has lasted for about 10 years. The decision sounds not much difficult but the after effects will not be easy and smooth. She needs assistance for thinking not only about her future but she also needs help to go through the steps of divorce smoothly. This process is not a smooth process and a lot of problems and obstacles will come and she will have to overcome them. As a coach and mentor, my job is to help her to pass all her tests in order to cross all the obstacles and face all the hardships smoothly by having a strong and clear vision, a lot of knowledge about the processes, high motivation, courage, and proper guidance. I have to guide her with all the necessary information about proper ways and I will be there to help her stay strong and determined. Not only this, I will teach her some valuable information about her future options as well like starting a new business, going back to school, renting an apartment, etc.

Coaching techniques in reaching the short-term and long-term goals

Coaching is mainly concerned with making someone meet specific objectives on specific time and making her acquire necessary skills which she does not have already. Coaching takes shorter time than mentoring and the goals should be clear before starting the process (Michael, 2008). Comment by Mark Leonard: Great source and use of author’s idea.

Short term goals are the ones which can be completed within the course of hours, days or weeks. While the longer ones take some time and can take months and years to reach at their destination. My client happens to be in a very initial stage of seeking divorce so she must be having so many short as well as long term goals. As a coach, I do not have to help her to finish her goals, but I have to teach and guide her about them. Simply, I need to take on the role of a tutor and assign her tasks (goals) for weeks and months and tell her about the importance of such goals in her life.

For the time being, the short term goals include studying about problems that she might face during the process like custody of children, etc. other short term goals are to get her paperwork in order as far as documenting and printing all taxes and email correspondence she had with her husband as that will be needed in court soon. Moreover, there is another short term goal and that is for her to communicate with her husband so as to avoid any nasty arguments when it comes to custody in hopes of trying to find common ground which is primarily what is in the best interest of the children. However, long terms goals can include doing a detailed research on college options, residence options as she would like to own her own home in the next two years and finally steps to start a business one day.

As a coach, the techniques that I have to use to make her accomplish her goals are: Comment by Mark Leonard: I know what you are saying here, but be careful with verbiage. The sentence reads that you will force and ensure she is successful. A good coach will light the path, give the tools, and offer to be an accountability partner. The person being coached will then decide if they are going to accomplish or not. We direct, lead, and help, but do not force.

· Guide and encourage her a positive attitude towards staying focused and working hard.

· Enable her to keep her goals clear as the clarity of goals ensure better success.

· Offer opportunities for making her future smooth and stress-free. I have to show her the options of different colleges, workplaces, and residences.

· I have to provide her flexibility and make her personality different in order to make her cope with the process smoothly.

· Show her the options of better future and career in order to increase her motivation.

As a guide and facilitator, I will spend time with her and develop a willingness in her to listen, speak, and criticize logically. Comment by Mark Leonard: This would be a two way street. It sounds like you both need each of these. The goal is to have the mentee emulate the actions and speech of the mentor.

Mentoring techniques in reaching the short-term and long-term goals

Mentoring is more like an activity based process where the mentor and mentee have to build an informal relation among them in order to make the mentee acquire new knowledge, skills and necessary experience to pass a tough phase/process (Michael, 2008). Here, I have to act as a facilitator. My mentee is relying on me and I have to make the path easier for her.

As a mentor, the techniques that I have to use to make her accomplish her goals are:

· Give her chances to meet new people and organizations to make new opportunities for future. This is a work for long term goals.

· Make her increase her insight and awareness about possible issues and make her an experienced and critical thinker by talking to her about different issues and increasing her confidence.

· Erase all kinds of negative thoughts and false social generalizations from her mind (which are an obstacle in gaining motivation) by lifting her morally and making her believing in her own self.

· I will use a technique of ‘reframing’ as well in order to remove negative ideas from her mind.

I will use these techniques, being a leader and guide, by spending more and more time with her. By talking to her I will detect where she stands and then I will guide her to move further with more confidence and less anxiety by giving her all kinds of moral support.

Solution for helping the mentee identify her potential and take initiative to achieve her goals Comment by Mark Leonard: I like that you used the 4 questions from the assignment as headings. Very helpful and it leads the reader.

My first task is to make her aware of her own potential and capabilities. I have to make her a strong individual so she will be able to face the lawyers and her ex-husband at court trials confidently. For this, I will arrange platforms for her to learn more and more about the experience and I will arrange meetings of her with experienced individuals and they will talk to her, and I will show her motivational speeches, presentations, and documentaries so that she will not feel alone. These sessions will help her to achieve short as well as long term goals.

Not only this, as a coach I will demonstrate all kind of practice as well so that she will find the tasks easy and possible to go through. I have to make her develop her own wisdom and experience because she has to look after three children in future after getting their custody and make a good living by pursuing a career.

Knowing mentee’s self-knowledge and potential will help us to set the goals and accomplish them effectively by suitable action plans. As a mentor, my major goal is to make my mentee bring her own life and career into focus and then start working on her goals. She needs to look for better work and studying opportunities and have to provide her kids the best kind of education and living.

The most important technique that can be used here is the technique of ‘good questioning, active listening, and constructive feedback’ (Clutterbuck, 2005). Comment by Mark Leonard: Yes. Great technique.

Emotional and social intelligence skills that will contribute to the success of the mentoring experience

Since my mentee is going through a very difficult phase of her life and she must be emotionally weak, I have to use few strategies to make the process s stress-free as possible. For that, I have to use my own emotional and social intelligence as she might be sensitive to some topics and she must want some space. I will have to make a ‘conversation ladder’ in the beginning and ask her few basic questions. Then slowly and gradually I must go for personal questions to make some idea about what topics are easy for her and what not. I have to make these meetings as informal and friendly as possible to make her feel at ease and home. Then in all our meetings, I have to be attentive about choosing topics to talk about which must be suitable according to the time, venue, her mood, and the progress of the process. Comment by Mark Leonard: This section is speaking directly to Emotional Intelligence as discussed in the Influencer book as well as other classes.

Ethical considerations

Ethical considerations are always important in the process of coaching and mentoring but the frequency of importance depends upon the situation of mentee as well. In my case, the mentee is going through a very difficult time and her case is one of the most difficult cases. She has to live alone with her kids, give them the best life and education possible, take care of them by providing them all necessary facilities, look for a career, study further, and handle her ex-husband’s behaviors at the time of the case of custody.

Before starting the session, I have to look at ethics and talk about only those topics in which she is highly comfortable and happy. Moreover, the progress also depends upon her level of comfort and ease because she will work more focused when she is satisfied. As a coach and mentor, my duty is to first cover those short and long term goals and enable her to learn to accomplish them which are easy and are not very much sensitive. While other more difficult topics and goals we can do later when we have built a relationship which is stronger than before and when she starts trusting and relying on me.

References Clutterbuck, D. M. (2005). The Technique of Coaching and Mentoring. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data . Michael, A. (August). Mentoring and Coaching. Topic Gateway Series, 2008.