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L2_Covenantal_communication4.pptxL 2 Covenantal Communication
A biblically-based model that blends scientific and humanities ideas.
What is a covenant? It is an
agreement
a relationship
and a process of communication
Covenantal communication (defined)
“The process by which people-in-community, who are motivated by unconditional love, use symbols responsibly to agree upon redemptive pacts in order to change together through committed loyalty over generations.” (p. 31)
Let’s unpack this definition phrase by phrase.
Principle 1: Covenantal communication recognizes us as persons-in-community more than as individual selves. (What does it mean to be human?)
B. Principle 2: Covenantal communication is motivated by steadfast love for the benefit of the other. (What is our purpose with people?)
Principle 3: Covenantal communication requires responsible symbolic expression. (We resist saying whatever we please; we say what is best for both parties.)
D. Principle 4: Covenantal communication results in redemptive pacts as to how we will live together.
Principle 5: Covenantal communication changes us together.
F. Principle 6: Covenantal communication exercises long-term commitment for maximum benefit (over generations).
CC defined again: “The process by which people-in-community, who are motivated by unconditional love, use symbols responsibly to agree upon redemptive pacts in order to change together through committed loyalty over generations.” (p. 30)
The Relationship Agreement: What’s wrong with it?
| Feature | Contracts | Covenants |
| Duration | Short-term focus | Long-term intent |
| Concerns | Actions | Shared values |
| Created through | If-you, then I-will language | Promises made and kept |
| Motivation | Meeting personal needs / wants | Betterment of all parties |
Contracts focus on the behavior of the two parties; covenants are agreements representing shared values.
Consider these statements:
Contract-like: “We will not look at each others’ phones unless given express permission to do so by the other.” (desires a specific behavior)
Covenant-like: “We will respect each other’s space and privacy.” (desires the value for privacy)
It’s better to agree on covenantal values, rather than contractual specifics, for they bring life and flexibility to our relationships.
2 Cor 3:6 He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.
Your turn!
Time to get practical with covenantal communication. Get into your inquiry group, and write a group covenant.
Discuss: is there any downside to a covenantal agreement? Can these be avoided, and how?
